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    I'm not a people person. I suck at business and I'd really suck at exotic dancing because I see myself blowing someone off if they were annoying. I can't even take being called "baby" or pet names by men other than my husband.

    So my question is, as a liberal lady, as most of you probably are, how in the world do you deal with men who are just annoying or lame? Oh, and it's a business so you aren't there for your health nor are you there for conversation so how do you deal with the idiots who have no money and who don't want to spend any money yet want to spend all night talking to you?

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    I used to walk away. I learned early on that many guys are time wasters and will never spend money. Every club has the guys who come in and never tip and you learn which ones they are.

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    Honestly, it's easier to be a dancer than any other job when you're "not a people person." At least for me. When I'm a dancer, I can walk away from people who are pissing me off or I think are wrong. What other job would that be acceptable customer service? Sure, you can't walk away from every customer that acts "annoying" because he's fat and ugly and trying to flirt with you - but you can't even consider the idea of walking from a customer in any other profession. I die a little inside every time I'm at my serving job and have to listen to someone bitch about something stupid that I don't care about and I have to smile and act like they have a valid point... At a SC, you're an actor. You get paid to act like you give a shit about your customers. You walk away from people who aren't spending. And if you don't like people, that's a much greater feeling than being stuck listening to them whine for maybe a $5 tip or minimum wage...

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    That's exactly it. If a guy was rude I could tell him off and walk away. At a waitress job I may have been fired.

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    Im a waitress and a dancer as well n I understand where AuroraSunset is coming from. Working a 'real job' as well as dancing makes u really realize how lucky u are to just be able to walk away from non-spenders/assholes/annoying customers.

    So just walk away!

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    If a guy is being annoying or lame but he's spending money, I just keep nodding and smiling and while he's droning on and on. I go to my happy place in my head and think about my boyfriend, stuff I need to do around the house, how I'm going to spend the money I'm making off this loser etc.

    If the guy is being a jerk and isn't spending, I just wander off. That's the best thing about doing this job and not being a people person... you can just pick up your purse, get out your chair and walk away while the guy is mid-sentence. Let him figure out why no-one wants to hang out with him.

    Honestly though, don't presume that all men that come into the club are a nightmare to talk to. I have plenty nights where the majority of my customers have some good conversation and we can have (paid) time together without me being driven nuts lol


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    This job is definitely emotionally draining. I learned to walk away from the ones who don't offer to buy a dance or if I mention it turn it down after about 10 mins, maybe less depending on if a conversation is even possible. If I have a bad vibe, I stay away. Usually I just talk to the older customers (some thirties and up) and not the younger ones unless they approach me because of alot of them are simple minded bitchy haters. Just like my real life, I don't deal with bs inside the club.

    Every day working in a club you are more than likely to be irrated and annoyed by non-tippers, rude customers, or ones who go overboad with the flirting and sexual jokes as if they had a chance. Just know your the shit, they are in YOUR house, and have fun.

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    This is the only job I've ever had where I could slap a customer in the face and get away with it.

    I don't consider myself a people person, but there are customers that are genuinely fun to talk to. But if guys don't buy dances, you get up and walk away.

    Boring guys that spend money I start to think of as things I want. Every dance I do for mr. annoying is one dance closer to that bag I'd like.

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    Its sales, not everyone is cut out for it.

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    Personally, I get very annoyed if I think about everything in literal context. I have two main rules to dancing though. One is that when I walk in, I am Carmen and that's that, for the most part I'm am a totally different person in real life. Look at it this way, we are a fantasy for these men, very rarely do they want you to be real. Face it, they don't come in to hear us talk about our kids, and pets, how we spilled our coffee, or how we got in a fight with our BFF. We just fake it. Second rule is, never sit with someone for more than three songs, if they don't want a dance by then, they probably won't want one at all. As said before, you learn to feel people out fairly quickly and you can ask questions that will get you your answer without asking if they want a dance outright.

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    What sort of validation did you hope to acquire?

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