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    I am curious about something, being a BF to a stripper, well we have been dating for 2 years so I guess I am bit more in away, at least according to what she is telling me but anyway. Here Is what I am more curious about.
    As I was looking around on the net and saw this different sites about dating stripper, and what they say, “u should never dates stripper”, and what to expect from dating a striper, bla bla.. as I am reading this, they are basically making it very difficult to be able to date striper and that u have to jump through a lot hoops to get a date, basically a lot of work. Now when I started to date my gf, well I did not have to do much at all, as she was the one who initiated it all, she asked me if I would right to her if she game me her email, which I did…and here we are. I visited her two or three times at club, did not spend much money on her. (needles to say she has reminded med afterword’s how she though I was Cheap as I never did buy her a bottle of Champaign any of the times I did come and see here, she does say it in a joking way. But I know it bothered her..heheh ohh but don’t try to make me feel bad about it, as I have made up for it later in different ways, as I have treat her good and right as a man who loves his women does). My impression any way is that if you a stripper if you really like a customer or a guy you would make sure the guy knows it some how? Or would you make the guys work hard to be able to get a date with you?
    Again I am just curious, as I think most of the things that they say on the net is bs I guess, as some of them are making the stripper look like a “money grabbing gold digger that mostly use men”

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    You say you've been dating this girl for two years.......you mean you've been going to the club for two years and being a customer because if you were dating her you wouldn't be all over the internet looking at sites on how to date a stripper and you would know that we are people not aliens that fit into one category! Honestly you sound like you've never dates irl and are a bit delusional in how dating and the whole strip club customer relationship works!

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    I have a boyfriend, but if I was single or whatever and met a guy in the club I wanted to date, I would make it VERY known. I don't think I would make him jump through hoops or any of that nonsense.

    Honestly anything you read on the internet about dating strippers is probably going to be full of bad ideas and stereotypes. In fact, I would say most of what is written about strippers in general is bullshit, especially anything written by a man, and especially on the internet.

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    My girl dances in Houston...Sierra pretty much said it all. If she a actually wants to be with you, ther wouldn't be any beating around the bush. And as for "how" to date a stripper, how do you date any girl? If the connection is there, it'll happen. If it's not, it won't. The internet is full of good ways for you to get laughed at or drained. Just do you, and let it happen....

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    I'm thinking you aren't dating this dancer. Maybe you're doing many LD's a week but that's not dating, That's just being a customer.

    If you are dating a dancer then you've already been dating her for 2years now. Why are you worried about what you think she may want now if you haven't been giving it to her for 2 years? If she hasn't left you and you have no gold to dig into then I guess you've already proved those claims to be false.

    I'm still not understanding what the real question is here? Is she a gold digger and I have no gold but she's with me for 2 years? I don't really get it. Are you afraid she's going to leave you for a man that has more to offer? I'm so confused about what you're really trying to find out about a woman you've been with for 2 years already.

    That's why I really don't think you're dating her at all, but just a customer that tips her here and there. I could be wrong and if so my apologies. Enjoy what you have since apparently you have it.

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    If you are going out on dates outside the club you are dating her. If you are paying her she's probably going out with you because of that. If not then she likes you. When I liked a guy I let him know but it was so rare.

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    What I'm curious about is how your posts have gone from: "Hi I am a Stripper's boyfriend" to: "Hi I would like to know if I am a Stripper's boyfriend".

    If you're curious about how she feels about you, I'd suggest you ask her.

    Perhaps you could bring up the subject the next time you go into her club and buy some dances. If she doesn't give you an answer you like, try asking again in the VIP or Champagne room. Don't forget to tip!
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    ^ It appears that he's been legit dating her for 2 years based on how they interact outside the club as b/f and g/f.

    Of course, I'm just getting that from the context and implied actions. Note, for example, that in the 2 years they have been dating -- and he's been "taking care of the one he loves," -- he's only been in the club a handful of times, where she teases him about how much he spends.

    Anyway, his question is not "Am I dating a dancer," it's "How hard is it supposed to be to date a dancer?" For whatever reason, he's been pulled into the great Web undertow of Inane Stripper Behavior Mythology and Massive Projected Male Insecurity.

    If I'm reading him correctly, his story is a nice example of how different and straightforward it is when the dancer makes the choice -- as she has in this case, quite clearly.

