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    Sad Cam Depression

    I just don't know if I can do it. I feel as if I've tried everything, and nothing seems to work the way it needs to...

    After making only 15 dollars on a site I just tried out, I basically felt like I died a little inside. Feeling this worthless is just not very comforting at a time I feel so lonely and desperate for anything to make me feel better.

    I always guess if it's my appearance, or my body, personality... (there goes my self-esteem/worth.) I always act so nicely, and simply ask to be respected. I hope I'm not coming off as really stupid right now, but it just doesn't seem to be getting better at all... Just had to rant to feel a bit better.

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    doh!
    I " hate" reading stuff like this because I understand what you are going threw and I know it is hard....
    but u are not alone and this is why I started the thread about how camming really is like.. so other girls know it happens to all of us! they are not alone...
    you probably know the thread but here it is again. and everyone who replied to it did so because they have been there too..


    the main thing is: TRY TRY TRY , TRY your BEST to not take things personally..
    to 99 % of these men you and me are just.. a video projection..
    This is why it seems to easy for them to just demand stuff..
    they dont take this personal either...

    U HAVE to think you are just an actress..
    thats it and nothing more.
    Now, when the movie director tells the actress" now act slutty and smile!.. " whats she supposed to say " fuck u!! act slutty? who do u think I am ? LOL Im not a slut, u pervert!! " lol
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    Now on the money part...
    The better u act, the more roles u will get..
    u might even get an Oscar, like Aspen....
    its a vicious circle...

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    Great advice Fridays, also sometimes the problem is not with you, it's with the site, or you just hit a time of day when no whales were on. This biz is crazy. One day I may make hundreds and the next day, same site, same lighting, same time and I can't make a damn dollar. I do notice as I build regulars though that my income has been steadily going up.

    You gotta find a couple of sites that work for you and give it a litle time to build your regs. Honestly I used to hate regulars because I got sick of the same requests every time, but then I realized that's where the bulk of my money was coming from and started giving them most of my attention.

    It still doesn't keep me from freaking out now and again when I have a slow day though! It helps to remind myself it happens to literally every cam host from time to time.


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    you are burnt the fuck out. take a break, few days off, maybe a week. Go out, get some sun, get hollared at by some boys, get your confidence back.

    I get like that too. There'll be just some days where it's like wtf, nothings working, im annoyed with everyone and everything, the guys can tell, its not fun, so no money.
    I learned now, if i'm starting to feel like that, log off. Maybe give it an hour or a whole different shift. let the room change guys a little bit, and take some time to get over it. Sometimes these guys really do just suck, and if traffic isnt paying at the moment and it's upsetting you, log off.

    Sometimes watching porn helps me haha. Not to get off (intentionally) but just watch a few girls who you like and see how they act, talk, their demeanor, their looks, clothes etc. These girls are specifically marketed and styled to make guys horny so sometimes getting out of my daily looking at my damn self all day routine, i do a little research just to see what guys think is sexy these days. What I think is sexy. Soon your mojo will come back and it'll be all good again.

    The last thing i focus on is that yeah i'm the main product. Yeah i am a person, but for the purpose of the services i'm offering, it is a product. You're a brand. You cant let your product out with a shitty commercial or shitty service. Know what your cam personality (whether its similar to who you are or a completely different role) is and think whenever you get on that okay, it's almost show time. Prepare yourself like an actress would whos about to go on screen and dont break character even if it sucks. I think a lot of times i would log on and just would hope for the best with out any plan in mind. Prepare before you go on a little bit; hair, clothes, makeup, conversation pieces etc

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    I know exactly how you feel. I just started too and you've made more than me,lol. I was like,WTF? But these forums really do help and you can find tons of information to help you out. It's rough starting out as the new girl but you got to build up your regulars if you want to make a nice income out of this. Also, do like the other girls on here say and watch some of the other girls on cams and see what they are doing. But, don't copy them. You have to do something unique that will keep the guys coming back just for you. Also, the top girls make it seem like it's effortless to make $500 or more a night, but it's not. They've just been on there a long time and have built up a solid fanbase. Good luck hun, don't give up yet

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    I have rough days now and then, but if I feel like it's not fun anymore, I'll just log off, no questions asked.

    About being new, for me anyway, doesn't really matter. If you're site has a lot of good traffic, and you're on all the time, you'll make money. I made almost 500 my first week and a little under 1000 my second week. The next week I only made 181. Week after that just 14 bucks because I only got on one day that week for like 2 hours.

    I've been camming for a liitle over a month now.

    So my money greatly depends on the amount of time I put in, and also how I'm feeling that day. If I'm not feeling it, the custies sense it, and either get all sympathetic or leave, so it's better to just log off if you're too annoyed to continue. Start refreshed the next day.

