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    They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "

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    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."

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    "That's just a tease back there!"
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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Golden View Post
    They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "
    I generally roll my eyes, smile, and say "Yes, you caught me - I'm a stripper trying to sell you something in the strip club!" Then I laugh... if they're not major jerks, some will get over themselves enough to realize how silly that statement is... if they can't, just say "Sorry we couldn't have fun tonight" and walk away.


    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."
    I've always said I have a bf, even when I didn't. So I could say "Sorry, my bf is cool enough to be ok with me working here as long as I don't see customers outside work." Sure, I've lost a few customers eventually this way, but oh well. You just can't mentally deal with that sort of BS forever. I know others say things like "I have to get to know you better first" and things like that. If that works better for you, great. I just was never able to pull it off.


    "That's just a tease back there!"
    "If you didn't want to be teased, you wouldn't have come here!" Though honestly, this rarely turns into a successful sale

    For all of these, they might be salvageable if you can turn them into a light-hearted joke and make the guy see how silly he's being. But if the guy is truly hell-bent on being an ass and not just dicking around about pulling out the wallet, there's little you can do aside from flat-out lie and tell them you'll meet them, or offer whatever extras they want, to make a sale. These douchey lines should just be your perfect clues that you have a time-waster on your hands and should be preparing your exit to move on to someone better.

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    [quote=Farrah_Golden;2233757]They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "

    I am REALLY good at redirecting the topic. In these situations. I will laugh and touch their leg (this calms them) and say something like (very loud and confidently) "You know, I actually LOVE dancing! I can't think of a better job. I get to be sexy, have fun, drink... and look at pretty girls! Who wouldn't love that?!" Nod your head, and he'll probably nod too. Be very upbeat and kinda loud because this will make them shut up and listen. So I NEVER address what he mentioned, but instead - I calmed him, made him smile (hopefully) and lighten up! Keep upbeat with these type of customers - they are so tightly wound - and if you can get them to loosen up, theres your sale (they WANT to loosen up!) It's your job to do it.

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    Thanks ladies! I usually stutter like a dumbass when they catch me off guard like that lol
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    i freaking hate this! "all you care about is the money" what?! so i say "well a bitch gotta eat" laugh, and walk away. and the bf thing? imo, they just seem like bullshitters. so i say im taken and if they dont let it go i just politely ecuse myself, walk thru the dressing room, and go to the other side of the club

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    I typically move on unless there are no other viable options, and even if there are no viable options most of the time I'd rather been alone than deal with some bullshit from a customer. Their poor attitude can ruin mine and I just can't have that.

    If you really want to get on their level, try hanging out at their table and seeing what makes them tick. Guys like that are typically with friends, most men by themselves act mild mannered and aren't making stupid comments from the table. If you can act like "one of the boys" then they may accept you more and eventually buy a dance from you. I wouldn't expect a huge sale from these guys though, so tread carefully.
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    it's usually a good idea to tell a custy things that are consistent with what he believes to be true about you. so yes, of course you're just in it for the money (sarcasm could work too). of course it's just a tease. he can think about it when he has to try to fuck his fugly old bitch of a wife.

    also, they often like the outrageous hustle. you'd love to meet up, but you're a student, a single mom to like 20 kids, whatever. really pile the shit up high. and frankly, you're lucky if they offer to take you to lunch and shopping. a lot of them will just insist on proving you're into them by coming back to their place to fuck them. at least it's less insulting when they try to get you to go out with them.
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    They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "

    >>> "Well, this is my job. I'm not just here to have fun."

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    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."

    >>> "I like you, but I could get in serious trouble meeting guys outside the club. I can't afford to lose my job...unless of course you're hiring full-time *insert cheesy fake laugh*" (Turning it into a joke seems to usually deter them any farther)

    OR...

    "That's just a tease back there!"

    >>> With this one I generally just give my fake laugh, think to myself "loser", and tell them to have a nice night. Guys that say this are usually a waste of time. If they've already made up their mind that they don't get dances, its difficult to persuade them otherwise...even if you're just his ultimate fantasy girl.

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    SweetNSour has it right for those that seem receptive, but generally these guys are time wasters or extras hounds.

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    When I get that I usually sneer "No, actually I'm doing this job as penance."
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    I tend to really stupid and very sarcastically say "oh you know, I got daddy issues, who dropped out of school, have nothing better to do in my life." And if they go and on.. I will literally stare right at them and it always make them ask "don't you understand me?" I don't know if its the fact that I am Asian but they tend to say it really loud. I have to always fight the urge not to say "if I fucken don't understand what you said, no matter how fast or loud does nothing to my comprehension of the BS your saying" but I'm usually pretty nice so I just say "I speak 5 languages, and it looks like English isn't one of the choices right now, tomorrow looks bad too." Oh and all in English!

