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    when youre in the vortex, you are happy because you found your purpose in life.
    is camming your purpose? does it make your soul sing?

    people should be asking themselves, 'how can i help' what can i do to contribute to society? what do i enjoy doing. ,
    and once they find that, they will find that their life is 100% fullfilling in all aspects depending on what it is they want (money, love, knowledge)
    i just doubt that very many girls enjoy being companions for old men. they just do this as an outlet to receive the money theyve been trying to attract.

    i dont like camming, i do it because there is no other way i can get everything that i want. i want a lot of money and i want to stay home. i cant even pay bills with a normal job. i feel guilty about this.
    i deserve to have all this money and not have to entertain jerks.
    if i died tomorrow... i would say no, my life isnt fullfilled because i dont take pride in my work, im ashamed that i cant tell friends and family. but i respect that it is this way because if it wasnt i wouldnt make a lot.

    who knows what they really want and how do you come to that conclusion?

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    Well actually yes I do enjoy my job. I would never do a job I don't enjoy doing...which is why I don't have a "real job". I've had em mind you.....I'm even certified to work in nursing but I don't choose it. I love what I do. And don't intend to quit.
    Almost any profession earns their money "entertaining jerks" I don't care what kinda job you get.

    I'll keep this one...where I'm allowed to tell such jerks to stfu or pay me more to tolerate them.

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    Perhaps you don't like camming because you feel you have no other options. Its not the camming that is the issue, its the fact you feel stuck. Work extra hard, save some money and take some classes. If anything it will get you out of your house and socializing with people. Plus you won't feel as if you are trapped



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    I love camming. I love interacting with men. I love entertaining them. I love being an exhibitionist. It's the trying to make money part that I hate. It's downright frustrating to sit around in free chat. I want to entertain and make money at the same time. I've been reading about the Secret and the Vortex, and I really need to learn how to think positively. It's hard, especially when sitting in free chat as I said :/



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    Quote Originally Posted by alys View Post
    people should be asking themselves, 'how can i help' what can i do to contribute to society? \
    I do contribute to society in a very meaningful way. I love my job and I love the intimate connections it allows me to make with other people. If I worked in a convenience store I would have to deal with jerks, if I was a movie star I would have to deal with jerks. Having to entertain jerks in some form or another is pretty much just part of the human experience

    As for 'purpose in life'....all purpose is chemical and electrical impulses in the brain that set off your pleasure center. Everyone's brain is different so what works for one person doesn't always work for another when it comes to the 'purpose' department. Thus the YMMV disclaimer on the majority of forum posts on the internet.
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    I agree with Lady Coco. I love doing it, but having to make money sucks. I love flirting and teasing men. It's funny because in my free time I'm basically do the same thing as I do on AW, chatting, flirting, and what not. Only difference is these are guys in my real life. I love men! Like love love love them. hehe

    If you don't like cam modeling and it makes you feel bad, you should save up and think about what you can do to make yourself happy. Instead of looking at camming as the end, look at it as a means to an end. Best of luck to you=)

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    I like what this job offers me. I get tons of free time, dont work on anyone elses schedule, and I make what money I wanna make. Whats better then that? Yes it has its ups and downs but I believe this job is one of the best out there, and im glad Im into it. I think the worst part about it tho is the whole "secret" of it with ur family n friends...but hey i may tell some friends about what i do eventually in the future and if they get weird on me...fuck em.. haha they werent friends to begin with. THANK GOD for SW, im glad i have all u girls to relate with

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    Amen sister! I feel the exact same way! I love camming and what I do, and I love that I can get paid to stay at home, and support my family. I also attend college for Criminal Justice (6 classes left until I finish my degree), I also plan on volunteering at a place to help lung cancer patients after I graduate school. I have other things going on in the works, so that if anything did ever happen to the camming industry I would survive and be able to keep going and functioning. In addition to reading "The Secret" I have also read "The Fifth Agreements" and I apply that to my life. I am happy and I take my life each day at a time. No one is promised tomorrow. My advise to you is that if you are not happy with what your doing then QUIT camming. Get yourself doing something else now. Don't wait for the right time, there is no right time. You have to put yourself out there. Your entitled to live a happy life and only YOU are holding yourself back. You want to work from home and make money without camming? You have to find a niche. Start looking into it. Good luck!


