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    Default Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Hi there girls!! How are you all doing?? I hope great and having a good camming week.

    I need some advice on how to deal with a guy who s acting like a douche bag...
    He bought a custom video from me like a month ago or more, he contacted me over Clips4sale and I sell my custom videos there for Amazon E gift cards... ( Now i m starting to think it s a mistake cause they can do charge backs or actually keep on sending me e mails asking for his money etc etc
    Well this guy requested a 30 mins video of basically me pretending I was at a gym or somewhere and he was staring at my ass and I had to act all upset, insult him,etc
    I made the video in 2 parts and he also got some custom pics since he paid extra money for it.
    I sent him the first part, he loved it, sent him the pics he loved them even more...
    When I sent him the 2nd and last part of the vid he replied with an e mail saying " we have a problem here" and that s all he said, I asked him million times what was wrong with the video since i followed his instructions and idea, i even told him the video idea first and he loved it etc.
    He sent me an e mai on Sunday from last week saying something like : it s a total shame that things had to end like this between us"... to what i replied that same day " Pls tell me what s wrong with the video, what u didn t like, etc"
    It took him a week to reply again ( I heard from him this sunday) telling me the same thing " It s a true shame" etc I stopped replying cause I find it ridiculous that he doesn t wanna tell me what the fuck is wrong with the 2nd part ( excuse my french but i m really upset with this dude)
    He has been e mailing me daily with the same stupid e mail since sunday, today he wrote " it seems it s not a shame for you, oh well" which of course I didn t reply...
    I m not sure if to offer him to give him 50 % of the $$ back since he " seemed" to be happy with the rest of the content or to keep ignoring him or what.
    I ve been working on cam for years but this s the first time i have to deal with something like this and it s getting annoying to keep on getting e mails from him
    I had to deal with a charge back for the first time not long ago and that s why i decided to sell my videos via clips4sale and not via my site... but well I was trying to make some extra money with the custom vids and guess it turned out wrong..
    I m sure what this guy wants is to get his money back so he gets the 30 mins long vid and the pics for free...
    What should I do? it s like talking to a wall to him
    Thanks in advance for any help or advice you girls can give me, thanks!!

    Melanie
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Keep your money, he's being vague and a jackass, probably hoping you'll compensate him for his alleged dissatisfaction
    lol wut?


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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    hmmmm, Well you asked him what was wrong with the video. Honestly, if I send someone a video and it's along the lines of what they asked for. If I know in my head there's nothing wrong with the video and it just didn't fit his preference, boo hoo. He can buy another one. Maybe at a discounted rate if you're nice.

    You asked him what was wrong, and he's not cooperating in a way you can work with, and you seem like you already extended more than enough customer service. Don't refund him shit. Maybe if he actually responded instead of saying some dumb shit this is really a shame. Him trying to induce guilt seems a little scammy to me. If he asks you for a refund email him a week later saying, this is a shame. Then when he emails you again, email him 2 weeks later...such a utter utter shame.... lol
    You been camming for years, you know what you're doing. Don't let this idiot who doesn't know how it works think you're doing something wrong. Bottom line is, you delivered the products which he received. You decide what your return policy is, you may be nicer than me. I'd tell him he can buy another video at a discounted price with clearer directions on what he's looking for and not respond til his next email is talking about payment for another video.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Thanks girls!
    I asked him what the hell was wrong like 10 times, i lost track already, I even offered to re do the 2nd part which it seems to be the problem but he s soooo dumb or having fun with me ( i m starting to think it s the 2nd option) that he s not man enough to tell me what the fuck is wrong...lol
    I was telling a cam buddy of mine, I remembered he had this fetish for " making girls angry, mad at him" maybe he s waiting for some last angry e mail from me to jerk off to. i don t know what to think.
    I think i m gonna go for replying in a week or 2 with another e mail like his saying " it s a real shame indeed" lol see what he has to say after that....haha wtf, it s a shame what he s doing, acting like a 2 yr old...
    Some people need to get a life, for real.... maybe he has some ADD issue i don t know...lol
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Sounds like he's just trying to emotionally manipulate you to get a response, like some immature child. These phrases say it all:

    "a shame things had to end like this between us"

    "seems it's not a shame to you, oh well"

    He's obviously deluding himself that there's something more than a business relationship, and being cryptic and trying to get a rise out of you to get your attention and prove you 'care' about him. time wasting fucktard.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    ignore him.
    dont feel bad for him he got what he wanted..
    dont refund the money!!!
    what u do is considered amateur porn therefore the possible "flaws" of the work.

    move on to the next one.

    dont read too much into it unless he explicitly says " I want my money back"

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Thanks girlies, I appreciate your opinions, I already marked his e mail as spam, he seems like a fucking time waster, but even worst than the one who say they r gonna get a show or video from me and never do...
    He s acting like a child, even worst....
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Keep the money.

    Why? Because there is a douchebag out there who purposely does this to girls. I know of a few girls who had this guy. Everything he is saying sounds familiar. He does it to try and get into your head, so ignore everything he says, it's not true, he's just trying to make you feel bad. He has girls do custom made videos and then either nit-picks them to death or acts like they're horrible/bad/shameful, etc. It's just a thing he does, like the cool cheese guy or the silly Giantess guy. This is one of those things you can shrug off and when someone else brings it up you can say, "I HAD THAT GUY!!!"

