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    Default How long does it take?

    So the day before yesterday I could have had a really good night but I haven't be able to switch my mindset to "not giving a shit". I realize that in order to get the sort of money I want in my club I have to move my ass at all times. When Its slow I can chat the men up and eventually talk them into a dance but when it starts to get busy I hit a hard wall. Its at if I get intimidated by how many men are actually in the room. I have watched girls walk up to a gang of men and immediately introduce themselves then ask them for a dance. The don't waste time they just jump right into it. I dont yet have the confidence to approach seven men let alone jump straight into asking for dances. I can chat with one or two men but anything else eats me up on the inside. One of my co-workers pretty much told me to move my ass and talk to every man in the club the other night because she felt that I was sitting down too much. I did what she told me to do but it was too little too late. Most of the men I talked to said they would have preferred a dance from me (because they thought I was more personable and authentic) but the already had one with someone else. I admit i'm slow to make moves on a customer I'm just having trouble getting my mind in the zone of not being scared of rejection or them thinking I'm some sweet girl that needs to be saved(one customer told me that the other day but less than a hour later he was getting a dance from someone else). I don't want these men to see me as their sister or potential girlfriend. I've been reading HHut and all the things you can do to capitalize on your money making. I've searched for old threads about confidence and how you just have to fake it till you make it.

    I know I have a sound mind for this job but what i want to know is when you first started how long did it take you ladies to be fearless? I'm working with girls that have been dancing from 4-10yrs + and telling me to move my ass is easy for them to say because they have no issues. Its possible everyone is scared but they don't show it because they know the next man that walks through that door will want a dance. Or in a hour he'll be drunk enough to want a dance either way I have yet to break my mental block.

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    Default Re: How long does it take?

    took me a few weeks to get comfy. it concided with making money. the more money you make the more confident you feel.
    "We are the coolest mothafuckas on the planet....The sky is fallin ain't no need to panic"... -Outkast

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    Default Re: How long does it take?

    a few shifts, maybe 4 or 5? It probably would have taken me longer but fortunately another dancer & also a male customer (separately) helped me figure things out. That along with some really great advice from this forum.
    Follow your heart and do what feels right for you, because that’s living. Everything else is dying.

    “Things may come to those who wait…but only the things left by those who hustle.”

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    but I can say I probably wasn't fully comfortable until maybe about 2 or 3 weeks
    Follow your heart and do what feels right for you, because that’s living. Everything else is dying.

    “Things may come to those who wait…but only the things left by those who hustle.”

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    I'm naturally shy so it took me over 6 months, but the more you force yourself to do it or set little goals (lots of examples of those in HH) the easier it gets.
    Quote Originally Posted by Emily View Post
    what's the difference between aspirin and a stripper's boyfriend?
    Aspirin works.
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    Strippers need money to operate. They are like coin operated juke-boxes of love.
    A text I got:
    When a guy talks dirty to a woman it's sexual harassment, when a woman talks dirty to a man it's $3.95 a minute!


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    Default Re: How long does it take?

    Thanks ladies!! I just needed someone to tell me that I wasn't being slow about this process. I'll take any and all the advice that you girls are giving me here!!

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