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    I read a lot of posts on here about disrespect. Customers will come in and say something totally offensive to you, and you hate it. So I wanted to offer a little advice to you girls to help you overcome the feeling of being disrespected. Consider this one simple thing: It's a fetish. If it's not an outright sexual fetish, it's an emotional disability. People love the reaction they get when they get under your skin. Calling you a whore while they're on a cam site is of course ridiculous, that's why usually I assume that's their fetish and they want to make you mad because it gets them off. If they are straight up trolling for no sexual reason, then they must have a serious emotional issue if they're trying to hurt people for no good reason.

    That's how I think of it when it happens to me. It ends up not bothering me very much, and guess what happens as a result of that? I don't get disrespected nearly as often. The other boys in the room who might be into the same thing and notice my "it's no big deal, just ban the guy and don't emotionally react" attitude don't try it because they know it doesn't work. And it lets the guys who aren't into that thing know that I'm secure enough not to let it get to me.

    So, I hope that's some food for thought for you ladies. You can't change the world, but you can change your attitude!

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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    Quote Originally Posted by preggo View Post
    I read a lot of posts on here about disrespect. Customers will come in and say something totally offensive to you, and you hate it. So I wanted to offer a little advice to you girls to help you overcome the feeling of being disrespected. Consider this one simple thing: It's a fetish. If it's not an outright sexual fetish, it's an emotional disability. People love the reaction they get when they get under your skin. Calling you a whore while they're on a cam site is of course ridiculous, that's why usually I assume that's their fetish and they want to make you mad because it gets them off. If they are straight up trolling for no sexual reason, then they must have a serious emotional issue if they're trying to hurt people for no good reason.

    That's how I think of it when it happens to me. It ends up not bothering me very much, and guess what happens as a result of that? I don't get disrespected nearly as often. The other boys in the room who might be into the same thing and notice my "it's no big deal, just ban the guy and don't emotionally react" attitude don't try it because they know it doesn't work. And it lets the guys who aren't into that thing know that I'm secure enough not to let it get to me.

    So, I hope that's some food for thought for you ladies. You can't change the world, but you can change your attitude!
    In my personal opinion, disrespect and being offended are two different catagories of reaction. I can be disrepected without being offended and vice versa.

    When someone says something disrepectful I need to deal with it in a way that helps keeps my self esteem intact. Everyone does this in different ways. If you don't, it has a way of grinding you down.

    If someone says something offensive to me. I am able to shrug it off and move on because their kink ain't my kink.

    YMMV, of course.
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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    You are spot on. Don't react and silently hit the ban button. It shows the other guys in your room how cool and confident you are and discourages other losers from acting like jerks too. Fortunately, I've only had one or two rude comments in my rooms and I acted like I didn't even see them and quietly sent them on their way. This is YOUR room and you get to decide how people treat you in your own house.

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    Some that I have bitched out, started to behave & became my best custies.

    But do what works for you.
    I wont tolerate bad behavior.

    Sam

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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    Yup, that's exactly what I do. Having done work for a lot of the big humiliation sites I learned as soon as the fan mail started coming in that a lot of guys with a humiliation fetish will write you really abusive emails so that you'll respond with something shitty in turn and give them free shit talking sessions. I figure it's the same thing on cam.

    If I'm not going to stand up and twirl or "show tits bb" for free I'm sure as shit not going to get my dander up and give some jerkhole a free humiliation session. For the other guys who are just hypocrites or enjoy trolling hot chicks on cam sites, you know, since we're "whores" and all, I just realize that this is their form of entertainment and how pathetic is that?! Really? You have fun by insulting women online? Don't you have anything better to do?

    Shrug them off with humor, don't let them see that they got to you (if they did) and ban them.

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    I always turn insults into compliments.

    I got.. "damn, go back to the doctor and have your tits redone"..

    Okay, My boobs are real... They must be really fucking perky. lol

    And, "nice wig" which i got last night.
    My hairs real... and must be really shiny, and healthy looking tonight, XD.

    But always, there will be the rude ass , who takes it a little to far.. and a little too personal,
    and for him i say.. talk to me when you move out of moms.
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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Some that I have bitched out, started to behave & became my best custies.
    Same lol I usually bitch them out in a PM though. I had one guy who I went back and forth with for about 5 min because it was actually amusing me on a slow day and he ended up taking me private lol

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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    Quote Originally Posted by Sam38g View Post
    Some that I have bitched out, started to behave & became my best custies.

    But do what works for you.
    I wont tolerate bad behavior.

    Sam
    Hmm, maybe because they liked it?

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    Default Re: A word of encouragement for those who get mean custies...

    humm.
    yes thinking of it as " its their fetish to be rude" is a good one.
    I prefer to think they are down right retarded and call them out on it..
    the room gets a good laugh out if it, I cool off and then its all back to normal

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