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    I've been with my man for 3 years. Recently I have to travel to vegas for work. He was very supportive at first. Then he told me he is lonely, he needs me home. either I quite my job go back to him or we split.
    I really love my job and I don't want to go get a $8 job and have people telling me what to do. What should I do? Help.......
    What would u do if u were me?

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    It seems selfish of him to ask that of you...

    I can't say what I would do, I don't think 'the one I love' would put me in this position. It's quite unfortunate. I mean, what happens when you're back home and miserable, working at an agonizing job that you hate?

    I think this is a very personal decision, you have to decide what to do on your own. What's more important? What will make you happy?

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    Quote Originally Posted by katarina View Post
    I've been with my man for 3 years. Recently I have to travel to vegas for work. He was very supportive at first. Then he told me he is lonely, he needs me home. either I quite my job go back to him or we split.
    I really love my job and I don't want to go get a $8 job and have people telling me what to do. What should I do? Help.......
    What would u do if u were me?
    For a boyfriend who had full knowledge of what you did from the beginning, NEVER! I would stay in Vegas, make money and let him go. I know it's easier said than done especially since you've been with him for 3 years. But the fact is he knew for 3 years that you were a dancer so he's had enough time to adjust. If the problem is distance, he can come out to Vegas and visit you sometimes. Who doesn't want to go to Vegas for a weekend? I honestly do understand where he is coming from. It's not easy to deal with but he made the decision to deal with it so now he has to take the good with the bad. He can't force you into an ultimatum just because it got hard for him.

    Plus you don't want to quit. You want to keep dancing. You love your job and i'm sure you make good money. And seriously guys never quit their jobs for girls. But then again, we girls never ask them to. You have to do what makes you happy because he could literally be gone tomorrow which he is proving to you right now.

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    Default Re: Will u quit dancing for the one u love

    Thanx, that helped a lot. I think I'll choose my job. It will hurt so much, since I've been with him for 3 years.

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    NO I would not quit dancing "for the one I love" because I could never love a guy who didn't respect what I do, and I generally don't go for guys who aren't open minded and show any slight signs of being the jealous/controlling type.

    If he wants you to quit, he better be able to afford to support you financially, otherwise he has no say in how you make your money. Also If he loved you unconditionally he would respect what you do. My man knows better than to even ask me to quit dancing because he knows he can't afford to have me not dance and he knows I hate doing anything else for little pay and a lot of time and effort.

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    Why would you quit dancing for a man? Is he going to give you money? Probably not. Unless he is going to support you, do what you want. Me personally, I'd kick him to the curb and find another one. Men are like tampons. Stick a new one in as soon as you're done with the old one.
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    I dunno, this sounds a bit tricky, I would really have to think long and hard about dumping a bf of three years...you said you NOW have to travel to Vegas to work. And it's not that your bf is asking you to quit dancing, he just wants you closer to home! Is there no clubs you could work at nearer to wherever bf lives? This sounds more like your bf just is having a hard time with long distance. Did you think about maybe working something out with him like you'll dance in Vegas for one more year or something like that? And also talk to bf maybe about moving to Vegas or at least why he feels so lonely maybe there's steps you can take to make him feel less lonely

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    I'm not saying u should quit dancing but everyone saying u cant quit dancing for a man or he has to respect my job, what if he does respect your job but misses you being away all the time? What if the roles were reversed? And your boyfriend or husband was leaving all the time for work. Would you want them to get a job closer to home?

    And to answer the op it's defiantly something you would hVe to decide for yourself. It all depends on your specific situation and emotions. I'm sure u will end up making the right decision for yourself though.

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    I would... if he was going to transfer $2K a week into my account. If not, no chance.

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    Quote Originally Posted by femmefatale88 View Post
    NO I would not quit dancing "for the one I love" because I could never love a guy who didn't respect what I do, and I generally don't go for guys who aren't open minded and show any slight signs of being the jealous/controlling type.

    If he wants you to quit, he better be able to afford to support you financially, otherwise he has no say in how you make your money. Also If he loved you unconditionally he would respect what you do. My man knows better than to even ask me to quit dancing because he knows he can't afford to have me not dance and he knows I hate doing anything else for little pay and a lot of time and effort.
    Ditto!
    This would be my advice as well
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    I understand the controlling crap..Im like that too but its the whole "Well, Ive been with u a few years but I want u to stop dancing now and get a REAL job" that pisses me off.. Ive dealt with that before and i continue to brush it off bc Im not quitting my job for a man again. Did it before..huge mistake....I will have to quit my man, before I quit dancing for my man. If it ever gets to the point where a bf absolutely can not deal with it I'll have to leave.

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    I've mentioned this in other threads, but years ago I briefly gave up dancing for a man I was living with and got a "respectable" job (waitressing). I was miserable and was making less money, and he was emotionally abusive. I dumped him, went back to dancing and vowed then NEVER to give up a job of any sort for a man. You always need to be able to support yourself because way too many women become victims of controlling men and are able to flee.

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