    Quote Originally Posted by Sinistress View Post
    Well actually yes I do enjoy my job. I would never do a job I don't enjoy doing...which is why I don't have a "real job". I've had em mind you.....I'm even certified to work in nursing but I don't choose it. I love what I do. And don't intend to quit.
    Almost any profession earns their money "entertaining jerks" I don't care what kinda job you get.

    I'll keep this one...where I'm allowed to tell such jerks to stfu or pay me more to tolerate them.




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    Some people find meaning through their jobs, and their jobs are their identity
    Some people use their jobs as a way to afford and discover their own meaning

    I find the people in the latter group largely more interesting to interact with. Theyre also way more resilient if their jobs end.

    I have friends who work in nonprofits, help the world, etc. wonderful people. overworked, underpaid, cranky, some drink and drug too much. However that is their meaning. Whether or not that has value is up to them and their choices, not someone else's definition of the meaning of life according to their own limited framework. We weren't put on earth to become matyrs to some elusive giving back to humanity soul-navel-gazing Protestant work ethic ind of thing. At least not for me, poverty as nobility died out with Jesus. idk too many threads in our archives are girls feeling compelled to justify their presence in the sex industry. I get some are here to get somewhere else - but so are most people in most vanilla jobs everywhere. Not to make this overly US specific - but I dont know any American content with their earnings, job, education, debts, etc. Now and pre-recession. We're an unhappy nation when it comes to labor and are dramatically mentally ill compared to other industrialized countries.... we overwork, dont sleep, dont have sex, dont take vacations, and spend more than we make to attain lifestyles and meanings and merits that are completely elusive. our culture is overly fixated on "producing" and allowing yourself to become a sheep of this mindset will lead to incredible unhappiness. Sex Work is the first area of labor that is lucrative as hell but doesnt "produce" and isnt a part of our "meritocracy" so it is shamed to death. Resist that mindset while youre working in this industry and youll stay emotionally and financially afloat.

    If you dont like camming, OK, focus on getting out of it. Im sorry you feel stuck and I expect others who felt they had to cam or just ended up here are in similar spaces as well. But being stuck and torturing yourself over it in a existential crisis wont expedite you exit. Just stay focused on where you want to be, that's all.

    Personally, Im fine with my choices and lifeplans, but id probably want to die if my job was the only way that I defined how my "soul sings" - life is too great to just define it on how and where you get your paycheck.... but Ill say though that poverty and working for an elusive 'meaning' without much reward absolutely demolishes the soul.





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    This job is hard in the sense that it is a taboo job, but still a JOB.
    Look at the bright side: you are not stealing the money from people, you;re not robbing banks.
    They give this money to you willingly.
    It is a job, because there is a huge DEMAND for it.
    When people understand this 1 aspect, they still stop being so hypocritical about it.
    99% of men and maybe 99% of women watch porn or WANT/have a desire to watch porn if they haven;t yet.
    I say lets blame the other 99%.

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    [QUOTE=roast;2279916]Some people find meaning through their jobs, and their jobs are their identity
    Some people use their jobs as a way to afford and discover their own meaning

    ^^^^^I love this Roast! Overall I love camming and the lifestyle it affords me. For me my time is more precious than money and with camming I choose how I spend my time. I have much more free time to explore the world and the funds to do so. I love that I don't have to commute to work everyday. There are up and down days as with any job but I make more money than I would be making with my 4 year degree at a vanilla job so yes I am very happy and content. First thing first get happy and content with where you are and you will start attracting things you want in your life. If your feeling ashamed and negative feelings towards camming then it's not for you! Do what makes you happy and you will attract more things that make you happy.

