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    Ugh so I wrote this all out and my firefox crashed so here we go again lol...


    Ok so I have been dancing for about two years and camming for one. When I began in the adult industry I had a plan to only do it for two years or so. I had my own reasons, the main reason being that I would be done with school by then and also for other wrong reasons. Everyone that I told about my job would say the same thing, "Well your only doing it for now/while your in school. So its ok." like it was some kind of justification for doing this kind of work (like I need the justification...psh). Anywho, the more I have been in the industry the more it feels like my business as opposed to a job. When I started I worked on SM every now and then for extra money. The more I got into learning about how to make my own website, and edit my content, and do my taxes the more "adult" I started to feel. I really do feel that this business has helped me grow so much in the past year and mature in such a great way. I don't depend on a job to give me hours or give me mundane tasks to do. I am in charge of my business and the work I put in reflects in the final numbers.
    I think its funny how so many people think we're just here to take our clothes off and the money rolls in. We are marketing experts, accountants, makeup artists, producers, counselors, sex goddess, fetish queens, webmasters ....the list goes on. And we need to be good at all of these to be successful and then some. Sad to say I used to be ashamed of what I did but not anymore. We do so much and are in charge of so much it feels good to be in this industry and reaping the benefits of my hard work.

    So I was wondering if any of you other ladies came into this with a certain mind set and goal and now have a completely different one.

    I don't think I will be doing this forever and I am still learning so much more in school but for now I am very happy because I am learning so much from what I am doing now and the people I have met and skills I have acquired are unlike anything else I have ever experienced.


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    I have several other professions I could pursue but I have continued to choose this.

    I think it's always good to be trained in something else that interests you and give it a try so that you aren't doing adult work as a last resort type thing. I do it by choice for the many advantages it gives me (plus most of the time I do enjoy at least some parts of it, and some days I absolutely love it).


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    honestly when i first started stripping. i was only planning on doing it for not more than 3 months max to get back onto my feet again......well i ended up falling in love with the money and got swept away, for better/worse...but now 4 yrs later, i really don't see myself doing anything else. like you said, this is a business and it makes you grow into a woman fast!...being in this industry has taught me sooo much more about life, money, men, love, and being a woman who is entirely comfortable with her sexuality. it has also taught me what it truly means to be FREE....free from the mundane, the boring, being tied down to a soul-less job/career......FREE to do pretty much whatver the fuck i want and when i want (within the laws of course, lol). there is sooo many things that i could list but it would take up all this space. however i will say that all the pros of this business far out way the cons by a long shot. i will say that being labeled, stereotyped, harassed and envied....make it all worth it to me cuz who can say that they are truly whole heartily happy with they're life? i know i am

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    Quote Originally Posted by bubblegumbitch View Post
    honestly when i first started stripping. i was only planning on doing it for not more than 3 months max to get back onto my feet again......well i ended up falling in love with the money and got swept away, for better/worse...but now 4 yrs later, i really don't see myself doing anything else. like you said, this is a business and it makes you grow into a woman fast!...being in this industry has taught me sooo much more about life, money, men, love, and being a woman who is entirely comfortable with her sexuality. it has also taught me what it truly means to be FREE....free from the mundane, the boring, being tied down to a soul-less job/career......FREE to do pretty much whatver the fuck i want and when i want (within the laws of course, lol). there is sooo many things that i could list but it would take up all this space. however i will say that all the pros of this business far out way the cons by a long shot. i will say that being labeled, stereotyped, harassed and envied....make it all worth it to me cuz who can say that they are truly whole heartily happy with they're life? i know i am
    You go girl!
    And I agree. A lot of my friends have regular jobs but hate them while other people hate my job but I love it! Umm....sorry but my vote wins whe it comes to who's opinion I care about more. After all it is MY job =)

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    I only planned to try out stripping in the last stretch of college to get myself independent of my parents while I looked for a real job with my degree. After college though... I don't even want to look for that "real job" and am kinda regretting wasting the time and money on my degree. But what's done is done, I can't and wouldn't want to give the degree back, and I did learn some valuable things... just not job skills. I quit dancing for awhile to try the mundane life of scraping by with waitressing... I hate hate hated it! I can't even describe how antsy I am to go back to dancing and try camming again (I gave up after a short stint, but want to give it another go). The first time around I just saw it as something I dragged myself to 3 days a week to get some cash in the bank and camming was just an experiment, but this time I want to try to take it seriously and treat it as my real job.

