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    I have had a regular who has been coming to see me for the past 3 weeks. He will not dance with any other girl but me.

    Lately he's been saying lets go out to dinner and I say ok. But honestly I dont want to see him outside the place. I thought he would forget all about it. He asked for my number but I gave him my email instead. I didnt think he would remember but he did
    I wake up in the morning with this message......

    I'm sitting on the ferry headed home to NJ and I can't stop thinking about you. I'm even catching hints of your perfume and its reminding me of your beautiful eyes and amazing smile and its driving me mad on the inside.

    Meeting up with you for a nice dinner and great conversation is something I am very much interested in doing. I want to know everything there is to know about you as you are something special in my life.

    When can I meet you for dinner? Please talk to me I am genuine and promise to be the perfect gentleman.

    Mike

    P.S. Thanks so much for supporting my decision to shave my goatee. Your nice words about my new look confirms I made the right decision and have no regrets what so ever.



    Like seriously does he not realize that i am at work not Match.com

    He sent me two emails after that:

    I know he will be back because thats what hes been doing. Please ladies give me advice. Not to sound conceited but honestly a girl like me would never date a fat ugly guy like him. Not my type.

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    Laugh. Seriously. Or string him along the best you can for cash.

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    Im not a stripper, but as a cam girl, one of the things that we keep in mind is to not lead a guy on that you will ever meet up.

    When you told okay to dinner, you accepted his offer...when you gave him your email address, you took the communication from the club to a way to reach you outside of the club. Its really not fair to say youd think hed forget...he was persuing you, and you gave him the greenlight to. I understand you didnt want to lose him as a customer, but gave him a reason to write you that email...hope.

    Id guess, the main thing would be to let him down gentle, without losing him as a customer and also without turning him into a stalker (always a possibility). Maybe you can tell him that things are going on in your personal life, that there is someone who has your heart and he wants to give things a try and you want to see where things go, but that you really appreciate his offer.

    Okay, I am the type of girl to try and take the nice and gentle way out of things...but at the same time, I havnt led a guy on, on cam or with escorting that there will be more than our time together that he pays me for....I nip that in the bud and avoid that whole situation altogether, that really is best.
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    Milk him! Tell him you will go out to dinner with him, you REALLY want to, but you HAVE to work.... put the bait out there and see if he takes it. He will say something like, don't worry about work, I will take care of you. Then see how much he is willing to give you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by J.D. View Post
    Milk him! Tell him you will go out to dinner with him, you REALLY want to, but you HAVE to work.... put the bait out there and see if he takes it. He will say something like, don't worry about work, I will take care of you. Then see how much he is willing to give you.
    Thats so mean...but I like it lol

    But in the longterm, shed eventually either have to go for dinner with him, or flat out tell him no or something? How does something like that end up? Im curious...!!!

    What if he can actually afford to pay her not to work? What if he tries to be romantic and brings her dinner or offers to take her out after work or something? My mind races, Id be in a panic attack....lol
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    ^^^Then you agree to meet him for dinner, in a public place, as long as you both drive separately. Chances are, if he's that stalky-creepy, he already knows your license plate number anyway.
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    Quote Originally Posted by mediocrity View Post
    Laugh. Seriously. Or string him along the best you can for cash.
    This, or tell him straight up you are there to make money.

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    He sounds like a pretty lonely guy. He hasn't done anything wrong to you, though his requests are foolish. I don't see any reason to be cruel. Explain to him that you don't feel comfortable furthering a non-business related relationship with a customer, but you appreciate the time he spends with you in the club, assuming you still want him as a customer. Honestly, I distrust and often dislike most men, but that's no reason to become malicious.

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    You just see how long you can get money out of him in this way..... Eventually he will realize you played him all along but you should already have an exit plan in action by the time that happens.
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    All regulars have an expiry date. Do what you can to bleed his wallet dry before he turns sour - and he WILL turn sour once he realizes a young, attractive woman will never be interested in his fat, ugly ass for any other reason than money. Get as much money out of him while you still can. If you think being honest is the best policy, then try that route.....but seriously, if you can play dirty...then do that instead. It will ALWAYS lead to a bigger payout in my experience.

    I sound like a cold, cutthroat bitch but - plenty of men on the internet confess to using women as they please.....why should we feel guilty about using customers to our benefit. It's what they want anyway...they're paying for a fantasy, and that's what we're giving them.

    Do like Med and JD say - tell him you really WANT to go out to dinner, but you REALLY need to work to pay off a student loan/bad car loan/medical bills you're SUPER behind on. See if you can get him to either A) Spend even more on you while he plays the 'white knight' ITC or B) Pay you to spend time with his fat ass.

