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    I love SCs and been to quite a few all over the country. I love the women, owning their performances and getting paid for it.

    I have no problem dropping a ton of money on stage dancers, but I've never really been into private dances. I recognize that this is where many girls make a good deal of their money, but is it 'normal' to go to a club and not hound for VIP treatment? I'll spend $20 easy for a stage dancer if she puts a lot into her performance. I'm even down for quick lap dances at my table, but I'm not interested in dropping $40+ on a private dance, is that okay?

    I've been to clubs (dives) where the girls will get up and start getting cunty and being loud about guys not getting dances (lol), but if you're making your money, does it matter (do you take it personal if a guy shows up but doesn't want to go to the backroom with you for a wad of dough)?

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    Default Re: Not interested in Private Dances.....

    First of all, spending $20 on a stage show, while appreciated, does not make you a big spender. We encourage stage tips, but as you pointed out, this is not where the majority of a stripper's income comes from.

    If you have no interest in buying dances, don't expect any extra attention from the girls. In fact, a guy who comes to the club and "doesn't buy dances" is not regarded nicely among dancers, as a rule. However, if you tip well on stage and be sure to tell the dancer when she comes over to thank you that you are not going to buy a dance, you are still within the bounds of reasonable strip club behavior. When she comes over to your table, if you let her sit and talk with you for more than a few minutes without letting her know you're not buying, you ARE wasting her time. Dancers hate that kind of behavior - please don't do it.

    In fact, strippers tend to get a little "cunty" when some asswipe decides to waste her time acting interested and trying to grope her at the table, only to eventually tell her "I don't get dances".

    Final note- you might want to refrain from calling strippers who are trying to make a living "cunty" on a stripper support board. That's not going to win you any friends, and if you keep it up you won't last long here.
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    You don't have to buy dances. But if you don't plan to, sit right at the stage side or at the bar, less likely to be approached. Don't waste girls time because you know they are only going to talk to you to try and get a private dance. Tip well, enjoy the show, and know that some strippers are going to be less gracious about not getting dances. Its not exactly the most "professional" environment and frustrated strippers after a few drinks really have nothing to lose.

    I disagree that strippers have a right to be bitchy if you aren't spending on them. As long as you aren't wasting time, they should be courteous and professional. Alas, "etiquette classes" are not a pre-requisite to being a stripper.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    You don't have to buy dances. But if you don't plan to, sit right at the stage side or at the bar, less likely to be approached. Don't waste girls time because you know they are only going to talk to you to try and get a private dance. Tip well, enjoy the show, and know that some strippers are going to be less gracious about not getting dances. Its not exactly the most "professional" environment and frustrated strippers after a few drinks really have nothing to lose.

    I disagree that strippers have a right to be bitchy if you aren't spending on them. As long as you aren't wasting time, they should be courteous and professional. Alas, "etiquette classes" are not a pre-requisite to being a stripper.
    It's all a matter of context, IMO. If a customer who has tipped at the stage declines to buy a dance, I fully agree that this is not a reason to get bitchy.

    Unfortunately, most of us have probably experienced the type of guy who will string a girl along and try to get as much of her time (and attempted table-groping) as possible for free before telling her he's not going to get that dance. This gets really frustrating, and I could totally understand why a girl might get loud about that guy, and tell other dancers to stay away.

    I don't know if this was the OP's situation - I wasn't there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I have no problem dropping a ton of money on stage dancers, but I've never really been into private dances. I recognize that this is where many girls make a good deal of their money, but is it 'normal' to go to a club and not hound for VIP treatment? I'll spend $20 easy for a stage dancer if she puts a lot into her performance. I'm even down for quick lap dances at my table, but I'm not interested in dropping $40+ on a private dance, is that okay?

    There are plenty of guys who go to clubs regularly and don't buy private dances. If you are a regular all of the girls already know that you don't spend and they will pretty much ignore you. If, however, you are in a new club or encounter a new dancer you owe it to her (them) to be honest about your intentions. Tipping a dancer $20 at the stage is pretty much going to guarantee that she will show up at your table to try and sell you private dances. Once she gets there, in my opinion, you need to be up front about the fact that you don't buy dances. Don't let her spend three or four songs trying to sell you something that you have no intention of buying.

    I am always up front about the fact that I am waiting for a fav when girls approach me. In my perfect world they will ask if I'm waiting for another dancer before they even sit down. This doesn't always happen but I don't let a gal sit with me for more than a few seconds before I let her know that I'm not going to spend on her. If you are honest about your intentions and speak-up at the outset no dancer has any reason to be upset with you. Unfortunately this doesn't mean that some won't be...