    The cauldron of Inane Stripper Behavior Mythology and Massive Projected Male Insecurity is the product of angry, frustrated, unsuccessful, clueless shitbirds who sit behind computer screens and take out their unrequited rage on dancers, their power over men and their impunity in the face of continued male harassment.

    It's not surprising how confused the OP is at how that's so radically different from a simple invitation from his dancer girlfriend.

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    Yeah, what I was thinking was he was legit dating this girl, who is a stripper. But then he got to Google-ing strippers or whatever, read some stupid articles, and was wondering how accurate they were. Not asking about his situation specifically.

    IDK though, I could be totally wrong.

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    A stripper is a wonderful and magical thing, like a unicorn. Now, some people just can't handle these beautiful and mysterious creatures, so they go on the internet and write utter nonsense, clueless trolls that they are. Often these trolls die alone.

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    Quote Originally Posted by michele11 View Post
    You say you've been dating this girl for two years.......you mean you've been going to the club for two years and being a customer because if you were dating her you wouldn't be all over the internet looking at sites on how to date a stripper and you would know that we are people not aliens that fit into one category! Honestly you sound like you've never dates irl and are a bit delusional in how dating and the whole strip club customer relationship works!
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    What I'm curious about is how your posts have gone from: "Hi I am a Stripper's boyfriend" to: "Hi I would like to know if I am a Stripper's boyfriend".

    If you're curious about how she feels about you, I'd suggest you ask her.

    Perhaps you could bring up the subject the next time you go into her club and buy some dances. If she doesn't give you an answer you like, try asking again in the VIP or Champagne room. Don't forget to tip!
    Thank you all for your inputs. I want to clarify something here, as it seems some of you are unsure about what I am asking, and you think that I live in “fantasy world” with a stripper. I am NOT asking how to date a stripper, I am curious if any of the stuff you read on the Internet, and about stripper and so forth is true, as I came across these two articles that was taking about dating stripper. I have a HARD time to believe it. I always believed that if you like someone no mater if you work as a stripper or a lawyer u will make sure the other person knows. My GF is Real and is a Stripper. I love her with all my hart, and I am not QUESTIONING HER love for me.!!

    And yes I sometimes I search on the strippclub industry as my gf works in industry so I like to read up on what is going on and sometimes I come across this things. I get a bit irritated on some this BS that I read. So I want to know what u guys think and see it the same way. And that if you meat a guy you real liked in the club you would let him know, as it happened to me. You never know when a person your really like will come walking in. The second time I was there to see my GF she would barely take any of my tip money when I wanted to tip her as she felt bad taking them form me and wanted to make sure I did not think she was using me or that she was not for real. To me these are signs that if you happened to met a girl that works in a strippclub will go “out of her way” to make sure you know she is for REAL!!

    As far as my GF goes we live together, and have been together for 2 years and been living together for the last year. Like I said earlier some times she tease me about that I did not buy her a champagne when she was working at the club I met her at,(she now works at a different club), and I never go and se her there as this is her place of work, plus I get a much better show at home sometimes when she gives me a private show

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    My god is my ex of nine years went on the internent in search of articles to see how hard it is to date a stripper I would have dumped him........anyways if you live with her for two years without problems and such which in your first post it sounded like perhaps you were a customer who sees this girl outside the club occasionally I don't know why you would be on website for dancers questioning the validity of your realtionship?

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    This still makes no sense. Seriously OP dating a stripper isn't always harder than dating a regular girl. Dating can be hard no matter the profession.

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    Now, people, stop beating up on the OP. First of all, english isn't his first language and he is doing a very commendable job but read between the lines.

    His other thread very clearly establishes his girlfriend is a stripper. He was reading stripper sites because...well, its kind of an interesting world and dynamic.

    Kelly, you and I aren't strippers anymore and we post here, so why can't he do some research? I've also read those horrible sites and misoginistic boards that hate on strippers and focus on how much you can get from them. Its kind of like reading political or religious web sites that are the opposite of your personal beliefs. Sometimes its good to get a little riled up as a confirmation to yourself that you're doing it right.


    Finally, what the OP is stating is exactly what TOO, and EVERY SINGLE STRIPPER IN THE WORLD CAN TELL YOU FOR FREE.....If a stripper wants to date you, she WILL let you know!

