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    I have a little girl that have autism she is 3yrs, she dont talk at all and not all people can deal with her behaviors that is why I caming for a living and she needs so many things I have to buy for her and therapy which cost so much OMG I am a single mother and I cam at night on SM and thinking to getting a sitter a mom that goes to one of her play group for kids that have as autism said that she could babysit her for three day a week after she comes home for per school she goes to shcool for only 2hrs in the morning so I cam work camming for 6hrs I am asking if anyone has a sitter just to cam or anyone have as a a child with and pays for therapy with your cam money

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    hi mimi, i would def recommend early intervention therapy with a behavior therapist, I think services are covered up until a certain age either that or you get a certain amount of hours per year. I'm not exactly sure who offers them, check with your regional center. I think the regional center in our area sends out behavior therapists for cheaper. See if when she's in school she can work with an OT/SLP, but I'd definitely recommend early intervention. I've seen older children like around 5 or 6 who had autism appear as if they don't have it because their moms started them young.

    You can hire someone to babysit, but even better if the person has experience with autistic children. I had a mom post up on craigslist that she wanted someone to volunteer and do "Floortime Therapy" with her child and I went over there a few hours a week to do it. She was one of those moms who was completely educating herself about the condition and had already trained herself in Floortime and then trained me.

    But yeah I would definitely recommend being proactive about your childs diet, therapy (mostly ABA and Floortime on your part), there's some youtube videos on Floortime if you're interested. It's a more natural based therapy that occurs in the childs natural setting so it's something you can do at home with your child.

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    have you thought about reaching out to support groups and other people with autism and people who have kids with autism? i am disabled and do cross-disability work and have a lot of friends and colleagues with autism...maybe that will help you feel more supported? to have people who know what you and your child are going through, i mean.

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    I do not have a child with autism but I do have friends that have the same issue as you. At a very young age DIET was more nutritional and certain vitamins.

    Today (a few years later) we can not tell the children are autistic. It is a lot of work and I commend the parents that have to deal with this.

    So I don't have any great advice personally...BUT>>>> I can contact him and he will tell me everything I need to know. He is a big into health nutrition, looking for cures to fight things such as this. This man is very well educated in this department.

    Depending where you are located can be a factor on finding a local support group. I will ask for online support groups from him as well.

    Its already hard being a single parent. To have a child with a disability can make it harder when alone.

    Feel free to message me if you would like for me to retrieve the info for you. I do not mind and I KNOW HE WILL BE MORE THAN HAPPY TO HELP when it comes to diet and nutrition and more natural ways instead of chemical.

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    No gluten, no dairy. Autism is an autoimmune problem. You should read Jenny McCarthy's book, or get the audiobook. Its good.

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    Yep, 2 of my kids have autism. High functioning, one with ADHD (aswell as autism). Sounds diff to your situation, my children are at the asperger's end of the autism spectrum. No doubt you've tried diet lol, all as I can suggest is get early intervention services to help (where I am, once they're school aged they're 'dropped at the school gate' - funding is difficult to obtain then, plus therapy early on helps heaps). Social stories are great for teaching things others take for granted (like - how to behave at the supermarket, etc). Try everything. Fish oil apparently works wonders, though after 12 months use I saw no difference in my kids. Find a good paediatrician who will listen to your concerns and work through them with you. What works for some, may not work for others. I see it as a gift, without autism my children would be different people, I love them the way they are, even with the challenges involved. Don't count on your child 'not looking autistic' when she's older, it all depends where on the spectrum your child is. Both my kids are in a mainstream school (I did homeschool a few years ago), although not the 'same' as the other kids, they are both accepted, and most of the issues of parents of asd children are the same as neuro typical kids, just heaps more extreme lol. The best advice I can offer is - seek help, accept help. Trial everything (diet, meds, not overstimulating environment, etc.). Get good at 'the art of distraction' to avoid blow ups lol, and when you get uptight at her behavior, ask yourself - will this matter a week from now?! And most importantly - LOOK AFTER YOURSELF! Pm me if you wanna share stories lol. And when it comes down to laughing or crying, do both when you must. It's difficult, but I like to think we have these children because WE can handle them. xoxo

    Re your question (lol), yes, camming money goes towards my son's therapies. No I don't pay babysitters for when I cam (if I can get a baby sitter, I'm getting OUT of the house lol, I cam during school days with audio or late nights with no audio. Plus what happens if I have a slow day and the babysitting costs more than I make?!). Is there a carer respite available in your area? It's like a babysitter, but the person working has training and experiences with children of ALL abilities.).
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    I'm sorry somehow I posted in the wrong thread.

