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    Default How much do you share with customers?

    How much information do you share with the average customer?

    I try to keep things general, but one problem for me is that the only thing I have to talk about is school. There aren't many in the area, so I'm sure most guys know which uni I'm talking about. Its a big campus, but I worry that maybe I'm sharing too much information. Sometimes when I drink (which I'm proud to say I've almost completely quit) I'm also known to be a little bit loose in what I say. If I'm drinking and enjoying myself I might tell a guy my first name or share where in town I like to go out, etc. Are these tid bits about myself dangerous to share or am I being overly paranoid?

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    you probably shouldn't tell customers anything really personal, maybe your real first name if they are a regular and really nice, but just make the rest up.

    one girl told her reg what town she lives in when he asked, he came in the next week and said "you live in that big house on blank street" and she flipped. you never know.

    i lie about what town i live in. i say i live in a big town an hour away from the club (which i don't live anywhere near or really go to ever). if they want to go try to look for me, go right ahead, they won't find me there lol.

    i also lie about which college i go to. that way i can talk candidly about school, how much hw i have, etc but if they try to stalk me at that college, they won't find me.

    make up a life that is similar to yours but with different names and places, that way the stories are more geniune... but make it the same story for each customer in case they end up talking at the bar and heard different stories. i keep it the same for all the custies.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    Only give customers personal information that THEY ask for FIRST. Never approach anyone with your personal details about yourself, your home town, your status, etc. without them initiating the question first and foremost.

    Ex.
    Stripper Sally: "Hey, my name is Sally, How are you?"...."I'm from _____, and I go to school at,______ I've been dancing for ________ years, I have ______ kids, I have _______ bills, I need _________ to support ___, ____,____ bills and my ________ addiction. Now, lets go get a dance!"

    Customers could actually care less about your life story, IMHO. The customers are at the club to receive YOUR genuine attention. If they want to know where you live/where you go to school at, let them ask first!

    With that being said,

    If you want to be stalked, kidnapped, or taken hostage, never let a customer know your actual home town, name, school, car, family, regular job, etc. I know this is a very hard thing to do, but this will save you public embarrassment in the future.

    It is better to say,....
    "Oh, I grew up near ______ "
    "I am currently in school at a reputable institution."
    "I am from mars or (Enter another state/country/providence here"
    "My name is Sarah Lee Johnson" (It's actually not my real name, but it sounds like one).

    Than to say,...
    "I live right in town on cherry st."
    "I go to BlahBlah Community College"
    "My name is Betty Parker Sue" (Which is actually on my social security card).

    Guys lie about their names 50% of the time in the clubs,...yeah,...some of their wives must be super crazy or something, or maybe they might see another fellow buddy/pastor/coworker in the club?. o.O

    The strip club is a fantasy, and the stripper is the actress! Be a *fantasy* woman and stick to the script!

    I love making up superficial stories about myself every night that I sit with a customer,....just make sure that he's not a regular! LOL

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    Your safety is really important & letting even a few details i.e. your college, or name etc (especially if you are in a small town/area like you added) slip can compromise this. Many cuties are harmless & probably won't remember what you have told them, but it is never worth the risk.

    Have a back story/lie (it doesn't need to be too far from the truth but it just shouldn't be too specific e.g. If a custy asks, "So where do you live atm?"- maybe you can name an actual suburb (that you have visited) near by & tell them you commute).

    Once you have given your fake "story" out enough times it will become automatic & regardless of whether you drink or not you will find yourself repeating it.

    It's great to share smaller, but still seemingly personal details about your life with your custies so that the custy can relate or feel close to you-like actual hobbies, general likes/dislikes, travel stories, even sexual things etc that are real.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    I used to have a script of several fake things including a fake name, fake location, etc. Some long time regulars eventually learned more and many learned my real name but these were long term regulars.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    I think it's better to lie about the big, identifiable things, but be honest about the little things. For instance, lie about what school you go to, but you don't have to lie about what you're studying or what you plan to do after graduation. Don't give too much background about yourself. I always told customers I lived on the other side of town from where I actually was, and if they asked where I hung out, I would pick a bar I knew of but would rarely actually go to. I didn't want anyone hanging out there looking for me... Just think carefully about how much information you're truly giving away... For the first 3 months I danced, I thought nothing of telling customers I was originally from Wisconsin because it gave us something to talk about. Then, one night, a customer came in from smoking and was like "You drive that silver Toyota don't you?" All of a sudden I was like "Oh fuck! I'm probably the only Wisconsin license plate out in the parking lot!" It honestly didn't even occur to me until that moment that any customer I told where I was from (and that was almost all of them) could have easily pin-pointed my car in the parking lot and followed me home or looked up my license plate number and gotten my real name. I've also given customers my first name only and had them be able to find me on facebook, and therefore know my full real name.