    I'd only go with option B once Option A is completely played out. Once they get you OTC (even without sex) they never seem to be able to get it back into their stupid thick skulls that they're STILL customers and it's hard to get them to spend ITC again (again, IME - a better or more seasoned hustler might be better at the ITC/OTC custies.).



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    ^agree with all of this... another option (once you've gone through the excuses option) is to book at shift that starts later (ie.9pm), go to dinner with him but ask him to come to work to spend the rest of the night in dances because you are having such a great time and you don't want it to end, but you have to work. Note: Id probably only take this route if he's gonna spend at least $500. Don't bother for less than that IMO.

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    I had a regular and I gave him my email address. Wow did I regret that. He was taking up my personal time for free and he only used my email to continue to try to get me outside of the club. I Googled, "How to delete Gmail account"


    As a stripper you are a fantasy and that is what guys pay you for. It has to remain a fantasy in order for you to be able to do your job and have your own life. Play along, allow him his fantasy but never cave in.

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    It may be silly for customers to even try to ask you out for dinner or ask for your email, but.... you did say yes and you did give him the email address. Did you really think he was going to forget it about and not use your email? As much as I usually jump on the "yeah, stupid custies! I'm at work, not a singles bar" train - I have to say, what did you expect when you accepted his invitation and gave him a way to contact you? If you didn't want to keep getting hassled about it, you should have cut it off before it got to that point. Now, you have 2 options: keep stringing him along to get more money out of him but have to deal with his clingy-ness getting worse and then him eventually snapping when he realizes you've played him, or let him down now. Either bluntly or, my personal favorite, in a way that implies that there's someone else that you have to try with (old boyfriends "re-appearing" are good), so that way he knows it won't happen, but he might keep spending on you because he won't feel duped and angry.

    This guy is clearly in la-la land at this point... the part about him being really happy that you said you liked his goatee shaved off was a little creepy.... Most sane people don't care that much about a mostly-random girl's opinion on their facial hair. He sounds a little loose, so I might try a nicer and gentler approach to letting him down rather than playing with fire.
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    Default Re: How the hell do I even respond to this?! Love letter from a custie

    All you have to do is tell him you don't date outside of the club.

    How hard is that?

    So what if you lose him as a customer. The ideal customer is someone that knows how to play the game - they show up with cash in hand not expecting to meet you OTC.

    The guy is already in love with you which does not make him the ideal customer. He will eventutally come to terms that he shouldn't have to pay you for his feelings towards you because they are genuine.

    I would like to add that I would not like it if a customer taunted me by saying he was going to spend a lot of money on me, then not do it.

    It's the same thing.

    Like BlkSharpie said milking some poor sap is mean.

    Milking everyone else is your job.
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    I have to agree with the others. I hate to admit this, but I have run into this a few times and yes I used him. Eventually he got the hint that it was only a fantasy and I would never be interested in him.

    Quote Originally Posted by 4everresolutions View Post
    All regulars have an expiry date. Do what you can to bleed his wallet dry before he turns sour - and he WILL turn sour once he realizes a young, attractive woman will never be interested in his fat, ugly ass for any other reason than money. Get as much money out of him while you still can. If you think being honest is the best policy, then try that route.....but seriously, if you can play dirty...then do that instead. It will ALWAYS lead to a bigger payout in my experience.

    I sound like a cold, cutthroat bitch but - plenty of men on the internet confess to using women as they please.....why should we feel guilty about using customers to our benefit. It's what they want anyway...they're paying for a fantasy, and that's what we're giving them.

    Do like Med and JD say - tell him you really WANT to go out to dinner, but you REALLY need to work to pay off a student loan/bad car loan/medical bills you're SUPER behind on. See if you can get him to either A) Spend even more on you while he plays the 'white knight' ITC or B) Pay you to spend time with his fat ass.

    I'd only go with option B once Option A is completely played out. Once they get you OTC (even without sex) they never seem to be able to get it back into their stupid thick skulls that they're STILL customers and it's hard to get them to spend ITC again (again, IME - a better or more seasoned hustler might be better at the ITC/OTC custies.).
    I am glad 4ever is back. What she said is so true and I have been reading about all these guys who are doing online dating to use women for money and mostly sex. When I read these stories, I can't help but think if a guy uses a woman she has every right to use him back.

    Btw, I am of course older and even I am not interested in a fat ugly man. Why these men think attractive women have an interest in them is beyond me. We all know there are leagues but men often don't get it. They often think they can get much more than they can, and this is so obvious on dating sites. That's why I have no issues with women using men like this one because so many are delusional.

