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    I've heard people say things like "don't become a stripper, you'll regret it."

    Which makes me wonder: Do you or anybody you know regret the decision to do camming, stripping, etc?

    Personally - I've been thinking about this for a few years on and off. I feel a very strong desire to do it and I've been thinking about it almost obsessively. I've always been drawn to things that society sees as "taboo" or odd. I know it's not glamorous, but I feel like this is the right fit for me in my life right now in so many ways.

    It sounds like some people regret not planning out finances thoroughly. Or not having another skill/career to fall back on. I'm not worried about this personally - I'm very meticulous with my finances and I'm modest with my spending, and I have other skills that I want to continue to develop and perhaps turn into a business (with help of camming money). I know I'd feel empty just stripping full time for 15 years.

    But I have to wonder if it's *possible* to have regret 5 or 10 years down the line. I'm young, so a lot could change in that time. I have other career ideas, too, but if my stripping background became an issue then there are other similar options I could pursue.

    Anyway....enough with my ranting. In short, I'm feeling really good about it right now, I just wonder about the possibility of having different feelings about it ten years from now. Then again, I could just as well regret not doing something I wanted to when I was young.

    When people say "you'll regret it", what are they basing that off of? It seems like people just base it off of their own morals, not that of the stripper/performer.

    I just want to add also that a lot of the experienced strippers here seem like really intelligent and down to earth people. It makes me wonder what kind of life experiences successful strippers have gone through to embrace a "taboo" career path with such confidence (those who enjoy it). I really respect people who can dance to their own beat and not give a shit about what others think. We live in such a conformist, closed minded society (but I think we're moving forward, thankfully for the creative and bright individuals).

    Edit: Sorry, this should probably be in the life forum lol.
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    I've seen girls regret stripping and girls regret camming but mostly for different reasons. Stripping seems to cause more PTSD due to handsy customers and feeling exploited on stage down the line, but it does NOT follow you everywhere. Its more of a mental health thing, and also becoming addicted to fast money. Camming, on the other hand, seems to cause more regret because it will always come back to haunt you should you go into a career that cares (which is probably ~80% of them). Its usually pretty easy to detach yourself from some guy behind a computer screen, but the material will follow you wherever you will go, and forever. The longer you cam, the more likely it is that you'll be exposed.

    P.S. I would not be surprised at all if something similar happens like Porn Wikileaks (where all the pornstars got their name/address/health stuff exposed online) to the camming world. Would not surprise me at all, but that's because I came into this industry out of genuine interest in the industry.

    So no, I don't regret it, and I don't think I ever will. But really, you shouldn't rely on this line of work forever because the industry changes fast & changes often.

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    Yes of course it is possible to have regrets. I've only been at this for just over a year. If someone IRL found out about this and I was fired from my vanilla job, I would probably regret it.

    There is quite a bit at risk in doing camming or stripping and it's really up to you if you want to take those risks.

    Personally, I wouldn't take these risks if I was going into something like teaching or working with kids in any way. I don't personally feel like camgirls or strippers shouldn't deal with kids but a lot of people do and it could risk you your career. I do office work, it doesn't matter the same way.
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    I have ZERO regrets about getting into camming or getting into the adult industry. I've been in the adult industry one way or another for quite a while now... I don't anticipate any regrets coming up later.

    However, I can see why a lot of girls do have regrets about it. It's something to consider before starting or getting too far in.
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    Yeah that's why I don't think I'd be able to do it at a strip club. The idea of doing it on cam is much easier for me.

    The idea of people knowing I do it doesn't bother me too much, but the idea of somebody like my parents seeing my videos is pretty disturbing, lol. But I just remind myself that there's soooooooo much porn out there, the chances are pretty unlikely. And it's not like I plan on being in a movie or becoming famous with it. (I wouldn't want that) I don't feel ashamed of my body.

    I'm not too worried about future employers finding out, there are a lot of things I can do like having my own business. Or being an advocate for sex workers.