    Just be careful with the identifying details.
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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    Don't tell them anything true, especially your real name. Inventing a back story line these ladies are suggesting is the way to go. Telling them true stories is just asking for disaster.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    They get nothing real from me. Fake name, fake town I grew up in, fake schooling, fake town I currently live in etc. Completely anonymous. I don't need these guys knowing shit about my personal life.
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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    I'm along the same lines as most of the girls on here. They get a fake "real" name, fake relationship status, fake school name, fake degree (but I pick a subject I know something about, so I don't look dumb if the try and call my bluff), fake name for the town I live in (I chose one that's 30min away from my actual home, but it's big so it'd probably be hard to find me), etc etc. Nothing specific that may put my true identity out there or myself possibly in eyes view of a creeper.

    However, when "stretching the truth" to these guys, it's important to be consistent with your story. My club is rather small with a lot of regulars, and the guy do remember things I tell them, so it's important not to get caught up in a lie. Getting caught will mess with your money.

    Things I don't lie about are simple; hobbies.

    IDK if anyone else does this last thing (aurora said something that made me wanna point this out); if a customer asks you what kind of car you have/what you drive, I say I don't have one. I tell them I take a cab to work, hitch a ride with friends to school, etc etc. This way they can't try and look up your tag number online, look for your car as you leave, anything that'll keep you safer...the better!!

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    I make up everything. I even have a fake "real" name that I give to people when they insist that my stage name is fake.

    Not even the employees or manager at my club know my real name. They never asked me for it and I never offered that info. The less anyone knows about me in this industry the better as far as I'm concerned.

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    I definitely have a fake real name. I'm a newb and made the mistake of telling guys where I'm from. This is just my 4th week sooo yeah definitely gonna start giving out my fake real life if they ask. Not like they really remember anyway after they've had my tits in their face.

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    I'm a bit different on this. I've been dancing for about 12 years. Most of the customers at my bar I've known for about as long. It's kind like a Cheers environment. I've always danced under my real name. I've never had a problem. (Never told anyone my last name or exactly where I live, just what part of town).

    One thing I love being honest about right now is getting divorced. A lot of guys have been almost excited about it, cause now I'm available but they all get the "I'm not ready to get involved with anyone right now" speech and don't get pushy about it. Gonna milk this one for awhile.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    This is a bit of a toughy because it goes (went?) two different ways, depending on which club I was working.

    My home club was the only one in either direction for over an hour, and often had customers who knew me or simply recognised me from around town. So lying was out and ambiguity was the thing there. Only had one scary incident where a guy followed me home. This guy was a certified nutcase though, because he had to have followed me on multiple occasions prior to that night (I constantly watch for followers and take evasive action if they mimic two or more turns), had followed two other girls, and only talked to one of us at any point.
    At my Houston club, I lie more than Pinnochio. Fake real name, very vague response to the neighborhood I lived in, said I was from the next county north of my home town, gave a generic vehicle description that was different from the generic vehicle my friends actually picked me up in, etc.
    Exotic dancing is like any other job.
    If you work in an office, you wear dress shoes and a suit.
    If you work in a restaraunt, you wear skid resistant shoes and a uniform.
    If you work in a strip club, you wear 7" stilettos and lycra g-strings.

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    Default Re: How much do you share with customers?

    AmazingAmazon - Its weird that one of you mentioned that guys aren't interested in your life story. I find that in my club all I do is talk about myself. The guys seem much more interested in asking me questions then talking about their own lives. They want an escape.

    I appreciate all the comments, everyone, but I just don't think I could keep track of what I would tell everyone. Even if I made one big fabricated life story, I know I'd be messing it up endlessly and just embarrass myself. I've already been at this for five years with no issues so far. I'm going to try to just be more general and be extra careful. Thanks!

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    ^Just be careful-that's the main thing x

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