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    Another thread got me wondering if dancing brought out anybody else's love of lesbionic activity?
    Before i danced i was curious, but had never even kissed a girl.
    Four years later ive been in 2 lesbian relationships, had sex with others, and made out with countless girls in bars!
    I dont know if this would have happened without drunken strippers molesting me every night, but I'm sure glad they did(do)!
    btw i still like guys, too
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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I know several girls who were "straight" before dancing but afterwards became bisexual. I don't know if they were really straight to begin with, but probably repressed then once they got into an environment where this is common felt good bringing it out. I don't know just speculating because I never had any interest in other girls I danced with, though a few expressed interest in me.

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I think that most people are not 100% straight- every once in a while there's someone of the same gender that you're like "dayum!"

    I thought that I was completely straight before dancing, and have discovered I'm not- But my standards for girls are way higher than they are for guys.

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    Dancing definitely turned me bi or made me realise I was. I'd never been in an environment where it was accepted before.

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    Working countless hrs with other naked women does tend to turn up any sexual interest in them. I can tell when a girl is 1st hired at my club if she is into chicks by my 1st stage set just by the way she checks me out cuz there is a difference between looking at me to size up the completion or admire my dancing & what I like to call that hungry is that on the menu looks I get from them or see them give other girls be4 me.

    I personally wish I could turn off the sexual tensions part of working with the other dancers as it always brings me more DRAMA then it's worth messing with any of them, but sometimes I have a harder time dealing with the bigirls then the customers cuz try telling a girl no that sees you naked everyday & knows you like girls that rarely hears no from any1 in her lifetime as the guys in there are always after it. It becomes a real ego problem where she just doesn't want to hear it. I almost fought 1 girl that was sexually harassing me. I have an kinda ex gf that tries to get me fired, talks shyt, & still sings me love songs in the backroom, & there was this 1 girl that stalked me around the club after I told her no pushing me & following me into the restroom where she would come into the stall watch me pee. Another 1 of my friends got trashed 1 night at work & all of a sudden she wanted to have sex right there & then on the floor. I really kinda wish the same rules applied to female coworkers then it would with male staff, but my club is too small to avoid any1 yet alone the fact most of my coworkers are bi. I used to think cool employee benefits when it helped me make money dancing w/ my gf & messing with a few girls after when I was single that would have fun w/ me in the vip rooms & such, but some times it's not the hotness I want. Sometimes it very not cool drama & harassment I'm not there for.
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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    ^ wow thats a whole lotta drama in the workplace. I can only imagine the reaction if your managers instituted a "no touching" policy between dancers. Im sure that wouldnt go over so well! lol
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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I was bisexual before I started dancing. I really don't feel it's brought it out anymore in me. I never worked with someone I was particularly attracted to and "just had to have." There were maybe 2 girls I worked with who I thought were super-hot and also very nice, which made them more attractive. I loved watching the girls dance onstage, but I think that's more my appreciation for everyone's unique dance styles and just loving dance than it was getting any sexual thrill out of it. Some girls would try to pull the touchy, flirty, booby-playing, "this is my gf" gag with me in front of customers, and I'd only really go along with a little to avoid any awkwardness in front of customers. Inside I was like "ehhh, get away from me." I don't care if I technically think you're hot, I still don't like unsolicited touching. It's the same with guys, and girls don't get a free pass with me, even in an "open sexual place" like the SC.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kikidejavu View Post
    ^ wow thats a whole lotta drama in the workplace. I can only imagine the reaction if your managers instituted a "no touching" policy between dancers. Im sure that wouldnt go over so well! lol
    LOL oh please that will never happen at my club. My GM used to ask if I was bored (during slow shifts) & then ask if i wanted to breakin 1 of the new girls that want to try out a girl on girl experience. The day shift manager used to give me his keys & let me off early so I could visit his gf. I soo grew out of all that in my 20s, but it's really hard for me to go to them like I've become a prude all of a sudden & ask for rules that I know they would just laugh at. They did threaten to fire the girl that was following me into the bathroom stalls & they don't want any1 putting on a free show on the floor, but really I got hired there when I 1st started with my gf who liked using the VIPs as our 2cd bedroom it's part of why I work there that they openly embrace girl on girl sexuality. However it does have it's draw backs when coworkers want or become more & they want to make it a work issue or part of the job.

    I liked a girl I work with & I asked her out. I wanted the whole thing between us to remain OTC which worked for a while though she did like kissing me goodnight secretly or making money with me in the room if a customer was willing to take us both. Still it didn't work out & then she decided she had to make it every1else business trying to get me fired ect..ect I just don't get it why the drama she is the 1 that went back to her ex bf I'm just trying to move on. There should be no reason she picks fights with me 1 day & the next sings me love songs. I'm just there to work like she should be & what was between us OTC is over & should of remained that way. However sometimes I can't avoid it getting messy & i have considered switching clubs somewhere where the lines between female coworkers are less blurry & just not allowed to get in the way of making money or the work atmosphere.

