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    Hey girls, so someone asked me on my blog what got me into stripping because theyve been thinking about getting into it also.

    I was a stripper for 6 years and now do fetish webcam from home.

    This is what I wrote to her, would you add anything? I think this might be a nice discussion to have and maybe good for newbie strippers to read

    "Ha! Well, Im going to try and keep this short. I worked in offices from the age of 18, by the time I was 23, Id had enough of city life and knew I had to do something else. All I knew how to do was take care of horses and dance (having been a head go-go dancer back in South Africa / I was now living in London, UK). So I decided to become a horse groom for this family who had a daughter in the British Show Jumping team. It was super hard work and not one of them gave me a hand taking care of SEVEN horses on my own. After a few months, you can believe I started fantasising about a job where I wasnt shovelling shit for a living and because I thought dancing was my other option, I decided to get glamorous and be my own boss and become a sparkly stripper! Yay!

    I soon learned it is one of the hardest jobs you can ever hope to do. In terms of learning very quickly who you are and where your limits lie as well as having a sudden insight into the inner workings of the male mind in all its disgusting glory.

    You grow a very thick skin very quickly as a stripper and if you dont, you will not last long. It is a highly stressful job and it is addictive. The being on stage, being worshipped and being paid well to be sexy is a definite high, but you have to become a top sales woman very very fast if you hope to make enough money to make the stress worth while.

    It is emotionally, physically and mentally taxing. You are in ridiculous shoes all night, you are dancing and moving your body all night, you have to stay one step ahead of needy males who want the world for free and who bring their women issues into the club and take them out on you, you have to be totally focussed and treat it like a business, youre not there to make friends, youre there to make money without selling your soul. You have to switch your real self off and let insults and bitchyness roll off your back like water off a ducks back. You have to constantly pretend to be whatever you need to be to make that money. You are constantly giving of yourself to men who need appreciation, attention and acknowledgement, some of the men need to treat you like shit to make themselves feel better. You need to learn quickly how to spot them and steer clear of them. You need to learn how to deal with males outside of your work not seeing you as a real person. This is sex work and that automatically turns you into a non person with a lot of people.

    Stripping can be fun and should always be done while holding down a part time job or more stable income. While the money is great, it comes and goes and is never stable. You cannot count on the income of a stripper.

    The free time is wonderful, but its hard on the body and your heart and your head. You have to take a lot of me time, spend time with a lot of real people. A strip club is a fantasy land and if you dont ground yourself while not in it, you can lose yourself and your touch with reality. Like forgetting there are good men in the world. You see the worst kind of men and the worst a man can be in strip clubs. Dont let it taint your view of men.

    Have a goal and stick to it no matter what. Dont make that goal time, but money instead. Say you want to SAVE 10 grand, then work until its saved, not made because obviously you will have living expenses while you work.

    Use stripping as a means to and end, to set yourself up for something that isnt stripping. That business can suck you in and fuck you up. But if you know this before you get into it, youre much wiser than a lot of poor girls.

    I hope that helps "
    "Sex is currency. What's the use of being beautiful if you can't profit from it?" - Lily St Cyr (40's burlesque dancer)

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    I like that you didn't paint a rosy picture of how awesome and glamorous stripping is, but gave her the reality of it. And while it's great advice to have a part-time job/something else going on while dancing, I'd say it's more important to have a back-up plan. Keep your resume current, volunteer, take classes, get a degree, do *something* during your time as a dancer so when you're ready (or forced to, either due to injury, not enough cash flow, whatever) to leave the business, you're able to do so on your own terms. There's nothing wrong with being a full-time dancer, you just have to be smart about it and invest/save your money so the financial downs don't ruin you.

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    REALLY well said
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    Quote Originally Posted by Kisa7513 View Post
    You can only make so much selling dances, but when you really get into a guys head and heart, you get into his wallet.

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    that is really true
    u have to be strong and smart !
    u have t have clear goal because if u dont have u gonna end up spending all ur money -some girls gamble some drink or buying drugs!

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    A lot of truth there! Well written!

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    Quote Originally Posted by shanna dior View Post
    I like that you didn't paint a rosy picture of how awesome and glamorous stripping is, but gave her the reality of it. And while it's great advice to have a part-time job/something else going on while dancing, I'd say it's more important to have a back-up plan. Keep your resume current, volunteer, take classes, get a degree, do *something* during your time as a dancer so when you're ready (or forced to, either due to injury, not enough cash flow, whatever) to leave the business, you're able to do so on your own terms. There's nothing wrong with being a full-time dancer, you just have to be smart about it and invest/save your money so the financial downs don't ruin you.
    Ditto!

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    This should me made into a sticky for the newbie forum. Great essay.

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    I liked the part about using stripping as means to an end. I am currently stripping to pay for University, in-turn which I hope to someday become a teacher.

    Well written

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    Default Re: Stripping In A Nutshell - would you add anything?

    You should also add that when you start in the business you see everything through rose colored glasses. Everyone wants the new girl, and money flows quickly. Girls will seem nice to your face because they have no reason not to, and management is typically nice to new girls so that they stick around.

    The first 120 days of your stripping career, generally speaking, will determine if you make it or break it. It's been said before, and I'll say it again, the only guy who wants a dance from the new girl is the one that wants to take advantage of her. New and inexperienced equals less likely to know what your time is worth and a lesser chance of her standing up for herself.

    It is very important to tread carefully in your first 4-6 months of stripping. Watch your back, and don't get to cozy with the club, the money, the customers, the management, or the other strippers. It can all vanish as quickly as it appeared.

    That is all.
    -Laurisa
    If you are willing to do for one year what other's won't, you can spend a lifetime doing what other's cant.


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