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    Default please please help me :(

    I have this horrible problem, I 5"8 and i have really high hips it makes my back look so wide and big. it haunts me all day! I feel like people see what i see and talk about it.. maybe im over reacting and i get upset because i dont have the tiny waist and bigger butt I see everywhere whyy me ?
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    I don't see how we can help. Even if we knew what you looked like. Do you want us to recommend a plastic surgeon that can shave your hips down, recommend a therapist for you to get over your complex, or are you fishing for reassurance like "I'm sure you're beautiful, you're just overreacting!"

    I know this might sound bitchy, but I don't see how we can possibly help. You can lose weight, you can't lose hips...

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    O_o sweetie it was more like venting! i dont do plastic surgeons and such.. yes I do agree I have beautiful face.. but I work at a urban club .. where girls are more like big asses and anorexic waists.. it really just makes me feel out of place. I have too many tattoos and have too much of a urban look to make it in the white club in my opinion.. maybe Im wrong.. i love dancing .. I just feel like i dont fit at times
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    Quote Originally Posted by BuffyLovR View Post
    I don't see how we can help. Even if we knew what you looked like. Do you want us to recommend a plastic surgeon that can shave your hips down, recommend a therapist for you to get over your complex, or are you fishing for reassurance like "I'm sure you're beautiful, you're just overreacting!"

    I know this might sound bitchy, but I don't see how we can possibly help. You can lose weight, you can't lose hips...
    She is looking for option three, throw compliments at her.



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    yes I do agree I have beautiful face..
    I don't think she said anything about your face.... but I'll go ahead and say it, you probably have a beautiful face. Relax.

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    but my face is not the point here .. its about feeling like my body type really dont fit.. i dont need the compliments hun.. how could you even through them this way when you dont know what i look like ? for all you know i look like a piece of shit :shrugs:
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    Default Re: please please help me :(

    There's ways you can dress to camouflage it. Do you mean like this:

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    Then what do you want?

    Upload some pictures so we can compliment you.

    Try to wear stuff that flatters your best assets. Get long ass extensions to cover up the part you're complaining about. Believe that your uniqueness will make you a luxury in your club...... I'll come up with more and post them later.

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    Default Re: please please help me :(

    Everyone has parts of their bod that they learn to live with. You can ALWAYS find a dress/outfit that will look flattering on your figure or help to "play down" certain areas .

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    I guess I have high-ish hips. Wearing corsets before/during work helps to contour my waistline, but you have to make sure you get the ones for shorter torsos, otherwise you won't be able to sit, since the longer ones will cut into your hips/crotch too much. Or go with something like the picture mediocrity posted.

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    I think you should go to a different club and just cover up your tattoos. A more fitting atmosphere may make you feel more comfortable. I really have no idea what your body looks like from the description. Could you post some body pics? I'm sure you look fine, btw.

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    Don't be so hard on yourself. If that's your money in your avi, this 'flaw' that you're perceiving doesn't seem to be hindering your $$$!

    Maybe you could try wearing bottoms that are high on the sides and low in the back ... I'm having a hard time with pictures, but maybe something like this


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    Ooooh laaaa laaaa, nice!

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    Perhaps she was looking for someone with a similar shape to give her some suggestions. SMH
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    Mad mind reading skills. I'm jealous.

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    Default Re: please please help me :(

    I'm also confused as to how we can help.
    I came in here guns loaded, ready to spew the finest helpful shit possible...and yet I find myself rendered useless by an equally useless post.
    "We are the coolest mothafuckas on the planet....The sky is fallin ain't no need to panic"... -Outkast

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    Default Re: please please help me :(

    Quote Originally Posted by OliveJardin View Post
    Everyone has parts of their bod that they learn to live with. You can ALWAYS find a dress/outfit that will look flattering on your figure or help to "play down" certain areas .
    Exactly! For ex, I'm pear shaped and often feel insecure about my thick thighs. So I wear mini dresses or skirts at work to conceal them. Work with what you have!

    And judging by all the $$$$ in your avatar, you seem to be doing just fine!

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