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    Every Christmas I am reminded of what was perhaps the saddest thing I've ever encountered dancing and I have dealt with a lot.

    It started right around Christmas 1996. By then I was doing a lot of modeling and bachelor parties with the occasional club. However, the parties were pretty much drying up so I figured I would go back to club dancing. I went to a club a dancer I previously worked with recommended and was hired on the spot. The owner seemed very happy and nice to work for. I met a few of the dancers and they loved working with him. He would take dancers to the casino down the street once a week and would often have parties for them. House was cheap too and if you sold a certain amount of drinks a night it was free. There was no schedule either. It was somewhat of a dive but the money was flowing and I made several hundred the two nights I was there. I remarked to another dancer that I now had money to pay my bills and buy gifts. The rules were very lenient too, basically the rule was you didn't turn tricks. I then took off Saturday with the plan of returning on Tuesday (they were closed Sunday and Monday). After dealing with a string of low paying clubs and managers who were assholes I was happy. I figured that I could stay there for awhile and make good money with little hustling.

    It was not to be. When I arrived on Tuesday there were cops there. My first thought was it was being raided. Having danced awhile I became used to this. No, what happened was far worse. The owner had been killed driving on the street and was hit by another car that slid on the road. At first I was stunned because I believed it was a rumor. The club was closed and I drove home. I called the police along with various other places the next day and it was confirmed, he died. This was only a week or so before Christmas which made it even sadder. In the club it was all decorated with a tree and he told me he was planning a party for all the dancers and other employees and was looking forward to that.

    15 years later I am always reminded of this. His son got ownership of the bar and turned it into something else (Italian restaurant I believe). It never reopened.

    Who else has sad memories?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    Every Christmas I am reminded of what was perhaps the saddest thing I've ever encountered dancing and I have dealt with a lot.

    It started right around Christmas 1996. By then I was doing a lot of modeling and bachelor parties with the occasional club. However, the parties were pretty much drying up so I figured I would go back to club dancing. I went to a club a dancer I previously worked with recommended and was hired on the spot. The owner seemed very happy and nice to work for. I met a few of the dancers and they loved working with him. He would take dancers to the casino down the street once a week and would often have parties for them. House was cheap too and if you sold a certain amount of drinks a night it was free. There was no schedule either. It was somewhat of a dive but the money was flowing and I made several hundred the two nights I was there. I remarked to another dancer that I now had money to pay my bills and buy gifts. The rules were very lenient too, basically the rule was you didn't turn tricks. I then took off Saturday with the plan of returning on Tuesday (they were closed Sunday and Monday). After dealing with a string of low paying clubs and managers who were assholes I was happy. I figured that I could stay there for awhile and make good money with little hustling.

    It was not to be. When I arrived on Tuesday there were cops there. My first thought was it was being raided. Having danced awhile I became used to this. No, what happened was far worse. The owner had been killed driving on the street and was hit by another car that slid on the road. At first I was stunned because I believed it was a rumor. The club was closed and I drove home. I called the police along with various other places the next day and it was confirmed, he died. This was only a week or so before Christmas which made it even sadder. In the club it was all decorated with a tree and he told me he was planning a party for all the dancers and other employees and was looking forward to that.

    15 years later I am always reminded of this. His son got ownership of the bar and turned it into something else (Italian restaurant I believe). It never reopened.

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    A dancer at my club who was really nice (to me, not to everyone) was found dead naked in the hills last year. It made me sad because we would talk about things together sometimes like stalker-y men we've encountered and our beloved cats. A lot of girls were bothered by her death but they wouldn't talk about it. It was then that I decided I didn't really want to dance anymore... at least not at a home club.

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    That is sad, how did she die? I once worked with a dancer with a lot of drug problems and she became a drug addicted streetwalker. Another dancer I knew died but wasn't close to her.

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    A dancer I'd gone to Avalon's strip and grow rich school was killed. She was involved with an abusive boyfriend.

