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    I am a customer, a professional in my 40’s, and I am being blackmailed by a dancer. I would like to get the view of dancers and club managers if I can.

    A few months ago I met a dancer in a local club. (I will keep this generic and am omitting some detail that might identify the dancers.) At the end of my first lap dance with her she gave me her phone number. It turns out she does rooms OTC and I got a private dance from her in a local hotel the next week. After that, I spoke and texted with her a number of times, we hung out together a few times, and I paid for a few breakfasts and lunches other things and gave her a few hundred dollars for various things, generally enjoying her company.

    A few months later (last week), she asked if I wanted to do another room with her and another dancer. We did the room, and everything went really well, although I noticed she was a little distracted at times. No actual sex in any of my rooms with her – just doing what is allowed in the Champagne Rooms at the club.

    An hour after they left, I received a text from the dancer with a photograph attached. The photo is of me and the other dancer naked and in bed, clearly taken on the dancer’s cell phone without a flash (I didn’t notice because the other dancer is across my face). The text message says that she has more photos and she will circulate them if I don’t give her money. I assume for now that I am identifiable in the photos.

    Oddly, the request is for only $150. (I had just paid them way more than this plus tip for two sessions with both dancers for that night.) I know that a common extortion scheme is to start small to see how the mark will respond and then increase the demands. So, in spite of the small amount, I take the threat seriously because she could easily ask for more later. A little Internet research and some things she told me about her past and her current situation have me convinced this is a serious threat..

    Well it so happens that I don’t particularly care if she circulates the photos. Although I am quite well off, there wouldn’t be any major ramifications (e.g. to work or family) if these photos are circulated, although there would of course be some embarrassment socially. I texted the dancer back right away and told her that I didn’t care what she does with the photos, that I am not giving her anything for them, that she has just committed the crimes of attempted extortion/blackmail and harassment, and a few other observations, such as she just lost a budding regular customer. She has not returned my few texts or phone calls. It's been about a week.

    I filed a report with the local police. They may or may not pursue this because the dollar amount is so low, and also because the local prosecutor may not be sympathetic to victims that get themselves into this kind of trouble. I don’t know.

    Here is my question: Should I contact the club and let them know that two of their dancers pulled this scam? I like the club, and I don’t think they have any awareness or involvement in this. I would hate for these two to pull this on other customers when I have the ability to warn them, and would also hate for the club’s reputation to suffer for being associated with this scam. I know how to report this to them without committing defamation myself. If the police do not pursue this the club may otherwise never know.

    Dancers – would you want the club to be informed if you danced there and other dancers were doing this? Managers – would you want to be told? I assume that you would, so that you can deal with the dancers as you deem appropriate, and can be prepared if there is an investigation. But I may be wrong about this, and I don't want to make any enemies at the club. (I realize that that this will make enemies out of these two dancers, but they are already enemies.) Any other comments/advice would also be welcome.

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    I'd want to be informed. If she's blackmailing customers, she might blackmail other strippers if she finds out about their real names, families, etc.

    If you have a lawyer or cop (must be female) talk to her, she'll probably back off. 90% of blackmailers are total cowards when the law gets involved, and they're counting on you to take the easy way out.

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    i think the club would be more concerned about them meeting the custies otc instead of letting the club take a cut from champagne room sales. but sure, you may as well tell them about it.

    also, if champagne rooms at that club are that filthy, you should probably just stick to keeping it itc. i've freaked out at guys for pulling their dicks out in the cr. the idea of letting a dude get naked, omg. hell no.

    not to mention that girls that are that quick to take a dude otc usually just use the club to help them meet tricks. pimps like girls to go otc for the real money, because they would rather the girl risk getting killed than let the club take a cut. and of course after upselling you to otc after a single dance, she'd be the sort of person who'd "upsell" you to blackmail. how many dudes do you think she gives her number to? she doesn't want regs. she wants more dudes she can meet up with otc and attempt to blackmail. there's only so much time in a day.

    i'm assuming the originial post is legit, for the sake of it. i'm not sure it is, but what the hell. it's probably a common enough issue to be worth a reply.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rex10 View Post
    No actual sex in any of my rooms with her – just doing what is allowed in the Champagne Rooms at the club.

