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    Default ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Lately...since I became pregnant I guess me camming seems to be hurting my fiance alo. We need the money so theres no option right now, but I feel so sad for him, just because he is a really jealous person and not alot of guys would handle this well...I know I would be really sad if he was jerking off every day for a bunch of random women. That's why it feels so wrong, I wouldn't be able to handle it and I know he feels hurt, I can hear it in his voice when he says he wants to be able to support us so I dont have to do it anymore. It makes me feel disgusting...especially because I'm pregnant and I know he'd like to have me all to himself especially now.

    I've been thinking to switching to nonnude...well probablly topless only after I have the baby because milk shows will do really well I imagine...and dildos are a no-no for awhile anyway..advice? Anyone done this...going from nude to nonnude? I wonder if it'd be better to make all new accounts or just keep my old ones and let everyone know my plans... I'd love to try limiting what I do in shows...it's not just for him.. I don't really enjoy pretending to be delighted with prodding myself with fake dicks all day anyway and topless only dosn't seem like it'd weigh to hard on me ... advice? Thank you!

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    This is an industry that can be soul destroying if you do it when you're truly ready to stop doing it. I know this may not be feasible advice but it really seems like it's tearing you and your relationship up. The money isn't worth it if you hate yourself every day and if your job is hurting the father of your child. There are programs meant to aid women in need and there are still some places that are hiring, especially this time of year.

    You could always try to do other things in the industry like phone sex or selling panties. Or perhaps another work at home job like tech support.

    *a side note, I've never heard anything about dildos being bad for pregnant women.


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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    It sounds like you don't want to do nude. Doing this kind of job, when you don't feel comfortable with it, can be seriously detrimental to your mental/emotional health, and also your relationships. Even if you do nude only for "a little while" to get by, those feelings of guilt will still be with you, and somebody might record them, so your videos will still be on the internet forevveerr for anybody to see, including your future child. Just DON'T do nude if you're not comfortable with it, it's not worth it unless it's literally like a life and death situation (and it's not, you have other options).

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    I'm comfortable nude, I was just saying dildos are just uncomfortable and feel totally unnatural lol. I actually like camming...it's great money to be able to work from home. I just want my fiance to be happy, I know he loves me no matter what, but the thought of me masturbating for other guys hurts him and would feel alot better if I just did topless...The thought of giving up camming altogether feels like losing a good friend. It's the first time in my life I've been able to support myself and have strong hope for my future. Right now, even though camming has been a lifesaver I feel that I will need to progress into nonnude in the future...if that's possible. Sounds like not alot of girls make it nonnude?..

    Ps and I only feel disgusting because I'm hurting him, not because of camming itself..yeah it sucks sometimes (only the pregnancy thing has been an issue for me) but working on cam has improved my quality of life and btw my fiance got me into camming lol, pregnant camming has just been stressful for both of us..but he lost his job so I had to start back up 2 weeks ago..Nonnude would be an amazing thing if it made even half of what I'm averaging now..

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    If you don't want to do it, DON'T DO IT!!! You will turn into Shelley Lubben, our mortal enemy.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Quote Originally Posted by GlamourRouge View Post
    If you don't want to do it, DON'T DO IT!!! You will turn into Shelley Lubben, our mortal enemy.
    HE is starting to be very upset by it, I think it's an amazing job...other than it hurting him, but that I take really seriously..

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Non nude camming isn't easy but it can and has been done. On MFC there's a few girls who masturbate over their panties with their vibrators. Crotchless panties are also helpful for when (or if) you decide you want to use dildos again.
    Bitch? Actually I'm an evil cunt. Slut? Try dirty little whore. Either way, you have to pay for it.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    In order to make money being a non nude model, you have to have a really great personality and a really great attitude. Judging by what I just read in another one of your posts, you have neither. If I were you I would figure something else out.


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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    You need to figure out what YOU want and what makes YOU happy. Yes, you love your fiance'. But if you love this job, don't quit for him. He could always wake up and tell you he doesn't love you anymore, your job can't.

    If it was me I'd tell him 'tough shit' and to suck it up get over it or he can find someone else. I'd never give up my job and what I love to do for any man.

    If you want to cater to him then sure you could do non-nude, but dudes are still going to be jacking off to you. You still have to get them off. Is he going to be OK with that?

    If that isn't an option, go back to getting a 9-5 job.

    There aren't any more options than those.







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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Quote Originally Posted by LAChloe View Post
    In order to make money being a non nude model, you have to have a really great personality and a really great attitude. Judging by what I just read in another one of your posts, you have neither. If I were you I would figure something else out.
    Wow, I thought this was harsh, so then I went and looked for the post you were talking about, LAChloe, and couldn't believe what I saw. Chloe is totally right. WTF!
    I can't believe you started insulting people on here like that, OP. When it comes to respect, give a little to get a little. I had some advice to give you about your situation, but after reading how you treat people when you don't get your way on here I'm not even going to bother.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Quote Originally Posted by Zinya View Post
    HE is starting to be very upset by it, I think it's an amazing job...other than it hurting him, but that I take really seriously..
    Welp, it looks like your options are:

    1.) to cam & keep your fiance very hurt and fighting with you and hope the negative energy & stress doesn't affect your pregnancy,

    2.) to not cam anymore and not have enough money,

    or 3.) leave your fiance and be happy camming alone.

