Ok, so this happened a long time ago, but I'm just curious what the perspective is on this since it's always made me go "hmm." And, who knows, it might happen to me again in the future...
Anyway, about 3 months after I first started dancing, I was doing my tip-walk after stage and a woman who was sitting by herself was like "You're new, aren't you?" I'm like "Well... relatively, I guess." She's like "I can tell. You look nervous onstage." I really didn't know how that was possible since I'm never nervous onstage. I was nervous my very first day and that was about it. Stage dancing is actually my calming points during the shift cuz I just get to dance without worrying about hustling. So I was basically like "uh... I'm not nervous"... The woman insisted I was, and then pointed to the stage where another girl was dancing, and said "See, she's not nervous! She knows she owns that stage." I look up, and this girl looks zoned out and bored out of her mind. No expression, not looking at customers, just kinda wandering around the pole... Sooo, idk, because I try to engage the audience, smile, and put some "oomph" in my dance moves, that makes me "not confident"??
So, I've always just wondered what customers consider "nervous" or "new-looking" when onstage and what's considered "confident." I thought maybe it was one of those notions where people think that only the newbie strippers who are nervous are still happy and bubbly, and that you are not a "confident, seasoned stripper" until you look dead inside and bored...?So, when you see a happy dancer onstage, do you assume she's new and nervous up there? Do you only consider a girl "confident" if she looks like she doesn't give a crap onstage? Just curious.



"... The woman insisted I was, and then pointed to the stage where another girl was dancing, and said "See, she's not nervous! She knows she owns that stage." I look up, and this girl looks zoned out and bored out of her mind. No expression, not looking at customers, just kinda wandering around the pole... Sooo, idk, because I try to engage the audience, smile, and put some "oomph" in my dance moves, that makes me "not confident"??
So, when you see a happy dancer onstage, do you assume she's new and nervous up there? Do you only consider a girl "confident" if she looks like she doesn't give a crap onstage? Just curious.
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