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    So a few months ago, I moved out of state to attend a university. The thing about this University is that it is in the middle of nowhere! There aren't jobs, and I have bills to pay. Luckily, I came here with a savings, and my parents have helped too, but being that my parents aren't a money tree, I know that them giving me money on a regular basis is soon to come to an end.

    Things got so bad financially, that I had a sugar daddy who took me shopping and he also gave me money. I don't have a sugar daddy anymore, but the bills keep coming in!

    The thing that is so fucked up is that I have a boyfriend. He definitely doesn't know about the sugar daddy, but I told him that I was thinking of camming and he flipped out on me! He basically said that we are through if I decide to cam. UGH! He's not paying my bills, yet, feels like he has a say in how I make money.

    Are there any strippers/cam girls that have boyfriend that doesn't know? This is just so frustrating, and I feel like this is the only way for me to make money.

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    Men like yours are too damn expensive to keep around for too long. You're grown so hiding what you do under your own roof is plain stupid. Dump him now (or move out), get a small, affordable studio and cam to your heart's content. Your parents will probably praise you once the money starts rolling in and you begin declining their assistance. Nobody needs to scrutinize what you do in your own bedroom on your own time.
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    I didn't tell my boyfriend for the first few months we were dating. That being said, he's a super easygoing guy, and he didn't mind when I did tell him.

    Ask your boyfriend how you are supposed to earn money then. Tell him that unless he's going to pay your bills, that you're going to have to work, and that means camming!
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    In my experience, lying to a boyfriend about stripping never fails to blow up massively. I don't know about camming but try just talking him into it again. And if that fails just do it anyway. I wish I could take back all the years of having shitty boyfriends hold me back from money.

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    Honestly, the first thing I thought about when I considered it was how I was going to hide it from my boyfriend. I had no idea how he would take it, and I just figured he would be pissed. I sort of mentioned it once, and he said he thought I had higher standards for myself. It was a HUGE fight, too. Now, I've told my boyfriend I wanted to, and started it, and he's even joined in with me a few times.

    If you live on your own, and you REALLY want to do this but don't want to lose him, you can try doing it and hiding it from him. But you have to have a good back up story for where all the money is coming from :/ I really don't think it's fair for him to tell you how you can or can't make money if he's not willing to help anyway. You should let him know that there aren't many options, and if he doesn't want to help support you, then you have to do what you need to to be able to support yourself.

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    Do you live together? If not, do what you want. Unless it's a really serious relationship, his opinion doesn't really come into play.

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    Thanks everyone! But no, my boyfriend lives several hours away from me actually. I think that I am going to cam because I really need the money and since my boyfriend isn't giving me money on any type of a regular basis, he can shut up lol! As far as explaining where the money came from...I think I may say that I received a scholarship/stipend from school.

    But thanks everyone!

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    Fuck him! Seriously!!! Unless he is helping, and helping enough that you wont struggle do what you need to do pleasssssseee!!!! The same thing happened to me, except when my bf started dating me I told him about my camming because I have been doing it the last 4 years, and we have been together the last two. I stopped for him, and it screwed me up, and I still needed help from my family, and I hated that I had to ask for handouts, when I could have cammed, and saved my family the headache. I just recently told him I am going to cam no matter what, and now believe it or not, he just deals with it, meanwhile the last two years he gave me so much shit about it. It's not worth it. Take care of yourself, and tell him to go fly a kite!


    If I could turn back time I would have never stopped. A guy is not worth me struggling to get by. Hell no. Never again.

    P.S. You want to talk about a hypocrite? My bf just signed up for a cam site. We wont be together much longer.




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    Quote Originally Posted by milliauna View Post
    Thanks everyone! But no, my boyfriend lives several hours away from me actually. I think that I am going to cam because I really need the money and since my boyfriend isn't giving me money on any type of a regular basis, he can shut up lol! As far as explaining where the money came from...I think I may say that I received a scholarship/stipend from school.

    But thanks everyone!
    Why even tell him that there is extra money? He's your boyfriend, not your accountant. Stop letting him scrutinize your finances from a distance, girl! I don't understand women who tell people everything that's going on in the privacy of their own homes. You don't have to even tell him that you need extra money, much less how you make it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetsam View Post
    Fuck him! Seriously!!! Unless he is helping, and helping enough that you wont struggle do what you need to do pleasssssseee!!!! The same thing happened to me, except when my bf started dating me I told him about my camming because I have been doing it the last 4 years, and we have been together the last two. I stopped for him, and it screwed me up, and I still needed help from my family, and I hated that I had to ask for handouts, when I could have cammed, and saved my family the headache. I just recently told him I am going to cam no matter what, and now believe it or not, he just deals with it, meanwhile the last two years he gave me so much shit about it. It's not worth it. Take care of yourself, and tell him to go fly a kite!


    If I could turn back time I would have never stopped. A guy is not worth me struggling to get by. Hell no. Never again.

    P.S. You want to talk about a hypocrite? My bf just signed up for a cam site. We wont be together much longer.
    DOUBLE TAKE!!! say what??? That's one big hypo lmao after what you've mentioned about him. lol oh please boys...

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    Quote Originally Posted by sweetsam View Post
    Fuck him! Seriously!!!It's not worth it. Take care of yourself, and tell him to go fly a kite!

    If I could turn back time I would have never stopped. A guy is not worth me struggling to get by. Hell no. Never again.

    P.S. You want to talk about a hypocrite? My bf just signed up for a cam site. We wont be together much longer.
    That is soooo messed up. And definitely a big time hypocrite! But I think you're right. No man is worth me fucking my credit up for (by not paying my bills).

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    Quote Originally Posted by vivianbear View Post
    Why even tell him that there is extra money? He's your boyfriend, not your accountant. Stop letting him scrutinize your finances from a distance, girl! I don't understand women who tell people everything that's going on in the privacy of their own homes. You don't have to even tell him that you need extra money, much less how you make it.
    You are so right. I guess there's this "open communication" that my boyfriend and I have. But I am starting to feel the same way. It's not his business how I make my money, especially since I'm not doing anything illegal and he isn't giving me money (he actually OWES me money). How naive I am! lol

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