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    So some of you may know from my previous threads....but I'll describe my situation a bit more because I need advice!

    I danced for 5 years while I was in school. I danced 4-5 times a week, so it was pretty much what I would call full time. My last semester of law school, I met ( what I thought was) the man of my dreams. He didn't appreciate that I was dancing...so I told myself that it was time to stop since I was finishing up with law school anyway.

    Long story short, I've been struggling with missing dancing A LOT since I quit about a year ago. It was a taboo topic in our relationship and I could never really talk about it in an open way with him. I missed it to the point where it seemed like an addiction...I really missed it as an outlet to have fun and let loose and to forget about my more "serious" side. I always thought I'd wanna go back if it wasn't for him.

    Well we broke up a week ago, for other unrelated reasons. Now that I actually could go back to dancing, I'm having second thoughts. I feel like I was really caught up into dancing to the point where it was really bothering me not to be able to do it. For some time it was all I could think about...almost to the point where I wanted to to do it behind his back. Well now that I could go back, I'm not even sure if I want to. It seems like it took me so long to be "free" from that addiction that I'm scared if I go back I won't be able to get out again. Like, quitting for me the first time was so hard I'm not sure if I want to put myself through that again.Because of my career, I can't really be a career stripper.

    I don't really need the money, I have a great office job that I like. I would have to go out of town so I don't run into anyone. I'm just not sure whether it's worth it or not. I guess maybe it was so appealing to me because I felt like I wasn't "allowed" to and now that I actually can it lost its appeal?

    Any thoughts?

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    I dont think its a good idea. Your so close to finishing law school and this job can seriously wreck your chances if your discoverd. I know the states is full of that "right to work?" i dunno if thats it but basically in jobs like law or teaching if you have a unsavory past you will be fired. You already have a steady life why risk it all for a momentary thrill?
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    i think it was likely more appealing because you "couldn't".

    i also just got done with law school this spring. was sworn in yesterday.

    you are done with that chapter in your life. you have an office job that you like. you use the term addiction to describe your relationship with dancing...that tells me you should just stay away from it.

    once in a blue moon, i miss the stage time. how do i deal with it? i go to a club for part of a night, have a drink or two and chill. usually to the first club i worked at, where i still get hugs from girls who are still there.

    move on with your life.

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    Firstly well done for completing Law School!!

    I think the bottom line here is that you have a job that you are happy with and that you enjoy ( not many people have that ) and that you have worked hard to get. Luckily also you don't have money problems and it sounds like your comfortable in that area. Go back to stripping again? I don't think you should.. I mean try and see but I think you will have found that in yourself you have moved on. Enjoy your weekends off, glam up and go out on the town and see your friends and meet new guys.. have a ball now your single!!

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    Default Re: To strip or not to strip..help!

    Quote Originally Posted by Jewel21 View Post

    I don't really need the money, I have a great office job that I like. I would have to go out of town so I don't run into anyone. I'm just not sure whether it's worth it or not. I guess maybe it was so appealing to me because I felt like I wasn't "allowed" to and now that I actually can it lost its appeal?

    Any thoughts?
    ^If you have a stable 9-5 job in your feild & don't need the money then I personally wouldn't get back into dancing & a SC enviroment. Having said that, maybe you could work a weekend to see if you really want to get back into the industry or whether you were simply tempted to dance again because you finally can (it could be closure to your previous relationship-a last kind of f*#k you to your ex, while you reconnect with the person you were before you met your ex at the same time).

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    If you really miss it, work one shift. I find it can be hard to not look back on dancing through rose-coloured glasses and forget about the downsides of it - slow shifts, rude customers, late nights. But if you give it a go on a typical shift (ie. not a busy Friday/Saturday night) then maybe it'll put it into perspective for you and you'll see if it's something you really want to go back to. FWIW It sounds like you're in a great place in your life and don't need dancing though!

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    Thank you so much for all the good advice!

    I wouldn't worry too much about seeing someone I know...my job is pretty stable and I really don't think anyone would go through the trouble of telling on my if they saw me. Plus, I could always deny the whole thing since no one really has proof that it was actually me they saw...

    What I'm more worried about is that it took me a while to feel like "myself" without actually dancing. It was part of me, and I needed it to feel whole. I just recently started to feel free from that and I think going back would set me back in that sense.

    At the same time I'm so tempted to just go for one weekend. Kinda just so I can say that I did it one last time and left on my terms.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicole84 View Post
    i think it was likely more appealing because you "couldn't".

    i also just got done with law school this spring. was sworn in yesterday.

    you are done with that chapter in your life. you have an office job that you like. you use the term addiction to describe your relationship with dancing...that tells me you should just stay away from it.

    once in a blue moon, i miss the stage time. how do i deal with it? i go to a club for part of a night, have a drink or two and chill. usually to the first club i worked at, where i still get hugs from girls who are still there.

    move on with your life.
    Congratz!

    I also miss the stage.....I take pole classes and perform at events but it's not the same! It would be a good idea to go to my previous club for a drink though. I used to do that often but then it was just frustrating because I wanted to dance so much.

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