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This seems to be like one thing you've managed to get right, so try not to over think it and fuck it all up for yourself.
Keep doing what you're doing. If a girl keeps asking just keep saying "No, thanks".
Last edited by sierra.; 12-09-2011 at 01:27 PM. Reason: i can't type for shit
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I agree with Sierra's advice. Plus, I will add this: there is nothing wrong with turning down a dancer who does not turn you on. Just be polite and respectful about it. Keep in mind women are touchy about being turned down. Even though it is all business but essentially you are turning her down for her looks.





sierra.
Re: How To Handle Dancers Who Approach You
This seems to be like one thing you've managed to get right, so try not to over think it and fuck it all up for yourself.
Keep doing what you're doing. If a girl keeps asking just keep saying "No, thanks".
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Tell them that you don't do dances because you will just leave the club all hot and bothered. They really love hearing that response.
Other popular responses include:
1. I just got here and I really wanna' have a drink first;
2. I don't want one now, but maybe later; and
3. Are you on stage soon? I'd really like to see you dance first.
OR, you could just say "No thank you" in a polite way with a firm but friendly look.Now this last one is my preferred method as it saves on time and drama, but some guys seem to struggle with simply saying "no."
Keep in mind that girls spend very little time onstage throughout the night. They're only up there maybe once an hour, possibly less if there's more girls working. And me, personally, I don't really bother to approach a brand new customer who I haven't even spoken to yet that night to try to hustle if I know I'm onstage in 1 or 2 more songs. A guy who's been eying me or someone who specifically said they wanted a dance or to buy me a drink later, sure. A brand new guy - probably not. So the chances that whatever girl sits down with you and asks you for a dance is going to be onstage soon is slim, unless it's a place that will skip you on rotation if you're doing dances, and not all places are like this.
By simple mathematics, the majority of girls who sit with you are going to be girls that are not up to stage soon. "Soon," to me, meaning within 1-4 songs. Anything longer than that really isn't soon in dancer time. I personally find it annoying when a guy says he wants to wait to see me onstage. I basically take it as a blow-off, because if I just sat with him, I'm probably not up soon. And I'm not going to sit there until I am. And in the amount of time spent between when I get up to leave and when I actually go onstage again, there will probably be 10 others go up who will then try to hustle the same guy and he'll be much more inclined to go with them. Sales to guys who wait to buy dances until they're approached by someone who they already saw dance onstage basically boils down to luck of timing for the dancers, so I personally find this irksome.
Plus, and most importantly, think about what you're setting her, and yourself up for: You say "I'd like to see you dance first" because that's how you determine if she's worthy of doing LDs, you watch her dance onstage, decide you're not impressed, and then she comes back, saying, "Ready to go for a private dance?" What are you gonna say then? "Nah, I wasn't impressed with your stage show. Good try though, see ya later..." ?? Ouch... that would hurt way worse than someone just telling me "No thanks, I'm still settling in."
If this is really what you prefer to do, just say "No thank you." No need to give the explanation that you want to wait to see her or others onstage. If she does go up while you're still watching, you like her stage show, and want to get a dance then, just approach her afterwards and say you're ready now.
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LOL, that's an interesting approach.
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