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    When EVERYTHING is working against you getting on cam. I know I need to make money, but I also need to do my homework, my housework, and deal with being so damn exhausted. That all on top of the fact that a family member of mine has 2 months left due to melanoma, I just feel miserable.

    I need to get on cam today after class, but I have to pep myself up if I expect to make any money and I have no idea how right now.


    "You don't want to work today?? I get paid 9 dollars an hour to move boxes around, so go fuck yourself. No really, go fuck yourself right now"

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    "...I'll just give it an hour."

    If I can't get in the groove by then...

    "...I'll just switch to another site for an hour."

    If still nothing... I'm throwing a load of clothes in the wash and going back to bed.

    Yep.

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    Yeah, I know there's almost no point going on if I can't get in the groove, but I've been out of town all pay period and so I really need to make something these last few days.

    It's so frustrating because I know looking at it that way will make it harder, but I can't get it out of my head. I think I need to dance it out.


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    Quote Originally Posted by Cam_chick View Post
    When EVERYTHING is working against you getting on cam. I know I need to make money, but I also need to do my homework, my housework, and deal with being so damn exhausted. That all on top of the fact that a family member of mine has 2 months left due to melanoma, I just feel miserable.

    I need to get on cam today after class, but I have to pep myself up if I expect to make any money and I have no idea how right now.
    I would definitely like to know the answer to this question! Ha Ha I am in a camming slump and each day I tell myself Im getting on tomorrow and it never happens. I do the same thing as you Cam chick with putting off getting on and saying I need to do my homework or clean or cook or Im completely exhausted. It doesn't help that my bills are paid up, so I really don't make an effort. It's so funny because the past two weeks I get ready and take about a hour to do hair, make up, shower and find the right outfit and get all dolled up and still never get on lmfao! I need to find motivation. Im telling myself right now Im going to get on today! I have been trying to let Black Friday be my motivation for me to get on the next couple of weeks.

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    Default Re: What do you tell yourself?

    Im in a slump as well - not huge but enough that I don't work as much as I do when I'm "in the groove". I'm sorry to hear about your family member. No real advice except you're not alone?

    But what works when I know if I let the slump go on too long is I look at my financial goals, bank account, imagine financial disasters, and make myself so anxious I cannot NOT sign on (this method is NOt at ALL advisable, lol, I only do this when I am feeling completely complacent).

    Even though advice is usually don't sign on when your mood sucks - I sign on anyway. If I don't I'll end up talking myself from signing on at all... which will drain into the next day. I'd rather see my time online as being an OK figure despite an earnings drop due to lack of positive attitude, than having it be 0.00 for a whole day.

    That is just me though.

    Also having signs up around your camming area helps - like inspirational quotes or reminders. I have one that says SMIRK (it should be smile but I don't like my smile so I changed it to SMIRK to lol at myself).

    I notice that if I feel blergh about getting online I make a point to do something totally different than usual. I'll set my cam in some odd position, I'll wear more clothes, I'll smear glitter on my face, I'll wear less clothes, I'll play Britney Spears or something equally mindnumbing, I'll dance around but pay no attention to free, I'll yell at everyone who bothers me, I'll talk like Kim Kardashian... I'll do basically everything I don't usually do when I'm "in the groove" to make myself feel uncomfortable so I am forced to try something different for that shift. When I get bored I get restless then fall into a slump. Sometimes doing everything you don't ordinarily do can help shock your system into being into it again.

    I recently zoomed the cam on one buttcheek then throbbed it every few seconds. I'd *never* do this ordinarily. But it hid my bitchface for awhile, and I even took a few pvts like this and barely zoomed it out (again NOT recommended, I bullied the guys into accepting it). Me on my game would be horrified. Slumped me thought it was hilarious and it pumped my mood back up again.

    One other thing I do is have an hourly accountability file. Just an open notepad file where I account for what I am doing every hour. If I see I spent two hours "Watching Arrested Development on Netflix" I know there is a problem. Mind you, I know if I am in a rut it is already a problem but sometimes having it screaming in your face helps you hold yourself even more accountable.