    The people in my life are the exact same way - in the last couple months of college, they'd all ask "so do you have a job yet?" I'd be like "Yeeeah... you know I work at the SC" and they'd be like "No, I mean a real job." And now that I'm jobless again and preparing to go back to sex work, I have everyone asking what I'll do and my bf trying to convince me to apply to certain bars/restaurants... I know they all mean well... I know it's hard for anybody to understand why anyone would go into the sex industry in the first place - it's almost impossible for outsiders to understand why anyone who's left it would want to go back. But they just don't understand the freedom it brings...
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    OMG I hate that. The whole "Still don't have a job? No a real job."
    Ummm...yeah did you not hear me when I told you I had a job? Lol I just laugh it off now.

    Do YOU have a real job? I hardly think working 5 days a week for 8 hours at $8 an hour is a job. More like indentured servitude

    Indentured servant- Indentured servitude refers to the historical practice of contracting to work for a fixed period of time in exchange for only the basis necessities such as transportation, food, clothing and, and lodging during the term of indenture

    Wait that wouldn't apply because I couldn't afford lodging or transportation while working my last job. So I take that back lol


    I'm just joking. Technically I'm no better than people who put me down for my job if I do the same. If it makes the happy then more power to them.

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    I went to university for a DOUBLE major, psychology and theatre. Now I take my clothes off for a living instead. Word! (Moahaha and I use what I learned in both in this job but in a MUCH more self satifying way!)

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    I can definitely relate to what y'all are talking about, re: your time camming beginning as a 'stop-gap' on the way to a more socially-acceptable capital-O 'Occupation'. I started camming because I was doing two degrees at once and I didn't have time to work a regular-hour job, yet I didn't want to graduate saddled with any debt. I figured I'd be in and out in 18 months, tops.
    Even when I got my vanilla job which I adore, I knew I'd keep camming, because the work that I love doesn't pay alot (or in terms of my volunteer activities, at all), and I wanna do ish I care about, but still live comfortably.
    I think I got hooked on the challenge as much as the $$$, I love that I, the antithesis of an entreprenure, can design and shape my place in this field and actually succeed...it makes me feel amazing, and incredibly successful in a way that anyone who thinks that all we do is 'get naked' won't understand. Like you Breanna, I feel incredibly proud of the skills I've accquired through camming...we all should.
    Wtf is a 'real' job anyway? One that doesn't make our distant relatives squirm with discomfort at family functions when someone asks what we're up to these days? Yes, this business can be temporal, in that alot of us won't be camming into our 50's and 60's, but ANY job can end at anytime, and anyone who isn't planning for their future in any field (through expanding/honing their repertoire) is risking alot. 'Adult' or 'vanilla' has nothing to do with that.
    I love that working for a multinational that uses export production zones, wreaks havoc on the environment or just simply destroys one's soul with it's monotony is moral and acceptable, but what WE do is considered obscene or at best, an embarrasing phase we'll hopefully grow out of.
    I'm pretty lucky in that my close family and close friends are fine with what I do, but whenever I reveal the camming part of my life to a new person, they're SHOCKED -the implication being that anyone with intelligence, marketable skills and viable alternative sources of income would never embrace 'adult' work.
    I've given up trying to explain myself to people. I don't care about their judgement and I certainly don't need their career advice. I think that's the greatest skill I've learned through this business...I'm far less accomodating of other people's bullshit, and I have the confidence to define my own norms. Anything else just seems exhausting, and not worth my time
    peace and $$$

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    I started dancing seven years ago - and the longer I am in the industry, the more the goalposts move!!