    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    I've seen girls regret stripping and girls regret camming but mostly for different reasons. Stripping seems to cause more PTSD due to handsy customers and feeling exploited on stage down the line, but it does NOT follow you everywhere. Its more of a mental health thing, and also becoming addicted to fast money. Camming, on the other hand, seems to cause more regret because it will always come back to haunt you should you go into a career that cares (which is probably ~80% of them). Its usually pretty easy to detach yourself from some guy behind a computer screen, but the material will follow you wherever you will go, and forever. The longer you cam, the more likely it is that you'll be exposed.

    P.S. I would not be surprised at all if something similar happens like Porn Wikileaks (where all the pornstars got their name/address/health stuff exposed online) to the camming world. Would not surprise me at all, but that's because I came into this industry out of genuine interest in the industry.

    So no, I don't regret it, and I don't think I ever will. But really, you shouldn't rely on this line of work forever because the industry changes fast & changes often.

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    I would like to cam I would just hate it if it prevented me from becoming a rehab therapist for kids

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    Wow, I just spent like an eternity writing to this post, and I guess I took way too long, and it signed me out...lol.

    Anyways I will just keep it short and simple.

    No I don't regret camming. My family knows, my friends know, I don't keep this a secret, except for people I don't know, obviously I wouldn't advertise myself.

    I think there are risks with anything in life. Unless I was planning to work for the government or be a teacher, a politician, or in the public eye, I wouldn't even consider camming.

    But I work for small corporate companies, and small businesses so camming has not been an issue with where I have worked, or where I plan to work in the future and I have been doing this the last almost 5 years of my life.

    I like to live one day at a time, and be happy. Camming makes me happy, it helps me pay my bills, put food on the table, and take care of my kids. If I died tomorrow, I die knowing I tried my best to do what I can.

    If camming were illegal I wouldn't consider it at all, but it's not so what the hell? So what it's taboo, and it's not the norm? Who cares what people think? It's our lives we have to live. I think as long as we are good people, we aren't out stealing or robbing a bank to get by, so what do they care?

    If you come into this industry have common sense. It's not for everyone, and if you feel weird, or embarrassed, or you are worried about the what if's then don't do it.

    At the end of the day, do what makes YOU happy. That is all.




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    I regret stripping knowing I couldve done webcam and been happier. I regret allowing management in the clubs exploit me and getting naked for free. I regret being so damn naive. I feel camming gives me more artistic expression and I'm not as oppresed as I was working at the clubs. Some people say u should research and know what youre getting yourself into....I think u won't really know unless u just do it. Same can be said for any industry. Stripping taught me a lot about human nature but I'm happy to be done with it.

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    I stripped and it was one hell of a ride and changed my life, not sure if for the better or for the worse, but I don't regret it and I'm exactly where I want to be. I don't think I'll regret camming either. The ONLY reason I would regret it would be if it ended up hurting someone close to me, but all that shit can be mended and blown over. I'm sorry the money is worth a relative being embarrassed for like a month than blowing over because no one will give a shit anymore.

    I guess people think you'll look back and feel shame? I don't know, I'm not religious and I think any shame from sexuality comes from religion. Religion put that negative social stigma in promiscuity. Other wise, sex is just another bodily act. My beliefs are secular, so I feel no shame. A masseuse uses their body to make you feel good, a comedian goes on stage to make you laugh, I do my shows to make you cum. I'm in the service sector like everyone else, my industry is just adult. I don't know.
    At times I do feel kind of bad though honestly like I'm furthering the objectification of women, but what can i do. The world is a cruel place and I gotta eat. And I'm eating good. I at least try to handle myself when I'm on cam in a manner that doesn't tolerate disrespect or being degraded (unless it's agreed upon role play of course). I try to look at it like I'm not making money off letting guys degrade me, but i'm making money off of guys weakness and inability to resist because they're so dumb and think we're just objects. As long as I know who I am, I think I'll be okay. This lifestyle is so boss though, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm just not that kind of vanilla girl to live a conventional, normal life. I dont think ill regret anything.