    But sometimes you just have to wallow tbh. This whole comment is like the anti-advice haha but sometimes taking time to just feel like shit can help you more in the long run than forcing yourself to be superwoman. Even if your finances suffer it may help to take a break when you feel like crap than to stretch out feeling like crap for so long you burn out horribly. I've been there, the recovery process where you have to pump yourself up again suuuuucks.





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    what do I tell myself?
    that I have to do it.
    I have to.
    I have to.

    There are no " if-s,., but-s... maybe-s... ".
    I have to do it if I want the money.

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    There were a few times when I was out of my mind bored but I know I had to get on cam soooo I'd lay on my side on my bed, staring at the screen like a slutty zombie and play the PC version of Angry Birds then I'd check my free chat screen and flip off the guys who bugged me. LOL. I got a few privates out of that one.







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    Thanks ladies. Of course despite all my attempts at self motivation, I return home from class to find my dad has taken the day off. I suppose I'll just have to use this day for meditation, recovery, and taking sexy pictures in the silence of my room.

    Hopefully I'm feeling better tomorrow


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    Default Re: What do you tell yourself?

    You can TELL yourself anything, but unless you LISTEN to yourself it's not going to work. For me, it's making a schedule. I map out my best money making times and say, "You've got to get on in these times, you've published a schedule and if you're not on the guys are going to feel betrayed and they're not going to listen to you next time you say you'll be on"

    Going through that first pay period without a check is a good motivator to listen to yourself

    If you're just having a hard time getting on cam in general I can understand burn out! Perhaps do something else in addition to cam, like recording videos, or just going on the cam sites you like the best, or changing up your outfits. If you're having a hard time doing ANYTHING, that I can understand as well. Depression is common and totally understandable (especially w/what you're going through, OP) and this is also the season for seasonal depression. Seeking out someone to talk to or to prescribe a bit of medication or even just starting to work out on a routine schedule can help a lot.


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    I have no choice if I feel like shit I still have to work. Things have to get paid for, my husband's oncologist is not cheap and the insurance co-pays on Cobra suck ass so I do not have a choice. I may take a day off every two weeks at this point. Even if I'm only on for a few hours it's still better than nothing.

    I actually enjoy my free chat when some of the guys that come in and talk to me are on, it's kind of like therapy, plus I can tell the assholes to fuck off which makes me feel better. The compliments definitely help bring my mood up. Also I don't take a huge amount of time to get ready just shower to shave and get my hair wet (naturally curly I just let it dry on cam) then eye liner and mascara.

    I definitely know it's hard when you have the weight of the world on you, I also have homework (I do it during my slow hours), my house work is less cause my kids are with their dad right now (that's a whole other level of depression and frustration on me), and hubby has been in another state staying with family while getting his treatments done for the last year. I feel your pain on all of that, I really don't know from one day to the next how long hubby's treatments/recovery will take and it's a huge financial drain and all I can do to keep up with paying for all of it since he hasn't been able to work in a year from being too sick.

    My motivation is just trying to keep my head above water. My motto has ended up being: just do it! And when I really am feeling shitty I imagine all the girls here telling me to get off my ass and make that paper!

    Good luck honey!

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    whenever i know i need to cam but i don't want to and the excuses start floating in my mind i just tell them to shut up and start getting ready.
    its like my mind playing tricks on me whenever i don't want to work i can think of 100 reasons not too..but i can't feed into them because i know what i need to do.
    even when that little voice says "ok one more hour and i will work" i just talk back to it in my head saying no shut up i'm getting my ass to work now.
    ......this all probably makes me sound really crazy lol but it works for me
    "Achieving success is a challenge but so is struggling so you may as well choose success."

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    Force yourself to do an hour (or maybe some days make it 15 minutes if it's really a bad day). Sometimes that's the hardest part for me is just making myself go ahead and log in. When I see some money come in then I often stay on.


