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    Sad Feeling overwhelmed professionally.

    So Thursday night, my GM started training me on some different points for going into management. This wasn't my initial career path (as many of you know I was in school to become a doctor, but was forced to drop out), but it is one I'm familiar with and have come to love.

    I adore my girls, my peers I work with etc etc. My GM praises me for my financial and dance count accuracy, but tonight I dropped the ball. My severe ADD is killing me. I've been off my adderrall for six months because I didn't have insurance until a month ago. I know I need to find a new GP, but I haven't had the time because I'm devoting all my time to work. Tonight, I was nearly $100 off on my work financials. I went over and over the receipts, and couldn't find the mistake. My brain was so scattered, I think I rang some things wrong, and my running math may have been off. I've been accurate to the PENNY for the entire time I've been working for him, and I'm worried my GM will think I'm slacking, not serious, or a bad candidate due to my stupid ADD. He wasn't angry with me, and I admitted I wasn't on point but it's weighing heavily on my mind.

    I also have my husband's reputation to uphold. He is well respected and liked in the company. He recently got a major raise and is next in line for promotion. I'm worried because of my error, it will reflect badly on him.

    In addition,my girls ALWAYS come first. I stand up for them in times if difficulty and dispute, which is not always what management favors, and worry they will see me only as " the retired stripper " when it's that I truly believe the girls are the essence of the business. If the girls are unhappy, they'll bounce, so why aren't more dedicated to doing right by them???? I know how it feels to be done wrong by management, so I trend towards their sides.

    Lastly, recently I had to tell the truth about a girl in high standing for doing something any dancer would find appalling. The girl in question ruined a well meaning, but poorly responding manager's reputation. Even though I told my GM about it, the damage is done and I told the truth to late to go to bat for a good, decent member of the company. I'm stressing this makes me look bad and like a keeper of terrible information.

    Ugh. This transition is difficult. Any words of advice from former or current dancers, customers or management alike would help improve my morale.

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    Oh honey. Try to stay calm.

    If you manager knows you need meds for your ADD that should help and that certainly explains your mistake - we are human it happens. Don't beat yourself up for it, just make sure you have a system so help lower the risk of it happening again. Write things down as you go, be regimental. Of course, getting your meds will be a great help in this.

    Your girls will appreciate your honesty and fairness and you know very well that good dancers won't hold anything against you just because your timing may have been a bit out in a matter.

    You are a hard worker and an honest individual so don't beat yourself up.

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    It sounds like you'd be a dream manager to work for, so I suggest sticking with it. Everyone makes mistakes, especially with your situation being off your meds I am sure they will understand. I think it'd be silly if they think it means anything bad about your husband that you're a human being whose financials were off.

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    I agree that you are being too hard on yourself. The funny thing is, is that we are often our own worst critics. It sounds like you are being honest with management. All issues aside, a quality manager will recognize this and write off the $100 mistake as a fluke. As for your ADD issues, is there any way you can drink redbull, coffee, etc. in small and frequent quantities, or take amino acid supplements until you can get a new doc and script? I hope things get better. Best wishes.

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    Wow, that sucks.

    It seems like you have a high reputation to uphold. Have you talked to your hubby about it? Maybe he could tell you if you really do or don't have to worry about your performance reflecting on him.

    Being a former dancer does put you in a harder position to prove yourself not "just" a former dancer, but on the plus side it gives you a better perspective than many managers, and this is a good thing.

    If they know you're off you your meds, then they should cut you some slack. But, I would try and develop a system you KNOW will help with your ADD to cut down on mistakes and problems. Maybe show them how this will work for you, and stick with it. Show them how you're working to "overcome the problem". Hopefully that'll work to mitigate any further problems.

    Anyways, you have a lot of cheerleaders in your corner. Take comfort in that.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Ugh. This transition is difficult. Any words of advice from former or current dancers, customers or management alike would help improve my morale.
    I fully sympathize, I stepped into an Administrative job when a co-worker was promoted within the company. I got four days of training.

    A year later people come to me for advice.