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    I always just walk away. I don't want to talk anyone into getting a dance because usually this is just a waste of energy. There is not point of arguing or trying to convince them of how great you are. Just get up and say next!
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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Golden View Post
    They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "

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    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."

    OR...

    "That's just a tease back there!"
    Of course all I care about is the money. I'm working, this is a job.

    I don't want you to take me shopping, I want to get naked and dance for you. NOW.

    Your right it is. Wanna come play? If they saw no then say Ok, bye.
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    You can only make so much selling dances, but when you really get into a guys head and heart, you get into his wallet.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Golden View Post
    They tell you, "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "

    Or....

    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."

    OR...

    "That's just a tease back there!"

    I'd give my left boob to never have a guy tell me these statements again.

    BUT, honestly its a funny thing; today at my vanilla job I was advising someone on a vitamin supplement, and they said "Oh, you people are just here to make sales!". Worse: people overheard and seemed to agree.

    My manager came back with "No, this is a health clinic and its our job to help you get as healthy as possible, if thats what you came here for, then thats what were trying to offer you"

    Now, though I don't think you can sell a lapdance "for their good health", you can take back control of the conversation by just stating the obvious.

    1 - "Yea, I know what I'm doing too! I'm an exotic dancer/waitress/etc, I earn my living entertaining gentlemen and I'm quite good at it!"

    I've had pretty good luck with that line because it reinforces the fact that its a job but also is self-complimenting

    2- ...Honestly I just tell guys I "get a better sense of them up close & personal" But way, way too many guys are coming in looking for a gf! There are articles on "How to Date A Stripper"....I just tell them theres a minimum dance/order/drinks to get my # because a really good man would know how to provide for my need$...and then just leave lol.

    3- I think some guys, at least IME, ask this to several girls in a club trying to find out who's gonna offer more then a tease...but you could try, again, stating the obvious: "Well, you might be new to stripclubs, but basically you can sit here and look at beautiful girls, or you can have one on your lap with your tits in your face grinding on you..." Or something like "Yea, your right, Im a tease! But I'm alot more fun to have in your hands than that beer!"

    I've had OK luck with those, but if a guy still defends his point of why not to get a dance, just move on. They are not worthy of thou presence.

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    I've always said I have a bf, even when I didn't. So I could say "Sorry, my bf is cool enough to be ok with me working here as long as I don't see customers outside work."
    This followed by 'so... we can definitely still have some fun tonight here/in the back/upstairs/etc!' It might work, might not.

    For the you only like me for my $$, comment... one time I said, 'Well, you only like me for my body and amazing personality so maybe we can work something out in the back room. {wink}' +banter after that. I didn't mean extras by any means when I got him back there he only got one dance because I wouldn't let him touch me. At least I got that $$ but almost not worth the handsiness and his 'I thought we were going to work something out' '/ripoff' comments.

    Instead of 'work something out' maybe say 'enjoy each other for the next song.' Although I doubt it will work. If not then leave because your time is not free and very valuable. "Well I have to get back to work, afterall you're right this is a job and if you don't want to pay me for my time is there another girl here you'd like to pay to spend time with? I'll be happy to send her right over!" I would say this in the happiest, most sincere voice you have. Maybe it'll cause another girl less grief (with his stupid comments) in the future or get him mad enough to leave the club or spend $$ on another girl out of spite.

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    Great advice, ladies! I'm going to try these on guys tonight. But in the mean time, I have some more for you. Most of these I'm actually pretty good at dodging, but it's always great to hear different responses.

    "Nah, I don't buy dances. I just like to come and watch." (shit pisses me off.)

    "I don't usually come to strip clubs. They're not my 'thing.'"

    "Well, I'm short on cash, can't I just buy you a drink?" (They aren't really short on cash---you saw their wallet stuffed with 50s.)

    "I like blondes/brunettes/whatever you're not."

    "$30??? for ONE SONG???!!!"
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    "I KNOW what you're doing. All you care about is the $ "
    Well this is my job, but also happen to love my job. I get paid to get naked and play with myself all night

    "Well, if you're so into me, why don't we just meet up somewhere? I'll take you to lunch, we'll go shopping, blah blah blah."
    Oh honey, if you can't afford a lap dance you certainly can't afford to take me shopping.

    "That's just a tease back there!"
    Tell me about it! I get so horny playing with myself all night, thank god I've got my toys waiting for me when I get home (here they usually get excited and ask to hear more) Come for a dance and I'll tell you all about it!

    "Nah, I don't buy dances. I just like to come and watch." (shit pisses me off.)
    Walk.