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    Quote Originally Posted by xfatrabbitx View Post
    At times I do feel kind of bad though honestly like I'm furthering the objectification of women, but what can i do. The world is a cruel place and I gotta eat. And I'm eating good. I at least try to handle myself when I'm on cam in a manner that doesn't tolerate disrespect or being degraded (unless it's agreed upon role play of course). I try to look at it like I'm not making money off letting guys degrade me, but i'm making money off of guys weakness and inability to resist because they're so dumb and think we're just objects. As long as I know who I am, I think I'll be okay. This lifestyle is so boss though, I wouldn't trade it for anything. I'm just not that kind of vanilla girl to live a conventional, normal life. I dont think ill regret anything.
    I HATE HATE HATE that argument! "Its sad so&so is selling their body in the adult industry for $$$!" Its like BITCH don't you realize YOU are selling YOUR BODY too as you're paid $7/hr to fold clothes for a living or prepare legal documents for someone or take care of sick people or whatever else your job is?? Sorry, but YOU are the one being exploited working long, strenuous hours for probably inadequate pay. "Oh but since I work for someone, my job is secure!" No, no its NOT!! "Oh but we actually use our brains!" WELL GUESS WHAT, today in the adult world you must be a smart business person or you will make nothing & your competition will swallow you whole right before your eyes. I mean, seriously. Ugh. Stop letting yourself get fed by the media & instead, create your own business & make media work FOR you.

    Do what makes you happy. And don't work for someone else if you don't want to. Our whole world is warped and jaded, I swear.

    And "objectification" of women is going to happen regardless. Its a sad fact that we live in a society where people judge you based on what you look like. We all do it. I'm sure you've all seen someone whose conventionally ugly or really overweight and you joke to your friend "oh look I found your next boyfriend!" or something, right? And men are born wired to be visual creatures, so there's not much that can be done about that...

    P.S. This was solely directed toward anti-adult industry people.

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    A-fucking-men GlamourRouge. My body is mine whether I'm flipping burgers for $7 or dancing about for $100.


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    The one thing I know I will regret is not being smart enough or hard working enough to make even more $$$.

    Everything has a flip side.
    Women are bad cause they cam and do adult gigs?
    Well then... the men who PAID them are horrible cause not only they wanted them to ( aka paid), but they wanted them to multiple times!
    LOOOOL LOLOLOLL

    The " supply and demand" principle works here too.

    Ask all the men in this world to stop wanting and looking at porn.
    When that day comes WE. The Bad.Women. Will. Stop.

    I think the apocalypse might come sooner then this said day lol



    Plus:
    The fact that we are doing it for $$ and REFUSE to do it for FREE, proves that we are doing it out of "I need", not out of "I want".

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    My only regret is not doing this sooner.
    I have no shame
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    (Sorry about the novel)

    I think when people say "you'll regret it" it's because they got into sex work for the wrong reasons (maybe a bf pressured them), they felt they had no choice (couldn't find any other job to pay the bills), they allowed themselves to get sucked into the lifestyle and did things they didn't think they ever would (getting addicted to drugs, offering extras), or they didn't think ahead to the fact that they wanted to get into a job (like teaching, govt) where it would be a really big deal if it got out, and they got exposed and lost their job.

    Sometimes I am scared of being found out by my relatives. I also used to want to work for the FBI - I've pretty much given up on that, but part of me still worries 'what if one day?' So yes, I worry about it coming back to bite me in the ass by someone finding out who shouldn't, or it making it difficult for me to get some other job down the line. Honestly, though, if that happened, I wouldn't regret stripping or camming. I would be angry that our system is run in such a way that sex workers are somehow deemed incapable of performing any other job afterward. But I wouldn't blame me not finding a job on stripping or my decision to strip, and therefore regret it - I'd blame the dumbasses refusing to hire me based on some sort of moral superiority.