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    Quote Originally Posted by michele11 View Post
    My god is my ex of nine years went on the internent in search of articles to see how hard it is to date a stripper I would have dumped him........anyways if you live with her for two years without problems and such which in your first post it sounded like perhaps you were a customer who sees this girl outside the club occasionally I don't know why you would be on website for dancers questioning the validity of your realtionship?
    Really? You would break up a relationship of 9 years because your partner got lost on the web and came across some stripper sites? That's cold.

    Shit, I do web searches every day and sometimes I happen to come across articles about dolphin fucking techniques unintentionally. Did I take a few minutes to read it for the shock value, you bet I did!

    Many, bitches up in this board are always claiming they will dump anyone over anything and telling everyone to resolve any and all problems by breaking up with the other person. Poor advice all around.

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Now, people, stop beating up on the OP. First of all, english isn't his first language and he is doing a very commendable job but read between the lines.

    His other thread very clearly establishes his girlfriend is a stripper. He was reading stripper sites because...well, its kind of an interesting world and dynamic.

    Kelly, you and I aren't strippers anymore and we post here, so why can't he do some research? I've also read those horrible sites and misoginistic boards that hate on strippers and focus on how much you can get from them. Its kind of like reading political or religious web sites that are the opposite of your personal beliefs. Sometimes its good to get a little riled up as a confirmation to yourself that you're doing it right.


    Finally, what the OP is stating is exactly what TOO, and EVERY SINGLE STRIPPER IN THE WORLD CAN TELL YOU FOR FREE.....If a stripper wants to date you, she WILL let you know!
    I don't understand why he doesn't do research but then again how often do we see posts from guys asking the strangest things? Very often and I think he'sjust naive. I suspect he's reading one of those "strippers are whores" message boards and assuming it means all strippers. I think he needs to talk to his girlfriend but is probably afraid (or so I gather). I've seen some of those boards and they are scary.

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    ^ Sweetie you don't know me to call girls bitches on this board?!? My ex fiancee didn't need to go on stripper board or look at websites on how to date a stripper he had more game than that he doesn't go to clubs and after nine years yeah I dumped him because we didn't get along but that's a whole other thread and this is the first time I've posted in ANY relationship thread. Anyways read the op's post title! CURIOUS ABOUT DATING A STRIPPER!

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    Great...then read the content of the post and we'll be even, ummmkay?

    It doesn't matter how much game your fiance had, the internet is full of weird and interesting things to read, and people will read it. Maybe you should put parental controls on your current boyfriend's computers to prevent him from being dumped over reading a stupid website.

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    Ok I'd like to weigh in here. As I said to the OP I apologize if I was wrong on him not being with this dancer. He claims he is which is fine by me. There is nothing wrong with him reading things on any site. The only thing that worries me is that he's asking to validate his relationship some how. I can understand 3-6 months when things are fresh and new and people have some worries, but 2 years and you live together? If she's a gold digger then that's how she pays half his rent. I mean I don't think she's stripping because she's bored. It's about the money right? So she's out there doing what she has to to make it. So you didn't do the champagne room. You have her at home so you're fine and trust that the champagne room is always there at the club for someone else to take her. Remember she's at work and she will expect money from the male customers that come in.

    To the other topic that came up in this thread about telling women to break it off about every thing. Maybe that was meant for me. I'm not sure but I tend to read alot of stuff on this board about women in relationships that seems that they are being treated like crap. If I tell someone to take a hike that's because I know they can do better.

    I understand relationships are difficult but they are even harder when the woman in question works in any type of adult industry position. As we can clearly see with the OP, he's having some small concerns with what his 2 year girlfriend does. I'm pretty sure if she was a dentist he wouldn't care, or maybe an optometrist. Do you think he would come on and say hmm how soon is it really necessary to get a check up? I think not.

    Some men that date women in this industry don't have the same amount of respect for them as they would if they were doing anything else. It's just the basic thought that this part of themselves should be reserved for them and is now being sold to the highest paying male. It's difficult for many men to accept this so it should come of no surprise that some will act out in relationships when they weren't even aware of it early on.

    I don't think the op is acting out but he's curious or perhaps maybe alittle worried. He's wondering why she picked him yet he didn't take her to the champagne room and he's feeling vulnerable. The only thing he needs to think about is that she picked him. She could be a gold digger at the club but that's her job at the strip club. It's not a let me help you save money place. If she was a car saleswoman would we think any less of her for trying to get the most sales? It's a place were the dancer wants to make as much as she can. Now that's her job, that in no way states that she's this way in a real committed relationship which if she was he either would be broke or replaced by another guy. She may have made a joking comment about the champagne room, but don't take that so seriously. She was just making a passing comment. Just some light teasing.