    When I started, it was part-time, a couple nights a week on top of my office job. It was fun, it was a release, and it made me some extra money. I was studying as well, and it was really nice to not be stressed about money, but only be working a couple extra nights. I thought that I would just do it for a few months.

    Then I lost my day job (it was part time, they made it full time, I couldn't be full time and study, so they paid me off and I left). I debated looking for another day job, but I was loving dancing, so I decided just to dance and study. Just till I finished school.

    Then I finished the degree, and decided that I would keep dancing...just a little longer. Just till I was 25. I figured that by the ripe old age of 25, I would be sorted, and done with dancing.

    Well, I moved to a new country at 24, and after having stopped dancing for a guy, decided that I needed to take it back up - just till I got myself sorted in Canada. I would definitely still be done at 25.

    Then 25 rolled around. I had just started working in my dream industry (a tattoo shop!!) as a shop girl...but it was just one day a week. Hmmm....guess I should keep dancing. Just till my hours picked up.

    Then I started apprenticing to tattoo...and, you guessed it. Guess I should keep dancing to pay for all the equipment, keep some time free to draw and apprentice. But I'll DEFINITELY be retired by the time I'm 30, right?

    At 26, I did finally quit dancing. Well, took a sabbatical. To cam. I'll be 30 (that next milestone) in 3 years. I can't imagine being done with the adult industry by then. Actually, I can't imagine EVER being done. I love tattooing, and I can't imagine my life without art either. So I've finally come to terms with the fact that this will never be a "just until" job for me. I've stopped excusing it (so to speak - we all know how people can be - its only ok if you are planning to stop) and saying that I will retire "soon". I will retire when I stop loving it, when I stop growing in it, when I stop making money at it.

    I have done this job my entire adult life. And a lot of other jobs. This is the one (of two!) for me. I will do porn and tattoos till I am too arthritic to hold a machine/dildo!!!
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    I wanted to do this since I was like 14. While my other teen friends were idolizing male celebrities, I was idolizing female porn stars. Went to undergrad and grad for psychology, danced, and now I cam. I like the idea of owning my own business that does not rely on the foot traffic in a club, but rather the traffic I create. I like the whole branding & marketing aspect as well, and I like personally being in control of EVERYTHING.

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    I agree! I love camming, I did a few porn movies, but camming is wonderful! I mean what other job can I make my own hours, work from home or where ever the hell I want and make great money! I literally can make however much I want depending on how much effort and time I put into it...take a break when I want, and if I'm tired I leave early for the day! lol ....Oh and did I mention I get to occasionally cum on the job. I love that I own my own business and I am in complete control of everything!

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    "When ya' gonna get a real job?"

    I've been hearing that b.s. for years now. Long before I ever considered going back into the adult industry. I've made a living in the vanilla entertainment industry for the past few years (paid the rent and everything). My mom still tells me I have no life because I'm not married, with a $60k/yr job, with a house and a car. (Oddly enough, I might have half those things in a year doing what I do now.)

    Despite all that, I have to realize that I've done a lot of things that people could only wish they could do, and I'm about scratch a lot more shit off my bucket list within the 2 years. (Tour the US, go to Europe and Asia, graduate college, buy a house, swim with dolphins, lmao.)

    The best way I've dealt with things over the years is to: "Let my haters be my motivators." (Though not to a Count of Mont Cristo/V for Vendetta sense.)