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    here's a good video talking about the vortex http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6gXiiQSnXWY

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    OMFG Roast! I couldn't figure out how to shoot down the "contribute to society" rhetoric without sounding like some raging imbecile, but as usual, you put it ever so eloquently! <3 I do what I do FOR ME. If someone else's life is enriched as a side effect, kudos to them finding value in what I do for themselves. But at the end of the day, I'm not obligated to do a damned thing for the sake of another's benefit. I should be able to decide when my actions are directly philanthropic in motivation. As long as I'm not infringing upon the rights of others, I don't see why what I do matters? *insert long ass nihilistic rant here*

    Anyway, I LOVE being a performer. My love of it may be enhanced by the fact that I'm a bit tipsy at the moment, but I enjoy what I do. It enables me to do other things that I enjoy doing (like staying up until 5 AM reading because I don't have to be at work 4 hours after the fact). Free chat does suck all of the fun out of though. I got started with this as your run of the mill exhibitionist and getting no positive reinforcement back after I just sexed the room up is frustrating as hell. Compliments don't pay the bills, but they're better than everyone gawking at me in silence.

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    I really do get where you're coming from OP, so my critical comments here aren't directed at you, but more at books like the one that's being cited here...
    Books like The Secret are really popular because they give people a sense of control, that we have control over the outcomes of our lives, if not in specific circumstance then at least in a sense of feeling 'fulfilled' by a 'purposeful' life and work if only we decide to choose it. That we're ENTITLED to fulfillment and wealth. That's a wonderful idea, and I'm not knocking it, or rather I wouldn't if it didn't feed into the entitlement issues that consume most of us North Americans, myself definitely included at times.
    Roast stated it well above, we're often so concerned with lifestyle and meaning and 'what will the neighbours think!?!' that we forget the fact the North American ideals of happiness (accquiring things, accquiring 'fulfillment') are to a large extent a figment of our collective imagination. I think it's easy to forget how fucking lucky we are...we're not slaving away in an export production zone sweat shop in Bangladesh for 12 cents an hour, we don't have to choose between buying food or paying the rent, which is what I see alot of here in my city amongst the working poor. Lots of people are unhappy doing work they hate, but they can't do fuck all to change that, at least in the short term, due to structural barriers beyond their control.
    If you feel stuck, it's actually a really wicked thing that you're able to recognize it, so you can at least make concious choices about how long you want to remain camming and what you decide to do next. You and I and the rest of the people on this forum are in a really privileged place compared to the vast majority of the global population in that the search for meaning is even an option. No one's life is perfect, but we're privileged in even having the option to consider an alternate career path. Many people-in both vanilla and adult work-don't.
    In your search for meaning, maybe it would be almost freeing to recognize the incredible gifts you've been given, that we've all been given just by virtue of the era and geographic location we were born into. That alone won't enable any of us to feel 'fulfilled', but it may make the next step easier (choosing what you DO want to do) in recognizing that the temporary worst case scenario is remaining in work you dislike, but which affords you a lifestyle you enjoy.
    Sincere good luck, peace and lotsa $$$$$

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    (but seriously, where is the LOVE button for Roast's post? she hit the nail right on the muhfuckin' head!)

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    Crazy but true... when I returned to sex work, I spoke to a counsellor with my church* and asked what they thought, because I was worried about how my family would react. The counsellor actually said 'well, if this is your calling, then do it and don't worry. blah blah Mary Magdaelene blah blah possibly a prostitute blah blah....' I'm sure you get the picture. In summary she said that ALL jobs have worth, and even with sex work, you help people. A lot of the times you don't even realise it.

    Personally I love my job. Many of my clients have issues with intimacy and depression, and their sessions with me help assuage some of their fears and worries. I'm not a counsellor, but what I do for them helps them to deal with some of their issues.

    *I'm pagan but was raised catholic.

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    Camming is an amazing job, not everything about it is amazing including entertaining assholes, but it has done so much for me and my family's life that I can't look down on it anymore. I was thinking about how I could cam and lead a fulfilling life...I guess it starts by knowing what exactly makes you happy and give you a sense of accomplishment..My passions in life are art, helping others, and traveling, and making sure my family has everything they need. Camming allows me money to travel, time to work on my art, money I need to care for my family, and I was considering starting some sort of non-profit for animals in the future and working towards a degree in business after I get myself out of debt, move to a nicer area, and have something stable going..the benefits of camming are like no other job. If anything it's given me hope for the future...

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    I feel like I overpost comedians but I really think theyre brilliant -

    Doug Stanhope kind of summarizes how I feel about work and how to relates to the meaning of life -- particularly how it is perceived and borderline deified as "everything you are worth is what youre worth" in American culture... but you know with a drunk facetious edge








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