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    I feel ya, been like this for awhile now! I hope you feel better soon, it's not an easy biz, to say the least.


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    My first few days when I started recently went AMAZINGLY, and then it just went downhill. Like, wow, I was so bummed by it I didn't even care anymore. I was making barely anything, and didn't get what happened. For one, the different days and the time of day REALLY make a big difference. Also, your mood before you start I've taken about a week off, mainly because I spent that time moving and I've been on my period, but also because I reallllly needed the break. I've been using the time to get excited about camming again, and to get happy in general I REALLY feel like you need to take that time off, and just relax. Maybe you'll find that you don't want to cam anymore, or maybe you'll feel like me and be really excited about doing it again!

    Either way, if you decide to stick with it, make it fun. And always have SW ready, because these girls are wonderful, and they WILL help you when you need them. We all need others to keep us going. I hope you start to feel better, Hun.

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    Yesss, just take a little break. I hit a bad earning slump myself a few months ago. I took a one week vacation, and now I am back at it and doing fine.
    Have some "me" time.

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    And just think about how great it is to be able to take a week off without notice because work is sucking.
    @MsStepford on Twitter!

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    If you can't do it, maybe look for another job? You could cam while you find something that will be better for you. Whatever you do, try to keep your chin up. Lots of girls are struggling with camming so you're not alone.
    xoxo ~ Sarah




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    I understand. I have days like this and when I do, I film a new video, customize my profile(s), sign up for a new site, promote, and so on.
    If it weren't for the fact that I have several streams of income I'd be broke as hell.
    Bitch? Actually I'm an evil cunt. Slut? Try dirty little whore. Either way, you have to pay for it.

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    I know it is hard, but like FRIDAYS said you cannot take it personal.

    I think about it like this: I am merchandise.

    If I own in a clothing store, am I going to go crazy if some person doesnt buy a TOP because it is "ugly" "too big" or "costs too much"....no. I am not going to get pissed off at a customer in my retail store, if they do not want to buy my merchandise. i am not going to "ban" them from my store, becasue they didnt like my clothes I am not going to think my store is not good enough for them if they didnt buy anything. I am not going to shut the store down becasue a customer didnt like my merchandise. I am not going to call a customer cheap to their face or throw a hissy fit, or take it personal.

    The site is the store and we are the merchandise. This is the way I look at it. And all we are is a fantasy girl come to life on a computer screen to these guys, they are all hard wanking their cocks, we will never be treated like real life people to them. That is the reality honey.


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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    we will never be treated like real life people to them. That is the reality honey.
    omg can u imagine men going to a lady in a bar and telling her
    "hey hon, turn around in doggy and stick 2 fingers in...your vaj
    And I wanna see your face too.
    I will pay 3.99 a minute and thats quite expensive "

    LOL

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    Quote Originally Posted by SarahTime View Post
    If you can't do it, maybe look for another job? You could cam while you find something that will be better for you. Whatever you do, try to keep your chin up. Lots of girls are struggling with camming so you're not alone.
    This^ When I'm not busy, I look for jobs..even if I get one, I will still be camming though


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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    omg can u imagine men going to a lady in a bar and telling her
    "hey hon, turn around in doggy and stick 2 fingers in...your vaj
    And I wanna see your face too.
    I will pay 3.99 a minute and thats quite expensive "

    LOL
    HAHAh what is funny, is if a guy comes into my private and immediately says, " OPEN this SHOW that." I say, "those lines wouldnt work on me in real life, and they certainly do not here. Please work on your game and try again" LOL. Him reading this alone makes this 20 second wanker almost last a WHOLEEEEE minute so I can make .5 cents lol. HAHAHAHA

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    I watch porn sometimes too to get in the right frame of mind - super slutty works for me -- customer " oh the sun is out today " me " yes the sun is shining on my pussy today , would you like to see it " ? i turn anything they say into something sexual -- works for me most days

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    omg can u imagine men going to a lady in a bar and telling her
    "hey hon, turn around in doggy and stick 2 fingers in...your vaj
    And I wanna see your face too.
    I will pay 3.99 a minute and thats quite expensive "

    LOL
    Right there with you but as devil's advocate, 3.99 a min IS a lot of money. I aim to make my shows 15 minutes and that's about 60$ he just spent, even if we only get a small percentage of it, he just dropped a lot of cash on us. If the average blue collar worker makes 10$ an hour or an office worker's salary works out to 25$ an hour he just had to work several hours to spend 15 minutes with us.


