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    On Friday, I met this guy on cam, and we went private, and all he wanted to do was talk. He sent me an invite to his cam, and he was cute! He kept acting like he was new to the site, and was telling me all this stuff about himself. I genuinely had an attraction to him, so I made the mistake of giving him my Google Voice #. After our show, I googled his e-mail and screenname, and found out that a lot of the stuff he'd told me was lies. On top of that, he kept talking about wanting to date me(less than an hour of even knowing me), and then he'd go into "mmmm I wanna fuck you," and he kept asking me to download Yahoo for him. I was immediately turned off and just started ignoring him. Since Friday evening, he's sent me at least 10 texts, 2 e-mails, and 2 voicemails that I've not responded to. I just realized I can block numbers with Google Voice, so I'm blocking his, but I can't decide if I should block him from viewing my cam too, or just act like my phone is turned off, and potentially get more privates from him?
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    Default Re: How should I handle this guy?

    I work on AW and I do skype and msn bookings there. Subsequently the guys I do bookings with remain on my list and occasionally some of them get annoying. I will make small talk with them occasionally, in the hope of more shows and keeping them sweet. Some do some don't. I don't spend on lot of time with them though and typically say something like 'I'm camming just now so I can't really talk, but you should come over and see me on AW". Do something like this? x

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    I use MSN ans Skype through AW...I block everyone unless I'm doing a show for them.
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    Default Re: How should I handle this guy?

    I think you should cut the losses and do not have any contact with him anymore.
    People who do not understand that they should not emotionally attach themselves to a camgirl who acts a certain way because it is her JOB to do so, need to be ignored. Completely.

    There are plenty of members on the sites who act like they should.
    Pay for a show, say a few nice words and see ya later.
    Anything else on top of that is too much and suspicious.
    Your aggravation is not worth the extra $, not when you can have the extra $ from others anyway.
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    Default Re: How should I handle this guy?

    Quote Originally Posted by Vlodina View Post
    I work on AW and I do skype and msn bookings there. Subsequently the guys I do bookings with remain on my list and occasionally some of them get annoying. I will make small talk with them occasionally, in the hope of more shows and keeping them sweet. Some do some don't. I don't spend on lot of time with them though and typically say something like 'I'm camming just now so I can't really talk, but you should come over and see me on AW". Do something like this? x
    This is what I do. I have a couple of guys that message every time i come on just to say hi. I am cordial back but don't make small talk unless they have actually booked a show and have an idea they want to discuss for it. I learned early on that these guys will happily keep you talking all night if you don't cut them off.

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    Well if he lied to you he's not worth your time. Tell that to his face! Once a liar ALWAYS a liar!
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    Default Re: How should I handle this guy?

    He conned you into giving out personal information. Now, considers you an easy mark that he can use for free or fuck.

    Anytime you are nice or polite he will see it as an opening to con you again. He knew a nice long cam session was all it took to reel you into giving out free access to you 24/7.

    Block him everywhere. Your never going to make money off of him again. Consider it a lesson learned. Best way to annoy them is to ask for large amounts of money everytime he contacts you. That is the tactic I use to run off freeloaders.

    Soon as he text or instant messages you ask for $400 to make a car payment. Have no other conversation, just keep hitting him with big numbers.

    Anytime a guy ask me for sex I say great, it is $1000 per hour, cash only. "Oh baby, what's your phone number?" My reply "$350 a week for my phone number". When they figure out you will always be asking them for money, watch how quickly they get mad & never bother you again.

    "Oh baby, I would love to be your boyfriend?" Oh, really, you got money like that?

    I'm not turning them down, just letting them know my time, my energy, my precious self is NOT free or cheap.

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    Yes^. He knows he's cute and feels you'll just run out meet and fuck him. I've seen guys try this tactic alot. Do a long show trying to get personal , and then they come off like you owe them something. This is called " PREPAYING FOR PUSSY". It's the oldest game in the cam world. Want a to fuck a model? Take her on one long private and push for contact details and then she'll think you're super rich and will provide. Nope! It probably took him 3 paychecks just to be able to do that private and now he's expecting a new free fuck buddy to be on his fb.

    Block him from everywhere. He's just going to get worse but Sam! Nice one with the money bit.

