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    Yup. Time to quit. When I started assaulting guys regularly, I knew it was time to hang it up.

    Never had anyone be that cruel before though, especially the number of them in one night. Wtf.

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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Never had anyone be that cruel before though, especially the number of them in one night. Wtf.
    I know, right?! I swear, if I hadn't been doing this for this long, I would've walked out or been crying in the locker room.

    I swear it's abuse, physical mental emotional and sexual abuse. God....the things strippers put up with on a nightly basis is unbelievable
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    I hung up my big girl shoes last Saturday. Had enough of the BS. Got tired of being solicited, grabbed, guys trying to LICK me (really?! EW gross), my name being dragged into drama. I snapped one night & broke off 2 nails snatching a CAMERA out of a guy's hands as he was trying to take a picture of the girl on stage. I was *so* incensed I didn't even know my nails were gone!

    So tired of stupid men who think they can treat us any old way they want. Just because their aunt mama ans uncle daddy said they were special doesn't make it so.

    /end rant/
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    I am so sorry this is happening to you. Sometimes when people sense a weakness they solicit it and run u through the mud with it. Taking a small issue(like a possibly a bad mood) and making it into a disaster.

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    If some guy snapped me with a rubber band, I would sink my heel into his face. That's absolutely unacceptable.

    I've never endured treatment that cruel. Harsh words, sexual abuse and just....dealing with their grossness, I've handled. But Jesus!

    Lately, I've found myself growing less and less tolerant of customers and their bullshit, but I feel like it's a good thing....like I was a doormat before and I'm finally putting them in their place.
    Last night, this guy wouldn't even turn to look at me, much less talk to me. So after a minute or two of awkwardness, I declared, "Ok! I'll just go fuck myself now!" and walked off. I also stole some ideas off SW, like telling them my name is Frank in a deep manly voice when they pester me for my real name, or taking off their hat and throwing it across the room so they'll go away.

    One time, this gross fucker tipped me, took his dollar off the stage and tried to tip me again with it. Bouncer got to him before I did.

    Another douchebag held up a dollar, refused to give it to me until I "worked harder" and after giving him even more of my time and affection, he walked away....without tipping me.

    Yeah, they suck. In a nutshell, I don't blame you for assaulting them.
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    You poor thing! That sounds awful!! I guess there's nothing more to say other than you have my sympathies. This job is especially hard because we put our best out on the line, rather than a product like in other sales jobs. You deserve better. HUGZOS

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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Golden View Post
    Another douchebag held up a dollar, refused to give it to me until I "worked harder" and after giving him even more of my time and affection, he walked away....without tipping me.
    Guys do that all the fucking time.

    I'm just so DONE with all their bullshit. DONE DONE DONE
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    I just don't get how they think it's okay to talk to us like that. Would they talk to us on the street like that? no. Would they talk to a salesperson like that? no. Would they talk to a BOUNCER like that? no.

    I went to one of the bouncers one night and said something like "why can't you kick them out for being rude?" He said that they used to but the business is so shitty now that they can't afford to throw them out for being rude. Maybe. But they CAN go up to the guy and tell them to give us some respect.

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    Most people I know need to work to eat, etc., Thinking of other threads and other comments.. not sure who these special ladies are that just love the sex industry but it makes me real suspicious and creeped out to hear anyone defending the industry from the people that actually work in it.

    I work as a stripper in order to eat and survive, etc., It is the most valuable use of my time being I am not educated.

    But the shit we have to deal with is just beyond belief. Being a stripper is subjecting yourself to abuse and only the strongest survive and you can only put up with so much for so long. Hopefully you can take a vacation to de-stress. You have to be strong to be a stripper and everyone needs a break sometimes. The fact that you have been in this industry seven years is a testimony to your strength but I also feel that things are getting worse.

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    it sounds like you need to switch clubs. maybe i'm just spoiled by my management but if i don't like a customers tone and i tell mgmt, that customer will accidentally fall out of the door and accidentally smash his head on the pavement. jesus help him if a customer called me a bitch, our club would be a crime scene.

    so maybe you aren't burned out from dancing. maybe you're burned out from working in a club where you aren't being taken good care of?

    Quote Originally Posted by papillonluvr View Post

    I had a guy say I was the ugliest stripper he's eve seen, another say that I was a bitch and stuck up, another guy snapped a rubber band at me on stage, another tripped me, and two took their dollars off my stage and left the stage, and another was picking on me to his friend saying he could totally see me working at McDonalds, and another saying I looked way older than the 26 I honestly told him I was. Called me a liar and that he couldn't believe I was only 26. Not to mention all the solicitation and grabbiness.