    Right now this is what makes me happy. I have no real strong desires to go into teaching or politics - it's not like it's my lifelong dream or anything - so any residual worry is pretty much over a 1% chance of 'what if' and I know it's not really something to concern myself with. I've done certain things during stripping that I regret - I've let my boundaries get crossed a couple times and didn't know how to handle myself properly in the beginning - but I can't blame stripping for that. I made a mistake, I learned my lessons, and now I'm a stronger person because of it. I can't say stripping hasn't had a few negative effects on me, but I can still recall the severe depression of being latched to a waitressing job I absolutely hated - everything can have negative consequences.

    Being a sex worker has made me serious about working out, eating right, and putting friends and family first. The main attraction of sex work, to me, is the freedom. I would rather shake my ass a few nights a week onstage or in front of a camera and be able to take Thanksgiving off, than have a "secure, real" job that pays me shit and orders me to work holidays. I am happy when I am healthy, financially secure, and free to live my life in the ways most important to me. Sex work gives me all that - plus, I've never felt any shame toward sex work. So regret would not be something I think I could feel toward the industry.

    When people say that "you'll regret it" - they're basing it off their own shitty experiences. Of course I don't think their experiences are any less real than mine, but when you have a traumatizing experience with something, it's often hard to imagine that anyone else could have a different (let alone good) experience with the same thing. They believe that "every stripper" does it for the same reasons, falls into the same traps, and comes out the other side in the same mangled state as them or their friends from the club. This industry is definitely not for everyone, and I would definitely not recommend it to everyone if I get the sense that they would become an "I regret it" girl. But take any warnings with an open mind and a grain of salt - learn from others' mistakes so you don't have to make them. And if you have no moral issues repelling you from the industry, I believe you can come out the other end with no regrets.
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    Bettie Paige regretted being a model. She became an evangelical Christian and has only acknowledged one time that yes, she is Bettie Paige.

    Erica Campbell, the 200something playmate retired because she got religion. I kinda think that women who "get religion" (as opposed to those like me who have it from the beginning and keep it) do so because they regret what they've done.

    I have a friend who was a very outspoken feminist and talked non-stop about how happy she was to be nude modeling and how she was really striking a blow for women and feminists ever. Then she took a hiatus, went to trade school, was in a bad accident that involved traumatic brain injury and now lives in near paralyzing regret of the things she's done. She's now as outspoken as she was on feminism that nobody should ever model nude and that anybody who does will regret it and regret ruining their lives and their families lives for the rest of all eternity.

    Me, I feel like (with the exception of stupid things that you've done and own up to the, foot in mouth moments and the, "oh, I was wrong" moments) you don't feel regret, other people make you feel regret. You know? I don't feel bad about what I've done because I don't feel like there's anything wrong with what I've done. However, if I were to want something and this kept me from doing it or if all the people around me pressured me to not do it I think I'd start to feel like I'd done wrong to do it in the first place.

    I also think that people who say, "you'll regret it" A)probably have little to no experience in the field (unless they tell you their credentials) and therefore aren't qualified to make a judgement and B)think that you'll regret it because they think that you are like them and they'd regret doing it if they were to do it, based on what they think it's like, therefore, since you're like them, you'll regret doing it. C)they would be embarrassed to know someone who does it, so they want to talk you out of doing it.


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    As far as regrets I've heard voiced from other women in the industry. I've heard:

    I regret that I made a lot of money and blew it all on stupid shit.
    -subset here, "that I blew it on drugs and am now addicted to..."

    I regret that I let that shitty boyfriend take all my money from me.

    I regret that I did this or that thing on camera for money because I really needed the money. (that's one I've felt from time to time)

    I regret that it hurt someone I know when they found out about what I do. (Me, I'm sad that my parents were sad at first, but it's my life and they see I'm happy so they eventually came around. Also I TOLD them as opposed to them FINDING OUT, which I think can help make it better or easier for them to get over)

    I regret that I thought this would never end and I have no education or job skills to fall back on.