    Can you work at a dedicated desk? A PC with MS Excel and a printer/copier/scanner would help you tremendously.

    I scan all receipts. I file the original with the associated spreadsheet. Much faster to find, and read a .pdf image of the receipt, than to go to the filing cabinet for the paper one. Keep the paper for 2-3 year.

    I make a spread sheet to keep it all in front of me. I can see all the employees, all the hours, vacation days, and I keep blank lines for substitutions (Call ins).

    Using the Autosum features of MS Excel I can keep the numbers straight.

    I simply cannot do even the simplest math in my head. I transpose numbers, skip columns, drop number. I may be the only person that can do one equation tree times and get three unrelated results.

    MS Excel. Saves. My. Life.

    My other advice is to learn to say no. I know you love the girls, just say yes when a change they want can be accommodated in your schedule.

    They can have vacation days if they give you two weeks notice, if they call on thursday, and say they are leaving friday; Say no, and fire them when they don't show.

    Sometimes you cannot be a Manager and a Friend.

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    Quote Originally Posted by ArmySGT. View Post
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    I simply cannot do even the simplest math in my head. I transpose numbers, skip columns, drop number. I may be the only person that can do one equation tree times and get three unrelated results.



    My other advice is to learn to say no. I know you love the girls, just say yes when a change they want can be accommodated in your schedule.


    Sometimes you cannot be a Manager and a Friend.
    You're not the only one who cant do math, Army. I can't either. I am always using a calculator, and sometimes during a loong string of dances, or dances combined with CR rooms, I have to use my phone to calculate the total.

    and you're absolutely right. You can't please everyone all the time, and since she is a manager now, the club revenues have to take priority over an individual dancer at times. For sure not always, but occasionally. And coming from me, that's saying a lot considering I've been on the recieving end of dirty managers.
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    ^^ Training. Not managing just yet.

    I appreciate everyone's support and advice, especially yours Army, for when I get into paper work.

    The good news is that the big boss was in last night, she talked to me for around 20 minutes and seemed very understanding and supportive. I'm glad I've had nearly a year to decompress from dancing before getting into this. At this point, I've worked almost every position in the club (except DJ) which is vital for anyone's training and has given me a lot of perspective.

    Lucky for me I have a good team teaching me along the way! Honestly, I feel like half of the problem with management these days is they don't have strong teams of people leading them and showing them the right way to do things.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    ^^ Training. Not managing just yet.
    I appreciate everyone's support and advice, especially yours Army, for when I get into paper work.
    No problem. Filing and having a record of what happened is your best friend. With payroll records ,you can honestly say who your top earners are and who is not. Spot trends like which day of the week is best, or which week in the year is best. You can track trends in price changes. Know the ratio of dances sold to price charged. Helps you keep an eye on Dancers too. Who was a Top Earner that is now spiraling down ward. Who is consistent and who is erratic. Track tip outs. Track other club sales like merchandise…….

    Then you then if you extend yourself just a bit. In another spreadsheet: Customer headcount, violent acts, and visits by Law Enforcement……………… If you can document Trends and give an analysis of said trends; you’re a more important asset to your company than just club management.

    Using MS Exel you can track all of this and other things. The printed out copy for paper filing is scanned first and saved as a .pdf file to the hard drive. Somebody needs it? I can email the copy and the .pdf can’t be altered.
    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    The good news is that the big boss was in last night, she talked to me for around 20 minutes and seemed very understanding and supportive. I'm glad I've had nearly a year to decompress from dancing before getting into this. At this point, I've worked almost every position in the club (except DJ) which is vital for anyone's training and has given me a lot of perspective.
    Lucky for me I have a good team teaching me along the way! Honestly, I feel like half of the problem with management these days is they don't have strong teams of people leading them and showing them the right way to do things.
    I am sure when he was a little boss he made mistakes. Learn from them and try not to repeat. Big Bosses make mistakes too and their mistakes costs thousands. What is $100 when the club took in $10,000? You’re in Training, mistakes are expected of you. Don’t let mistakes paralyze you. Don’t fear a mistake so much that you cannot make a decision. Decide, then come what may. Good luck!

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