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    Question How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Hello everyone. I've been camming for about a month now and everything is going great except one thing. I have a customer, who is a kind man, very easy to please, and an extremely large tipper, who has become obsessed with the idea of meeting up and having sex. I've told him that I don't meet customers, and since I'm a virgin I would never have sex with a stranger, but he can't seem to get the idea out of his head. I don't want to come out and scream at him that it is never going to happen, because he is my favorite customer, and (my own personal selfish reason) he's not afraid to drop a hundred dollars (my cut) on me a day without a second thought. So how do I tell him that that we are strictly cam girl and customer? I apologize in advance if this thread has been made, I tried a bunch of different searches but perhaps I was using the wrong terms.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    If you aren't blunt and firm- he will never stop. These guys are tricky- they play the 'big spender' role just to get to you in real life. You may not want to lose the money.. but believe me.. there will be many more whales to come.
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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    If it were me, I would just continue to tell him NO every time he brought up meeting up/sex. If he doesn't get it and keeps tipping more, then he's a delusional moron and it's his own fault. I would never lie to a guy like this, but if I keep rejecting his offers to meet up, and he won't listen...well I'm not going to feel bad about continuing to take his money. Just keep in mind that one of these days it will probably finally get through his head that you aren't going to fuck him, and the money will stop.

    Oh, and if he really starts to become a problem or scare you, cut him off. The money isn't worth being stressed and like the above poster said, there will be other guys!

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    This is the basic : "prepaying for pussy" mode. I would say about 75% of my money made in camming comes from these types. They cam just to see you naked or to get personal. You're a virgin? What guy wouldn't want to be the first to get in there? You're like a dream to 98% of men right now. A young untouched virgin that if I keep paying will eventually f*** me for free??? Never give up! That's gold! Seriously $100? isn't much of anything. I had guys giving me hundreds-thousands in a day for what? To meet nope sorry I don't do that. Once they realized I wouldn't meet them they never came back to do privates again. They just want to get you used to the money.

    Firmly do this:
    Please stop asking to meet, I like camming with you here and don't want to ruin our cam fun.

    If he stops camming with you then he was basically just trying to higher you on as a virgin hooker. That's about it. Want's the be the first guy who "hits it".

    Also don't be surprised if he starts dropping other cam model names or talking about how much fun he's had with cam models, doing short fast privates or tipping you less money and less until it's nothing at all. He'll pop in at times just to show is frustration by making childish comments about anything he can. You may have to block him out at some point. I've been through it personally dozens of times and it's irritating to see how childish these men get.

    I'm pretty sure you're not the only cam model he goes to see and you're not going to be the last. He'll move on to harass someone else. It really never fails.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Thank you guys. From the moment he mentioned meeting up, I figured that prepaying for pussy was his goal. Maybe I'll just tell him the truth, that I had a guy show me his bank statement with his account containing half a million pounds, and who was willing to pay 100,000 upfront plus my plane ticket if I would be willing to let him pop my cherry. I guess when I think about it that way, his seven hundred dollars couldn't afford me.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    I wonder if we have the same person Seductive. Pming you.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Ill let him harass me for $100 a day every day.
    yes please
    send him my way
    thanks

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    I've had the same situation and I always play along with the "fantasy." I'm like yeah sure baby . . .blah, blah, blah and give them some inflated/ridiculous number and then giggle. It's like their ultimate fantasy, lmao!!! Stupid.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    ^^^ Yeah, this.

    DON'T tell him "no". Tell him "maybe". ;-)

    Rinse, repeat.
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    What I DO have issues with, is that this was a couple of years ago And Judas is still in the freezer.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    If he's not getting the hint and if you can't put up with his whining then you should just be blunt. Oh well if you lose his tips. Trust me, there will be more large tippers.

    No reason to walk on eggshells trying not to offend this guy simply because you want to keep his money when he's obviously being a creep about what should be a professional relationship. Unless of course, it's not bothering you. But you made a post about it so obviously his behavior is annoying to you. Personally, I'd just lead him on and never say yes or no. Milk him for everything you can. I'd even actually see if I could get some gift items/gift cards from him before he figures out you aren't really going to make it happen.

    He may not even stop being a customer. But either way, if they don't take a hint you had better spell it out for them. And if he offered me 700 dollars for ANYTHING in person I'd laugh him out of house and home. I might pee on him for that much, but he'd have to be be blind folded and wouldn't get to touch me.

    You really can't put a price on an in person sexual encounter with a beautiful lady, and 700 dollars is an insult.

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    Yall fell for this ? omg smh
    I feel like im in the French Revolution!!!!!! "Sooooo Many heads sooooo little time!!"


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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Quote Originally Posted by Seductive View Post
    Thank you guys. From the moment he mentioned meeting up, I figured that prepaying for pussy was his goal. Maybe I'll just tell him the truth, that I had a guy show me his bank statement with his account containing half a million pounds, and who was willing to pay 100,000 upfront plus my plane ticket if I would be willing to let him pop my cherry. I guess when I think about it that way, his seven hundred dollars couldn't afford me.
    If you're on a cam site where you're not indy, I would not recommend doing this. If prostitution is illegal where you're camming from, you can get kicked off the site for this. And if he's mad enough at you, he might even get you kicked off himself. I know you're not telling us that you'll actually do it, but if you tell him that you're willing to meet someone else, that's grounds to get kicked off a site. No matter what you do on cam, ALWAYS assume that you're being recorded/ that someone could use it against you later.