    Lastly, If you don't buy dances and you want female attention at your table be prepared to pay for it.
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    Default Re: Not interested in Private Dances.....

    thanks for the insight

    I have been to clubs where I've just walked in and heard girls (on stage) making passive aggressive comments to their customers ("these cheap motherfuckers aren't buying dances....") and wasn't sure if my actually being at clubs was misguided.


    the upscale Gentlemen's Clubs I've been to, they obviously don't do much serious stage performances and even after being very clear that I won't be buying dances will get talked to for 20 minutes or more. Most of these girls are shooting the shit before they leave or want to appear they are "working".....i dunno

    i enjoy the performances on stage and i find the psyche of performing artists interesting (just like comics, musicians, athletes, artists, etc).

    My question (after reading much of the forum and personal experiences) had to do with how patrons are viewed. I understand y'all gotta make money and appreciate that but if i don't get anything out of a private dance am I supposed to get one just as a niceity?



    i suppose the real question would be like going to a pub and jut enjoying a good craft brew but the staff would be all like, "order a 3 course meal or GTFO!"
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    Default Re: Not interested in Private Dances.....

    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    i enjoy the performances on stage and i find the psyche of performing artists interesting (just like comics, musicians, athletes, artists, etc).
    "Performing artists"? OK, come back to earth a little bit...

    In most cases, musicians and comedians get hired and paid by the club to appear and perform. They also get to keep their cloths on and don't have to deal with gropers, perverts and time-wasters while they are "performing".

    Dancers pay the club for the right to come in and try to sell dances.
    The psyche of your average dancer is based on this and many other factors that simply don't exist for the other professions that you mentioned.

    Yes, there are some rude dancers. Honestly, even the ones you DO buy dances from can be rude sometimes. If you don't want to encounter that sort of thing it may be best to stay home. Also, reading most of the pink threads on this site, if you are a customer, is tantamount to putting a hidden microphone in the dressing room at a strip club. Trust me, you really don't want to hear most of what they are saying about us. It's really irrelevant to our (the customer's) enjoyement of the strip club experience and can actually be detrimental.
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    I agree 100% with KS_Stevia. We as dancers are there to make money and we can do that from the stage, private dances, or chatting. If I usually make (which rarely happens, but for the sake of an argument) thirty bucks on the stage, and IWonAMathDebate came in and was tipping 15-20$, he would've practically made 50% more than what the others customers were making you. So girls should realize that the extra 15-20 is really nice. Most strippers are a little fiesty. It is polite to let them know that you like to watch the stage. I don't mind talking to a gentleman who just tipped me 20$ on stage for a few minutes. It's always nice to talk to out of towners and meet new people. Most girls in my club are the same way. Other clubs, (as you very well know,) are a little different.
    To answer your last question, and bring one up, do you dislike private dances? Did you maybe have a few that were crappy and that put a damper on the whole thing? Because for you it's actually cheaper to spend money in a private room than on the stage with the way you tip. But if you have had tons of privates and you really don't like them, don't start buying damn dances because then you'll just be flooded with girls.

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    i guess what I mean is that if a dancer can really perform (athletically an rhythmically) on stage, I value that talent and don't mind incentivizing that
    so for example, "Candy" gets on stage and puts on a show that she put a lot of thought into. I'd easily slap down a bunch of bills for that 'show' and not expect anything else
    Then "Sunshine" gets up on stage and just kind of gyrates and shift her weight. I'd be "meh" and not be interested.



    The "private dance" doesn't hold much for me in terms of suspension of reality or whatever. I can get rubbed up on (with a much better chance of finishing what I start in that department) in the club, what am I supposed to be getting out of the private dance besides a grind?

    Am I missing something there?

    It sounds like folks shouldn't be a SC unless they are there for private dances and once they are done with private dances, they should leave
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    alright, math debate my friend.

    you should go to a strip club iff you want to spend money on stripperz. QED.

    if you are tipping girls on stage, its a good start and 20$ is an a-ok tip for a stage show. but dont be thinkin you are big ballah hot shot or some shit.

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    My opinion is this, there have been customers at every club I worked at that never bought dances. At a few clubs there were the tippers who sat on stage and tipped but never bought dances. These guys didn't bother me at all. Ironically some of these guys actually tipped more than I would have made selling dances. One club we got these two Texans who spent $50 each time I went on stage! They didn't ask for anything but a good show.

    However, I always resented those guys who didn't tip at all. To me the worst were the jerks who sat at stage and didn't tip anyone. I despised these guys with a passion and at one club I refused to go topless because these guys were the only ones in the club. Lesser annoying are the guys who sit away from the stage who never buy dances. Eventually dancers get to know these guys and avoid them. Then of course are the regulars who usually sit at the bar, are known by the wait staff and are often not that interested in the girls. Some of them come to visit the bartender or waitresses, others are friends of other staff. Dancers get to know these guys too and know they aren't there to tip.

