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    So yesterday started my second week of work. The club was pretty slow and everyone was just kind of waiting to make their moves. There's several girls that like to pounce on men as soon as they arrive at the bar (I can never see myself doing something like that because I just don't operate that way) Yesterday, this guy came in, went to get his drink from the bar. I was sitting close to the bar and he kept on looking at me while he was waiting for his drink. Before he could finish mixing his drink this girl starts talking to him and asked him if he wanted to sit down with her. He seemed very apprehensive but he eventually sat down with her and in less than two minutes she was taking him for a private dance. When they came back he sat down with her for a minute then he got up walked over to me and asked if we could talk. I ended up getting a dance and a drink out of him.

    However, I have three questions; the first question is if he didn't want to sit down with the other girl why didn't he just say so? (because if he really wanted me then we could have had two dances instead of just one. On top of that since I'm so new I feel like I have to stand back and approach the men once they have received their drinks and had some time to adjust to the scenery. I'm still at the stage of letting the other veterans try out the customers before I attempt it. Which I know this isn't good and I'll get better but I've only had six days on the floor).

    Second question is how do you ladies respond to men that seem socially awkward? (I was trying my best to make him feel comfortable with talking to me but he just wouldn't say much. He told me he liked black girls and that I was very beautiful but he was so nervous and the last time I checked I was the newbie!!!)

    Last but not least, if a customer cant seem to take their eyes off you does this mean that they most likely want to talk to you?

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    Default Re: If they look at you, do they want you?

    1. If I make eye contact with a guy or catch him looking at me I always take it as an indicator of interest. Its not 100% accurate, but its pretty close. They probably want to talk to you and are trying to get your attention. Most guys are not going to approach you. I agree that you shouldn't pounce on men right when they walk in the club. Having been a strip club patron too, I find it highly annoying when a girl starts trying to make a sale before I've hardly had time to sit down and enjoy myself. I don't think you need to wait for the veterans to try the customers out first though. Its a nice gesture, but its a competitive atmosphere after all. If you have the opportunity and aren't stepping on any toes, go talk to the customer first.

    2. You're going to run into a lot of socially awkward guys in the business, because a good number of them come to strip clubs for the very reason that they have trouble with women in real life. If the awkwardness is caused by the guy, but its obvious that he likes you, then there's no need to be nervous. They already think you're beautiful and amazing no matter what you say (or don't say). No need to get uptight at every awkward pause. Just relax. Since I'm socially awkward myself I have different topics picked out before work so when things get quiet I have something to get the conversation going again.

    3. In most cases, YES! Does it always equal money? No. Just because a customer becomes infatuated with you doesn't guarantee anything. In fact, sometimes its a bad sign because they're more likely to hassle you about dating or meeting outside the club.

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    Default Re: If they look at you, do they want you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Rileygrl06 View Post
    1. If I make eye contact with a guy or catch him looking at me I always take it as an indicator of interest. Its not 100% accurate, but its pretty close. They probably want to talk to you and are trying to get your attention. Most guys are not going to approach you. I agree that you shouldn't pounce on men right when they walk in the club. Having been a strip club patron too, I find it highly annoying when a girl starts trying to make a sale before I've hardly had time to sit down and enjoy myself. I don't think you need to wait for the veterans to try the customers out first though. Its a nice gesture, but its a competitive atmosphere after all. If you have the opportunity and aren't stepping on any toes, go talk to the customer first.

    2. You're going to run into a lot of socially awkward guys in the business, because a good number of them come to strip clubs for the very reason that they have trouble with women in real life. If the awkwardness is caused by the guy, but its obvious that he likes you, then there's no need to be nervous. They already think you're beautiful and amazing no matter what you say (or don't say). No need to get uptight at every awkward pause. Just relax. Since I'm socially awkward myself I have different topics picked out before work so when things get quiet I have something to get the conversation going again.

    3. In most cases, YES! Does it always equal money? No. Just because a customer becomes infatuated with you doesn't guarantee anything. In fact, sometimes its a bad sign because they're more likely to hassle you about dating or meeting outside the club.

    Thanks Riley!!! I know I'll eventually just get up and talk to more men. I find it easier once they have taken a seat but most of the girls at my club pounce on them as soon as they arrive so I end up being the last one to catch a break. This makes me feel a lot better though. Yesterday I know I messed up, I could have had more than what I got but I let my head talk me out of it. I'm sure I'll get better but for the mean time this advice is much appreciated. Thank you!!

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    I learned this lesson the hard way that guys wont wait around for you all the time. Some guys like this guy are in to spend some money and leave and all they see is beautiful women. The first woman that comes up to him and he finds hot and is nice to him, he will go with her. There were a few times that i saw guys looking at me but i was busy and when i finally came over were like aww i wish you would have come sooner, i just came from upstairs. So next time he gives obvious signs like prolonged eye contact make a move. And as for letting other dancers approach first youll soon learn to stop that because youll calculate the potentiol money your losing. Your not there to make friends your there to make money. by the time he got to you he proberly spent most of his money on the other girl which is y he bought just 1 dance. Guys who are socially awakard are easy, i just take control of the conversation and lead the questions so that they feel comftorble and find me trustworthy
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    Some guys feel an obligation to talk to girls and good girls have a way of making them feel like they have to get a dance from them. Pouncing on customers early in the night isn't always a winner, but if I'm really bored I'll hang out and talk to our bouncer and scope guys out as they walk in the door, it gives you a chance to see how much cash their carrying too. When I see one(s) that look like their ready for a good time or ones that are really eyeballing me, I'll step up and say silly stuff like "I knew you'd come to see me" "You just came in cause you knew I'd be here tonight, didn't you?" or "Oh, there you are! Where have you been all my life?" I've never picked a bad one and I've always got a few dances from the guys I've done that to.

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    Default Re: If they look at you, do they want you?

    Quote Originally Posted by CarmenAmazing View Post
    Some guys feel an obligation to talk to girls and good girls have a way of making them feel like they have to get a dance from them. Pouncing on customers early in the night isn't always a winner, but if I'm really bored I'll hang out and talk to our bouncer and scope guys out as they walk in the door, it gives you a chance to see how much cash their carrying too. When I see one(s) that look like their ready for a good time or ones that are really eyeballing me, I'll step up and say silly stuff like "I knew you'd come to see me" "You just came in cause you knew I'd be here tonight, didn't you?" or "Oh, there you are! Where have you been all my life?" I've never picked a bad one and I've always got a few dances from the guys I've done that to.

    Thanks!! Those are some great lines, I'll try it next time.

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