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    I feel you. Been making the mistake of never letting my cold quite heal up before working myself silly, so today I missed a morning's camming because I got up, had a shower and collapsed back on the couch for some fever dreams.
    When I'm just slumpy, but not sick, I give myself small goals "just an hour" then I can log off. Its either bad but I feel like I did it, so I become more motivated or its a good shift and I stick around.

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    When I'm in a slump, I tell myself "There's no harm in me trying" so I get on and just chat like usual lol. When my day just seems to go to shit & everything feels down I just shut it off, that's the best way to explain it. If i don't just completely clear it out of my mind I won't have a good day camming custies/fans see it and it drives them away like the plague. Sometimes camming is an escape from reality because i actually enjoy it, plus some of my really shitty days turned into my best earning days. All days even bad ones can turn into the best of days online, so there's no harm in trying.

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    Quote Originally Posted by roast View Post
    Im in a slump as well - not huge but enough that I don't work as much as I do when I'm "in the groove". I'm sorry to hear about your family member. No real advice except you're not alone?

    But what works when I know if I let the slump go on too long is I look at my financial goals, bank account, imagine financial disasters, and make myself so anxious I cannot NOT sign on (this method is NOt at ALL advisable, lol, I only do this when I am feeling completely complacent).

    Even though advice is usually don't sign on when your mood sucks - I sign on anyway. If I don't I'll end up talking myself from signing on at all... which will drain into the next day. I'd rather see my time online as being an OK figure despite an earnings drop due to lack of positive attitude, than having it be 0.00 for a whole day.

    That is just me though.

    Also having signs up around your camming area helps - like inspirational quotes or reminders. I have one that says SMIRK (it should be smile but I don't like my smile so I changed it to SMIRK to lol at myself).

    I notice that if I feel blergh about getting online I make a point to do something totally different than usual. I'll set my cam in some odd position, I'll wear more clothes, I'll smear glitter on my face, I'll wear less clothes, I'll play Britney Spears or something equally mindnumbing, I'll dance around but pay no attention to free, I'll yell at everyone who bothers me, I'll talk like Kim Kardashian... I'll do basically everything I don't usually do when I'm "in the groove" to make myself feel uncomfortable so I am forced to try something different for that shift. When I get bored I get restless then fall into a slump. Sometimes doing everything you don't ordinarily do can help shock your system into being into it again.

    I recently zoomed the cam on one buttcheek then throbbed it every few seconds. I'd *never* do this ordinarily. But it hid my bitchface for awhile, and I even took a few pvts like this and barely zoomed it out (again NOT recommended, I bullied the guys into accepting it). Me on my game would be horrified. Slumped me thought it was hilarious and it pumped my mood back up again.

    One other thing I do is have an hourly accountability file. Just an open notepad file where I account for what I am doing every hour. If I see I spent two hours "Watching Arrested Development on Netflix" I know there is a problem. Mind you, I know if I am in a rut it is already a problem but sometimes having it screaming in your face helps you hold yourself even more accountable.

    But sometimes you just have to wallow tbh. This whole comment is like the anti-advice haha but sometimes taking time to just feel like shit can help you more in the long run than forcing yourself to be superwoman. Even if your finances suffer it may help to take a break when you feel like crap than to stretch out feeling like crap for so long you burn out horribly. I've been there, the recovery process where you have to pump yourself up again suuuuucks.
    Roast you always scare me because our camming styles are frighteningly similar. This is exactly...ME! I even do the fake voice (not necessarily like kim k) and the ZOOM IN ASS CHEEK THROB, seriously something I never do...but to hide the bitchface. By any chance do you ever do feature your feet only on cam? LOL

    Yes I have zoomed in on the feet on an experimental note, most hilarious part was people still spoke to my feet in free chat and PAID LMAOSFH.

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    I say "screw <insert real name>'s problems...<insert cam name> can be anyone she wants today!