    Then I thought to myself as I live in sofl & been to all the other clubs where I have flirted with the girls. So at least at my club I know from experience that if any1 of the two girls involved is going to get fired here it won't be me over gg bullshit if I go to another club the issues with be the same, but I won't have the same support from management when it really comes down to her or me though I hate going there with any girl over drama that is needless.
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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I've been bi-curious/bi-sexual since I was younger. It has grown since then. Working in a strip club is great because certain girls are like eye candy. I love men though, wanna marry one, but would be down to experiment with them as I have in the past.

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I am bi-curius as well. I think it has a negative & positive side though. As the saying goes...never mix business with pleasure.

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    I am definitely bi sexual and dancing over the years has let me explore it very well. Men are easy and there is nothing else left to want but women on the other hand are a whole different ball game for me. I loooove dancing for a gorgeous female customer ( especially the shy ones) and getting paid to completely turn her on while her boyfriend watches, lol .
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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    Nope.

    I'm definitely a guys type girl. I like playing with their equipment, not mine.



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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    Definitely bi-curious before dancing. I had a huge crush on a friend's mom. But, that went nowhere. Once I started college and dancing, I felt freer to explore my sexuality. I had a couple of flings with girls. I never was in a relationship though. One of my friends says I'm emotionally straight, sexually bi, whatever that means. Anyway, dancing certainly allowed me to explore my sexuality.

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    I think some do become bi and gay after dancing. One good friend of mine wasn't gay at all but after dancing despised men. Seeing men with their wedding rings on asking to date, fuck etc. Now she looks at them like they are all trash and will only date women. I'm not even surprised.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    I think some do become bi and gay after dancing. One good friend of mine wasn't gay at all but after dancing despised men. Seeing men with their wedding rings on asking to date, fuck etc. Now she looks at them like they are all trash and will only date women. I'm not even surprised.
    I think dancing can mess with even the most guy loving dancer. For a long time dancing and even after I tended to despise men. Even now I despise most men and when I meet a guy who is interested in me I usually at first assume he's just after sex. He has to prove himself to me and most of them can't. Then there are the guys who are married or much older and I hate them so much. This comes from dancing. If I hadn't met a few really great guys I'm sure I would have sworn off men (though no interest in women either).

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    I've always been bi. Dancing made me not want to be with anyone O_o ..

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    I think dancing can mess with even the most guy loving dancer. For a long time dancing and even after I tended to despise men. Even now I despise most men and when I meet a guy who is interested in me I usually at first assume he's just after sex. He has to prove himself to me and most of them can't. Then there are the guys who are married or much older and I hate them so much. This comes from dancing. If I hadn't met a few really great guys I'm sure I would have sworn off men (though no interest in women either).
    So true.


    I don't think dancing has made me bisexual. I am only interested in "sex" with women from the waist up. I am not interested in vaginas at all.
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    I *think* I maybe curious at least. Never been with a chic, but I do get crushes. I rather not discover that side... I feel like it would be tough(tougher than men) to find a chic you're attracted to, who is attracted to you also. I maybe wrong.

    At work, I see pretty co-workers but it does nothing for me. We're all in that money mind set. I just don't see them like that.

    Last night I danced for this BEAUTIFUL female customer. She was like this LA Mexican Barbie with a few tats, looked like a PB model too. Cute small nose, full lips and lots of dark hair...perfect body, tits, everything. I would've. As soon as I started dancing for her, she got into a slutty vibe. I got shy and excited. I got in trouble by the bouncer dancing for her. haha

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    Default Re: bisexual since dancing?

    This.

    I knew I was bi long before dancing, and my first kiss EVER was actually with a female.

    All dancing has done for that is give me free naked eye candy to look at...up close and personal....for free LOL Nah', I have been mesmerized by a couple of dancers I've worked with, but as Aurora stated, it has more to do with their dance style & my appreciation of female beauty in general; I wouldn't take one of my co-workers home with me...I've seen first-hand how that does NOT typically end well with other dancers who have done so at my club






    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    I was bisexual before I started dancing. I really don't feel it's brought it out anymore in me. I never worked with someone I was particularly attracted to and "just had to have." There were maybe 2 girls I worked with who I thought were super-hot and also very nice, which made them more attractive. I loved watching the girls dance onstage, but I think that's more my appreciation for everyone's unique dance styles and just loving dance than it was getting any sexual thrill out of it. Some girls would try to pull the touchy, flirty, booby-playing, "this is my gf" gag with me in front of customers, and I'd only really go along with a little to avoid any awkwardness in front of customers. Inside I was like "ehhh, get away from me." I don't care if I technically think you're hot, I still don't like unsolicited touching. It's the same with guys, and girls don't get a free pass with me, even in an "open sexual place" like the SC.

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