    I regret that it has hurt my relationship with my children due to people who are jealous of me telling my children or trying to keep my children away from me.

    I regret that there are some jobs that I'm unable to get because my past would surface.

    I regret that there are jobs I'm unable to get because I can't list a mainstream work history for the past XX years.

    I regret that it's hard to get health insurance, a new car or a new apartment because I have no proof of income or employer to show paystubs for. (If you're camming you'll have paystubs but you might not want to show them to people)

    I regret that people are such shits that I can't talk with friends/family/people at the store about my job or what I do.


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    Oh, and I also think that a lot of people say "you'll regret it" because they only see strippers and stuff on like, Law and Order and so that's what they think all strippers are like.

    So anyway, as my multitudinous posts show, there are lots of things that one could regret. There are lots of things one could regret going into other fields too. I think that there are just as many things to gain here as to regret and there's no harm in trying it out to see.

    I think one of the reasons women who do regret the industry are so torn up about it is that an affront or offense to your sexuality is so much more personal than it would be somewhere else. So a customer at a retail job yells at you, so what? A cam client pressing a chargeback after you gave him a service he said was, "best he ever had" hurts. A guy at the tip rail shoving a dollar bill in your pussy or trying to put his cock in you during a lap dance is sexual assault that nobody will even listen to you about. "You asked for it" and all.

    Not only that, but a woman in the industry has few -if any- options for therapy and help. You go to a therapist and tell her a complete stranger tried to put his cock in you and she'll become alarmed and want to help you press charges and deal with PTSD. You tell the same therapist that this was in a strip club while he was paying you for a totally different service than the one he tried to force on you and 9 times out of 10 that therapist will put on blank therapist face and ask what your relationship was like with your father.

    I think that you'll be fine though. Think long and hard about what you might want to do in your future. Make sure to keep your limits conservative and check back in about expanding them once you feel comfortable. Take it slow and make sure you've got support and everything will be okay!


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    I'm with Brilynne - my only regret is not discovering this sooner! I wish I'd known about camming back in the late 90's when there was so much money to be made doing this and instead I was slaving away doing office work!

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    Also to add: it's true that many people regret sex work because someone they love found out and was upset with it, so they regret hurting someone close to them with their decision. I wish people who feel this way would simply be saddened that their loved ones can't listen to or support them instead of feeling regret for the choice. I wouldn't feel regret if this happened to me, because I've long ago made the decision that I simply can't live my life that way. If I'm going to regret every decision that upset someone else, I would regret my entire life! I would regret my job, my spirituality, my hair color, my piercings and tattoos, all my casual sex encounters, the few drugs I've tried, the fact that I didn't move back home after college, my major in college.... and so on and so forth infinitely! Every decision you make for yourself can piss off somebody else even if it technically doesn't hurt them or you in any real way. You can't sit there regretting your whole life just because somebody else, who doesn't know you as well as you know yourself, wouldn't have chosen it for you.
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    I do not regret choosing camming as my career, but I do wish I have done some things differently.

    The only thing that really bothers me about camming is:

    I was a foster child and I have always wanted to be a foster parent to help people in the situation I was in. Due to camming, I could never become a foster parent, etc.

    Things I wish I would have done differently:

    Work on my own personal website more

    Quit working on SM a long time ago...it has never been my favorite site, I am not 100% happy there but I have built up regs, etc so "leaving" is much more difficult now

    I am glad that I keep alot of my content non nude, but I wish I had less face pics out there. I know in some way shape or form it will end up out there anyways, but now I have so many pics out there it seems an impossible feat to find them, take them all down and replace them with more anononymous pictures.

    I wish I would put more effort towards working on websites. I have wanted to start a home based web design business for years now, but camming literally takes everything out of me. At the end of a long day, last thing I want to do is hop on the computer again to design.

