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    Hiya. So I hope I didnt post this twice.
    Just wanted to say hello Ive been a lurker for a while but now that I am 18 I really want to start to work as a cam girl. The only thing is for various reasons I am still in high school and I live with my parents. I would love to get into camming I am comfortable with my sexuality and a natural flirt. I think I have the self confidence and drive and I could do the job well. The only thing is first of all my bed is kindof lackluster its just a single mattress on the floor lol I'm pretty poor, and the other thing is I am so afraid my parents will hear me or see that my lights are on. I dont know if its unrealistic to want to do it now, should I wait til I'm out on my own or do you think its possible? Is there anyway I could sound isolate my room and keep the light unseen?

    Thanks for your helpful advice on this forum. I would have probably signed up for a studio a while ago if not for you guys. My studio said you didnt even have to be 18! Than I researched and found this is an unbreakable rule.

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    Default Re: Just a lil newbie asking for advice

    I understand this seems like a great option for fast cash. Your parents finding out may cause some serious issue. Mainly if they still attempt to check in on you before going to bed just to watch you sleep. You also have to watch out for guys trying to push for your location, personal information and attempting to prey on your newbie status. Plus you may have limitation on what you are wanting to do and someone may attempt to push those boundaries. You can try doing shows with the sound off and telling guys that you can't make noise. Some guys may even like this idea better but again you just never know. I mean do you have a lock on your door? It's just a delicate situation. I would suggest first reading the threads in the camming connection and really thinking if you feel comfortable being in this industry. There are many predators in this industry so you have to be extra careful.

    Hope this helps

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    Default Re: Just a lil newbie asking for advice

    u could cam when ur home alone... or cam from a friends house who lives by herself....?
    but anyway, please read this thread when u have time...
    camming is risky and not as eazy as it seems

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    I started camming when I was living with my dad (I was 20 and a single mom though btw) so my situation was a bit more desperate. My room was in the basment, his was on the top floor, I did have a lock for my door, and cammed quietly for a couple hours very late after he went to bed. Well he still found out (hacked into my computer somehow to check what I was doing..he's a tech geek) and kicked me out just a couple weeks after I started. Either because of that or because he was an anal douchebag and I didn't have time to clean exactly when he wanted it...So I'd say camming at your parent's house is very risky, especially if your parents are assholes, and only do it if you're literally out of options. I don't regret it at all though, camming has gotten me out of the most desperate of situations to one where I'm living very comfortably, can take care of my kids, and never have to borrow money or kiss anyone's ass to get by. Analyze your situation and ask yourself if getting found out is worth it because it's a good chance it'll happen...in my case it was worth it. For most, it isn't..

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    Thank you for your great and kind responses to my question. I will continue to research on it and consider this. I want to do this long-term but I will maybe wait a lil bit longer I dont feel safe here anyways.
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    Also, don't forget there are tax issues. Have you filed your own taxes before? Do you know how to? If you don't file you could be in a lot of trouble.. If your dad files on your behalf and doesn't declare your earnings it would also equal trouble.
    Be careful with your decision, I don't wanna stop you in anyway, but it would be quite difficult to get around your parents at this stage.

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    I've cammed without sound before, but honestly it did drop my money. But that's just me, everything works different for everyone. I suggest maybe actually telling both or one of your parents if you would feel comfortable with this.. they may surprise you, although if you can already sense it won't go well you should go with your instinct. Camming with a friend or just a couple hours a day at a friend's house who understands might work well too, at least until you save up enough money to move on to bigger and better places




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    Baby girl double think and make sure this will not effect you with your future. YOU WILL BE BROADCASTED EVERYWHERE. Also there are so many negatives and positives. Beware....Just examine what you dream of for your life.
    My personal experience is I love the persona and being able to be a whole different person..that whole different person defines me today and luckily I love it. This is not the case with some performers.
    Please don't fall victim to lies of customers, and the list can get longer of liars...Street Smart is a big thing to acquire when you are a adult performer as well as common sense.

    Edit! Im not saying your dumb....just beware and hopeful to have a GOOD understanding before you start.

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    You can cam with no sound and tell your custies that you're 18 and still live with your folks so you can't have sound. The guys who are into teens will eat that sh*t up. But you really should make sure you read these forums and learn what you can about your privacy and safety. Always be suspicious and never trust anyone. Be smart about things and you'll be fine. Some guys are extremely tricky when it comes to scamming camgirls.

    Also, keep in mind that who you are now is not necessarily who you will be in 5-10 years. If I were you, if you're worried about your parents finding out, I wouldn't tell a soul...not even your best friend about it. People tend to not be able to keep secrets like that and it may end up getting back to them. Anyway, good luck and be safe.

