
Originally Posted by
sweetsam
I personally think it's not a relationship worth persuing. If he is not ambitious and is comfortable with this lifestyle, then you will most likely always be miserable with him, or having to dish out more for bills then he does. I can't say that I am materialistic either but at the same time I am completely done with dating a guy who can't take care of me. I always seem to get the short end of the stick. They can be attractive and smart and well rounded but at the end of the day money is usually the root of all evil. When it's time to pay bills, I end up paying more and then some. When it comes to dates...well if you like sitting at home and renting a movie every weekend or occasionally going on a cheap date to Chili's then that's great. Me personally I am so over it. I want a guy to spoil me, buy me some gifts on my birthday, take me out to nice restaurants, and it's not about the money or being materialistic but I feel like I deserve that at the very least. If I treat a guy right, I want him to treat me right in the end too. I don't want to support a man, or pay for trips just because I want to go on them, you know? Last relationship, I paid for everything because I didn't want to travel alone. Busch Gardens a few times, and Disney and a nice hotel, I paid for the whole damn thing, that's several hundred dollars on each trip. For once in my life I want someone to treat me to those things. A real man would be happy to do so. I have a few friends who have husbands who have good careers, a beautiful house, a yard, a dog, and basically live the life. However the women in those relationships also are bringing in an income, but the MAN does more.
Personally that's how I feel. My Grandfather took care of my Grandmother, my Dad took care of my Mom, and I will not settle ever again for a guy who cannot do the same. Call me old fashioned but I would rather be comfortable with a guy, then constantly fighting over money, and bills. Life is too short to just be home all the time, I want more than that.
For now I am single for the next couple years by choice, but when I look again, I will not settle for less.
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