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    Sometimes I will just log on to sites I know I won't get people popping in for shows when I'm not ready (any pay-per-min site.) So I log onto yahoo or mygirlfund and send messages, or I edit a video or update my clips store. Even before I do my make up or get dressed or anything.

    Just the other day I did that, I logged on before I was mentally or physically ready to cam and I got like 5 messages on MGF and one guy sent $20 randomly.. So i put on a cute bra and a thong and just pushed my tits in the camera for 3 minutes lol, didn't even show my face cuz I had no make up on and hadn't even brushed my hair yet... It worked though! Then I stayed online all day after that.

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    The biggest part of my lack of motivation shows in getting my makeup on, sexy underwear and stockings / suspender belt on, and set-up together. If I can make it to having gotten everything together for camming, I'm usually raring to go because it's all set, it's just the initial "Huff... right time to get ready for work" which can exhaust me before I've even begun.

    To get through this, I usually put on a funny tv show to watch / listen to while I'm getting ready - something to make me laugh and boost my morale. Always works for me. Either that, or I take a look at other camgirls for inspiration before I get myself together.

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    I love all the, "just put makeup on" advice. That's really great! I know that if I took the time to put makeup on and then didn't cam I'd get mad at myself b/c what a waste of makeup! LOL


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    get to work, bitch!



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    I totally have the "waste of makeup" thoughts. Similarly, when I go into a private and as soon as I squirt lube into my hand, the guy leaves, I'm always pissed to have wasted the lube on him.

    I feel like 10 years working in some form of customer service (from bar tending to restaurant management, retail, etc) has really helped me with camming. I can fake a good mood pretty convincingly and can answer the same questions a million times a day without batting an eye. It sounds really cheesy, but sometimes pretending to be in a good mood puts me in a good mood. It's hard to smile all day and still feel sad.

    Lots of caffeine helps too.

    Also, I feel not working begets more not working. But likewise, when I work one day, it's easier to get on the next. Buying new shit for cam helps my motivation too.
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    Picture yourself going to the ATM and taking out the cash- that is what I do. Also feel the emotions of how happy you are with the money and perhaps think of going somewhere fun with some of the money or getting yourself something.

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    i need to take my own advice today..planned on working but here come the excuses...
    i have a headache
    my back hurts
    i didn't get enough sleep
    i should wait awhile i'll feel better later
    i made enough yesterday
    i'll just work tomorrow...
    ....shut up shut up shut uppppp
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    Camming is my only source of income. I have a 4 yr old with special needs to where I have to stay home with him. I pay all my bills and rent so I can't let him down. I kinda don't tell myself because I know I have to. If I don't I'm fucked. That's all there is to it. I'm grateful that I'm able to live off just camming (for now) because I do like this job. Despite the bad days, it's all worth it to be my own boss.

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    Quote Originally Posted by h0ttie View Post
    i need to take my own advice today..planned on working but here come the excuses...
    i have a headache
    my back hurts
    i didn't get enough sleep
    i should wait awhile i'll feel better later
    i made enough yesterday
    i'll just work tomorrow...
    ....shut up shut up shut uppppp
    Take an advil and make an icepack
    Get your heating pad
    Take a Nap
    DONT WAIT GO ON NOW FEELING LIKE SHIT
    YES U DID BUT YOU CAN STILL MAKE MOREEEEEEEEEE
    LIVE TODAY LIKE IT IS YOUR LAST
    LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LOL LLOL LOL

    AND SERIOUSLY, go on cam complete with HEATING PAD, ICE PACK ON HEAD acting like a bitch becasue you are feeling like shit, have nappie time and watch in AMAZEMENT as you STILL MAKE BANK and these fools still tell you how beautiful you are, to open tits and stand up bb.



    SMH and it is true, you know it. LOL NO MORE EXCUSES. Fuck wht these guys think. We get asked to do the most asinine things. If you are not feeling camming, do what you want to do and put ur cam on. Read a book, watch tv, lay there in bed whatever. You are bound to make money from one of these schmucks.

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