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    Default Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    So I had been working at a club for a couple months and was enjoying it.. the girls are all (mostly anyway) super friendly and welcoming, close to my age (i'm 19), I was making good money (weekend nights got pretty packed), and my managers seemed to love me and said I was bringing customers back. Oh and they have a 'make it rain' machine that customers would use on me sometimes and i miss that!! lol

    But the last night that I worked there (it's been a few months I just have been too embarassed to talk about it or even think of going back) I had a little too much to drink.. I got pretty wasted.. and I started crying for some reason. I don't remember everything including what I was crying about but I remember people trying to console me and ask me what was wrong and I was just saying "I can't work here anymore, I can't do it" And I ended up getting picked up by a friend and went home. I don't remember what happened exactly but I think I made somewhat of a scene and it was obvious that I was freaking out about something. Plus I was crying not only in the DR but out on the floor too

    After that night I pretty much accepted the fact I was never going back there again because I made a fool of myself and was too embarrased. But now it's been months and I miss the club but idk what the other girls, managers, djs, etc will say if I do go back?

    Would you go back if you were me?

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    People may be concerned, but shit like this happens sometimes. If you really liked the club, I say go back.

    However, I will say that it's probably a good idea that if you go back, you stop drinking when you're working.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    yeah I just wanted to add that I don't usually have problems with drinking at work but for some reason I did that night.. I think it's because the other girls were asking if I wanted to drink with them and offering me more alcohol and I wasn't saying no.

    Oh and my other option was to try another club nearby and have like a fresh start.. since that night I've tried one other club but I hated it.. so I'm hoping the other one I try is better than my old club.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    If I was your coworker I would have forgotten about it months ago. In the clubs this isn't that weird. Go back and pretend it never happened. This isn't a normal job. This is a strip club. Getting drunk and making an ass of yourself is almost a right of passage.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    yeah I just wanted to add that I don't usually have problems with drinking at work but for some reason I did that night.. I think it's because the other girls were asking if I wanted to drink with them and offering me more alcohol and I wasn't saying no.
    I think you're on to something here.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I really think we've all had too much to drink at work at least once in our careers (Probably early on lol). You probably remember it way worse and girlundressed is right, if you worked at my bar I would have forgotten all about it a week later. You said you'd been working there for a bit before so it's not like the ONLY memory they have of you is crazy drunk girl. We all have our moments.

    Just go back and pretend it never happened and if it's brought up just laugh it off and explain what happened.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    If going back seems daunting atm then I would personally try another club first (you may enjoy it too). A new working environment, a "fresh start" is always very refreshing in this industry. Having said that, a few months in SC time feels like yrs. So as the other girls have said-everyone has probably forgotten about the incident already. If you do decide to give it another go then it may pay to approach management, apologize & tell them you will refrain from drinking at work (get there before they do-they might give you an alcohol ban).

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Hey 22lligm! I was wondering if something was up cuz I didn't see you posting for a while.

    If I were you I would probably feel exactly the same way you do (I've made an ass of myself drinking in other situations and then had to go back and face people and I felt soooo embarrassed)....but I would still try to make myself go back.

    From an outside perspective I don't think it's that big of a deal. Just like others have said this is just par for the course in the strip club. I haven't even been in the industry that long and I've seen some full-on train wreck shit go down! Plus, the truth is, WE'VE ALL BEEN THERE BEFORE at one time or another so who are others to judge.

    The worst case scenario (which I think is unlikely) is they'll say they can't take you back. Even if they do say that you're no worse off than if you never went back at all.

    I'd go back just for the make it rain machine

    Good to see you on here again!

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I'm actually in the habbit of drunkenly quitting clubs on hysterical rampages.
    Wait a few months and go back. No one remembers or gives a shit. Seriously.

    I've told everyone in my club they were the most disgusting group of drug addict whores I've ever met and the fact that they're too stupid to make money without getting fingered is ruining the strip club industry.
    ...and then showed back up 2 months later and no one cared. Lolz.
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    im sure you are the first stripper in the history of forever to get too drunk and make an ass of herself.
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    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Just go back, no one cares. Ive made a fool of myself a few times, and so has everyone else in the club. The first time i swore they would point and laugh as i walked into the DR, but no one batted an eye.
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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I agree with what everyone else has said, they have probably forgotten about it.

    Except for this, you were drinking at work and you said you were 19. Management may have a problem with you drinking under age. I've seen underage girls fired for being caught drinking. The girls may have forgotten but the management may not have. But you'll never know unless you go back and try.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    ^ Agreed. Clubs are super strict about underage drinking, because the fines are so high. They can even be shut down if it happens too many times, so I would definantly talk to management if I were you.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I'm sure you're fine. Unless you stole someone's shit, slugged someone or fucked a customer in VIP nobody probably gives a flying fuck. Just go in like nothing happened. The more you call attention to it then they are gonna remember.
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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I agree with everyone. Go back or you may always wonder.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Most of us have done that at some point.
    My first month dancing I got drunk and fell asleep on the DR toilet.
    There have also been many tears and arguments and other embarrassing occasions. You'd have to do something truly spectacular to make a real fool of yourself.
    Go back, move forward and try to stay in control a little more.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Thanks ScarlettJanuary for noticing I was even gone!! haha I just haven't been working in a while and haven't been on here either..