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    I used to work with children with a range of disabilities, as well as children with autism. Once your daughter is a bit older, if she shows interest in animals, try looking around for a therapeutic riding program in your area. It won't give you free time, but my time working with therapeutic riding programs and watching children with autism bond with the animals in a way they haven't with people was incredible and something I hold close to my heart. There may also be recreational gymnastics programs in your area for children with autism, and some are programs where parent participation is not required (usually 6+ years old). Now, excuse me while I go off to sit with my memories of all the wonderful children and parents I have had the pleasure (and in many cases the HONOUR) of meeting and working with.

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    I have 2 sons that got early intervention starting at 18 months old. once they do hit school, they should get what they need through an IEP. They both received speech therapy and OT, Even in school, if they need it, I have seen kids with aids in the classroom depending on their disability.

    My one son started to talk, and was walking by 9 months old.. but all of a sudden he stopped talking, that is when we called for early intervention (help me grow?) he is now in Middle school and Still receives Speech therapy.

    I agree with Bootsie on the riding! A friend has a son that does and he LOVES it...

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    Quote Originally Posted by evielee View Post
    I'm sorry somehow I posted in the wrong thread.

    OMG now my baby is all most 7years old this is so funny
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    LMAO, I didn't even notice! I hope things have worked out for you though

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    This thread was really great for me. I'm seeking screening and therapy for my 3year old son right now

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    On the off-chance that you haven't read up on the Feingold Program, check this out http://www.feingold.org/what.php Feingold (and later, eliminating other triggers to autoimmune responses like certain grains, MSG and lol almonds) has been a huge game changer for our family. Other tha that I just wanted to offer as much support as the internet can send to you! I know it's super hard sometimes but you're doing great!

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    My son who is 4 has received early intervention services since he was 8 months old. If you are in the US, there are tons of different resources available. I've done therapy in a center but I actually preferred the services through the county (which are free for any child that qualifies, no matter what your income is) because they worked with us at home. Now my son goes to preschool 5 days a week for a few hours each day and the bus and school is covered. He receives therapy at school and loves it.

    Also for those of you who are considering therapy, or even just have the smallest concern about your child. I HIGHLY recommend that you look into early intervention and have your child tested. Your child is never too young, and getting help early is the best. If I would have waited to have my son tested, I doubt he would be ready for kindergarten. But since he has been continuously receiving services and started when he was young he is finally getting on track for his age. I get SOOOOOOOOOOO frustrated when friends and people I know post a concern about their child on social media, and when I reach out about early intervention they say something like "I think he'll grow out of it" or "It's not that big of a deal yet" Therapy unfortunately still has a big stigma, and I think parents tend to not want to think that there may be anything wrong with their child. My son absolutely LOVES the preschool program and it benefits him immensely. One of my friends (who I seriously think her son needs therapy) told me she didn't understand why my son was receiving services because there didn't look to be anything "wrong" with him. Ughhh..

    My daughter is 2 and way ahead of what my son was doing at the same age. I don't think that she needs therapy, however when she turns 3 I am going to have her tested anyway just to be sure.

    OP, also if your child is diagnosed with autism they may be eligible for hours of childcare covered under your insurance, usually through a certified nursing assistant. Like I said, there are lots of resources available. Your doctor can also give you referrals and make suggestions.

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    ^^^ This. I *wish* I had known about Early Intervention when my children were young enough! My friends' son is getting SO MUCH from EI, it's almost miraculous.