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    Aww Im sorry sweetie Glad ur ok and have leaving to look forward to!
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    God, that's a horrible night... I agree with whoever else said that it might be your club, or just a freak accident that you encountered nothing but complete assholes... That is just SO wrong.

    Being burned out really does make you notice that kind of stuff more, though. There are times when I'm making decent money and I tolerate it well, and other times when I'm super stressed out that any little comment a guy makes causes me to go off the deep end.

    It's good that you're getting out soon... Best of luck to you. : ) Let us know how your new job goes!!

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    I am really angry reading about how your were treated! I would be beyond upset. The rubber-band incident?? I would have snapped! You are very strong to have survived this night. The tripping as well, I would have lost it.

    The stupid name calling, dollar taking and them trying to mess with your self esteem are bad enough. But the physical stuff...I'm just speechless.

    I know what I would have done and I would have been so fired: I carry a small purse w/ me on the floor. Always. I have my car key and an 18K gold razor blade attached to it. I would have sliced his face. Way more than once. Then go to the DR to cool down, get dressed, pay whatever frickin fee, call a cab (I would have got my car the next day, so those assholes wouldn't follow me) and never go back.

    You are so much stronger than me. You don't deserve this. None of us deserve this. I don't know you, but I am mentally sending you positive energy.
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    Well tonight was definitely better than last night. Although the $$ was comparable, I was treated better.

    But still, I can really tell my mental state compared to when I first started is way different. Much less tolerant for sure.
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    I completely understand how you feel and you are not alone. I had such a hard night last night with so many rude assholes that I almost felt like i wanted to cry Although the night before I had a great night with just the usual. I think it is the end of the year and we as strippers are so so very tired and like you said burnt out and we become more sensitive and therefore more likely to snap. Maybe you just need a break as I know I do or like the other girls have said a change of clubs.

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    I can make you feel better.... a couple weeks ago, this drunk short guy was being a complete obnoxious time waster. I was trying to walk away with a smile, because his friend was a high roller and I wanted to get in on that action. As I was getting up to leave, the obnoxious midget was like, "Can I have a kiss on the cheek?" Begrudgingly, I leaned to give him an air peck, and he turned his face, and all I felt were whiskers from his 1980's Tom Selleck moustache touch my lipgloss.... I felt so violated!
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    I'm over all of this in general..... it's just not worth the side effects anymore. This job has completely alienated me from my family. They are, understandably so, not accepting of it at all. I have no relationship with anyone anymore, they basically all look down on me and/or feel sorry for me. The money is not even close to what it used to be, and the whole atmosphere is different. Guys are treating us with less and less respect, and it's taking a huge toll on my emotional well being and self esteem. I can't take it anymore, I'm done!
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    Quote Originally Posted by luscious sadie View Post
    stripping has taught me that most men hate women.

    Or at least most of the men who come into stripclubs...

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    Papillonluvr, I'm so sorry that happened to you. I've overheard numerous customers make awful remarks about attractive women no matter what. I think a number of customers walk into strip clubs with the intention of being the biggest asshole they can for the hell of it or just because they've recently experienced rejection and can't get over it.

    It sounds like you need to get out of the business or go to a different club. I've always been the type to hurl an insult right back if someone was rude to me. The thing about it is, I would wind up getting one or more lap dances or VIP out of the guys I insulted right back. Some guys are weird like that. Sometimes they disrespect you because they want to determine your weakness. If you have the guts to stand up for yourself and tell them to fuck off, they respect that and will gladly buy dances.

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    Quote Originally Posted by papillonluvr View Post
    So I think I've reached the point of no return.

    Last night I snapped at 3 guys. I can only recall snapping on a guy once or twice at most since I've started 7 years ago.

    I had a guy say I was the ugliest stripper he's eve seen, another say that I was a bitch and stuck up, another guy snapped a rubber band at me on stage, another tripped me, and two took their dollars off my stage and left the stage, and another was picking on me to his friend saying he could totally see me working at McDonalds, and another saying I looked way older than the 26 I honestly told him I was. Called me a liar and that he couldn't believe I was only 26. Not to mention all the solicitation and grabbiness. I swear guys just treat strippers like blow up dolls they can do whatever they want to with.

    It was such a bad night. Unfortunately, this is happening more and more and more.

    I can't remember nights being like this. I remember it being a lot better, and guys being friendly and nice. Is it just me being more sensitive to this kind of rude and cruel behavior, or is it really getting worse?

    Either way, I am so glad I am getting out of this business. One more month is all I can take. I am so burnt out on this.

