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    Mind Blowing Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Last night I met a big spender. We were in VIP together all night, and he took really good care of me. He is a very interesting guy. He's around 36 years old, and he doesn't come off as a murderer. (lol) And he has offered to take me SHOPPING! This guy is a millionaire, and I really wanna go! but I have a few questions before I do. My boyfriend doesn't know that he has offered to take me shopping, and I already know he wouldn't like the idea of it. (insecure about his money.. so stupid. I'm obviously NOT dating him for financial reasons.)

    #1- How do I tell my boyfriend I want to go shopping, so he is comfortable?

    #2- What do I do if my big spender puts moves on me outside of the club? Tries to kiss me? How do I keep him in the "friend zone" if you will?

    #3- Should I invite a friend for safety reasons? If so, how do I get my big spender okay with her tagging along?

    #4- Have you EVERY went out with a custy and how did it go?

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Idk about your BF, but I would definately tell friends where you're gonna be for safety precautions. Go and enjoy your gifts girl.

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Don't tell your bf.. I know it sounds scandalous but no guy is gonna be ok with it. Tell him you're going xmas shopping with friends.
    Take separate cars no matter what. Meet him at the shopping center. If he wants to take you for food, drive yourself!
    Let your friends know what time you are leaving, text them when you're done shopping and just let them know where you are at all times. Tell them if they don't hear from you by a certain time then they should start worrying.
    Like Vyanka said, enjoy! He's a millionaire, take advantage! Get things you can't normally afford
    As for the friend zone.... that's a tough one. I don't have advice :/

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    You do the suggesting also. Place to shop and eat after. Take him to Bergdorf Goodman or a strip filled with expensive stores. Don't let him take you to a regular mall. Then from there you tell him, you know a good place for dinner and drinks. Once you get him in the restaurant and done with shooping, tell him you can't stay up too late bc you have to wake up early for a very important exam.

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    Don't tell your bf.. I know it sounds scandalous but no guy is gonna be ok with it. Tell him you're going xmas shopping with friends.
    Take separate cars no matter what. Meet him at the shopping center. If he wants to take you for food, drive yourself!

    That is a hard one, because I dont DRIVE! :/ I don't even have a car!

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    Cab it or have a friend drive you.

    He should pay for your cab ride getting there and going home. If he is a gentleman of course.

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vyanka View Post
    Cab it or have a friend drive you.

    He should pay for your cab ride getting there and going home. If he is a gentleman of course.
    Okay, i could probably do that. but what about when I come home with a bunch of new shiny things?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylee84 View Post
    Okay, i could probably do that. but what about when I come home with a bunch of new shiny things?
    You can say a customer gave you a gift card, if you're not gonna tell him.

    Remember, you're not gonna get home late either bc you're gonna BS this customer too by teeling him about your fake curfew. Haha
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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Quote Originally Posted by Kaylee84 View Post
    Last night I met a big spender. We were in VIP together all night, and he took really good care of me. He is a very interesting guy. He's around 36 years old, and he doesn't come off as a murderer. (lol) And he has offered to take me SHOPPING! This guy is a millionaire, and I really wanna go! but I have a few questions before I do. My boyfriend doesn't know that he has offered to take me shopping, and I already know he wouldn't like the idea of it. (insecure about his money.. so stupid. I'm obviously NOT dating him for financial reasons.)

    #1- How do I tell my boyfriend I want to go shopping, so he is comfortable?

    #2- What do I do if my big spender puts moves on me outside of the club? Tries to kiss me? How do I keep him in the "friend zone" if you will?

    #3- Should I invite a friend for safety reasons? If so, how do I get my big spender okay with her tagging along?

    #4- Have you EVERY went out with a custy and how did it go?
    1. It is unlikely that your boyfriend will be OK with this so you have to decide if you are going to tell him and bear the consequences or keep it to yourself.

    2. It is pretty easy to pull away if someone tries to kiss you. You can be flirty but if this guy is "legit" he will know that he is getting nothing in return and as was mentioned always have your own transportation so you don't get stuck with him after rejecting an advance.

    3. Unless you are getting a bad vibe I wouldn't invite a friend but I would tell a friend that you are going to be at this location during these hours and that if you don't text her by a certain time then she should take action.

    4. These type of things can be tricky to navigate and they usually don't last long, there are a few threads about them.

    Good luck!

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Along with setting a curfew, have a friend call you at the end of the curfew to check in for security. Tell them where you will be located, time ranges, description of the guy, and when you should be done. I do this when I go to bachelor parties, so that way someone knows all the details in case the worst of things go wrong. You can never be too careful.

    Get cab fare upfront. That way, if you don't like how he's acting you can take off whenever you like without paying for your own cab.
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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    I remember a friend of mine being taken shopping and then to a show. The minute he started trying to make a move on her she turned and demanded to be taken home. She left all her gifts and stood her ground. He called her to apologise and bought her a LV purse the next day (he'd returned the other gifts)

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Personally I wouldn't tell my boyfriend I would just take the shopping spree and run with it. You are going to resent your boyfriend if you do not go. This is a great opportunity take it!

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Murderers can be very charismatic and friendly... Just saying.. I wouldn't trust anyone.. and just curious, how do you 'know' he's a millionaire?
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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Go with him but don't tell your boyfriend. I would however suggest telling a friend or two just in case something happens someone knew your whereabouts.

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    Default Re: Gonig out shopping with a big spender. A couple questions?

    Pretty sure Kaylee already made up her mind on this one. Check the date on the original post.

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