    We talked on the phone a lot and texted; she was planning on coming to Colorado for a visit and work trip. But I got a text from Avalon shortly thereafter that she was shot, most likely by her abuser.
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    One of my former hustle buddies was raped by a friend of the manager's at a club in LV. No one ever acknowledged it, and I've lost contact with her.

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    =( How sad.

    For me it's just seeing girls strung out or in abusive relationships.

    Those are really extreme.

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    1 of the girl I worked with (that was loved by all) died of an overdose after years of drug abuse, but it was more for the fact getting arrested actually got her clean & then when she returned to dancing her tolerance wasn't what it used to be.

    Anyhow she died young & beautiful. I wasn't there during this time, but we are a small club & alot of girls were tight with her. I almost had a thing with her, but I stayed away cuz I knew she did 2 many drugs. Anyhow every1 went to the funeral & wore black dresses in honor of her for weeks. She was no angel, but she was a badass on stage & she was always meant to be that stripper that died young. Ironically her mother passed away a few years ago & she finally was going to inherit quite a bit of money where she wouldn't of needed to dance anymore that the rest of her family didn't want her to have. We were more her family then any other living member of her own family was & I think it was her mothers early death & the battle of her unsupportive family that drove her to abuse drugs the way she did.

    I felt so bad cuz she was always so nice to me & while I really liked her I felt really bad that I didn't even try to save her from herself, cuz I was afraid I would get sucked in & fall for her. Parts of me wish I had been a better friend & just tried cuz the naked photo she give me & the memories of all our lil flirtations are all I have left of a girl who I cared about & made me smile every time she was on my shift that honestly had so much more in life to experience & passed away way to young.

    There was another story of a local dancer that like me was a lesbian stripper--anyhow she hustled this 1 guy hard were he felt lead on & like ripped off cuz she didn't want to be with him or have sex with him or any man. Well he followed her to a local after work stripper hangout where outside of the club he got her to talk to him while he was in his car. Last thing people saw was him pushing her into his car & she was later found cut into pieces left in a shipping box. It could happen to any dancer dealing with an obsessive psychotic customer that felt comfortable enough to get too close outside where bouncers can't protect you, but in a way it was a hate crime cuz this man was that upset that this dyke took his money & was not interested.

    I never play the lead on game some other girls do & I make a point of telling my customers upfront pretty much that I'm a lesbian they have no real chance with when they get into the gf experience or way too sexually aggressive phase just cuz even just giving lds I have had some guys take my sexuality like how could I dare dance for them which I think is stupid as obviously I'm hott, I can dance, & I enjoy being a sexy tease but no where do I remember having to be interested in all customers of the male sex for paying me for dances. Even if I was str8 odds are I would only be attracted to a select few guys that probably knowing my superficiality would be way to sexy of a person to ever feel the need to buy more then just a tease for the sake of having fun from a woman yet alone be dumb enough to think I'm that ez I can be bought & for that cheap.

    Anyhow that was all pretty depressing news to hear about.
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    I danced on & off at one club for years with a girl who was severely anorexic. She would live off sugar-free soda, black instant coffee & pieces of paper/cotton wool. When I asked management why they continued to put someone so unwell on shift, they explained that they were not sure what else to do & felt a sense of responsibility toward her.

    By the time I moved on to another club her teeth and hair were starting to fall out.

    Eventually a distressed & concerned customer emailed the CEO about what he'd seen on a recent visit to the club, and the dancer was let go... she was too frail to do her job anymore.

    I later found out that she died a few years later, her body just gave up on her. I don't think she had a very strong support network and I wish I'd known at the time how I could have helped her better. As a bunch of concerned teenage strippers armed with eating disorder pamphlets we were all ill-equipped to handle the situation.

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    At my current club, one of the veteran dancer's daughter died about a couple of months ago in a very tragic freak incident while she was at work - she was only 6 years old

    All of us were in such shock about it. She's well-liked by practically every girl in the place...we talked about our children (our daughter's are around the same age), and she was super cool and helpful to me when I first started; gave me some good advice.