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    OP, please start by perhaps contacting your local public schools (and/or the school your child goes to now) and asking about resources for your child. I don't know if you know this, but public schools HAVE TO to provide certain things (therapies, accommodations, etc.) in order to make sure your child gets the education that the law requires. She isn't in public school just yet, but I imagine they would be a great source of info if you asked. Please look up autism groups in your area, as well as asking any other parents you know with autistic children, for the information you need. It is really, really important with autism that intervention happens early. Don't miss that window. You said your little girl is nonverbal and this is a REALLY big deal; she needs immediate help with that. You could also ask your child's doctor, or any previous therapist she's seen, for some guidance.

    As a last resort, if you can't get the info you need, you may consider calling CPS (not because you are doing anything wrong!) and asking them for assistance. Tell them you are low-income, your daughter has autism and is nonverbal, that you cannot seem to find help, and that you're very concerned because she is unable to speak and isn't getting any intervention. I think they may be able to help out if all else fails. CPS isn't just for taking your kids, they actually want to help families as well.
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    Try becoming certified yourself to be better prepared yourself & make money after camming in an area you clearly will be an expert in by having a child with it. Then you will get to know many parents dealing with similar issues & can help each other out.

    Time to network in person, help groups & online. Since you wrote SINGLE Mom, guessing the father is no help. Although his siblings or parents might be a good source, reach out to them. Try some old fashioned guilt trips and lots of cute pics of the kid.

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    @Mimiboo69: Do you mind if we use this as a support thread since it is older? I think that if this thread became active it would bean awesome resource in Life Support. It is hard to find help for the adults that have children on the spectrum.

    I have a 2 year old that has just always been difficult to handle. I felt like such a failure as a parent because here I am. Working the hours to be a stay at home mom and I end up putting my children in daycare 3 days a week so "I can have a break". He just acted out so much and I couldn't get anything done at home. He didn't act the same as my other child or even like the other kids his age. When he stopped talking it was my breaking point. I took him to his yearly check up and asked his Dr what I was doing wrong. So she arranged an interview with Early Intervention (EI). When they assesed him, he had starting talking again but still had behavioral issues and took his case. Finally! Some relief.

    He has been with EI since February. He is supposed to see a specialist in October. He hasn't been officially diagnosed, but we (myself, husband, therapist, daycare) started treating him as if he is on the spectrum and he improved so much. His therapist actually has an autistic child of her own, so she noticed the similarities in the way that our kids act very quickly. So she told me what she thought and I felt so relieved. I kind of understood autism from interactions with friends, but after researching it, it just clicked. The owner of the daycare even agreed and has made an autism awareness course part of the required continuing education for her staff members. Together we are trying to figure out the best daily routine, activity levels, and consequences for his actions. Until an actual diagnosis we can't do much with therapy/ live support though. For both him and myself.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Aurora14 View Post
    @Mimiboo69: Do you mind if we use this as a support thread since it is older? I think that if this thread became active it would bean awesome resource in Life Support. It is hard to find help for the adults that have children on the spectrum.

    I have a 2 year old that has just always been difficult to handle. I felt like such a failure as a parent because here I am. Working the hours to be a stay at home mom and I end up putting my children in daycare 3 days a week so "I can have a break". He just acted out so much and I couldn't get anything done at home. He didn't act the same as my other child or even like the other kids his age. When he stopped talking it was my breaking point. I took him to his yearly check up and asked his Dr what I was doing wrong. So she arranged an interview with Early Intervention (EI). When they assesed him, he had starting talking again but still had behavioral issues and took his case. Finally! Some relief.

    He has been with EI since February. He is supposed to see a specialist in October. He hasn't been officially diagnosed, but we (myself, husband, therapist, daycare) started treating him as if he is on the spectrum and he improved so much. His therapist actually has an autistic child of her own, so she noticed the similarities in the way that our kids act very quickly. So she told me what she thought and I felt so relieved. I kind of understood autism from interactions with friends, but after researching it, it just clicked. The owner of the daycare even agreed and has made an autism awareness course part of the required continuing education for her staff members. Together we are trying to figure out the best daily routine, activity levels, and consequences for his actions. Until an actual diagnosis we can't do much with therapy/ live support though. For both him and myself.
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