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    I totally agree that this has made me stronger. I only planned on doing it for awhile, also. But I feel like I have grown so much. For one, I know that if I have children. . I will keep a VERY steady watch on them ALL the time! I no longer desire attention in provocative ways whenever I am around other males. In fact, as ironic as this may sound, I feel I have turned into a lady in real life when it comes to men. I want this guy to truly value me for me, and keep the goods for later after I know he appreciates, respects, trusts, and really knows me. I have developed a thick skin for anybody who tries to "freeload" or manipulate me in real life. I only hang around the loving people in my family and stick to only friends that are really worth holding onto and are loyal. I don't go for fast food runs all the time and I cook dinner almost every night. (From being at home all the time, haha) I have business sense and feel more, I don't know, smart for the real world because I have true business sense and I can make my own decisions.

    I know I never want to work for a boss every again. And that I deserve to be valued. I don't really understand how it is this job that made me feel this way, but I am glad it did. Now I just have to get over the irony of telling this to my future soulmate. :0

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    Hmmm, a real job. That's funny. I don't think I'll ever get tired of smirking at people when they say that. Pretty sure my money is very real.

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    From what I hear you need to be miserable in order for it to be considered a "real job" lol. I used to be a ballroom dance competitor and that wasn't considered a real job either but for some reason every job that caused me misery was. Hmmm...I see a trend here!

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    (job)

    n.

    1. A regular activity performed in exchange for payment, especially as one's trade, occupation, or profession.
    I don't see anything in that definition that says I need to slave away at Walmart for $9/hr.







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    Yeah I'd been working my way towards a fairly useless art based degree with the goal of teaching in mind. That's out the window now for pretty obvious reasons. I'm still a semester away from my BA, but it just feels like a waste of cam time these days.

    Deciding to cam pretty much changed my entire career path. I've always been obsessed with sexy internet ladies and I spent awhile as a photographer for a soft core porn site, but since I decided to really get my feet wet I haven't looked back.


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    My feelings exactly! I just wanted to do sexwork for a few months for a bit of extra pocket money. A few months ago I tried a vanilla job. I'm going to quit on Monday, it's real scary out there! I'm too used to being my own boss, making my own decisions, not having to deal with stupid bosses and stupid co-workers...I'm a massage therapist (not the erotic type), and I find it increasingly hard to bear that real life clients can't be muted, kicked or banned. If someone is being a jerk, I can't just log off and have a nice cup of tea and just chill. The fact that if I have something else to do or I'm sick, I have to call my boss and ask her to let me have that one free day, drives me crazy. I'm too used to being able to be with my family , to read, to do my cross-stitch, to watch my favourite TV show, to listen to music all day, to be lazy and get up only at 12 AM, to be able to afford things, often without worrying about the price tag...The thing is, sexwork, and especially camming spoiled me big time and I can't be grateful enough for this job!

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    Even when I got my vanilla job which I adore, I knew I'd keep camming, because the work that I love doesn't pay alot (or in terms of my volunteer activities, at all), and I wanna do ish I care about, but still live comfortably.
    this.

    i lost my job and quit grad school and freaked out and didn't know what the fuck i was going to do. i mean, i had lots of ideas - but i was islanded in a city with no support system by myself and couldn't find another job to at least pay the rent until i could afford to move. so i went back to sex work (i used to be a prostitute), but was afraid to prostitute where i was living so i looked into pornography and camming. my plan was to cam til i found a job, then use that job to pay for moving. in the meantime i was (and still am) doing a lot of freelance work and volunteering, but it's not paying all the bills. then it became cam til i could move and find a job in my new city. and now i'm to the point where i can actually pay the bills mostly with camming so i am pushing myself to expand - work more hours, sell content, stuff like that. so i'm camming to make up the difference for bills, pay off debt, and save money, while i do freelance work that i enjoy (speaking, consulting, designing) and volunteer work that i love.

    i was planning to only do it for a few more years and thinking about going back to school once i save some more and and pay off some debt. but now that camming and my non-adult stuff is really starting to take off in the last year, i'm actually kind of ambivalent about going back to grad school. we'll see how things go but yep, my goals have definitely changed since i started.

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