    But yeah thanks everyone for the advice.. since then I have tried another club but I hated it. There's still one more club I think i'll try out and if I love it then I'll stay there but if I hate it I'll go back to the old one. I'll probably go in and talk to management first instead of showing up one night all ready to work and being turned away (that would be so embarrassing)

    Thanks again!

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I saw a girl run outside naked, jump on someone's car and get taken down and escorted out of the club by 3 security guys . She came back the next day like nothing happened. Trust me, most dancers have seen much worse then what you did! Lol

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Quote Originally Posted by 22lligm View Post
    Thanks ScarlettJanuary for noticing I was even gone!! haha I just haven't been working in a while and haven't been on here either..

    But yeah thanks everyone for the advice.. since then I have tried another club but I hated it. There's still one more club I think i'll try out and if I love it then I'll stay there but if I hate it I'll go back to the old one. I'll probably go in and talk to management first instead of showing up one night all ready to work and being turned away (that would be so embarrassing)

    Thanks again!
    Good luck and let us know how it goes

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I think the only thing that would make anyone really remember is that you didn't come back. If you had just showed up the next night and laughed it off, it would have most likely just been done with. Instead, people had to be like "what happened to so-and-so?" "oh, she had some sort of drunken breakdown and hasn't came back." But honestly, I doubt even that is still really on people's minds. I would talk to management first, but don't be embarrassed. The worst that will happen is a few questions of "where have you been?" When I quit my old club, I just got there before everyone else one day, packed my shit, and told the most apathetic bartender in the world "see ya." I would like to go back and see how they've remodeled the place but feel embarrassed to face everyone I just ran off on - but realistically, I know they probably only talked about it briefly when they noticed I hadn't been in for awhile and are long since over it. Shit happens in the SC.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Oh hony, trust me, worse things have happened! Go back and apologise, promise that you won't drink anymore, or give yourself a two or three drink limit and go make your money!!

    One night at my favourite club i went in with a friend on my night off - got absolutely trashed and got on the pole in my civvies, promoptly fell off it, total staggering mess! Went back into work, got some gentle fun poked at me and forgot about it.

    As others have said, even if people do remember it, it's no big deal. Don't let this stop you from earning money in a good club because that's not to be taken for granted these days!

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I think you're blowing the situation out of proportion. It probably looked a lot different from the other girls point of view. Drunk girls in strip clubs aren't that big of a deal. If you drink, you're bound to have a slip up sooner or later. Just to put things in perspective, in my dancing career I've literally attacked a customer, kicked in the managers desk, and suffered a complete psychological breakdown all thanks to too much alcohol. The last time I drank too much at work I was almost committed. After that I thought I could never go back, but even in my extreme case most girls either didn't notice or didn't care. I got a lecture from the GM about being responsible, I apologized over and over, and that was it. Its been years and now its like it never happened. I think you'll be fine

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    I agree with the advice to go back & try again. What do you have to lose? I've made a real tit of myself on a few occasions & mgt doesn't care, as long as I keep a good attitude, respect club rules & keep making money. Only been dancing a couple of months! Laugh it off.

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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    Only issue I see is that you were drinking underage.

    My club knows girls drink underage before work and on break (we don't serve alcohol) but they would be really mad if an underage girl was wasted in our club because we don't even serve alcohol.

    I'm not 21 and I work in bars that serve alcohol, they all serve me as much as I ask for. I even go in when I'm not at work solely to get wasted because I am underage and I can't go to a normal bar, they like my money!

    So, it depends on the bar. If management is uptight about you being a minor then you may have to apologize and assure it will never happen again. If the club serves alcohol and it was their bartender who got you drunk then I assume they will not be mad at you. They may ask that you do not drink as much because you are underage though.

    Overall, just don't drink at work or minimize your drinking. While on duty at clubs that serve alcohol I typically consume 0-3 drinks over the course of 5 hours (between 7 PM and midnight), and I always stop drinking at midnight because I am underage and do not want a DUI for blowing a .04. Stopping drinking after midnight is good even if you are over 21 because it minimizes the risk of a DUI or injury.
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    Default Re: Got too drunk.. now embarrased to go back..

    go back, stop drinking, and apologize to anyone if you need to/make jokes to those you need to/etc.

    not to sound bitchy, but, its a strip club, they see this regularly. clubs i worked at, girls were getting drunk and being stupid every night. they wont hols it against you (assuming they are not total asses and this is not a pattern for you).

    Hell, i once got drugged at work and everyone just assumed i was trashed (mind you, i didnt drink at work at that club), and i passed out having seizures on the floor. one girl was a bitch and teased me about it, i told her to fuck off. the managers, whether they believed me or not, were cool about it. the fact that i had always been clean and something of a managers favorite helped. if they liked you and were nice to you before this, then just stay clean, apologize if you want to, and things will be fine

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