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    Default Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    During my time as an adult model I got ripped off by many producers one way or another. It was hard as they wasn’t much work for a bbw like myself and wasn’t taken seriously.

    The final straw came when I had a shoot with a photographer who knew I was a bbw however decided to ask me various questions such as why don’t I lose weight? Do harder levels to get more work and do this shoot on a TFCD basis instead of payment. At the end of the shoot he said the shots were great. Weeks later he got in touch saying how awful the photos were and that I’m a crap model.

    I put it to the back of mind and thought I would take a break since they wasn’t much work going anyway. While doing my email checks I got an email from a model asking me info on this guy. I without hesitate told her about him. He went mad and called me all names under the sun. For what? Telling the truth…yes I know.

    Now this model is all over the place gone to places I’ve never been before worked with people I’ve never worked with. In a matter of months while I was at this for YEARS and got no where.

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    No. Because no two people have the same action plans or goals. If you are on track with your goals, then you shouldn't be worried about someone else. If you aren't on track with your goals, then you either need to rethink your goals or change your action plan.

    As long as you're doing what you want to be doing, you shouldn't be worried about anyone else. Success comes with time, effort, and money, so there's no reason to be jealous or hate someone over their success. They put in the resources, they deserve the success. I watch other models, but only because its research for my (our) industry and it teaches me how to one-up my competition. So I guess you could say other models inspire me. But I'm not jealous of them. They deserve it. I hope to get to the same point in time.

    What I DO find annoying though (and no this is not directed at you) is when others complain of their lack of success, but then they are doing everything they can to hide themselves from being exposed. If you want more & more success, you have to go more mainstream and get really creative.

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    Nope! It gives me motivation to get out there and do it myself.

    Sometimes I get a twinge of regret for not working harder when I know I could have been doing that good too if I would of.

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    nope...i am very happy when i see other girls succeeding.
    i think jealousy is like a success blocker...if you spend ur time being frustrated with why someone else is succeeding you are not your not going to get anywhere.
    if you spend ur time congratulating, admiring, and being inspired by others who are successful you will get a whole lot further.
    "Achieving success is a challenge but so is struggling so you may as well choose success."


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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    Not really.

    Sometimes it works as motivation - I think "hey, this girl is making x amount of money, thats what I should be making!" Knowing that it is POSSIBLE to do that well motivates me to keep going and work harder. I always want to be the best I can, and so I usually use camscores/placement/etc as a marker to see how far I am from being better, or from reaching the next milestone I want to reach.

    Sometimes it will make me sad that this is not the only work that I do - times when I see a girl really work her "days of the week" (titty tuesday, wet wednesday, thong thursday, etc etc) I think "damn, I wish I could work every day", or when I see a really successful girl logging 40 hours in a week, I think "damn, I wish I had 40 hours in a week to work online!". But then I remind myself of WHY I don't have that time, or that ability, and WHY my life is how it is.

    I don't watch too many other girls - I'll do it for fun, or to motivate myself, or to get new inspiration, but I really try to limit my lurking. I find that a little bit is motivating, but a LOT just gets me down sometimes.

    As for your specific story - I don't think that you can necessarily compare yourself to one specific person. You say that she is doing better, faster...but you don't say whether she is in the same niche, working the same sites, doing the same amount of social media, etc etc etc. And even if you were - unless you are the absolute twin of someone, you can't account for taste, or assume that you should be doing the same. What if the guy running one mag just REALLY has a thing for girls with her name? She may be working harder, she may have spent years working behind the scenes building connections, she may just have had a lucky break.
    Why not just take it as a positive sign - that there IS still work going, and you just have to get out there and grab it!!
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    I wouldn't say I get jealous but once in awhile there's a twinge of envy when I'll be talking to my friends and they'll say what a great day they had on cam when I didnt...of course the following day it can be me banking and they're hearing crickets lol be glad you didnt have anything more to do with that person though. If he called you and said your pics were crappy and you were awful then he's a douche and you dont want to be associated with someone like that

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    I don't, if anything it inspires me. Of course if I see a GIGANTIC tip get thrown down I sometimes think "DAMN, I wish that was me!" but I am always happy for them. Then again though, I have never been the type to have any "girl jealousy issues" (unless she was skrewing my boyfriend or something lol) - Maybe I'm weird but I love watching other cam girls, it's part of the reason why I started camming myself... I also have a premium account for when I do that though because I hate freeloaders and don't like doing it myself so I try to tip a bit when I can.

    I have also built a pretty good friendship with another model who started around the same time as me and we help eachother out with new ideas for shows ect, watch eachother when the other isn't on, talk daily, creep together, whatever! It's fun and takes away that isolated feeling that comes from working alone at home all the time. I am in no way worried about her trying to "steal my custies" and I wouldn't care if there came a point that we shared some. We are 2 totally different girls with completely different things to offer and it's the same for every other cam model out there too.

