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    Yesterday, I was canned for a bullshit reason by a shitbag manager. This event has inspired me to write a post telling all of you how to learn from my mistakes.

    So your manager is a shitbag. First off I'm very sorry to hear that. It makes life difficult and makes you dread going to work, which in turn exacerbates the problem. This asshole will notice you are avoiding him or her, and probably continue to target you. It is also not good for your pocketbook which precipitates the cycle. This is how you slay your dragon.

    1) Document, document, document.

    a) Is your shitbag over charging you? Good news. You can prove it. Keep all your check out receipts, and if you don't get one- ASK FOR ONE. Even if you don't work in a corporate club, you can request something stating how much you paid to the club. Say it's for your taxes, and if it's not a print out get that shit initialed by someone! Your house mom, another manager who is NOT a shitbag, your bouncer when you tip him out, your DJ. ANYONE THAT YOU WORK WITH CONSISTENTLY. If they can't initial for the house fee, at least have them do it for what you tipped out. Most tip out are on a percentage scale, and this will reflect your earnings. Can't do that? That's ok. ALL CLUBS MUST GIVE PROOF OF EMPLOYMENT IF REQUESTED, and the only income they can PROVE you made is your house fee, or in some cases your credit card sales/funny money. This will all reflect what you have paid out to the club in one way or another. Store your slips in a safe place.

    b) Is this asshole sexually harassing you? That fucking sucks. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING. Buy a little notebook and bring that thing with you. Write it all down, times, dates, what happened. Be as specific as you can and lock that shit up. Is this person texting you, or leaving you voicemails? Save it ALL.

    c) Emotionally abusing you or putting you down? See option b. Same deal.

    2) Reacting to this douche.

    a) DO NOT GIVE THIS JERK A REACTION. Do not cry, or yell, or sass them. I know it's hard, but you'll get them later. All of your reactions can be documented as you being unstable and unreliable. And guess what? Unfortunately a lot of the time when it's the manager's word against yours, you're fucked. So keep yourself poker faced until we get to the end.

    b) DON'T DRINK A LOT OR DO ANYTHING THEY COULD DEEM QUESTIONABLE. Don't get drunk. Don't bend and flex the rules. Follow the house rules to an absolute T. Don't argue with the other girls. Don't complain to them inside the building. ALL OF THIS CAN AND WILL BE USED AGAINST YOU. Go in, make your money, get what you need from this fuckface and go home. Fraternizing will make you look like you're attempting to cause a ruckus or spread rumors, and getting shitfaced will make you look again- unreliable.

    c) DO NOT COMPLAIN TO STAFF EITHER. One comment to a door guy about "Ugh, Joe was a total prick to me tonight" can turn into him telling Joe that you called him a prick and you hate him, or some other crazy garbage. KEEP YOUR ISSUES TO YOURSELF. You NEVER know who you can trust!

    3) Getting that shitbag back!

    a) KNOW YOUR RIGHTS. Do you have a contract? Read it and understand it, or get someone who does understand it to help you. Study that motherfucker like it's your job. You are your own best ally!

    b) FOLLOW THE CHAIN OF COMMAND. Who's this dirtbag's direct supervisor? Call them and set up an appointment to meet with them. Dirtbag's direct supervisor is an even bigger douche? Good news: EVERYONE HAS A BOSS. Go up the chain of command until you find someone who will listen to you. When you call, simply say something like "Hi Mr. Smith, this is Sparkle from Anyclub calling. I was wondering if it is possible to come and speak with you. I have a few concerns I would like to go over. I love working here (THIS IS IMPORTANT), would love to stay on as an entertainer- but there's a few things I'd like to make you aware of." DON'T GET HYSTERICAL. DON'T BE ACCUSATIONAL. Keep it neutral, emphasize how much you love your club, and be respectful.

