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    Some guidelines for loving:

    1. Tell them about their brilliance. They likely can’t see it and they don’t know its immensity, but you can see it, and you can illuminate it for them.

    2. Be authentic, and give others the gift of the real you and a real relationship. Ask your real questions. Share your real beliefs. Go for your real dreams. Tell your truth.

    3. Don’t confuse “authenticity” with sharing every complaint, resentment, or petty reaction in the name of “being yourself.” Meditate, write, or do yoga to work through anxiety, resentment, and stress on your own so you don’t hand off those negative moods to everyone around you. Sure, share sadness, honest dilemmas, and fears, but be mindful: don’t pollute.

    4. Listen, listen, listen. Don’t listen to determine if you agree or disagree. Listen to get to know what is true for the person in front of you. Get to know an inner landscape that is different from your own, and enjoy the journey. Remember that if, in any conversation, nothing piqued your curiosity and nothing surprised you, you weren’t really listening.

    5. Don’t waste your time or energy thinking about how they need to be different. Really. Chuck that whole thing. Their habits are their habits. Their personalities are their personalities. Let them be, and work on what you want to change about you—not what you think would be good to change about them.

    6. Remember that you don’t have to understand their choices to respect or accept them.

    7. Don’t conflate accepting with being a doormat or betraying yourself. Let them be who they are, entirely. Then, you decide what you need, in light of who they are. Do you need to make a direct request that they change their behavior in some way? Do you need to take care of yourself better? Do you need to set a boundary or to change the relationship? Take care of yourself well, without holding anyone else in contempt.

    8. Give of yourself, but never sacrifice or compromise yourself. Stop if resentment is building and retool. Don’t do the martyr thing. It helps no one and nothing.

    9. Remember that everyone you encounter was created by divine intelligence and has an important role to play in the universe. Treat them as such.

    10. If you want to keep growing emotionally and spiritually for the rest of your life, accept this as your mantra and try to live as if it were true: Everything that I experience from another human being is either love, or a call for love.

    Tara Sophia Mohr. http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-t...-in-your-life/

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    I didn't write this but think that we could all learn from it.

    oftentimes on these forums I come across threads that are titled "stupid things customers always say" or "ridiculous things you hear on cam". Men will say the most insulting things to us in the club or on cam and we will come here and post them in our threads. However, some people then turn around and are rude to each other.

    we should be supporting each other instead of trolling and being catty. Guys treat us with so little respect that it's important that we treat each other with respect to prove that we are worth it.
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    Text me later tonight and I can call you to catch you up about all this shit with my Mom. Whenever you aren't busy.
    If you are willing to do for one year what other's won't, you can spend a lifetime doing what other's cant.


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    What a beautiful list
    Tiny tweaks----->BIG CHANGES

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    More fear-mongering? Really? Yes, this is not the 1990's anymore. Yes, things are changing. Either dance or don't. Freaking out and sowing fear isn't going to help anyone.




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    Default Re: 10 Ways To Love Others

    I really like this. Do you know who wrote it?

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    no idea. You could probably find it by taking the first few and searching them in google. Someone posted it on their tumblr and a girl I know posted it on her blog and then I took it from there.
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    Quote Originally Posted by DMaribella View Post
    I really like this. Do you know who wrote it?
    Tara Sophia Mohr. http://tinybuddha.com/blog/10-ways-t...-in-your-life/
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    omg, why is it so huge?!! lol lol

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    thanks! added to the OP
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    this is a grat list that we can all learn alot from. it is always best to love others as you love yourself.

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