    Embracing it will get you a lot further than getting jealous over everything "that girl has that you don't" ... I M O

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    I like to motivate and empower. I haven't been able to chat much lately, but I see my chat friends on top, or even other SW girls here that I don't get to chat with and I'm like "YEAH!".

    When you are feeling good and feeling happy for others, you stimulate yourself into a zone. That good energy will manifest upon your existence and then greater things will come into your life.

    Surrounding yourself with negative feelings only does the opposite. Meditate and grasp control of your inner feelings. Those changes will make a difference in not only your business, but also your overall well being.

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    Yea, sometimes. Not actively enough that I get preoccupied or ever verbalize it, but I have my "dis bitch?" moments.

    I'm not proud

    I try not to linger in girl's rooms beyond a few mins since I hate lurkers and believe in karma - but if it is someone who isnt sympathetic or Ive clashed with before - yup, it happens. I know it is not nice and is based in insecurity, but yea, from time to time. Usually it is only when Im feeling burned out since I tend to lurk in more rooms when I am. I root for most of the rooms I stumble into though, honest. But if the person is kind of a jerk and is rule breaking - yep



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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    yep
    I am getting frustrated...
    and then when all the anger is gone I sit back and think to myself how can I Improve what I do so I can have better results myself.

    I dont really believe others when the say they dont get frustrated...

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    i'm with hottie.

    i do get envious but not jealous. (envy is when you wish you had what they had, jealousy is when you want it and you don't want them to have it, or you want to take it away from them.) i think it's natural to be envious when i struggle to make $25-$30/hr and there are other girls making hella cash. and i don't see how anyone can be NOT envious of girls getting crazy huge tips, lol. but i'm happy for them that they are banking and it makes me want to up my game.

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    ^good point on the distinction, envy makes more sense than jealousy





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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    It makes me envious and angry. The ones I see that brag alot about what they make aren't really that attractive either to add insult to injury. It makes me want to give up so I try not to concern myself with what others are making. Its frustrating when you are doing the same thing but are not making the same money. I have to pay my bills too just like everybody else....

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    Ok I said no at first, but yes I can be envious at times. Not hater envy lol, but just "How is SHE making money?" It really just makes me want to try harder. By the way, I love to see women succeed in life.
    Taking a break from all unproductive shit will prove to be the best choice you can make.

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    Tee-hee, yayyyy some honesty. I know it's weak, but I'll own up to it because I'm human. Yes, I DO get envious at times. Never to the point where I want someone to fail just so that it looks like I'm successful (that is pathetic and some people need to check themselves because quite a few are at that point. what a lazy mentality), but I do sometimes of sit back and go "Well damn. What am I doing so wrong that I'm not hitting my milestones like I need to be?" D:

    But at the end of the day, I am where I need to be RIGHT NOW. Somewhere down the line, I'll be where I WANT to be. It's just a matter of time. I've only been at this for a year and a half after all and it's only in the last few months where I've started to get serious about making myself into a brand. So I'm still a "baby". I watch the successful ladies and while it pisses me off that they set the bar so freakin' high (I'm a tried and true overachiever. Was bred into me), I like seeing where I could be with some work. It's like looking into the future.

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    I honestly used to get frustrated when I first started. A million and one things were going through my mind.
    "Why is so and so making more money than me?"
    "What is so and so doing that I'm not?"

    But I soon realized that when it comes to do this, no two girls are the same. Yeah we all do the same shit from time to time, but we do it in our own little special way. We are eachother's inspiration!

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    Quote Originally Posted by AlleysonChains View Post


    "Do or do not. There is no try!"
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    I guess I do get a bit envious when I hear that other camgirls are making $75-$100/hr or even more than that. I wish I made that kind of money consistently.

    If I were insecure I'd start thinking, "Oh it must be because they're prettier/hotter/more fun than I am..." In reality, it's probably because they work harder & smarter than I do, and a whole lot more hours too. so instead I see it as inspiration! These girls are awesome, hardworking businesswomen who set goals and reach them. There's no reason why I can't do the same. I just need to work harder.

    Plus I actually get inspired when I see girls who look ugly/nasty (in my opinion) in the top rows of Streamate because if THEY can rake in the cash, I definitely can too!

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    Default Re: Do you get frustrated when you see someone doing better than you?

    Quote Originally Posted by Fridays View Post
    yep

    I dont really believe others when the say they dont get frustrated...

    I agree with you. It does not bother me too often though as most of the time I know girls just pull numbers out of their asses and lie lie lie about how much they make. I see it here on this board all the time. Girls claiming to make thousands a week, work two hours and make $300, etc.