    You don't have to buy dances, but keep in mind that unless you are sitting on stage and tipping many dancers will resent you if you aren't buying dances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    Am I missing something there?
    Apparently reading comprehension skills?

    How many times do you have to be told? Stage tipping is nice but it's not, as even you said, where the majority of a dancer's income is derived from. They are not going to do back-flips here and high five you for admitting that you are not going to buy dances from them. Frankly, by responding to your question, they are paying more attention to you here than they ever will in the club...

    To summarize. Any self-respecting and good-natured dancer will happily accept your stage tip. The few ladies in a bad mood will take your tips as well. That being said, you are not going to get a statue erected in the dressing room for your contribution to their income and if you expect to be known as anything other than another guy who doesn't buy dances you are barking up the wrong tree here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by yoda57us View Post
    Apparently reading comprehension skills?

    How many times do you have to be told? Stage tipping is nice but it's not, as even you said, where the majority of a dancer's income is derived from. They are not going to do back-flips here and high five you for admitting that you are not going to buy dances from them. Frankly, by responding to your question, they are paying more attention to you here than they ever will in the club...

    To summarize. Any self-respecting and good-natured dancer will happily accept your stage tip. The few ladies in a bad mood will take your tips as well. That being said, you are not going to get a statue erected in the dressing room for your contribution to their income and if you expect to be known as anything other than another guy who doesn't buy dances you are barking up the wrong tree here.
    this post is winning.
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    customer: hmm... nah actually i will take the shotgun marriage. At least then we would be having sex.


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    by the above responses, I'm apparently missing that when you go as a customer you're supposed to try to get attention (you can't just go to a club.....just to go to a club)? WHO goes to a club to stroke their ego?

    Why would anyone go to a strip club to "impress" a worker? I guess I assumed people weren' that juvenile.
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    No as a customer your job is to tip. It works like this, the dancer is providing you with a service and in return you tip.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I have no problem dropping a ton of money on stage dancers, but I've never really been into private dances. I recognize that this is where many girls make a good deal of their money, but is it 'normal' to go to a club and not hound for VIP treatment? I'll spend $20 easy for a stage dancer if she puts a lot into her performance. I'm even down for quick lap dances at my table, but I'm not interested in dropping $40+ on a private dance, is that okay?

    I've been to clubs (dives) where the girls will get up and start getting cunty and being loud about guys not getting dances (lol), but if you're making your money, does it matter (do you take it personal if a guy shows up but doesn't want to go to the backroom with you for a wad of dough)?
    Well, IMHO the likely dancer reactions have been well covered here, so reread the previous posts again, including some good points made by Yoda.

    I'll just add that you need to worry less about how they are going to react and just do your thing as long as you are respectful, tip them for stage appearances and don't waste their time.

    Though if you're looking for more attention from any particular dancer then you are going about it the wrong way. As Yoda pointed out, all a $20 on the stage will guarantee is that the girl will be by to try to sell you dances. In fact, some of the girls I deal with would be surprised to receive a $20 on the stage with nothing behind it. You are sending all of the signals of a live one without the payoff and if a girl passed by other sales opportunities to pitch you first then she might even react badly when she realizes that there is nothing more there.

    Maybe you should consider spreading it out a little less and concentrating it more on one or two girls that you like. I don't really like LDs either, so in many clubs I will either do a VIP or just tip for time. In the tip for time scenario, if she sits with me for a while I give her some money, and more if she sits longer, etc., until I hit what I am willing to spend. This doesn't work too well in very busy and/or high hustle clubs, but in the local clubs that I prefer it works out quite well.

    Anyway, just a thought.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    by the above responses, I'm apparently missing that when you go as a customer you're supposed to try to get attention (you can't just go to a club.....just to go to a club)? WHO goes to a club to stroke their ego?
    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    ...As Yoda pointed out, all a $20 on the stage will guarantee is that the girl will be by to try to sell you dances. In fact, some of the girls I deal with would be surprised to receive a $20 on the stage with nothing behind it. You are sending all of the signals of a live one without the payoff and if a girl passed by other sales opportunities to pitch you first then she might even react badly when she realizes that there is nothing more there.
    Iwon, see my comment above.

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    this has been educational - thanks for the responses
    Quote Originally Posted by rickdugan View Post
    I will either do a VIP or just tip for time. In the tip for time scenario, if she sits with me for a while I give her some money, and more if she sits longer, etc., until I hit what I am willing to spend. .
    that's cool and it is always great to meet new people, but what if I'm not interested in spending her time? I'd like to think I can show appreciation for their 'show' without trying to "get them to like me" (by paying them). I don't care if they even acknowledge me while on stage (let alone when they are on the floor). I'm not interested in them liking me, I figured you could show support for what they are doing (when they do it).