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    Him: we could meet... im 5ft 9 sexy italian with a 8 inch love stick...imagine playing with me... how would you do it
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    Quote Originally Posted by IsobelWren View Post
    Right there with you but as devil's advocate, 3.99 a min IS a lot of money. I aim to make my shows 15 minutes and that's about 60$ he just spent, even if we only get a small percentage of it, he just dropped a lot of cash on us. If the average blue collar worker makes 10$ an hour or an office worker's salary works out to 25$ an hour he just had to work several hours to spend 15 minutes with us.
    thats really not my concern.. how much they make LOL
    u sound like u feel bad for them
    Do any of these people ask ME how much my bills are?

    Im not arguing with u, so dont take it in an offensive manner.
    but... if these sites would give us more %.... then ya I'd charge less.

    well, thats just me...
    Id rather pull in a few more hours at times... to make my goal.. then ruin my vajaja with non stop dildoing for $1.99/min..

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    Quote Originally Posted by cyberstripper View Post
    I know it is hard, but like FRIDAYS said you cannot take it personal.

    I think about it like this: I am merchandise.

    If I own in a clothing store, am I going to go crazy if some person doesnt buy a TOP because it is "ugly" "too big" or "costs too much"....no. I am not going to get pissed off at a customer in my retail store, if they do not want to buy my merchandise. i am not going to "ban" them from my store, becasue they didnt like my clothes I am not going to think my store is not good enough for them if they didnt buy anything. I am not going to shut the store down becasue a customer didnt like my merchandise. I am not going to call a customer cheap to their face or throw a hissy fit, or take it personal.

    The site is the store and we are the merchandise. This is the way I look at it. And all we are is a fantasy girl come to life on a computer screen to these guys, they are all hard wanking their cocks, we will never be treated like real life people to them. That is the reality honey.
    This just reminded me of something else. Ever been disgusted at the way a costumer at a store treated a repository person? Been yelled at a phone customer service? Seen someone treat the waiter like low-life scum who should be mopping up the table with her tongue for even better service? Well some people quite simply have their mindset. To them , putting money down on something strips the provider of humanity in their eyes, entitling them to assholishness. Yeah, *that* type hops by our camrooms, and its even worse because we're doing "the dirty things".
    So don't take it personally, the assholess run rampant EVERYWHERE.
    And I get far less of them camming than I used to when I was in charge of incall complaints at an electronics company.

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    Thanks for all the support everyone. I will take this all in. You have motivated me to stay strong, and keep fighting!

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    Quote Originally Posted by SybilVain View Post
    This just reminded me of something else. Ever been disgusted at the way a costumer at a store treated a repository person? Been yelled at a phone customer service? Seen someone treat the waiter like low-life scum who should be mopping up the table with her tongue for even better service? Well some people quite simply have their mindset. To them , putting money down on something strips the provider of humanity in their eyes, entitling them to assholishness. Yeah, *that* type hops by our camrooms, and its even worse because we're doing "the dirty things".
    So don't take it personally, the assholess run rampant EVERYWHERE.
    And I get far less of them camming than I used to when I was in charge of incall complaints at an electronics company.
    Totally. I get far less as well, but then I think that's because those who beat up on customer service workers know that they're not allowed to snap back or speak up against abusive behavior. That "The Customer Is ALWAYS Right" bullshit. I have so much fun sitting in my husband's office because if a customer gets loud with him, he tells them where to go and they always look soooooooo shocked! The company he works for doesn't cater to that mentality.

    Same thing with camming. A customer acts like an asshole? He gets ignored/booted. There is no going over our head to management and getting what they want. One of the many reasons I LOVE my job.

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    It's been really slow for me, slower than normal on MFC, but you just have to keep pressing along. Even if it is just $15, it's $15 more than what you had before. Stay positive!




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    A while back I was doing a shitload of research on other sides of the adult industry (like, escorting, for example) and one of the things that really stuck with me was this - if you're desperate, raise your prices; guys will see lowered rates as lowered value, while higher rates show how desirable you are... and we all know how guys get when they think you're in high demand.
    I just raised all my prices - if I want $10 in my pocket for this little two minute video, I'm going to charge $15 on MGF to offset my fees. Guess what? It worked. Sure, I've lost the guys who want a deal / discount on absolutely everything, but who cares, they don't spend anyway. A guy just ordered a custom video of me masturbating for 10 mins, with my panties on and no nips/lips showing, (because after A YEAR of camming with this name I still haven't shown pink or masturbated on cam!) and will be paying me $250. Another guy is sending me $250 in amazon gift cards for a couple videos and my panties. I went two weeks with hardly ANY contributions, and now this. Just keep your long-term goals in sight, and if guys are being dicks, go do something else for a few hours, or days, or whatever. That's the beauty of this job, we can take time off when we need it.


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