    So to answer his question at the club she may be a gold digger. Or she could be one of those dancers that waits for a guy to approach her and make more money that way. I really can't say how she makes her money but that could be a question you may want to ask her.

    Ohh and If I'm suggesting women to dump men treating them like a 2nd place winners then hey I just expect the ones that claim to love them to put them in 1st place. It comes down to self worth. If you don't feel you deserve better then don't accept scraps.

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    Wow, I think a lot of you are reading waaaay too much into this. The way I read it, the OP read some stuff on the internet about how hard it is to date strippers because they're all a bunch of money-grubbing whores who don't care about anybody but themselves, and this epiphany is usually followed by PUA tactics on how to basically trick a stripper into not seeing you as a customer and getting her to date you. As though strippers are dogs that need to be trained to behave the way you want because our "nature" is contrary to that of a well-behaved person. I'm sure we've all read this BS before, probably on several occasions. But the OP knows this doesn't add up to his experience with his gf, so he's simply asking if his experience of little effort, having her approach him, and no drama is actually the norm or if he somehow got lucky.

    I don't blame him for wondering. Hell, even on here, there are threads about dating customers where girls will chime in that they won't even consider dating a customer unless he's been her biggest spender for awhile. So you got a bunch of guys saying "it's impossible to bag a stripper!" and a bunch of strippers saying "you don't have a chance unless you're a big spender" - I can see where someone who didn't spend much and barely had to show up a couple times would be curious if that's how it usually happens or if he got lucky that he didn't have the girl make him jump through hoops.

    OP, your original assessment was right. If a stripper likes you, she will make it known with little muss and fuss. The idiots on the internet are delusional. Yes, there are girls that have very strict rules against dating customers, no matter what. But, for the girls who wouldn't mind dating a customer they liked, they wouldn't fool around about it. Your gf and the way things happened are perfectly normal.
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    There are some nuggets in Aurora Sunset's post. I wanted to add my personal experience to that. I have dated strippers and non-strippers both when I was single of course. My dating experience with strippers was much more positive than that with non-strippers.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora_Sunset View Post
    Wow, I think a lot of you are reading waaaay too much into this. The way I read it, the OP read some stuff on the internet about how hard it is to date strippers because they're all a bunch of money-grubbing whores who don't care about anybody but themselves, and this epiphany is usually followed by PUA tactics on how to basically trick a stripper into not seeing you as a customer and getting her to date you. As though strippers are dogs that need to be trained to behave the way you want because our "nature" is contrary to that of a well-behaved person. I'm sure we've all read this BS before, probably on several occasions. But the OP knows this doesn't add up to his experience with his gf, so he's simply asking if his experience of little effort, having her approach him, and no drama is actually the norm or if he somehow got lucky.

    I don't blame him for wondering. Hell, even on here, there are threads about dating customers where girls will chime in that they won't even consider dating a customer unless he's been her biggest spender for awhile. So you got a bunch of guys saying "it's impossible to bag a stripper!" and a bunch of strippers saying "you don't have a chance unless you're a big spender" - I can see where someone who didn't spend much and barely had to show up a couple times would be curious if that's how it usually happens or if he got lucky that he didn't have the girl make him jump through hoops.

    OP, your original assessment was right. If a stripper likes you, she will make it known with little muss and fuss. The idiots on the internet are delusional. Yes, there are girls that have very strict rules against dating customers, no matter what. But, for the girls who wouldn't mind dating a customer they liked, they wouldn't fool around about it. Your gf and the way things happened are perfectly normal.
    Quote Originally Posted by The Jackal View Post
    There are some nuggets in Aurora Sunset's post. I wanted to add my personal experience to that. I have dated strippers and non-strippers both when I was single of course. My dating experience with strippers was much more positive than that with non-strippers.
    Thank you Aura for a seeing my point that I was making. I was starting to feel that I was Crazy as I felt they were calling me a liar, and that I was leaving in a Fantasy world, along with READING way to much info my question. Maybe I should have put it differently , but thank you making it clear for the rest Aurora

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