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Quote Originally Posted by Seductive View Post
    Hello everyone. I've been camming for about a month now and everything is going great except one thing. I have a customer, who is a kind man, very easy to please, and an extremely large tipper, who has become obsessed with the idea of meeting up and having sex. I've told him that I don't meet customers, and since I'm a virgin I would never have sex with a stranger, but he can't seem to get the idea out of his head. I don't want to come out and scream at him that it is never going to happen, because he is my favorite customer, and (my own personal selfish reason) he's not afraid to drop a hundred dollars (my cut) on me a day without a second thought. So how do I tell him that that we are strictly cam girl and customer? I apologize in advance if this thread has been made, I tried a bunch of different searches but perhaps I was using the wrong terms.


    I don't care how much money a guy drops on you. If you've made it clear that you WILL NOT do such and such, and he still nags you about it, he is selfish and inconsiderate, and you need to drop him.

    I'm so sick of guys thinking that just because they're the highest tipper of the day, they're entitled to all kinds of extras from you. That pisses me off.
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    Quote Originally Posted by MzStar View Post
    Yall fell for this ? omg smh
    My thoughts exactly!



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    Quote Originally Posted by MzStar View Post
    Yall fell for this ? omg smh
    Fell for what?
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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Sarah, I think they think it's a person trolling on here again . . .

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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    There is no gentle way. A lot of men think that they can break down your defenses if they keep pushing, especially when money is involved. Stay firm in your resolve, lead him on, do whatever. Just know that no matter what you do, the fact that he's not buying his way into your panties is going to "upset" him.

    And about these troll accusations that keep flying, what exactly if this person supposed to be fapping to here? Call me dim, but I don't see any fodder.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LusciousKatya View Post
    Sarah, I think they think it's a person trolling on here again . . .
    Yah... but why? There's nothing in this original post that looks like anything other than a someone asking for advice. Not everyone new is a "troll".

    Accusing new people of being trolls is starting to get annoying.
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    ^ Thank you Sarah!!
    Just because someone asks a "dumb" question doesn't make them a troll. Calling people trolls just starts alot of unneeded drama. If you feel someone is a troll, report them. Stop going into threads just to call someone a troll or post pics of one. People will start getting pointed if you continue scaring off newbies.

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    agreed....I used to just try to be super sweet to all the guys and feared offending them but then one day I was like fuck that! lol...and life got a lot better.Don't let these guys waste your time. It's all about the money at the end of the day. No you can't meet me, but let's have a good time right now. Not interested, well keep it moving....someone else will come along, pay the money and not annoy the hell out of you in the process.

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    I would NOT string him along or say maybe....I just don't think that its worth it. I would much rather lose a customer than keep him for a while, take a bunch of his money, and then get his REALLY pissed off because you kept saying maybe and then didn't follow through. He may just get angry and leave, or he may go crazy-ass stalker on you, or he may make a mission of trashing you to everyone he can. Not worth it.

    If you have already said no, and he keeps coming and spending more on you, then you don't need to do anything else. Just keep taking that money! If he brings it up and you don't want to use the word "no" or spell it out because you are afraid that it will damage your money-making, then just say "we already talked about this, remember? silly!". I've found that as long as you are kinda cutesy, and not uber-bitch when turning them down, it won't stop them spending.
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    Default Re: How to (gently) tell a guy no means no?

    Don't worry, you'll get lots of practice saying 'no' gently! I've been camming for almost 3 years now and have, unfortunately, said 'no' many times and in many ways. It's all about finding that perfect way to say 'no' that not only makes you feel comfortable but also gets the message through.

    I have been thanked several times for being honest and gentle...but I have also been thrown to the fires for one thing or another. Do what you gotta do to survive mentally because it will take a toll if you let it. Me, I'm personally affected my the head games a little more than I'd like to admit. I tend to see the 'good' in people so much that even when they're being very, very, very bad I still feel as if I'm the one who is doing things wrong!

    To combat this inescapable feeling I make a goal and stick to it NO.MATTER.WHAT. Don't let promises woo you or don't feel like you have to over explain things (I would do this if X, but Y). Just say: I'm sorry, I'm digital only. This is where I draw the line. I am happy being on cam with you so I hope you won't leave over something like this, but I need to know that you understand we will never meet offline.

    If they leave then, well, guess what they were expecting all along? It's best to let those ones go. They will go to someone else. They will do the same thing to them- all the bribing, arguing, guilt tripping, etc. But it won't be you and you can finally take a deep breath and move on! If he DOES stick around, then kudos! You drew a line you should never have to approach with him again (and if you do approach again, just remind him of the emails. You can continue with the expectation of him bringing it up again or just block him).

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