    I swear I'm going to end up acutally physically assaulting them if another guy attempts to touch me or lick me or snaps a fukcing RUBBER BAND at me. Enough is enough.
    Things like this are why I had enough and left. The clubs suck and they are getting worse. It's the one industry where men feel like they have the right to attack women verbally and get away with it many times, while we are forced to entertain them even if not dancing. I knew when I started encountering more days like this I couldn't work the clubs anymore.

    Btw, you are very pretty so why they would say that leaves me speechless. Then again men can be assholes.

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    I felt like this when I was doing erotic massage (it's legal here in UK). It was strictly defined NO TOUCHING OF ME ONLY ME TOUCHING THEM , explained clearly to them at the start before the massage and during also but even when it was explained to them 80% still tried it on anyway and most tried to pull me onto them to kiss too, of this 80% around 50% WOULD NOT STOP despite numerous times being told loudly to stop and their hands moved away - they just kept on forcing. It's violation, sexual assault, no two ways about it. You say you offer x and y but NOT z and they will take z anyway because if you offer x and y then they think you are fair game. Erm....nope. I have agreed to do x and y for an amount of money. Personally, groping and invasive touching or kissing felt disgusting to me, so I TRIED not to offer them. But most customers had different ideas.

    The insults I got were extreme also . getting called ugly and old (at 25!), fat, chubby, saggy, dumb and other horrible things can really grind a person down.much as we'd like, we don't have an invisible shield, these things do hurt and if you are anything like me you may turn into an angry angry man-hating person.

    Even though my money was still good (over 10 times more than I could ever hope to earn in any other job!) I just couldn't take any more one day after some douchebag tried to steal back the money he had paid me to put up with his constant aggressive groping despite me clearly asserting "do not touch" a few times. It was weird - I just sort of "snapped" there and then, although it must have taken a lot to get to that point I now realise. I signed on for unemployment benefits the very next day (or welfare as those in US call it I think - a grand total of equivalent $105 a week to live on I think) and then got a minimum wage job after 2 months. It just got to the point I couldn't take any more, even though the massage was netting me in 2 hours what I now make in a 40 hour week.

    Burnout is bad. I'm glad to hear you are getting out. Kudos to those who can cope with sex work though , I couldn't. Now I can do the odd bit of camming to supplement my job a little, and I get around £35 / $55 (?) a week from picture selling online. But that's it . No more work where anyone can physically get to me or insult me without an instant "kick out" button.

    When I quit it really wasn't the best time financially as my savings I had used up, but I just couldn't bring myself to work another day so I just sort of let go and trusted that my immediate needs (food, shelter) would be provided for until I got on my feet again, and they did x

    I hope you are feeling better soon x You are not any of those things those guys said to you x

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    I feel like I could of written this. Sick of assholes being disrespectful and nothing happening then going home with a small percentage of what I used to. It's not worth it. It helps to find a club with awesome security and one that cares if girls make money and keep coming back. Some clubs won't throw guys out anymore unless they're a liquor liability. That is just wrong. If you have to end a dance or VIP with somebody they should not be refunded and they should be shown the door and not be allowed back. A lot of customers are unemployed and most are on strict budgets so I think they try to get some sort of interaction without paying. In the past year or so I've become much more snooty, I try to actually make certain customers avoid me. Stay strong, ignore the assholes, and keep your eye open for quality customers and work on keeping them coming back for you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by papillonluvr View Post
    Well tonight was definitely better than last night. Although the $$ was comparable, I was treated better.

    But still, I can really tell my mental state compared to when I first started is way different. Much less tolerant for sure.
    Last week, I was stuck in the forceful grip of a very, VERY large man who would not let me go and proceeded to suck on my neck and play with my nipples. Management came in and saw it, then ripped ME a new asshole. MY job was threatened because I was assaulted and was caught in a moment of shock, followed by relief because I would assume my manager would step in. I still managed to walk out with $200, which in my book, isn't too bad for a Wednesday right before Christmas.

    The next day, I had a completely uneventful night and barely managed to make $100. (I'll say it again....here, it's absolute shit right before xmas.)
    When hubby asked how my night went, I told him it was GREAT! I had fun, had a couple drinks, rode the bull for a bit, played some pool and didn't get freaking molested!

    So even though I made less cash, I was considerably happier than the night before. From now on, I'm making a point to consider what I'd be subjecting myself to if I pushed to make that really, really great money.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Farrah_Golden View Post

    The next day, I had a completely uneventful night and barely managed to make $100. (I'll say it again....here, it's absolute shit right before xmas.)
    When hubby asked how my night went, I told him it was GREAT! I had fun, had a couple drinks, rode the bull for a bit, played some pool and didn't get freaking molested!
    Do you have a mechanical Bull at your work??? if you do that is so cool, lol.
    But in what you saying yes you have to draw a line somewhere that your mental health out ways going through hell for $$

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