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    If there is a studio suggesting that you can cam with them without being 18, RUN AWAY!!!! You do NOT want to be working with a studio at all, never mind a studio that is happy to break the law and put minors on cam. Wait until you are the legal age (if you are not already) and work through the site directly.

    Other than that - I would wait until you are out on your own (or living with a roomate!) before you start...or just tell your parents. And finally, really, really do think VERY hard before you start. Working in the industry closes a lot of doors to you, and as much as the guys LOVE young girls, you don't want to do anything that is going to negatively impact your life.
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    Default Re: Just a lil newbie asking for advice

    what would happen if your parents found out and kicked you out of their house?
    or what if someone recorded you and put it on a tube site and it got passed around school?
    i think its a bad idea to start while you are living with your parents AND in high school.
    i would get a vanilla job, and save up for your own place and then start camming.
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    ^^^^^^ YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I forgot ur still in school! NO HONEY! PLEASE WAIT! unless you have no other option and are out on the streets..this will be here for a long time...you young ONCE! ONCE! I swear Im not bashing you but at least enjoy high school.

    YES as well MEN WILL PREY on you bc you are so young....I mean viciously prey on you..that alone is a mind fuck. PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE think and make sure you can handle everything without breaking..those of us that have been in it a while still experience the mind fucks...your mind has to be ready!

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    Have you thought of doing content - so video, pics - instead?
    I had to move in with my parents for a few weeks, when I was between houses and jobs. I kept doing pics and videos because I just couldn't cam. My room there was not fit for camming and they didn't leave the house enough :p
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    I think because your 18, still at school and living with your parents it would probably be best not to start camming right now, you will always have to worry about your parents finding out and what they think about it and whether you would be able to continue living there or not and you would have to think about the people at your school finding out and the repercusiions that would have on your life.
    If i was you i would wait at leats until i finished school and then maybe consider what the others had said about camming when everyone is out, but if you dont have regular hours where you know the house will be free then it could be hard to build up a regular fan base.
    You could maybe do photos and videos on a site like AW and just dont show your face, they will sell...then you could save up that money and get your own place, if you have continued your camming and marketing research during this time then you should have a better chance of making it work well for you...it will also give you more time to decided it this is really for you as find the time to make and sell pics a vids will give you a good idea of the stresses of camming!

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    I would also recommend waiting to cam until you're moved out or graduated at the very least.

    Sometimes I think to myself that it would have been cool to have started camming when I was 18 (2 years ago) for the money, but in all honesty I would have missed out on a lot of valuable learning experiences if I did. Sex work is something that I thought about for years and I don't think it's something to be taken lightly for a variety of reasons. You are taking a long term risk of being "outed" and won't be able to pursue certain careers without fearing that your camming past will come up. Plus you need to be mentally prepared for the things customers are going to say to you and the reaction of people in your life when they find out. For the latter concern, I think it really helps to have been independent (financially and otherwise) for at least a little while, so you are more secure in yourself and your decisions in the event that others react negatively or reject you. I can't imagine how I would feel if my parents found out while still living with them, along with my high school classmates and people in my home town.

    I think the most *ideal* thing to do is spend at least a year after graduating doing some "soul searching"/trying out various things...working a vanilla job, volunteering, taking community college classes, traveling, living on your own, whatever. A broader sense of perspective is always a good thing and especially so if you delve into camming.

    Perhaps camming IS something you've been thinking about for a while and perhaps you have considered many of these things. If it is something you truely want to pursue, there is still a lot of mental preparation you can do before getting started in terms of research. Especially if you have considered making this into a career.

    If, after taking these things into consideration, you still plan on camming...a thick blanket covering the door can block out the light. You would have to do without sound, but your parents may still hear you typing. You could get a quiet keyboard. BUT they could probably still hear you shuffling around on your bed. They will probably sense something going on. They might check your computer history, or if they're sneaky, track your IP address. You might leave your door unlocked by accident after going to the bathroom and they might walk in. There is no way to prevent them from finding out completely...PLUS you would have to worry about receiving mail from whatever site you're working on, your parents would see it. What if they saw your paperwork? etc etc

    Not to sound overly preachy but just a few things to consider

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    I think if you're emotionally mature enough to deal with everything that camming brings (sex work stigma, the possibility of being found out, not being able to get a job in certain industries etc.) then go for it. However, if you have nosy parents like mine (not my dad so much, but my mom) then there's no way you'll be able to get away with it long-term unless you cam in the middle of the night or when they're gone.

    You'd probably be better off waiting till college to start camming, and even then you have to be careful about getting found out.

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