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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    watch what happens if you happen to fall short on a bill .....

    see if the nice guy will pay for it. That will really change your perspective.

    I was friendly to one guy 2 years ago, and I got into a huge issue with my landlord and he acted as if he didnt have the money "now".... That I dont "call him enough" ( he was paying my phone bill ) , and all this worthless other shit.

    I was like hell no, and became COLD after that day. They only want to see how much they can get from you for the cheapest price.

    I refused to be gamed, I RUN GAME.

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    they know what this is about - pay to play - period - if he wants to chat for free there are plenty of chat rooms on the net and local bars - he/they are taking advantage of you if they are not paying for you TIME - whether sexual or talking about the weather - it is your TIME he is taking -

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    You come first.
    If you don't value your time then neither will they.
    Don't get it confused.
    Can you go sit at their job and keep them from making money?
    Can you call them up whenever?
    Can you get them away from the job to talk about your life and what is going wrong in it?

    No they want to talk about themselves or have you be sexy.
    These are horny perverts looking for fun, they found you on a sex site. Don't forget where it all orginated.

    Sam

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    I have an idea....
    Gimme all your nice guys ! please!!
    thanks

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    I have an idea....
    Gimme all your nice guys ! please!!
    thanks
    I will give you 1,000 of my nice guys that sit in my room complimenting me but don't put their money where their mouth is.

    You give me 1 of your guys that doesn't play "nice" games and comes private without saying a word.



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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    I agree with all these ladies.

    I'm wondering WHY you feel bad about taking their money. I'm wondering if maybe it's just that it's awkward for you to talk about money, or don't know how to slip it in to the conversation. Maybe it's not that you actually feel badly?

    Unfortunately, you're going to be working for free if it keeps up. If you're having trouble asking for money now, imagine what it will be like when you've established a precedent with all your custies and they know they can get it for free, then you are all "yeah, it's my fault, i trained them that way, so i guess i should just give it to them."

    And I'm concerned that you referred to this guy as your friend. Did you meet him on your cam site? If so, he's a customer. Is he an actual real-life friend that you hang out with, grab some food with, go bowling with? If so, then you shouldn't be skyping with him on your cam time.

    These guys WANT to pay for your time, and they know that they HAVE to pay for your time, unless YOU tell them otherwise. If they don't want to pay for your time, then you need to move on to the next guy. This is a job, not a charity.

    Here's how I look at it. Guys come into my room and beg for free stuff. Then they act like I'm a bitch for not giving it to them. GUYS DO NOT NEED PORN TO SURVIVE! It is not essential. It is not included in Maslov's Hierarchy of Needs. You are not denying them food, water, shelter, etc. You are OFFERING them the illusion of love in the form of attention. For that, they must pay. They are more than welcome to go out and get a real girlfriend/wife. You're not stopping them from doing that. They are grown men and can do that for themselves. In fact, most guys can get all the sex and attention they want for free if they play their cards right.

    But you shouldn't let them play those cards with you.

    I had a customer who was a regular and he started "jumping" my show (Coming into private and leaving before the 30 seconds was up. So he wasn't paying me.) He did it twice in one day, so I banned him from chat. He sent me an e-mail and asked why he couldn't see my profile. I told him "You're banned for coming into private chat and leaving ___ seconds later. I'm not paid for that and it's rude. If you would like to be unbanned, please let me know that you won't do it again and I'll be happy to unban you."

    I never heard from him. He knew exactly what he was doing. He felt entitled to get a couple shows for free since he had spent money on me (I only made about $40 of it tho). Nuh uh. I have regulars who don't pull that shit. And I don't have to condone it. $40 is not worth my self-esteem.

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    Maybe you should stop doing Skype shows until you gain a bit more confidence and practice some game running skills? To me a Skype show is an exclusive room and the custie should be paying for every minute of it, but if you don't want to enforce it it's just like sitting in free chat. Granted they did pay the $25 to get in there, but they stayed in there for way longer than they should have without paying more.

    I know how you feel with bringing money up though. I think some of us were raised that way, that asking for money is a bad thing. If you stay away from Skype shows for a while, you won't have to ask for money. You can put what you'll do for what amount in your room topic on MFC and the private and exclusive rooms charge the money for you.

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    I just had a guy last night on twitter....same scenario

    Guy: you should get on cam for me sometimes.

    Me: I'm on cam everyday

    Guy: I bet...whats ur skype?

    Me: I don't do shows on skype. (I do, but I save it for loyal custys)

    Guy: I'm not looking for a show, I just want 5 min of your time

    Me: 5 min doing what?

    Guy: Just talking, letting me see you, making me feel special.

    Me: This is my business, if you want to see me on cam, you need to pay

    Guy: Don't you have friends online??

    Me: yes of course

    Guy: Well that's all I wanted, does it always have to be about business and money?

    Me: Since this is my business, yes it is always about business and money. You can have 5 min of my time, but you'll pay for it.

    Never heard from him again. These guys want to be your friend....as long as it serves what they want. The instant you want something from them, they don't know you.

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    Default Re: HELP! Taking money from nice guys makes me feel guilty!

    Thanks for all the pep talk and ass-kicking ladies. I am definitely upping my game. I have been being much more assertive about it lately and it is paying off!

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