    It was very sad.

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    Another dancer and I had been sitting with one of our regular customers. We had been doing dances, drinking, and hanging out for hours. This customer frequently got double dances- and we'd take turns sitting on his lap while the other danced for the two of us. When she left, one of the other dancers drove her car home while somebody followed. This dancer later, still drunk decided she wanted to go see her ex husband (who lived about 10 minutes away). She slammed into a tree and died on her way to his house.
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    I've watched two dancer friends (one I also dated for a short time) slowly destroy their lives on pain killers. They went from really happy, fun-loving girls to horribly depressed, isolated, emotional wrecks with deadbeat boyfriends/lovers. The last time I saw one of them we were talking and she was so high she fell asleep mid sentence as she was putting her makeup on. Both of them have disappeared and sometimes I wonder where they are now. I hope they find help some day before its too late. I still miss my ex-girl terribly.

    This post also makes me think of another girl I didn't get to know that well. She was a sweetheart, but was dating this old, ugly guy who beat her and made her come into work every day. When she wasn't zoned out on xanies, she was crying about something. Some of the girls found her annoying, but I just couldn't help but feel so bad for her. I wanted to help, but there wasn't really anything I could do. She got fired last week for having a major meltdown in front of the customers. She used to always dance to that Lil Wayne song "How to Love". Now whenever I hear it I think about her...

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    Saddest event I heard about happened while I was out of town on a traveling gig...came back and asked where Evelyn (not her real name) was...they had to inform me that she'd died ON STAGE two weeks before- just collapsed of a heart attack..and she was only 22!
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    I just found out one of my friends was murdered. When I saw her last she was getting out of an abusive relationship. Sorry to say I lost touch with her. RIP Ashes, a beautiful woman inside and out. I love you.
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    Sorry to hear all these stories. Sorry Tempest on your loss.

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    A girl at my club committed suicide a few days before Thanksgiving. She was a beautiful girl, always smiling and seemed happy. Only 19 years old. My friend told me her aunt and brother had disowned her for being a dancer shortly before this happened. One night at work, two other dancers she knew started bullying her. She hung herself that night.

    It breaks my heart that she felt so alone it drove her to kill herself. What makes it even worse is the two dancers (who have bullied other girls in the past) sent her over the edge that night. The whole thing is just so sad, even though I didn't really know her it upsets me

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    While sitting in the dressing room, we all watched a fellow dancer pick up her cell phone; it was a call from her baby sitter. She collapsed in shock, dropped the phone and was crying so hard she couldn't breathe; her face was turning blue. Everyone was crowding around her and it was difficult to make out what she was saying, but apparently what happened was the death of her 4 year old daughter. She had massive heart failure and her heart literally just exploded inside of her chest....a freak accident. She had no past medical history. It was enough to make me go home for the rest of the night, because seeing a mother's reaction to the death of her child, who happens to be my daughter's age, was unbearable to watch.

    Next would be the destruction of a dancer who became a somewhat close friend. She lost custody of her daughter, succumbed to alcoholism and was fired by the club, because in a drunken stupor, she harbored delusional and paranoid ideas about other dancers and often caused outbreaks. She announced that she was planning to move to Vegas, with a man she'd met in our club. She was planning on kidnapping her daughter and taking her with them. The night before she left, I was asking about her plans for living in the city, dancing, etc. She told me this man had great money and would take care of her, because she desperately wanted to stop dancing. The most shocking thing she ever told me was "he has bitches going out and making his money, but I'm not one of them"............so she moved to Vegas, with her innocent daughter, to live with a pimp. I haven't heard from her since; her number is disconnected and she hasn't been on facebook. I can really only assume the worst.
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    This thread is very informative yet depressing...So many sad stories. Its important to focus on the good memories that were had with the deceased and abused. Its hard to do that bc the sadness brings u down..But remembering and acknowledging a memory is one thing ..Dwelling on it isnt healthy though.