    Quote Originally Posted by Rex10 View Post
    I received a text from the dancer with a photograph attached. The photo is of me and the other dancer naked and in bed...
    So you are normally allowed to be naked, in bed, with a dancer in that club's CR?
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    Quote Originally Posted by she sells sanctuary View Post
    i think the club would be more concerned about them meeting the custies otc...
    I agree with this.

    Rex, as far as the club is concerned, you took dancers out of the club and to your hotel room. I don't think they are going to give a shit about anything beyond that, even if they buy your "I didn't inhale" story. You'll get no sympathy from them relating to the results of what happened when you met up with their dancers off premises.

    Now you may get the dancers in trouble by telling club management that you took them out, but also keep in mind that it will put you on the radar of management and potentially other dancers as well. You will become a guy who (1) is known to take dancers OTC; and (2) can't keep his mouth shut. The likelihood that you would ever have an easy time doing almost anything dicey with any other dancer in that club would be low, so you will need to decide whether outing these girls is worth losing the club as a source of special activity partners.

    Anyway, just my

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    Ten years ago most of the clubs I go to would have fired a dancer immediately if they knew she was meeting guys in the club and seeing them outside. The fear of being busted for allowing prostitution was second only to the fear of being raided or busted for allowing drug use or sales in the club. Back then, if a dancer gave me her phone number she would slip it to me on a bar napkin when no one was looking. Nowadays they take my cell phone out of my hand and punch their number in right there at the bar. Clubs condone it because they know that most of the time the girl is just going to call the guy to come in when she is working and spend money on her...and in the club.

    Many clubs (not all) have become more lax about what girls do when they are not working. You may get a thank you from management if you go to them since her actions are costing the club money but, as rick said, you may also get banned or, at the very least, get a reputation around the club.

    As far as the blackmail thing I seriously doubt the club will give a damn. My two cents is this: To a degree, what happens between two consenting adults who are both breaking the law is most often best kept between two consenting adults. You may be in a position where these pictures can't hurt you but many guys would be ruined so they just pay-up. While I agree with you that blackmail is a pretty stupid idea as compared to simply cultivating and keeping good customers it's pretty clear that the women who choose this course are not looking at the big picture, just a fast buck.
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    This is awful and while I would like to know as a dancer if other dancers are whores, most dancers usually know this. I will say though and that it is likely she has more than one accomplice. She could have connections that are dangerous. You could tell the club but you might find yourself either blacklisted there or she may get fired and go after you more.

    I don't have an answer except maybe to ignore this. However, let this be a lesson to you to be careful next time. Good luck with

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    Similar case here in Michigan where dancer met customer at hotel and had sex. After leaving, he received phone call saying if he didn't come back and pay her $500 she would claim rape. He paid. She asked for another $1,000 the next day. He paid. Another thousand the next day. He paid. When she demanded more...he went to the police and she was charged with blackmail. Police also had other complaints similar to this customer's scenario. Just to make it more interesting.....her FATHER was involved in the entire set up and extortions. Nice, huh?

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    Would you have the same question if she worked at McDonalds?

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    ^ if she was working at mcdonalds and meeting up with customers for to engage in prostitution and blackmail? sure, it would be easier. but it would also be easier to tip off the local police to solicit her. and seriously, this stuff does happen. i know there was a dunkin donuts employee busted for this, earlier this year i think.



    btw. if these girls have a pimp as i suspect, i think there's a high likelihood that they travel around frequently. it's pretty rare that otc girls are this cavalier about it. the ones who are usually try to make as much money as they can as fast as they can, then leave when they've used the area up. like locusts.
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    You fucked up, BUT.

    Absolutely let the club know. Go in WITH PROOF and let them know what's happening.

    You'll have a little egg on your face but any club worth a shit will fire both dancers. The one for doing the OTC shit and the other for extortion.