    I don't claim to be perfect, but honestly when I say my income is rather average-it is just that. Yes there have been times where I have been taken private for 2 minutes and the guy slammed me with a $300 tip, but does it happen often? No it doesn't. More often then not the 1 minute mans are cheap asses who want me to do it all and "cum bb" in less then 1 minute. Who I really appreciate are the regulars that come into my room and spend 20 minutes or so whenever they can. Those are the men that pay my bills on a regular basis.

    But to be honest with you most of the time I spend focusing on me and what I do and not what others are doing. I don't really have time to linger and get upset about what others are making/not making.



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    HIGH HOURLY INCOME....
    Its mostly about two things:
    1.) building regulars
    2.) getting your name out there

    With #2 comes #1. And with time comes #1. We ALL know at least 50% of the men we encounter (while camming) like the WEIRDEST things. Yes, they are normal everyday people... your mailman, your dentist (lol), your doctor, bartender, teacher, WHOEVER-- ALL these men are our customers, we just don't know it. And these men want:
    1.) what they can't get/have in real life or just variety
    2.) fetishes/things they are too embarrassed to admit to anyone in person

    THEREFORE, the more you set yourself apart from the crowd COMBINED WITH the more you cam, the more regulars you'll build, and the more money you'll make.

    So essentially its up to you to do two things:
    1.) be creative, unique, or original
    AND
    2.) spend a lot of time camming

    Obviously there's no way to manipulate time (other than being online/camming for long hours & often), so you just have to be patient and wait for time to pass so your money increases.

    I know this. That's why I'm not jealous of other girls. It'll happen for you if you really want it to & put in the effort, but it takes TIME. Many of the "top" girls you see have at least 2 years of experience.
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    Quote Originally Posted by OJenni! View Post
    Girls claiming to make thousands a week, work two hours and make $300, etc.
    Those girls are all the ones on MFC. MFC is the only site where you can make more than like $80/hour and not be splitcamming. Or they are a known pornstar/fetish/camgirl who is heavily promoted.

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    Oh & I must add. All fetish aside, the vanilla girls who make the BIGGEST money (who are NOT pornstars because that's a given obviously) fall into these TWO categories:
    1.) Extremely feminine glamour girl. Long hair, makeup (not too overdone though)... the barbie girl
    2.) Alternative, tattooed, or the "suicide girl" look... but a very feminine version & not too overdone with tattoos either.

    I think there are two reasons for this:
    - #1 is because that look is classic & was very popular with the middle-aged men crowd when they were in their prime. So its an instant classic to them. In psychology, you learn that people hold on to the looks that were most popular when they were growing up, and ALWAYS deem those as most attractive
    - #2 is because that is the look of the NEW, younger generation. It was taboo back when the middle-aged men crowd were in their prime. These girls are exotic and foreign to the middle-aged men crowd, and that sells very well.

    SO ANYWAY, THE MESSAGE IS EITHER:
    - be the "classic" to the demographic you are trying to attract
    OR
    - be the exotic, unique, taboo thing to the demographic you are trying to attract. this goes BEYOND what you look like, but also how you act, how you present your brand (yourself), and what you offer

    However, there is still something for everyone. And I'm only talking the vanilla market here.

    Again, this is just what I'VE noticed. Others might not be noticing the same thing.

    /end the longest rant ever.
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    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    Those girls are all the ones on MFC. MFC is the only site where you can make more than like $80/hour and not be splitcamming. Or they are a known pornstar/fetish/camgirl who is heavily promoted.
    actually there are a lot of models on streamate who claim the same earnings (and are not well-known/instantly identifiable as pornstars or top girls).

    personally i wouldn't believe they are ALL lying...i have watched one of the models here who banks on sm in her room and she definitely pulls in enough to make what she says she is making. but yeah, there are several streamate models on stripperweb who claim to make $75+/hr (a couple of them don't even splitcam).

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    Quote Originally Posted by tinydancer23 View Post
    actually there are a lot of models on streamate who claim the same earnings (and are not well-known/instantly identifiable as pornstars or top girls).

    personally i wouldn't believe they are ALL lying...i have watched one of the models here who banks on sm in her room and she definitely pulls in enough to make what she says she is making. but yeah, there are several streamate models on stripperweb who claim to make $75+/hr (a couple of them don't even splitcam).
    I'd bet they've been camming for at least 4 or 5 years then, and brought all their regulars over + built up a lot. With SM, there is a huge glass ceiling that will be hit at some point. However, its good for regulars and you'll make something.

    Otherwise, they're probably exaggerating or including clip sales or something in the amount... or lying about the # of hours they put in.

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    just for the record, Ive never lied about my earnings in the "Verified Cam Girls" group...
    I really reallly do think others did not lie either..
    whats the point in lying about your earnings....
    I dont see any,.

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