    I noticed in indy a guy does one show and he's fucking contacting you everyday you log in. With that Hi bullshit. I asked one guy immediately: Ohh do you want a show? He logs out. I said to him finally that I can't chat with him every time I log in because I am logging in to cam. So If he wants to chat he needs to book a show or in other words STFU!. He said "hi" one more time and I blocked his ass. One show and it will never happen again. This guy also asked " do you meet guys from cam sites"? huh? wtf is that nonsense? Ohh so you cammed once and now think a few more "hi's" and I'll just run out of my house after you've created bullshit familiarity. We'll fuck for free and you'll be happy with your 1.733663 inch cock. Not!.


    Yeah so bottom line. Do the money move. That always pisses them off. Gotta love hearing : you only want me for my money!!! makes me laugh every time.

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    Keep him around at arm's length. Give him 2 or 3 minutes a night to chit chat. When you have a bill due, he'll be there to pay it. Just let him know you are busy doing shows after you've said hi back and exchanged a few casual lines.
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    This biz is tough at best! If a guy annoys me, I ignore him and might even block him. I don't have the time to waste with them and in reality they are usually looking for freebees.

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    I told him my phone was broken, and that he could help me out with buying a new one. He said he would. I created a Chipin and not to my surprise, he didn't chipin at all. Claims he doesn't trust those sites, and he'd rather mail it to me. I told him I'm not giving out my address. He said he wanted to get to know me better, and asked if I'd downloaded Yahoo for him. I told him that since we were both uncomfortable, we could just do a private, and kill 2 birds with 1 stone, get to know each other better, and I get paid lol.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Isabeau View Post
    Well if he lied to you he's not worth your time. Tell that to his face! Once a liar ALWAYS a liar!
    The thing is, though, a tonload of our clients likely lie to us - about who they are, what they do, how big their cock is, their sexual expertise, what they'll "do to us", etc, etc.

    No matter what, we don't do this job to be told the truth; this entire job is based on pure fantasy from both parties, which is why when our side starts to soften and become more 'real' (i.e. us being genuinely attracted to a client), shit can hit the fan.

    The problem with this situation is that HighHeelHottie became attracted to a client, and so treated him to a special privilege of giving him more personal information about herself than she might usually do, (i.e. her Google Voice #) and he started clogging her with texts, emails, voicemails, etc.

    We need to be strict about this, girls. Stay professional and know your boundaries. HHH - if I were in your position, I'd probably block him. Once a guy feels he's getting shit that other guys aren't, and he's "special", he'll likely take whatever he can get for free. Otherwise just make it clear to him that he can ONLY get time with you in paid chat. Treat him the same as every other client.

    Hope you manage to resolve it soon hun! x




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    Nicely put incantatious... good shit ladies!

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    Quote Originally Posted by HighHeelHottie View Post
    I told him my phone was broken, and that he could help me out with buying a new one. He said he would. I created a Chipin and not to my surprise, he didn't chipin at all. Claims he doesn't trust those sites, and he'd rather mail it to me. I told him I'm not giving out my address. He said he wanted to get to know me better, and asked if I'd downloaded Yahoo for him. I told him that since we were both uncomfortable, we could just do a private, and kill 2 birds with 1 stone, get to know each other better, and I get paid lol.
    Mail it to you? Ok yeah block this guy fast. So he wants your address and said he doesn't trust "those sites". I had a guy say the same thing. They just want your address and no they aren't sending you a damn dime. But suggesting a private was a smart move. I say give him 1 week and then block for the New Years.

    Wow I still can't believe he asked for your address. That's so scary.

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    Quote Originally Posted by cherryblossomsinspring View Post
    Mail it to you? Ok yeah block this guy fast. So he wants your address and said he doesn't trust "those sites". I had a guy say the same thing. They just want your address and no they aren't sending you a damn dime. But suggesting a private was a smart move. I say give him 1 week and then block for the New Years.

    Wow I still can't believe he asked for your address. That's so scary.
    Yup, how scary is that? If he's so worried about safety, he should be worried about money getting lost in the mail, or me having HIS info on a check. He said that all of his cards were linked to his bank accounts, so he didn't want to send money that way, yet he's the same guy who claimed he was new to webcam sites, and he trusted them enough to give his credit card info

    Oh well, at least I made $15 off of in today. I've made it pretty clear to him that we aren't going to talk if money isn't involved. He asks for Yahoo, I tell him that my computer is too slow to download more stuff, and that he can help towards me buying a new one. He hasn't tried to talk to me for free in free chat, but if he does, I'll just pretend I'm sooooo swamped by all the guys in there, that he'll have to go private for more personalized attention.

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