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Definitely, keep your money. If he can't even express what MIGHT be wrong with the video, who could he possibly expect you to do, you aren't a mind reader. He's trying to manipulate you...for his own pleasure...Ignore him.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    No freaking way....
    All he does is sending me e mails including the word "shame" on it, in fact last of the e mails he sent it was the same exact thing....lol
    It s funny how last time i replied it took him a whole week to get back at me, and now that i m ignoring him he e mails me every day....hahaha
    What you mean by " nit picks" girls like he send e mails over and over again til he gets tired and move on to another poor victim?? lol The reason why i asked the definition for that expression is because I m from Latin America originally and I don t know all the american slang yet..lol
    I can t believe we might be talking to the same guy.... was him on clips4sale??
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    i'd love to know this dude's email, i got a similar custom request awhile back and chose not to fulfill it so i'm wondering if it's the same guy. i'm sorry this happened to you...he sounds like a jackass. ignore his emails and keep your money.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    His fetish was about pretending he was staring at my ass and i would realize about it, using some tight yoga pants or something like that and I would insult him and get mad at him and try to cover my ass, etc.
    He goes by the name george, not sure if it s his real name or what....
    I m gonna start charging my custom vids through clips4sale from now on.....
    It s hard to believe there s people like this in the world, seriously...
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    keep the money and block him.

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    yep, same guy. sounds like i dodged a bullet. definitely block him however you can and ignore him when he contacts you. sorry you're having to deal with this.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    How can i block an e mail address from my mailbox?
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    i don't think you can but you can mark all of his emails as spam. eventually they'll automatically be filtered into the spambox so you won't have to see them.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Yeah i did that once with the other guy who did the charge back and it worked, at least they were going straight to the spam mailbox...lol
    This is def something i m NOT gonna miss when I retire from the cam/ vids world...lol
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Ah, I apologize! 'nit picking' is an expression with very gross origins. Nit-picking itself is the task of removing lice and their eggs, or 'nits' from someone's hair and clothes. It's something that requires a lot of attention to detail. For the slang, it's 'excessive attention to irrelevant details', like the way the hair is fashioned, if one stocking is on higher than the other, etc. But yeah, don't worry about this one, you're fab! <3

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    @rosemary Oh man, if i knew I was gonna have to deal with this kind of bs I would prefer to stop taking custom requests or something..lol
    I was telling another girl, even if he goes and tell clips4sale that i sold him a custom video paying via amazon and not them , and they cancel my account lol i won t be in pain cause i ve been there like 2 months, updating my store 3 times a week and i haven t been able to make the minimum payout ( 100.00 bucks) lol.... so it s not that i would loose too much...
    I ll keep on ignoring him, it s like talking to a wall, for real.... have better things to do than to let those wankers play with my mind...
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Dude's clearly a troll. He's just trying to fuck with you, so yes, keep the money and keep ignoring him. A troll will never give you a real answer cuz he doesn't have one - so asking him over and over will do nothing. Eventually, he'll get bored and move on to trolling some other camgirl, since he clearly has no life.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    Quote Originally Posted by melanielive View Post
    @rosemary Oh man, if i knew I was gonna have to deal with this kind of bs I would prefer to stop taking custom requests or something.
    This is part of the reason why my custom vids are priced much higher than average ($150+). I try to talk men out of getting custom stuff because I have zero tolerance with their complaints, should they try to voice them. I would just send him a note saying, "Sorry, I sell my vids as-is. If you don't like it, too bad. I gave you what you asked for. Goodbye." And, yes, he probably does this to most of the models he buys from, not just you. Don't take it personal.
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    I agree with u aurora, the guy has no life and I was able to proof with other girl here that he even sent a couple of " shame e mails" when she said no to the request and decided she couldn t do the video...lol
    So like i made the video and he paid for it, he s being more of a pain...
    He ll get tired of sending me e mails and will look for another girl to bother, well i m sure he s doing this to me and some other girls at the same time...
    I think to ignore people like him is the best remedy here......
    Thanks for all the advice and if you have an account on clips4sale and get contacted by " george" the expandex, ass fetish guy" beware!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! lol
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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    LOL poor little boy.

    "It is a shame it had to end like this..."

    If it has come to an "end" for whatever reason lol, why does this guy continue to email you?

    There is really no way to wrap your head around this type of bs, nor should you waste your time trying to "rectify" a "situation" that is in this guys head.

    I would send him your FINAL email, telling him that you have done your part and are moving on from here, and put it to an end yourself.

    You made your money, he is playing a game. Move on to the next one. If he contacts you and wants to make another purchase, proceed with caution but I personally would not do any more videos or have any further contact.

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    Default Re: Need some advice on how to deal with a douche.....

    There s no way in the world i would make another custom vids for this dude.... lol
    No time to deal with these trolls...lol
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    If he doesn't tell you what's wrong, there is nothing you can do. Tell him you can't change things unless you know what's wrong.

    He sounds like a complete moron!
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