    Keep calm about it though, explain what happened, don't name call, don't embellish, just present the facts and let them know you've already contacted police about it. Don't demand the girls get fired either, it will just look like you're pissed off about something else.

    Sucks it happened to you, but it happens.

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    Odds are that, based on your police report, local LE is already sniffing around this club. I wouldn't say one word to club management ... because of the potential risk that a future club / dancer bust would point directly back to you and your 'big mouth' as the root cause of that bust !

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    I would report it to the club. I think the club should be informed that those dancers are using the club as a means to take part in criminal activity.

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    Hopefully they would fire any dancers involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    Odds are that, based on your police report, local LE is already sniffing around this club. I wouldn't say one word to club management ... because of the potential risk that a future club / dancer bust would point directly back to you and your 'big mouth' as the root cause of that bust !
    THIS.

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    Quote Originally Posted by StripClubPsych View Post
    You fucked up, BUT.

    Absolutely let the club know. Go in WITH PROOF and let them know what's happening.

    You'll have a little egg on your face but any club worth a shit will fire both dancers. The one for doing the OTC shit and the other for extortion.


    Keep calm about it though, explain what happened, don't name call, don't embellish, just present the facts and let them know you've already contacted police about it. Don't demand the girls get fired either, it will just look like you're pissed off about something else.

    Sucks it happened to you, but it happens.
    Exactly right. The club should be aware of what's going on, but let them handle the repercussions- don't get all vigilante on them.

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    I think the OP left out the part where he woke up in the bathtub full of ice......missing a kidney.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Melonie View Post
    Odds are that, based on your police report, local LE is already sniffing around this club. I wouldn't say one word to club management ... because of the potential risk that a future club / dancer bust would point directly back to you and your 'big mouth' as the root cause of that bust !
    I think Melonie has a very good advice.

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    I would suggest you just STFU and dont bring attention to the club.. you obviously need to stay out of clubs if youre going to try and expose a girl for hustling you...

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    Quote Originally Posted by AmyLynne View Post
    I would suggest you just STFU and dont bring attention to the club.. you obviously need to stay out of clubs if youre going to try and expose a girl for hustling you...
    1000 times this.

    I wonder what kind of response ol' Rex is envisioning when he complains to the club's management. Perhaps it goes something like this:

    Sir, I'm terribly sorry to hear that you had such a bad experience after you were good enough to pay them to be naked in a hotel bed with you. While we technically cannot take responsibility for what takes place outside of our club, customer satisfaction is our number one concern. Not only will we fix this right away, but I would like to refund you for their last visit to your hotel room. Also, rest assured that we will re-emphasize with all of our dancers the importance of fair customer service, whether it is in the club or even in a customer's bedroom.

    Of course, the reality would probably look like something closer to this:

    Excuse me?! You are actually here complaining about what happened when you paid two of our dancers to go to your hotel and have sex with you? [At this point, OP protests that he did not have sex, but just got naked in bed with them] Sure buddy, whatever. Look, are you fucking high? You do realize that what you did is illegal, right? It is also against club policy for patrons to solicit our dancers. You need to leave right now and don't ever come back here.
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    L o s e r !!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AmyLynne View Post
    I would suggest you just STFU and dont bring attention to the club.. you obviously need to stay out of clubs if youre going to try and expose a girl for hustling you...
    There's a very big difference between "hustling" and "blackmail".

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    Did you tell them your name? Are you going to tell the club your name? What do you hope to gain out of it? Getting them fired won't help you any, and any custie worth his salt doesn't need to be saved from predatory tactics. If you are going to take risks with dancers OTC, take those risks being willing to accept the consequences. Keeping your wits about you is a top priority. If you really didn't care about the outcome you wouldn't be looking for advice from strangers. Good luck.

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    If there is another club in town, start going there. And if there isn't go out of town. And don't be stupid again.

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    I think he was saying the stripper was naked in bed with him, and he was not, though it's strangely written.

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