Just a brief background...I come from a long line of mental illness; I often suffer from crippling anxiety and excessive worry, myself. My mother and I have had an off-and-on relationship for most of my life and I haven't been on speaking terms with my sister for years. I lived with both of them shortly after I had my daughter, and my sister has been arrested/placed in a mental health facility numerous times since then. I've been fully independent now for 3 years, and I just recently moved to FL, where they now live.
Well, my mother abandoned my sister, who is only 17; she left her to fend for herself and despite our rough background, I let her come and stay with me. She's turning 18 in a couple of weeks and planned to put her somewhere more permanent afterward. My life has been a living hell since she came here.
I have a special needs child who should not be around any uncontrollable conflict, and yet my sister screamed hysterically in front of her during several angry episodes. She's unstable and its nearly impossible to know what will set her off. Today, I asked her not to eat raw cookie dough, which I was preparing to bake, then went for a nap. She woke me up, called me every name under the sun and stomped off.
My husband witnessed the scene, as he has several times before, but did very little to intervene. I told him I felt betrayed when he allows this young girl to say horrible things to me and doesn't come to my defense. We fought about it and I cried myself to sleep.
A few hours later, sister has the nerve to wake me up and ask for $10, which I didn't have to give to her, nor would I, considering the disrespect i'd endured from her.
She tells me...
I should be more generous with my nasty stripper money.
I degrade myself and therefore am a worthless whore.
My husband hates me and that's why he won't stick up for me.
I'm a terrible mother.
She's going to continue to harrass me until I give her whatever she wants, when she wants it.
The whole time, I'm being virtually unresponsive and trying not to feed her ego. Eventually, I stepped outside, called my mom and told her to come pick her up. I gave my mom $200 to get herself and my sister established in the short run. Meanwhile, my sister is planted on the couch, refusing to leave, and tells me she's taking over my house for good whether I like it or not. My mother is also telling me how worthless I am and that she wants nothing to do with me. I called the police to escort them out of the house, as they were refusing to leave; my sister threatened to harm me in horrible ways just to make sure she goes to jail and therefore isn't homeless. My husband thrusted her outside and deadbolted the door...she tried to force her way into the hhouse and I called 911 again to let them know she was attempting to break in...
She broke down my door and shattered my window.
The police didn't arrest her, but sent her to a mental facility.
My mother skipped off with the money I gave her for a motel she won't move into and will probably use for pills.
I'm stuck paying for the damage out of pocket.
And..I had to call off work, which will cost me around $500 in lost funds.
I've never felt so betrayed by my own flesh and blood, not to mention my husband, who made me feel powerless in my own home...I'm the only one working and think I at least deserve the respect of not being harrassed.
I worked so hard to build a beautiful home for my family and she came in and destroyed it.![]()



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