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    There are a lot of sad stories. I have known quite a few girls who got messed up with things but the accident about the owner was sad because it was an accident, I never got to see where things would go, and that it came before Christmas. For me it's one of those questions because no idea where I'd be. Would I have worked there longer or would he have shown himself to be a typical owner? I'll never know.

    I don't get why so many dancers get mixed up with the worst guys, like the one who got with a pimp.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    There are a lot of sad stories. I have known quite a few girls who got messed up with things but the accident about the owner was sad because it was an accident, I never got to see where things would go, and that it came before Christmas. For me it's one of those questions because no idea where I'd be. Would I have worked there longer or would he have shown himself to be a typical owner? I'll never know.

    I don't get why so many dancers get mixed up with the worst guys, like the one who got with a pimp.

    Ive never had a pimp or anything but I do believe I know why women do get involved with a pimp. Some women r not independent mentally and rely upon the direction of others. Other girls r easily tempted by drugs and other such things that a pimp could hook a girl with. Some prefer to be told what to do. Its awful I rely do not have much experience well really any with the subject but those r all just my hypotheses. I remember when a friend told me of a certain celebrities' girls and how u could tell by what they r wearing that they r his girls...that was crazy..

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    A girl I worked with in Atlanta died last year. She was beautiful, but had a lot of family problems and was recovering from a really violent rape... like had severe PTSD. She abused her anxiety medicine quite a bit, and drank a worrisome amount.

    I got a call saying she had accidentally killed herself. She had a cold, and drank a bottle of nyquil on top of a lot of vodka and valium. She was so sedated that she rolled face first into her pillow while sleeping, and didn't roll back over.

    I can't say as I was surprised, but it's still terrible.

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    There are an unbelievable number of painkiller addicts in the area I work in and some of these girls really break my heart because they really want to get clean but most of them have no job prospects and they have kids so they have to dance to make money to live and they just can't keep off the pills in that environment. And they can't afford to go to rehab, and it's such a huge problem that the free programs are hard to get into. It's a vicious cycle.

    As long as I live I'll never be able to forget one girl sobbing hysterically in the back and calling herself a fuck up and a piece of shit and wishing she was dead because she's ODed multiple times and has literally lost everything because of her addiction.

    Another girl had to have surgery on the veins in her arms because she'd shot up so much that they were completely fucked.

    Yet another girl I know had a heart attack at work a few weeks ago and she's only in her early twenties. But the fortunate thing there is that she's now in an extended rehab program and I hope to god it works because she really is a sweet person.

    Another one that will always bother me is a girl who when she first started would tell me she loved how I danced and would ask me for tips on how to do better, and I'd answer her questions because I try to help new girls when I can. She started off clean and then got hooked on painkillers and as the months passed I watched her eyes go dead and by the time they fired her she was known as the dirtiest girl in the club. It was so sad because she was a stunningly beautiful girl and if she'd been off the pills she'd have been making gobs of money as a clean dancer, but on the pills she was so out of it and looked so sick that I guess she felt she had to suck dick to get by.

    My club is in the process of trying to clean things up and they recently fired most of the addicts so I haven't really had to see it so much lately but while I am glad to not have to work with them I can't help but be sympathetic. Some of them are manipulative shit asses and would be that way on or off drugs, but some of them are also just stuck in bad situations with no idea of how to get out.

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    Here is a different one. I worked at a club for a semester while I was in college. The club was off on a highway so most of the patrons were truck drivers or guys who came out there specifically. One of the regulars was a guy who lived about 2 miles up the road. He was very popular with all the girls and was very friendly. He made me feel at home very quickly. He would bring groups of friends to the club as well as hold his fantasy football draft. He was just very social and enjoyed the scene. I happened to be working the night of his "going away party". I was told that he was an officer in the Army reserves and was deploying to Afghanistan. About two months later, I came into work and saw that a couple of the girls were upset. I found out he had been killed by a roadside bomb. I didn't know him that well, but I knew that guys like him come around once in a rare while.

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