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    Default Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    The attitude of many of the night shift girls at my club really annoys me. Does anyone else notice this at their club? I work day shift mostly and one of the reasons is because many of the night shift girls are so snobby and rude. What's the deal with that? Isn't the job hard enough already without all of us being bitchy to one other? At my club many of the girls on day shift have been there for years and we're all very friendly and supportive, even to new girls. We're not cliquey. I really like how well the management and dancers get along...they're kind of like a second family in a way. I'm not saying all the night girls need to be be best friends and hold hands, but is a smile and a little friendly small talk sometimes too much to ask? Its just nice to know someone has your back...even if its just in a small way. Customers can be disrespectful and demanding. Outsiders often judge and belittle us.

    For instance, tonight as I was getting dressed to leave I made eye contact with a night girl and smiled, she gave me this look of disgust like "how dare you look at me". Maybe she was having a bad day, but its happened before. Even with the girls do occasionally say hi...you still get the sense that they would totally pull one over on you if the opportunity arose. It's every man for himself and it doesn't matter how you get the money...just get as much out of the men as you can. Its such a harsh environment compared to our "friendly neighborhood" strip club during the day if that makes any sense.

    I'm really nervous, too, because I'm moving soon and I've been working days at my club for five years. The change will be hard enough for me already. What if the girls are all extremely catty and aggressive? I've toughened up considerably since I started dancing, but I'm still more thin-skinned than most and I'm not competitive at all. Just curious to hear how other dancers feel about the girls on their shift...Do you all get along, mind your own business, or are fights always breaking out? I'm holding out hope that I can find a nice club like mine in my new town. I'm wondering how common/uncommon it is. Thanks!

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    I have found that girls during the day often get along better than night girls because there are less of them. The girls who work during the day also have different customers come in, in my experience, so they're used to acting differently.

    when I worked day shift I found that the customers were nicer, would go to the back for longer etc. However, I like to be able to "trick or threat" hustle (basically introducing yourself and asking for a dance) and I find that I cannot do this during the day. I also found the girls were way more interested in me and accepting because they knew THAT is how they got customers. At night you generally have a higher ratio of assholes and way more competition. There's still nice girls.

    don't be intimidated. Just do your thing and don't pay attention to any of them. Think of how shitty that girl's attitude must be that someone SMILING at her would cause a reaction like that. Guys can sense that negativity. I feel sorry for girls like that, tbh. What is so wrong in your life that a smile is offensive?
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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    Competition is competition whether it's dayshhift or nightshift. I personally don't give a fuck. Let them dog me all they want. While they're busy hating on me I'm busy making that paper.
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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    My club is similar. All the day girls know each other and seem more friendly in general... But there are WAY more night girls than day girls, and a lot of the night girls are the type that come and go, work at the club for a month and then disappear, so it doesn't really matter if they're bitchy for the short time they're there. But they also have to deal with the loud drunken assholes that come in at night, which can mess with your sanity. Days are more mellow, nights are busier and more obnoxious, and I think it brings out different attitudes in people.

    I'm a night girl and I try to be friendly, but sometimes I'm antisocial just because the customers are driving me freakin insane.

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    I don't think the issue is day shift versus night shift. Sounds like you've been insulated from lots of the crap most strippers put up with. If you've been working with the same close-knit group of friendly dancers for years, that's awesome. It's also rare. Night shift probably has more girls and higher turnover. If a stripper who doesn't know you isn't super-friendly upon meeting you, don't be surprised! I'm never super-friendly to strippers I don't already have a decent working relationship with. Maybe she was afraid you were about to ask for relationship or parenting advice, or to borrow her cell phone, baby wipes, mascara, cab fare, etc. Don't take it personally!

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    That's why I love day shift. It's so much more laid back and relaxed.

    Even though I get along with all the girls (day and night shift) at my current club, there's just too much damn drama on night shift.
    Girls crying in the back, girls yelling about baby wipes, yelling about their shit being touched...it's just a giant headache!
    It's not worth the money to me.
    It's bad enough we have to deal with assholes out on the floor, the last thing I need to hear when going to the dressing room is some girl crying because "so and so" fucked her over on money or "who took my baby wipes...blah, blah, blah"

    I'll stick with my laid back, steady day shifts.

