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Last edited by teaze; 09-21-2012 at 07:49 PM.





Why not just tell him you are not going to do business with him, instead of a constant runaround and string of lies?

How about, "I'm sorry, Mr./ Dr. X, but after screening, I'm not willing to meet with you for personal reasons. Thank you for you interest."





Jeez...thats almost word for word what I say! LoL!!
My standard is:
"Thanks so much for getting in touch with me. I'm sorry but for personal reasons, it will not work out for us to meet with each other. I wish you all the very best!" and if they are from out of town "I hope you have wonderful trip!" and always ending with "Have a fantastic day!!!"
Most are really fine with it that Im straight-forward and dont lead them on into thinking theres any chance we can meet and thanked me. Only a couple of times, the guy got paranoid "What have you heard about me? Why dont you want to see me?"
To which I said "I felt it best to let you know instead of leaving you hanging or ignoring your inquiry to see me. Please respect my decision..I hope you have a fantastic day!!!"
So far so good.
I feel like ending it with telling them to have a fantastic day, and lots of exclamation points take the edge off the rejection![]()
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That sounds good.
Wow, you don't see doctors?
(I understand this particular one, because you said he was rude, but ...)
They are easy to screen and super low risk. (Who wants to be shitty to a lady and lose their reputation, license, and everything they've worked for 8+ yrs or their entire life?) I only see a small number of clients without references. Screened & verified doctors are one of my special exceptions.
Every single doctor I've ever seen has been very respectful, clean, realistic, down-to-earth and a whole hell of a LOT of fun! Most persue medicine for positive reasons and they build their life around healing/helping people (and of course benefit financially = $$$ for You!). They are my absolute favorite type of client, period.
Attorneys are my #2 favorite, due to ease of screening, unlikely to ruin their life by being bad to a lady, holding a verifiable professional license, etc. Lawyers have more tendency to be jackasses tho.
I understand if you don't like going to the "doctor's office", but you have to look at this differently - the doctor is coming to YOUR office (as a patient/client) so the tables are turned. Give them a chance and have some fun. They are well-versed in anatomy!
Ok, enough of my rambling. On to the OP's question...
If there is a client who you know you don't want to see for ANY reason, either don't respond, or send this:
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Hi [Name]
Thank you for your interest, but I have decided that we are not a good match, so we will not be able to meet.
There are many beautiful ladies in [the city you advertise in]. I know one of them is a great match for you!
Thank you,
[Your Name]
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This email is polite and friendly, but leaves no ambiguity about the possibility of a meeting. The answer is a clear "No".
Don't give a reason as to why you "aren't a good match". That just leaves the door open for them to argue, "convince you otherwise" or ask "why?". it doesn't matter "why" and you don't need to explain yourself to a stranger who you don't plan on ever meeting.
Also, don't ever say "I DON'T THINK we are a good match". Saying "I think" is wishy-washy and just encourages them to "change your thinking". Be direct and say "I HAVE DECIDED (that we aren't a good match)" This leaves no ambiguity or opening for him to "change your mind"/pester you.
I hope this helps!
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