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    I always heard it does but never thought much about it. Before I started dancing 9 months ago I was, well, just say I had a very high sex drive. For the first six months I was only dancing two or three nites a week and still had it. Then this Fall I've been working 5 to 6 nites a week, 10 or so hours a nite, at a very high contact club. My desire has taken a nose dive big time. Maybe its from all the constant gropes, grinds, and licks. Maybe its because I'm tired always. But now sex with my SO or anyone else is not appealing to me at all. Maybe I need to take a break? My SO misses the old me! Maybe i do too?

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    This job totally takes a toll on your sex life. You're exposed to so many perverts and men that push your boundaries that when you get home the last thing you want to do is be touched. Or if you are touched, you may think to yourself, "Shouldn't I be getting paid for this?!" Lol.. I think many of us dancers go through this phase, especially if we're working as much as you are. You need to take it down a notch, you're going to burn yourself out!
    Thankfully I work at a very low contact club and don't have to deal with guys that are allowed to touch my breasts, ass, body.. That would probably mess with me as well. My advice would be to get a hotel room or even just set up a romantic "retreat" at home and just enjoy your SO. Get that old feeling back again. Massages, gentle touching, etc..

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    Yea, as Ive been n the business longer my sex drive has gone down. Working a whole lot will def kill it too. Being so detached yet in tune with one's sexuality for a job causes one to detach outside of the job as well if u follow..

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    Yes yes yes and yes, it's funny that men think strippers are all crazy in bed but sex is the absolute last thing on my mind when I come home. Feel bad for my bf lol. We used to fuck multiple times a day when I wasn't dancing for awhile, but I have no desire for someone to make me feel sexy or to be sexy when I'm home because I've been forced to pretend for 6-8 hrs. Around a bunch of strangers. I don't like to look at my bf in that light but sometimes I'm just soooo tired of being a sex object..... That when I come home, I want to be as lazy and unattractive as possible. I won't even shave my legs for my bf, wear contacts or makeup. I just don't care at this point.


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    Quote Originally Posted by shift_6x View Post
    Yea, as Ive been n the business longer my sex drive has gone down. Working a whole lot will def kill it too. Being so detached yet in tune with one's sexuality for a job causes one to detach outside of the job as well if u follow..
    Yes I definately compartamentalize.. Sex(not literally but you know what I mean)= work. I seperate my home aNd work life completely, so it's hard to act sexy at home for me without feeling really put off the majority of the time. It really sucks.


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    Yeah, it's definitely had a negative effect on my libido. The clubs here are pretty high contact, and after work I just really don't want to be touched at all, by anyone. My bf used to playfully grab my ass as I walked by sometimes, which used to be cute and flirty and fine. But now when he does it, I hate it. My first instinct is to flinch away and elbow him

    He understands, but I think he's kind of hurt that I feel that way about being touched by him like that.
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    The job has slowed mine down some. My SO often asks "how many dances did you do? How many different guys? What were they like?" I tell em "shut your jealous insecure ass up!"

    Hardest part so far is keeping those parts of my life private and not share the crap with my SO. Only part I do share is the crazy crap I hear from other girls, but we both get a good laugh out of that

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    Quote Originally Posted by babylovexxx View Post
    Yes I definately compartamentalize.. Sex(not literally but you know what I mean)= work. I seperate my home aNd work life completely, so it's hard to act sexy at home for me without feeling really put off the majority of the time. It really sucks.
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    To bf: well i better give u a bj bc i sure as heell am not in the mood for anything else lol.

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    I wish it did..

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    Default Re: Has Stripping Stolen Your Sex Drive?

    thanks for some of your nice posts, at least it made him feel better, sortof. Is this the price i have to pay for 90 an hour? jeez.

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    Quote Originally Posted by bollywood baby View Post
    I always heard it does but never thought much about it. Before I started dancing 9 months ago I was, well, just say I had a very high sex drive. For the first six months I was only dancing two or three nites a week and still had it. Then this Fall I've been working 5 to 6 nites a week, 10 or so hours a nite, at a very high contact club. My desire has taken a nose dive big time. Maybe its from all the constant gropes, grinds, and licks. Maybe its because I'm tired always. But now sex with my SO or anyone else is not appealing to me at all. Maybe I need to take a break? My SO misses the old me! Maybe i do too?
    I just re-read your post, and realized the insane amount of hours you're putting in. No wonder you're burning out, chica!
    I would suggest taking a break from dancing all together, but if that's not possible right now, you definitely need to cut down on your hours. Working 60 hours a week in a strip club is like kryptonite for your libido AND your sanity.
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