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    Well first: Saying "yes" to meeting for dinner gave him the thought that you were interested. Him asking for your number but you gave him your email? Another way that says to him" I'm interested but take things slower with me".

    Then you got the email which I probably wouldn't even had opened it. I would have trashed it so as to not bring any issues when he showed up at the club again.

    He thinks the club is MATCH simply because you gave him the green light that you're open for more.

    My suggestion would be to ignore the email.
    Wait until he comes back in for a private dance or champagne room visit etc( not sure about what features your club offers for private dances)

    Then in there talk to him a bit more more closely to the end of your time in there. Just be sweet and tell him that you don't want problems with the club and you have a reputation to keep. etc etc. That dating a customer would be frowned on blah blah. Then maybe suggest him keep you busy there all the time so that you give him your undivided attention at the club.

    OHh wait I just read that he's fat and ugly too? Ohh wow that's just so ugly. Be careful. These types get real ugly fast. Like they haven't been faced with rejection on so many levels and now a stripper told him "sure I'll date you"? " he's my email"? This guy feels like he hit the jackpot and is now going to run off into the sunset thinking the world didn't get him until now.

    Ohh yeah I would suggest be straight up with fast. He sounds like he can end up being one of those crazy ass stalkers. Please break it to this guy gently.

    Now of course common sense dictates that this man would be dumb as dirt for thinking a hot sexy dancer would want his floppy ass. It's just unrealistic which is why he's paying for her to make believe he's such a hot guy. Even so these ugly types feel that if they pay enough they can probably get a girl to do pretty much anything. In some ways this is true but it doesn't apply to any and every woman.

    So please be careful on this one and for future reference I would stay clear away from " sure we can have dinner". Then again you could end up making $3,000 off of holiday shopping with this walking bear claw. Still it's highly unlikely because some of these types are trying to run their own game.

    btw I'm going to get a bear claw now, that sounded damn good

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    IF you choose to go out to dinner, tell home he has to pay for your time. Make it clear he is still a customer. I normally charge what I think I'd make during the hour or so I'm not at work + 200. Charge what you think if fair, and if he refuses then that's the end of it.

    And also 4ever had some good ideas as well.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kassie View Post
    Please talk to me I am genuine and promise to be the perfect gentleman.
    Guys asking to meet out of work are annoying anyway, but the above line screams RUN AWAY I'M A DESPERATE STALKER/ WEIRDO!! Ignore him till he brings it up again then tell him sorry but you thought about it and don't want to mix business with pleasure.

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    They see us as sex objects and they are human atms. They should know better than to be asking random strippers out. Shit. Have him pay you for dinner. $$$$

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    I've had guys who routinely buy my videos on c4s and then they start paying extra for customs, suddenly start asking how much I would charge for phone calls, skype chats, etc. I just started an ELM account to sell my google voice number and email specifically for this purpose. Perhaps you could tell him that you do offer special options for regs and you'd give him the number/site to keep in touch when he travels, but that your regular rate for time applies. I agree that you opened a dangerous door when you feigned interest for his feelings, not just his cash. Cut ties now or be honest that you screwed up and really aren't interested in OTC stuff.
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    I would tell the dude that you really wish you guys could go out, but you have so many bills to pay (make up an excuse he'll like, like school tuition etc) and so you can't afford to take the time of work. Hopefully he'll offer to compensate you for what you'd make in a shift and you can give him some much higher number. If he doesn't, he'll come into the club to see you since now he knows you'll be there and that you need to make money for those bills.


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    Wow what would I do without you ladies?! Life savers. Well I'm going to work today and most likely he will show up. I decided to take some of you girl's advice and break it off kindly. I don't want to take this to another level. He seems to be falling in love and I don't think its worth the money to deal with this Psycho. I'm open to seeing customers outside the place and having them pay for me BUT this guy is not my ideal customer.
    Oh god I hope he does not show up.

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    Here is another email -___________-
    I am getting more and more creeped out i cant wait till its over

    Mike here and as if you didn't already know this I have a great time with you. You are truly something special. You put me at ease, make me feel super comfortable allowing me to be myself in ways I’ve never felt before. I also think you are incredibly beautiful ... very..... you’ve heard me say this a thousand times.

    I’m also dead serious when I say I'd like to share your company over a fine dinner. No expectations other then spending quality time getting to know each other more. Let me know when we can get together...soon. I am pretty flexible and will move mountains to make this happen.

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    I wouldn't try to string him along at this point, but I'm not a dancer, so I'm not in exactly your shoes. No matter what, I think you need to decide what is safest and do that.
    Behind every bitch is a girl who got tired of being broken and used.

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    please let us know how it goes.

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