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    Default How do you act when starting at a new club?

    Hey!
    I was wondering how you usually behave when starting at a new club? How do you make yourself look busy in the beginning when you dont know anyone? Do you give your all from day one or do you start slowly?

    I am about to start dancing again after a break and this time around I dont want to waste my time! In the past I have always been very friendly with everyone in the beginning - like introducing myself to all dancers and staff etc. I have tried to make myself at home before focusing on the money but I feel that has probably been a mistake, dont know if I have gained so much on doing so in the longrun. I have usually always been careful in the beginning not to step on anyones toes, I mean it could take me 2-3 weeks until I start approaching every costumer because I didnt want to make enemies in the beginning. This time around I am really in a different mode though, I am only there to make money and I want to do it different so I hope you have some great advice!!!


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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    Well it depends on what kind of a club you're at. If I'm @ a smaller club you're going to get noticed. I don't speak unless spoken to. I'm not there to make friends I'm there to make money. No need to be a bitch about it, but you don't have to be everyone's bff within 5 mins of knowing them. That's just my take on it. I'm there to do my job, make my money and GTFO.

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    ^^ Agreed, its too easy to get caught up in politics/gossip when you make friends with everybody.
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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    I haven't been dancing long but I've had "first nights" at several clubs trying to find the right one. I'm sure to smile at the girls who watch while the manager gives me a tour, even if they're glaring at me, which they often are. I get my paperwork done, change, touch up my makeup, check in with the DJ, and hit the floor. I've never tried to approach another girl, but I'm often approached by others. A lot of them seem nice, but most aren't. My general rule is the ones who are the most forward are the ones looking to start shit. They want to know my name, how old I am, if this is my first night there, where else have I worked, how much do I want to make tonight, do I have any kids, etc. The ones who have been nice have usually just sat down with me while it's slow and chatted a little about school or how long they've worked there. One girl even introduced me to the bartenders and the customer who had been buying her drinks. Most just smile at most and go about their business.

    By my experience, even if you go out of your way to be polite, most girls just aren't going to like you on the first night. I brought one girl a tip from a guy at the bar on my latest "first night" and she thought I was a sweetheart. I moved a girl's funny money who was fucking up two of my stages so that it didn't get mixed with mine/stepped on/accidentally pushed off stage, and she wanted to rip my head off and spent the rest of the night trying to fuck with me. So it's just kind of a hit and miss when you show up on another girl's radar.

    As far as "looking busy," I try to go in a little later than the beginning of the shift, since first nights are often either free or discounted anyway. I like to take a lap around the place slowly and check everyone out, see if there are any groups or anything like that, watch who's watching me. If someone seems particularly interested, I'll stop and talk to him then, but I don't ever want to just be seen sitting down at every table and popping back up after a song (I think guys will see it and think the pattern is to reject me or something), so sometimes I'll wait until I turn back around to sit down with people. If the guy you sit down with just got there and seems like he might be a "maybe later" type, maybe say you're new at the club and suggest you two go to the bar for a drink to your first night. It'll give you another excuse to walk around in front of other customers and this time, you're taken. Take the guy's hand and lead him towards the bar, be very flirtatious, but not obnoxious. Touch him a lot, smile, give off good body language. Even though you've told him it's your first night there, make sure you keep the conversation on him. I've had a lot of guys start asking me too many questions about myself and my OTC life and it just never goes well. The conversation becomes too platonic and they aren't there for platonic.

    The above I really only recommend if you're having a difficult time settling into the swing of things or it's slow. My latest "first night" was at a club where very few people were buying dances. Most were watching (notice I didn't say "tipping") stage. I kept my mood up by making friends with a new dancer at the bar and we flirted with a customer who was only there to window shop for the moment. He tipped me for my time and bought me, my friend, and the bartenders too many drinks. By the time I left the bar, a lot of guys had already been watching the fun and I at least ended up attracting a lot of them to stage. If I hadn't become pissy about some bitch fucking with me on stages two and three, I probably would have made a lot more money in the last hour.

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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    Quote Originally Posted by tuesdaymarie View Post
    If the guy you sit down with just got there and seems like he might be a "maybe later" type, maybe say you're new at the club and suggest you two go to the bar for a drink to your first night. It'll give you another excuse to walk around in front of other customers and this time, you're taken.
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    I avoid getting too friendly with anyone in the beginning. I prefer to earn their respect first and friendship later. I wouldn't worry too much about looking 'busy' I would focus on appearing (and the feeling) comfortable. Its not a bad thing to sit at the bar and observe how everyone else works in between finding your own customers.

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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    at a new club i usually lay low for maybe an hour when i arrive and get the feel for how the place works..then its straight into hustle mode. If girls talk to me ill be very friendly and smile otherwise i KEEP TO MYSELF. If girls are interested in anything you have to say they will come up and ask you, so if nobody talks to me on my first night then thats fine too.


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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    I usually try and start on a slow weeknight so I can get a feel for the place. Generally try and stay off anyone's radar, be polite to staff/managers/other dancers. Don't complain to anyone about anything when you're new, no-one cares about your opinion yet and bitching isn't going to do you any favours.

    Be sure to follow all the clubs rules and if you get pulled aside for something minor (a lot of clubs will do this to new girls I find) just apologise and say you didn't know and thank them for telling you.
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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    most of the time I already know at least one dancer at a new club (miami only has so many clubs and all girls rotate just like I do) so in that case, great! she can tell me about the club and I don't feel so alone. If not, this is usually a great opportunity to hustle without distraction and just keep busy hittin up every guy in the club. Doesn't really work when it's dead though..
    In general, people always talk shit about new girls and look at them strange. I like watching girls on stage when there's nobody to hustle. Since you haven't seen them dance before, you might learn something new and also get a feel for the club.

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    Default Re: How do you act when starting at a new club?

    Whenever start at a new club I always try and arrive early so I have plenty time to get ready, fill out my paperwork and get a good feel for the club before it gets too busy.

    I won't really talk to any of the other girls unless I know them. If girls talk to me I'll be polite, but I try not to be over friendly as I try to keep myself under the radar for the first few weeks. Plus, as somebody has already said, I'm there to work, not make friends.

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    On the first night I like to take it slow, and learn the ropes. I don't try to go all gun-ho, because every girl in the place has her eye on you and is waiting on you to mess up so they can get you fired.

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    I don't talk to anyone (staff or other dancers) really but smile and be polite, unless they approach me. I try and hustle as much as possible without being arrogant or pushy around the other dancers. Basically I keep my head down... now once Ive been there a while, the real me comes out which is loud, annoying and friends with most staff... but I respect veterans so in new clubs Im gonna keep the beast caged so I don't get thumped in the face.

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