    Take your pick.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    seriously, he will get over it real quick if you guys wanna make money. he has no room to cry about it since he doesn't even have a job. its the internet, its cyber sex. tell him to grow a pair and get over it. money is money, take it or leave it. i wouldn't even entertain his insecurities but that's just me.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    I am confused. He got you into this line of work, but then he pulls the jealous & guilt card.
    Knocked you up, yet doesn't make enough money to support all of ya'll.

    You call him your boyfriend, NOT husband.
    Are you holding onto camming because you dont trust him enough to man up and do what it takes to pay the bills. He is depending you to sell your body to make money, but he doesn't do what it takes to support a woman he got pregnant.

    Honey, that is what a pimp does.
    Sadly, he will use this job against you in every argument to get his way. It is simple, your letting him play you. Time for you to flip the script on his ass. This is soooo common that it isn't funny. Why let him get away with that kind of crap?


    If you good enough in your hustle, toys are not necessary. I have been upping my game & cut down on toy usage while increasing my income.

    In order to do non-nude you must be gorgeous & have your hustle on. That is such a rarity. This is the time to perfect that hustle.

    Good Luck,
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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    I thought I remembered your handle...you wrote a while back about your guy not wanting to work...writing to you in that thread was one of the first posts I ever wrote here, that's why I remember it...
    anyway, I now understand a bit more clearly why you're so stressed out, even though your circumstances in no way justify how rudely you responded to Katya. Your words in the other thread were really nasty, and totally uncalled for. Being overtired and overworked isn't an excuse for rudeness.
    Seriously though girl, how much of your life are you gonna spend designing your life around a selfish slacker? Slacker cuz he seems to think that he doesn't need to work, and selfish cuz he's clearly ok with dragging you down with him. Now that you're pregnant he wants you to change your job strategy in a way that may significantly alter your income, at least in the short-term? NOW??
    You have a baby on the way, so now's a great time to practise making choices that will serve the needs of you and your child. Do. What. You. Need. To. Do. to make enough $$$ to take care of your needs, and that of your child when he/she gets here. Your guy shouldn't really get a say, frankly. He hasn't earned the right.
    I get that you're under an anvil of stress, but start making some smart choices for you. I imagine you want your guy to be a great dad, with every fibre of your being, but face the fact that chances are you're gonna be in this on your own eventually. Pregnancy and children to do not strengthen relationships, but rather strain any existing fault lines. Being poor as fuck will exacerbate this.
    Anyway, sincere good luck. Be smart and do for you, and your little one on the way
    peace

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    I read your post from back in June
    So you got knocked up by a loser with no job, lives with his Mom & smokes weed all day.

    I have no pity for you.
    You chose him.
    You fucked him until you got pregnant.
    You let him use you.
    You let him make you feel guilty about making money to buy his weed.
    You chose a guy with no job, no ambition and hates responsibilities. This is the person you want to father your kids. Wow, really?

    He isn't your boyfriend he is your PIMP!

    Sam

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    With out knowing the whole story of how, why, whatever...it seems like the scenario is you're pregnant and the BD is a fucking loser. I've just recently got out of a relationship with a bitch boy and only now I'm starting to realize how I needed to get out of that sooner. I spent so much time trying to get this fool on his feet and it wasn't working out. I thought it was so meant to be that I let myself settle and downgrade my ideals of what kind of relationship I wanted. In the end I was just taking care of this manchild who ended up resenting me anyway for being a strong woman and holding the fort down cuz his ass couldnt get a job after attending 1 interview in 1 whole year. He's not going to change. And maybe he will, but he's either incompetent or doesn't care enough about you. Those are the only two options and i don't know why you'd want to be with either. If this "man" isn't helping you while you are at your most urgent point of your life, where a child's health is at risk, he ain't going to be there for anything else in your life.
    If I was pregnant and in a relationship, I will be doing not a god damn thing but that's just me. I don't think venturing into a whole new...or actually joining the adult entertain business (since you've never gone nude) when you're not feeling comfortable about it, out of desperation, while you're with child is the mentally healthiest decision to make. But yeah, definitely make his scrub ass contribute and take care of your health. good luck. and i dont know about dildos and pregnancies but just make sure you're very clean. you dont want any infections.

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    Default Re: ugh I feel like shit, love my fiance...but we need the money :/ Going non-nude???

    Obviously people like to just keep drama going... Thread closed!!!

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