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    Quote Originally Posted by azaleanola View Post
    I don't think the issue is day shift versus night shift. Sounds like you've been insulated from lots of the crap most strippers put up with. If you've been working with the same close-knit group of friendly dancers for years, that's awesome. It's also rare. Night shift probably has more girls and higher turnover. If a stripper who doesn't know you isn't super-friendly upon meeting you, don't be surprised! I'm never super-friendly to strippers I don't already have a decent working relationship with. Maybe she was afraid you were about to ask for relationship or parenting advice, or to borrow her cell phone, baby wipes, mascara, cab fare, etc. Don't take it personally!
    I have to agree with this. I've met some really friendly and welcoming girls on the night shift, and some catty bitches in the day shift (and vice versa, of course). I believe that we can simultaneously be supportive of each other AND competitive at work, but clearly not everyone shares this viewpoint. I agree with what the others are telling you: be friendly but not overly social with the other girls, and focus on making your money. Eventually you will settle in on the night shift and become more comfortable with or used to the atmosphere.

    Also, you may find that the same girls who are bitchy and try to intimidate you at first will back off or even become friendly towards you once they realize you're sticking around. I don't quite understand why (maybe it's the high turn over, and they don't want to befriend every "new girl" who may or may not stick around; maybe they're just trying to establish their "territory"...???), but sometimes the more established dancers on a competitive shift will cop an attitude with new dancers, then back off after a while. Good luck, and hang in there!
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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    You really shouldn't even care. Truth is, we are in an industry where we work with a lot of women who just don't have their shit together. SO, I'm one of those girls who rarely will speak to people who I don't even know, or ask for a favor. I warm up to some people, maybe, eventually, but I don't know anyone's real name or give out mine. That is part of this job, period.

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    Honestly, I've found that day shift girls are cattier than night shift girls in my area. Day shift girls just seem kinda cliquey and possessive. The only time a girl has ever been a flat-out RUDE bitch to me was when I attempted to talk to a day shift girl during the shift change. From my experience, the day shift girls tend to cop a bit more of an attitude, as though they need to "prove" something to the night shift girls that they're just as good as us or something... Idk, but IME, day shift girls are the only ones who ever actually gave me a hard time about anything - night shift girls stay out of each others' business.

    Like you said yourself, the day shift girls tend to all get along and be friends - night shift girls tend to keep to themselves. Not only can this translate to you as the night shift girls having an attitude, but it could also be translating to them that they're not a part of your "group." You say you aren't cliquey, but you don't have to be snobby to be viewed as a "clique" to the outside world. Just the fact that you all kinda have your own world going on in day shift is a little cliquey in and of itself. I'm not saying that as an attack or accusation, just that that's sometimes how it seems to me, and you may not see it from your angle.

    And overall, some girls, no matter what shift they work, are just bitches. Your story about the girl giving you a look like "how dare you look at me" happened to me when I was new, except in reverse. I was a night shift girl - attempted to say hi to a day shift girl who was hanging around later, and she gave me this putrid look like "what business do you have speaking to me?" So, it goes both ways. Some girls are just snooty bitches.
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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    It's the opposite at my club. The day shift girls are all catty and bitchy, and night shift is way more friendly.

    Or that may be because I've worked night shifts for 7 years, and worked a day shift for the first time last year.
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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    Some girls rather not be friendly to make friends. Maybe its like a safe guard? You know how some girls try to be friends with other girls in order to make money... Some girls just ain't having that. I wouldn't take it personal either. At work(especially a new place), I stay neutral. I don't want to make friends or the opposite. The only ppl you should be friendly with are the hosts.

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    I've seen the opposite too. I've worked both at my current club, and whereas night shift has various groups of girls, and most are friendly while the catty ones stick in their one little corner and bitch amongst themselves. Meanwhile on dayshift the girls are all the "tougher" mean girls, and thwy have their own little cliques that no-one else is allowed into, and they get possessive as hell about how dayshift is THEIR shift, the daytime money is THEIR money, the guys who come in are THEIR customers. I always put it down to the fact that on night shift we get a variety of customers - regulars, out of towners, bachelor parties, and its kind of a fair competition among all the girls. On dayshift it's very regular-orientated, and so each girl has "their own" one or two customers who will make up most of their money for that shift. So, anyone who gets in the way of the dancer/regular for the day is hated on. Maybe it's just that way at my club's dayshift, but I choose nightshift over day mainly to get away from the bitchiness, rather than the other way around.


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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    When I arrive to do my makeup for nightshift I'm mentally preparing myself for the shitheads I'm about to encounter and I'm very quiet. I work in a small club though, so most of the night girls (including myself) work days/mids also. It's a revolving door. Most of us are super friendly with each other.

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    Default Re: Night shift girls, what's with the attitude?

    I have not been dancing long, but I learned the first day; I am in this for my needs and not others. I attempt to be cordial, if I get brushed off or ignored... Oh well, I wont let it ruin my day. At the club I am at the day shift seems to be a lot friendlier atmosphere than the night shift. Most dancers have kids, school or second jobs or just enjoy sleeping when the average people sleep. Live and let live... Like mentioned above, many night girls at my club are short timers and don't last long. I avoid the drama and leave with my sanity.

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