Okay, as some of you know my Mom is a terrible alcoholic. She blew a .314 on Halloween 2009 with my then 2-year-old brother in the car. She attempted suicide with a bottle of Valium when she was home alone with him for 9 hours, and he was alone while she was in a coma. She was rushed to the ICU, and then went through delirium tremens (psychotic state from alcohol withdrawal) and was put in the psych ward. Then she got out when I was about 4 months pregnant and was downstairs drinking, I was trying to grab the bottle from her and we heard a horrible scream. My brother (still 2 at the time) was upstairs and he had fallen and split his jaw open, the muscle was hanging out, and me and my son's Dad had to race to the hospital with no car seat because she was trying to prevent us from leaving.
She lost custody of all her kids, CPS got involved. She met a heroin addict/alcoholic and started dating him. She's been to jail a few times, and rehab about 3 times, to no avail. When her 12 and 14 year old (my brother and sister) said they didn't want to live with her this past summer in light of what had happened she started drinking again. She is on probation with the county for her DUI and child endangerment conviction, and for probation violations. She is also on probation with the state medical board because she is a registered nurse and has been caught drinking at work. She does counseling, AA, and drug/alcohol testing for both probations. If she fails the HPRP (state medical board probation) again they'll take her license. If she fails the county probation she gets 6 months in jail. Her boyfriend was arrested a week ago for beating her (severely beating her several times, I've seen the bruises and welts) but he got out because he does work for a lawyer on his property and they bailed him out/are representing him. There is a no contact order but she was with him when we went to go get the Jeep Cherokee (explained below). She won't leave him, I'm afraid he's going to kill her. He was arrested for beating a police officer two years ago.
This past Sunday at 6 AM I was coming back from work (Saturday night) and I stopped by her house because she has 3 dogs and she had run off to a city over an hour from her house without telling anyone/answering her phone. They had no food or water and there was dog shit and piss everywhere. I let them out and fed them, and took the little dog that I grew up with to my Grandma's. The other two dogs are huge and I couldn't take them to my condo because of my son.
Then at about 7 AM me and my Grandma drove an hour and 20 minutes to her friend's house. We figured out she was there because I looked up the friend's last name on facebook and cross referenced it on www.whitepages.com to get the address. My Mom had TWO of my Grandma's cars and was driving drunk/with open alcohol in them. We took one of the cars, the Jeep Cherokee, because we had a spare key and brought it back to Nana's.
My Mom still has the Ford Escape. I tried to go get it but she ran when she found out I was coming because her friend tipped her off. I went to her house, she wasn't there, then she pulled up as I was leaving and threw it in reverse before I could catch her. I called her trying to get the car and she was screaming at me and said she was going to take the car and hide/turn her phone off. My Grandma and I called the cops, but they came to her house and said they couldn't file a stolen vehicle report because my Grandma initially gave my Mom consent to drive the car. They said she would have to take my Mom to court to get the car even though the car is in my Grandma's name. That pisses me off because I'm supposed to take over the payments on the Ford Escape and keep it since it's a finance and there's only $7,000 owed on it. My Grandma said I could just have it if I paid off the $7,000 which is $350/month for 20 months. My Mom hasn't payed on the car in over 2 months. She loaned it to one of her crackhead friends, and lets her boyfriend drive it who has a suspended license and several assault charges. We told the cops all of that and they said they couldn't report it stolen. They said if we find the car we can have it towed, but she keeps moving and my Grandma doesn't want to drive all over the world trying to find it. Who knows how long it will take to get to court, but they said if my Mom doesn't show up they will issue a judgment to turn over the car and if she doesn't comply a warrant will be issued for her arrest.
I'm so stressed out. My Mom refuses to go to rehab and she keeps getting extensions on her drug testing (meaning she doesn't have to do it) because she is in between jobs and can't afford the payments. I want to get her caught driving drunk or something so she is stopped before she kills someone. The cops said because my Mom has a valid license (they checked) that my Grandma won't be responsible if she crashes the car or injures someone--but I bet someone could sue my Grandma if that happened, duh. I don't know what to do, she'll get caught eventually but she is wrecking havoc right now and it needs to stop NOW.
What should we do to get her caught?
-Laurisa



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