



"You're better than no one and no one is better than you."
-- Bob Dylan
“There's never going to be a great misunderstanding of me. I think I'm a little whacked.”![]()




It makes me so sad too. He's such a sweet old naive man. He's the only customer I have a genuine soft spot for. The reason why it came up was that the creeper was standing behind a few feet behind me at one point in the conversation and I leaned in and asked my regular if there was anyone standing behind me. He said he wasn't anymore and confided that he was worried that the creeper and his friend/"business partner" had scammed him. He also mentioned something about wanting to help the creeper because he could tell he was a very troubled man. Needless to say I told him to do what he could to get his money back but to run the fuck away and never look back. He took it to heart, especially after I told him I couldn't come back to see him if the creeper was at the table because I feared for my safety! I feel so bad for him.


If you havnt already, start documenting everything on a calendar. Its good to do this just in case someone needs some sort of proof that this guy has issues and is stalking you. Maybe 2 calendars, one to keep at home that your b.f knows where it is, and one for at the club kept someplace safe, tell a trusted friend you work with where it is. If its possible get a clear picture or 2 of this guy, maybe when he's not paying attention or if you know his name, maybe hes on facebook/myspace, print a couple pics out and keep them somewhere where your boyfriend knows. And this way you/your bf have something to show the cops if necessary. Get his license plate number if you havent already, make and model, document this. Figure out as much as you can about him without him knowing your doing it, again tell your bf where this info is, just in case. I hope this guys doesnt take this to another level but if he does you need to have as much info about him easily accessible to your bf or friend at the club. Glad to hear your protected though at the club.
Im so sorry your going through this I really hope creeper goes away.![]()




^^That's great advice. My boss says that she's pretty sure he drives a blue sports car and parks in the same parking spot every night. I'll try to find out his last name and have one of the girls who uses her phone on the floor all the time to sneak a couple pics.
On Thurs he gave another dancer a personalized bracelet to give to me that he'd "already bought" but he left me alone except to try to tip me onstage. He had a couple of flip outs after that but I'm not sure they were because of me. Either way I'm pretty fucking pissed the manager went back on her word and told me to stay away from him instead of kicking him out after I told her about the bracelet.
I'm feeling better about the situation but of course I'm going to keep my guard up. I'm kind of worried for the dancer who gave me the bracelet because he sat in his car and stared at her while she was leaving that night (unescorted!!!!!!). When I told her he was bad news she laughed and told me not to "let fear control me." She didn't even know that he could get personal info from her license plate until I told her!!! It pains me and honestly annoys me that someone can be that naive, but whatever, can't say I didn't try.




There is a middle ground between "letting fear control you" and an utter disregard for your own personal safety. Unfortunately, it sounds like this girl might have to find that out the hard way sometime. Hopefully it doesn't come to that - maybe she'll grow out of it before something truly scary happens. When I was a very young adult (18-20), I was pretty careless with my own safety too. I know this is a cliche, but it's also true - many young people think that they're invincible, and that nothing bad can happen to them.* (Maybe not literally, but I just don't think a lot of young people can imagine that something like that can happen to them personally, unless they've already had to go through it.) Of course, I'm just assuming this girl is 19ish, she may be much older and just kind of naive.
Also, it sucks that manager is backing down on her earlier promise to look out for you. I'm glad to hear that he's starting to leave you alone more, and that you're taking all the proper precautions. Once again - stay safe!!
*Disclaimer - I know that there are plenty of young women on this board who are aware of the risks of working in the sex industry, and that take care of themselves and have good heads on their shoulders. I'm not talking about you here.
"I didn't discover curves; I only uncovered them"
- Mae West




Nope, she's in her 30s :/
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