    I wish I would put more effort towards affiliate programs. I really need a "passive income" because I have cammed for 7+ years alone. I do not know how I have not gone insane yet. I do not want to do video, c4s, this type of thing. I would eventually like to calm down on the camming and do more behind the scenes work, so working on content seems counterproductive to me.

    I wish I could accept that it is what it is, but I cant. I make great money, but I feel I am not reaching my full potential camming. I could make $1,000 a night every night, and still not be satisfied with what I have become. It is a great career and has alot of money making potential, but I am just not satisfied.

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    Camming has also made me a very lazy person. I wonder what I am missing out on out there sometimes. I wonder what other parts of life are passing me by, what other opportunities are passing me by as I sit at home on the pc for days on end.

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    All very true. If you want to see some good interviews with people who genuinely love this industry & are good at their jobs, watch Sasha Grey or Kayden Kross interviews.

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    I think that a LOT of people try to get into the industry, or get into it for a little bit, and then very much DO regret it.

    Bear in mind when you are in this forum, that we are women that are (for the most part) STILL WORKING. Which we wouldn't be doing if we felt horribly about it!

    Also bear in mind that these are not just women who are currently working, but women who take our jobs seriously enough to spend time researching, reaching out, and becoming part of a forum for discussion. What I'm saying is that I have found that SW represents the cream of the crop in our industry, and no one should base their decisions to enter the industry on the assumption that everyone in the industry is as happy, intelligent and generally awesome as the girls on here!
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    Anyway - that said.

    I do not regret my decision to get into this industry, and I have been in the adult industry for seven years now. I think that it is a fantastic fit with my personality, life, and goals, and I love it.

    I DO regret a few things, the usual stuff - not working enough hours when the money was really good (everyone who has worked for a while has a "back in the day" regret. Everyone.), not saving my money, not investing my money, getting involved in drugs, etc. I regret dragging out my time in a strip club that was not right for me before getting into camming, and wish that I had made the switch 6 months before I did.

    From your post, OP, it seems that you have a good head on your shoulders, and have considered these things, so I don't think that you would necessarily fall into the traps of wasted time/money/liver function...but it is always possible.

    Other women I know who regret it have regretted it becuase:

    - They don't know how to get OUT anymore. They are so used to the money that a basic retail/min wage job wouldn't support them, and they are really, really bad employees because they have forgotten how to work 40 hours a week! They have no job history or skills, and feel trapped in the industry.
    - They started without considering how it might affect their future careers, and are now wishing that they could teach/foster etc and can't. OR they still do teach/whatever but live constantly looking over their shoulder in case they are found out.


    There is also one, less discussed, but in my personal opinion, very, very common situation. This is where a girl will try to work in the industry, and do anything from one shift to one month before quitting, and who will feel disgusted, dirty, etc. They then feel like they can never take it back. I vividly remember watching a girl break down at the end of her first week at a strip club. She had barely made any money that week (maybe just enough to cover the outlay for her shoes/outfit/cabs home) and was sitting in a corner of the dressing room hugging her knees and BAWLING - makeup streaming down her face. She kept saying that she felt so dirty and wrong, that she felt cheap and couldn't beleive she had done this....

    This industry is really NOT for a lot of people. And if it isn't for you, and you try it anyway, the fallout can be absolutely awful. This is an image that is burned into my brain, and its something everyone should know. This isn't an easy industry. This isn't for everyone. And that is a horrible regret to have.
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    I was a foster child and I have always wanted to be a foster parent to help people in the situation I was in. Due to camming, I could never become a foster parent, etc.
    Are all adoption agencies like this? Is it just sort of a personal preference thing - they personally believe that sex workers can't make good parents and they wouldn't put foster children with them? Or is there actually some sort of law against it? I know it would be tough even if there is no law, but is it a completely hopeless case?
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