When I first started dancing, I felt this way. As I got more experienced, I didn't notice this as much. It turned from them hating to them wishing they could do my job. But somehow I never thought about it again till I read this.
What those girls don't realize is that there are many waitresses in regular bars and clubs who feel that way about them. They feel strip club waitresses or bartenders are low because they're around naked women and horny men or whatever.
I did have a baaaad run-in with a female bartender once just a couple months ago. I was fairly new to the club and she was nice at first, even sending me to custies. But one night she was suuuuper drunk and a customer I was talking to, asked her something silly about what we were talking about.
Suddenly this woman just flipped. She was all, "I'm not gonna pretend that in fucking Uganda you don't have sun you stupid fucking bitch, you stupid fucking bitch!!" and she just kept repeating it till I took custie away. She called it a night and left.
This lady is an old bird (been with the club 10+) so I knew I couldn't complain to management and get anything seriously done.
What I did instead was simple. I don't let my customers or myself generate money for her. I make custies order a lot of fake drinks (approx more than 20/ hour). This means that waitresses/bartenders make LOTS of tips from me. I even get drinks from men who I don't end up dancing for. I throw away drinks as soon as I can. I tip them over in dances so that I can get a new one each dance. I throw them away when the custie isn't looking. When I walk away from a sale I didn't close. Into the ice box (we can get our own water/sodas). Into their drinks. I give them away to other girls. I'm a big cash cow for the wait staff.
I can be sitting with a custie at the bar and turn her down, and make him turn her down as well. The NEXT bartender I order us drinks. When she comes around, I reject her and make custie reject her too. The next bartender will get tipped well too from custie's wallet. I like dayshifts generally better than nights (which she doesn't work anyway) so this really got to her in a uncomfortable, vulnerable way. Now when she sees me she more or less runs away to the other side of the bar to try and hustle before I get to that side.
Don't let these bitches get to you. We are the reason custies come here. If you have to remind a chick of that, remember that there are MANY MANY ways of killing a cat. You don't have to lose sleep, catch high blood pressure, have drama with management, fight, etc... just sit and think for a bit. When it first happened I was angry but after venting to my GF, I sat down and thought. It's worked like a charm, it's legal, and now she wishes she would have kept that drunk mouth shut.

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