Lets just let it be. She will not listen to the women that have been doing this for years so nothing can be done about it. So let this thread die.




Lets just let it be. She will not listen to the women that have been doing this for years so nothing can be done about it. So let this thread die.

For sammyg's sake, I hope someone at her club takes her under her wing and shows her the ropes.
When I was a newbie dancer, I had NO FUCKING CLUE what I was doing, and what I was supposed to do in a lap dance. I let the customers dictate what happen, and sometimes it went beyond my area of comfort. I really hated dancing after a while. When I made the decision (older, wiser) to come back to dancing, it was only AFTER I had had time to really think about what I was doing, research the industry, and to go back with my eyes wide open. I have strict boundaries and enforce them. I make MORE money now than I ever did as a simpering idiot 19 year old. It also helped that one of the older dancers took me under her wing (a year after I started!) and set me straight about my job, because, shit, my managers weren't doing anything other than counting their money and snorting blow.
Sammyg, please please please don't be afraid to ask for help. I just fear you might not be cut out for the industry because you say you're shy, and you can't even tell your own mother no. Like FeministStripper said, don't let yourself be a victim. I dance now because I WANT to, because I ENJOY the job, and yes, the money is definitely a perk. I can quit if I want, and my money is MINE. While I don't think you're doing it for the right reasons, I do hope things work out for you.
Dancing takes a certain kind of personality and assertiveness combined with self-knowledge and sense of self preservation to be successful, otherwise you WILL be victimized. Don't sacrifice your long term happiness for short term financial gains that AREN'T EVEN GOING TO BENEFIT YOU! I would be incredibly mad if the money I worked so hard to earn wasn't even going to ME. (Hell, kind of the reason why I started dancing, because my ex boyfriend couldn't support himself, and probably the main reason why I burnt out the first time around.)
FWIW, I'm also Asian, and my parents would totally kick my ass if they knew I was dancing. And don't get fake tits if you don't want them. Don't let ANYBODY tell you what to do with your body - you make your own damn decisions. I make pretty decent money all-natural, and I often have customers complimenting me on having natural breasts. I'm also worried about my future children, as I don't want breast implants to get in the way of breast feeding later on. (And then there's me just being a cheap-ass... implants are anywhere from $3-6k, and then you have to get them redone every 10 years or so. That's a lot of money over a lifetime. I ain't ever going to spend that much on push up bras over the next 80 years!)


Guess you don't know any Asians then. I'm married to one and have worked with many. Never for a second did I think this girl is a troll. Girl all I can sat is if you don't want to do it then don't. The industry is hard enough even when u like it.

thanks all, implants were done a week ago, so hopefully recovered fully by the time uni starts, am use to been naked now, its not so bad
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