    "I don't usually come to strip clubs. They're not my 'thing.'"
    Well maybe that's just because you've never met a stripper like me before. (These guys will require some talk and might buy if they feel a connection - don't bother unless it's a slow night)

    "Well, I'm short on cash, can't I just buy you a drink?" (They aren't really short on cash---you saw their wallet stuffed with 50s.)
    Sure, I'd love a drink. (sit and drink and chat for a bit if it's a slow night) Wow, look at all the ice left in my drink, wanna come watch me rub it on my nipples?
    Note: If they go for this I usually do one dance with no ice then at the end "oh damn, I got so into it I forgot I had ice cubes to play with! Let's keep going!"
    "I like blondes/brunettes/whatever you're not."
    That's fine sweetie, anyone here in particular grab your fancy? You could even get the best of both worlds and have us do a lesbian show. (I'll always try and help out other girls in this situation. Occasionally the guy will buy a dance off me later in the night just because he thinks I'm a nice person for doing this).

    "$30??? for ONE SONG???!!!"
    When you're with me, having my naked body slide all over you and watching me play with my nice pink nipples - baby, it'll feel like eternity.

    None of these are guaranteed to work every time, in some cases hardly ever because the guys who say it are generally cheap but just keep positive and sexy at all times

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    if someone is stupid enough to think i am dancing for them because it is not only about the money, they aren't worth responding to. i have emails to respond to and shit i could be doing. life is not that complicated.

    a regular recently said that to me over the phone. "this is just about money for you!"
    yes, dumbass, yes it is.
    and then i hung up and got back to my novel.

    try to remember that if you went to any fucking place and complained that they were only providing the service because they were in it for the money, they would think you were out of your fucking mind.

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    I tell them straight up. I don't sugar coat shit anymore. I tell them I come here to pay my bills.

    If they want a dinner date, they must compensate me well in order for me to take a shift out of the week. Cash, UPFRONT!

    If they tell me on my day off, I tell them I still need to get paid for my precious time. My time is all money. They either take it like dumbasses and pay, or get turned off and wont waste my time again. I let them know i'm in a strip club to make money, not to find a BF/FB/Husband.

    I don't have time to deal with bullshit. Pay me or leave.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amareth View Post
    Well this is my job, but also happen to love my job. I get paid to get naked and play with myself all night


    Oh honey, if you can't afford a lap dance you certainly can't afford to take me shopping.


    Tell me about it! I get so horny playing with myself all night, thank god I've got my toys waiting for me when I get home (here they usually get excited and ask to hear more) Come for a dance and I'll tell you all about it!


    Walk.


    Well maybe that's just because you've never met a stripper like me before. (These guys will require some talk and might buy if they feel a connection - don't bother unless it's a slow night)


    Sure, I'd love a drink. (sit and drink and chat for a bit if it's a slow night) Wow, look at all the ice left in my drink, wanna come watch me rub it on my nipples?
    Note: If they go for this I usually do one dance with no ice then at the end "oh damn, I got so into it I forgot I had ice cubes to play with! Let's keep going!"

    That's fine sweetie, anyone here in particular grab your fancy? You could even get the best of both worlds and have us do a lesbian show. (I'll always try and help out other girls in this situation. Occasionally the guy will buy a dance off me later in the night just because he thinks I'm a nice person for doing this).


    When you're with me, having my naked body slide all over you and watching me play with my nice pink nipples - baby, it'll feel like eternity.

    None of these are guaranteed to work every time, in some cases hardly ever because the guys who say it are generally cheap but just keep positive and sexy at all times
    I just threw up in my mouth a little..........kidding, but seriously, I have a hard time laying the sex act on thick, especially when I'm losing patience. BUT this is golden material. Thank you.
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    Yeah, I never EVER used to be able to dirty talk - even with boyfriends. It was only after a lot of doubles with a girl who used to say filthy things all through the dance (she'd always bank) that I got used to it and realized how much more money I could make that I started doing it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Amareth View Post
    Yeah, I never EVER used to be able to dirty talk - even with boyfriends. It was only after a lot of doubles with a girl who used to say filthy things all through the dance (she'd always bank) that I got used to it and realized how much more money I could make that I started doing it.
    One of my best friends, whom I also work with, is a top earner and told me she always talks dirty to them. I still haven't quite gotten used to it, but I did start using lines like "wanna come play with me?" with fuck-me eyes to land a successful sale, and I've noticed a HUGE increase in profits.
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    Depends on my mood. Sometimes I'll be like "This is fucking WORK, if you can't get chicks to get naked for free that's NOT my damn problem!" and I walk away. Or I'll be like... "I'm sooooo sorry but I really am not allowed to give free dances! If it was another place I TOTALLY would hehe! " wink wink blabla.

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    I just tell them "hey I'm at work and just trying to have a good time. You're here, we get along, why the fuck not? If everything was free I'd have a line around the building."

    I'm super casual, I don't know. Usually when people are being cheap or questionable I just act like a total bro

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    When ever I hear these kinds of things I always laugh and give them wink and say....

    Well this isn't the place to start over analysing everything is it?...
    I see it all pretty black and white... You see a damn fucking hot chick that blows your mind and you take her for a lap dance and then you walk away feeling on top of the world!!! Thats about as far as the equation goes here buddy

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