    I see the point, though, about sending the wrong signals. That helps give me a better perspective. Again, I'm not really looking at going to a club to get attention from women or to get my rocks off. I respect their hustle and really appreciate the ones that put a lot into their performances ( I have no problems buying dances for other people, either).

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    by the above responses, I'm apparently missing that when you go as a customer you're supposed to try to get attention (you can't just go to a club.....just to go to a club)? WHO goes to a club to stroke their ego?

    Why would anyone go to a strip club to "impress" a worker? I guess I assumed people weren' that juvenile.
    the best advice i can give you is to go home, math debate all night, and stay out of the strip clubs.

    also, lets be honest, i doubt you have a high probability of picking up civilian girls at a normal club either....
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    lol

    bitter much?
    you strike me as someone who is extremely resentful of your occupation. I'm sorry you don't enjoy what you do and feel your only recourse is to attack others (i'm assuming before THEY can hurt you). I appreciate dancers and wish them all the best, not sure what you're so angry about

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I'm even down for quick lap dances at my table, but I'm not interested in dropping $40+ on a private dance, is that okay?
    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I've been to clubs (dives) where the girls will get up and start getting cunty and being loud about guys not getting dances (lol), but if you're making your money, does it matter (do you take it personal if a guy shows up but doesn't want to go to the backroom with you for a wad of dough)?
    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I don't care if they even acknowledge me while on stage (let alone when they are on the floor). I'm not interested in them liking me...
    If you don't care about whether they like you, then why are you on here asking dancers whether it is ok if you don't buy dances? Why should you care if they think it is ok or not?

    Sounds to me like you are trying to figure out how you're perceived when you are clubbing on a budget.

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    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    this has been educational - thanks for the responses
    that's cool and it is always great to meet new people, but what if I'm not interested in spending her time? I'd like to think I can show appreciation for their 'show' without trying to "get them to like me" (by paying them). I don't care if they even acknowledge me while on stage (let alone when they are on the floor). I'm not interested in them liking me, I figured you could show support for what they are doing (when they do it).

    I see the point, though, about sending the wrong signals. That helps give me a better perspective. Again, I'm not really looking at going to a club to get attention from women or to get my rocks off. I respect their hustle and really appreciate the ones that put a lot into their performances ( I have no problems buying dances for other people, either).
    If your not there to get your rocks off or attention then why ARE you there? Ive always wonderd why men go to stripclubs but dont want dances. Why not just go to a regular bar? See thats why dancers like me and Athena get "cunty" because you are wasting our time with your non spending presence. The time I spend on a guy like you keeps me from other guys willing to spend and i dont care if you tell me within 5 mins, thats still 5 min of my valuable time wasted and time is money. Just go to your local bar and save the girls the trouble and if you like the stage dances soooo much...well still stay home or go to a reg bar.
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    I disagree. I go to strip clubs and rarely even spedn 40 dollars. Actually, Tuesdays round here are student nights but are free entry for everyone so I go in watch the dances. I sit by the stage and have a beer or 2. I sometimes have 1 dance or 2 but never over 2 and often not even one.

    The way I look at it, I am paying to have a chilled drink, if women want to dance naked around me thats up to them. I knwo full well strippers try to manipulated men to take their money and are not genunie so I have no reason to tell them I'm not going to buy a dance. I'm just doing the same as they are.

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    Default Re: Not interested in Private Dances.....

    Math Debate,
    You may be a perfectly fine SC customer, who sits at the stage and tips the dancers there well, and kindly lets them know that you won't be buying private dances before they spend much time trying to sell them to you.

    Unfortunately, the misguided PL above ("Doorman") is an all-too-common occurance in the club. It's jerks like him that cause strippers to react so strongly to the general statement "I don't buy dances".

    There is clearly enough feedback in this thread to let you know that there is a way to enjoy the stage performances without buying dances that won't necessarily piss off (most) of the dancers - and there's a way to do it that will quickly turn your experience into a club full of "cunty" strippers.
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    Default Re: Not interested in Private Dances.....

    Quote Originally Posted by IWonAMathDebate View Post
    I love SCs and been to quite a few all over the country. I love the women, owning their performances and getting paid for it.

    I have no problem dropping a ton of money on stage dancers, but I've never really been into private dances. I recognize that this is where many girls make a good deal of their money, but is it 'normal' to go to a club and not hound for VIP treatment? I'll spend $20 easy for a stage dancer if she puts a lot into her performance. I'm even down for quick lap dances at my table, but I'm not interested in dropping $40+ on a private dance, is that okay?

    I've been to clubs (dives) where the girls will get up and start getting cunty and being loud about guys not getting dances (lol), but if you're making your money, does it matter (do you take it personal if a guy shows up but doesn't want to go to the backroom with you for a wad of dough)?
    Twenty bucks is not a ton of money for a dancer who "puts a lot in her performance".


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