    4) Meeting with the supervisor, or owner, whomever.

    a) Dress appropriately. I'm not saying dress like you're going to the ball, or whatever. Business casual will do just fine. If you look respectable and put together it really makes an impression.

    b) Take all your documentation with you. Hopefully you've organized it. This will make things easier, make you look better, and the information more consistent.

    c) Again, address your problem calmly and clearly. I know this is hard because this is part of where I fucked up. Have good eye contact, good posture and most importantly BE HONEST. Because really, without you girls all the club has is a tacky ass building and over priced drinks. YOU ARE THE CORNERSTONES OF THE BUSINESS. DO NOT FORGET THAT.

    d) KEEP GOING UNTIL SOMETHING HAPPENS!! This is now the time to tell any of your friends to air their grievances too, and what you're up to. SAFETY IN NUMBERS. However!! Tell them they must go through the same process. Only tell girls you think will be part of the solution!

    Now, at this point if this jackass is still bugging you, here's some secrets that a lot of girls don't know:

    1) Most clubs have an attorney on retainer for you to use. Often this information is posted in the employee break room. DO NOT EVER SIGN A PAPER WAIVING YOUR RIGHTS TO THE ATTORNEY ON RETAINER. You DO NOT have to sign this, and doing so is really, really fucking bad. If you get this attorney number, you don't have to pay a single goddamn dime. That's why they are there. DO NOT BE AFRAID TO CALL THE ATTORNEY, especially if you have your ducks in a row.

    2) If you have to switch clubs, do NOT tell anyone you're doing this. Call the club you want to go to and request a meeting with the manager. Explain the situation and tell them why you want to come there. If this is a corporate environment, a lot of times the manager at your desired club can offer you advice on how to cleanly and quietly make a break from the club you're at without wrecking your reputation.

    If anyone has any questions, feel free to ask me ANYTHING about this. I'm fed up with girls being treated like trash. I'll give you any information I have access to.

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    Default Re: How To Survive A Shitbag Manager

    This should be pinned. I think we all have had shitty managers and we don't all know how to deal with it.

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    happened to me. after i witnessed him sexually harassing my friend, he turned into a total jerk and fired me shortly after. luckily the gm had me back at the club within the month and now i just avoid him. If he says one thing to me ill be gone from that place forever and ill make sure everybody knows the whole story why


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    Fantastic! It's counter intuitive to stay calm when someone has tortured the shit out of you BUT it's sooooo key to getting results. You might think the person in authority wants to help and support you emotionally but they often go punk ass on you and will blame you for being weak, emotional out of control because they don't want to go against their manager. People like the aforementioned manager tend to be very good at sucking up so they are the last person suspected of being an abusive prick. They go in knowing they have to stay in good so they can do their dirt. So you have to present a very compelling case to overcome the head ass kisser/ego pumper. In the end if you have to, research a lot of new clubs so you have an out. I like to get hired at the new one before leaving the old so no one can blacklist me. And I never say I quit because with any luck the offending party will be gone and that leaves me open to returning in the future.
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    My manager AND owner are fucking assholes.

    That's my problem, getting too drunk at work and then bitching to the entire world about how I feel about my club.

    This is all great advice, and I'm putting it to use. Thank you!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms.Belle View Post
    Ugh I hope this isn't about who I think its about
    Inspired by someone but I wrote it to pertain to all situations, not just my own. Lots of girls don't know how to rectify their situations, and I thought it was good blanket advice.

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    Amazing advice. Thanks so much. I've been dicked over by terrible, borderline-abusive management before - it's such a violating feeling. Hopefully this will help out some other ladies on SW and save them from feeling same.

    Sorry about the loss of your job Med, But I truly feel that there are better things out there for you right now. Staying at that club would have definitely been settling for less than you deserve.



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    I just only work on the shift with managers I like, just pretty much avoid them because working with shitty managers fucks up my mood!

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    This is TOTALLY the case at my current club, and the reason why I auditioned and start a new club on friday. I still want 3 days a week at my old club, because there's money potential..but my manager is so bad that I have nightmares about him. He's ALL the girls talk about, all the stress in my club. The only drama (surprisingly, most of us get along really really well) is HIM. I'm trying my best to not do a thing, but nothing is ever good enough for him, even if we make him a ton of money doing VIPs or whatever. This is a great thread! We should have a "your manager is a piece of shit" support thread!

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