Results 1 to 23 of 23

Thread: teacher/student relationships

  1. #1
    Senior Member snakesandmonkeys's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    119
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 214 Times in 78 Posts

    Default teacher/student relationships

    Hi,
    I haven't been a dancer for about 10 years. I found this site when I was a dancer and I have been thinking about a problem and not knowing who to ask about it. I remembered this forum and its opinionated, non-prudish ladies and I thought maybe I would ask it to you. I am 30 years old, married, with a two year old son. I am in school currently to get my nursing degree and crushing HARD for one of my professors. I have not gotten any signals so far that my affections are returned. Its early in the semester, he seems to be intersted in me as a student (eye contact, taking extra time to to answer my after class questions) He is married, two kids. I know that most of my infactuation is due to me not having any other social contact (i am shy and also as previously stated the mother of a two year old). I want to seduce him, I have sexual fantasies about him that I never have for my fellow students. I haven't had sex with my husband in months, not for lack of trying. I am very sexual and I have fixed on this professor as the answer to all my sexual problems. I know that part of the reson I am crushing so hard is that he is smart and also an athority figure but at this point I just don't care. My question is: how can I seduce him? I have gained a few pound since my dancer days but I still fell sexy. I know I will get alot of, "trying to seduce a married man, you hussy!" but if he can be seduced, I want to try. Any advice, especially advice from anybody who has seduced their professor, would be welcomed.

  2. #2
    God/dess Kisca's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2010
    Posts
    2,447
    Thanks
    1,403
    Thanked 1,534 Times in 805 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    He's your teacher first off... It doesnt matter whether you two are legal.. Youre married and so he is.

  3. #3
    God/dess roast's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2010
    Posts
    2,182
    Thanks
    14,733
    Thanked 11,294 Times in 1,925 Posts
    My Mood
    Hungover

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Try out a risk benefit analysis. From my perspective:

    Risks:
    -may impact your grade
    -other students notice preferential treatment, gossip starts
    -either your or his spouse finds out
    -you lose out on a good recommendation
    -you cant take a class with him again, may be a problem if he teaches any other prereqs
    -rejection
    -terrible sex
    -you become the mechanism by which he processes his marital issues (married men cheating have a lot of emotional baggage. they like to pretend they dont but 'the other woman' usually has to deal with the brunt of it since theyre his secret escape. it could be mild to extreme - either by being emotionally cold, oversharing, sex on his terms, Peter Pan Syndrome, poor boundaries, substance abuse, or just treating you in a very hot/cold manner)
    -you fall in love and start to make some very poor decisions
    -he falls in love and starts to make some very poor decisions


    Benefits:
    -good sex
    -an A
    -guaranteed positive recommendation
    -you feel sexy with all of the secrecy and taboo
    -everything goes fine and this is just a sticky footnote in a history of sexual exploration



    Risk benefit analysis? Not worth it.

    Forget the married part altogether - this is a career issue tbh, he's in a position to potentially fuck you over? Sleeping with him makes you way too vulnerable. He doesnt have nearly as much to lose as you would---- and tbh if he's already so flirty sooo early in the semester he probably has cheated before and already has a 'I wont get caught' system... while you dont. He has too much of an upperhand for this to even be worthwhile even if you both were single. School is expensive? Stay focused.
    Last edited by roast; 01-21-2012 at 10:38 PM.





    Quote Originally Posted by Procrasturbator View Post
    So how many stumps can you fit in your pussy?

  4. The Following 4 Users Say Thank You to roast For This Useful Post:


  5. #4
    Veteran Member babylovexxx's Avatar
    Joined
    Mar 2008
    Posts
    286
    Thanks
    32
    Thanked 169 Times in 84 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Ummm i have fantasized about a prof in the past..but wouldnt act on it


    ..or would i?

    lol i want to say how wrong this is and you are both married but i get really hot for my prof sometimes. sitting bored in class, i love an intelectual man (especially when hes an mma fighter on the side) ..this is wrong


    [/URL]

    [/URL]


    [/URL]

  6. #5
    Banned
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    11,037
    Thanks
    1,891
    Thanked 5,124 Times in 3,086 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    This will lead to bad things and leave it alone. In grad school I had the hots for a male professor and was hoping after school he would ask me out bt it never happened. I did find out he was sleeping with one of the students.

  7. #6
    Veteran Member _natasha's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2011
    Location
    uk
    Posts
    507
    Thanks
    489
    Thanked 598 Times in 226 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Have slept with a prof... although we were both unmarried. He obviously enjoyed the chase, once he got what he wanted he got bored pretty quickly. It hurt... I suppose if I was that way inclined I could have made trouble for him. I didn't... I'll let karma fix it. He is still sleeping with students.

    I think just be careful with it. It was fun while it lasted but looking back, I think he got off on the taboo and the power of it, rather than anything else. Don't get caught up... especially if he is married. That could end up all kinds of wrong... Even if he wasn't your teacher. As Roast said, the cons outweigh the pros here.

  8. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to _natasha For This Useful Post:


  9. #7
    God/dess firemaiden04's Avatar
    Joined
    Jul 2008
    Location
    NY
    Posts
    2,652
    Thanks
    3,054
    Thanked 2,005 Times in 903 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    I recommend leaving it alone. I've had some wicked hot professors that I would have fucked the shit out of if I'd gotten the chance, but not when I was still in their class. Afterwards, hell yeah. But I think it's best to keep the relationship perfectly professional while you're in his class, just to avoid any semblance of impropriety. I get A's on my own because I'm smart and I study and I write really well, and I would be very angry if anyone could ever even suggest that I got an A just because I fucked my teacher.

  10. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to firemaiden04 For This Useful Post:


  11. #8
    Senior Member snakesandmonkeys's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    119
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 214 Times in 78 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    thanks for your input everyone, especially roast, i like the risk/benefit analysis. maybe I was looking for someone to talk me down. I'm still going to go to his classes looking extra hot, and if something happens... well then it happens. its true I would be putting myself in an incredibly vulnurable position if I tried to come on to him. I guess I will just do REALLY well in his class and have some hot mastrubation material

  12. The Following 2 Users Say Thank You to snakesandmonkeys For This Useful Post:


  13. #9
    Veteran Member Swagz's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    237
    Thanks
    246
    Thanked 196 Times in 84 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    I'd be way too chicken to ever come onto a prof (and yes, I've wanted to), because I know if I were a prof and someone in my class did that I would be highly offended and lose a lot of esteem for that student. Aside from the [huge] factor that both of you are married, academic integrity etc. If you can't get it out of your head and you're prepared to cheat on your husband, just come back after you're out of the guy's class/department and see what's up. Personally I'd feel awkward for his family.
    Last edited by Swagz; 01-22-2012 at 06:01 PM.

  14. #10
    Veteran Member Swagz's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    237
    Thanks
    246
    Thanked 196 Times in 84 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by Kellydancer View Post
    This will lead to bad things and leave it alone. In grad school I had the hots for a male professor and was hoping after school he would ask me out bt it never happened. I did find out he was sleeping with one of the students.
    Props for waiting until the end of class. It pisses me off when people do that during the class, because it pisses on the entire system when instead they could just wait a couple months. I strongly about all academic dishonesty, though.

  15. #11
    Banned
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    87
    Thanks
    51
    Thanked 14 Times in 11 Posts
    My Mood
    Chatty

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    In sixth grade I was in love with my teacher Miss. Wing. One time she drew a circle on the caulkboard that was about 4 inches across. She wasn't even looking when she did it. This circle was perfect. PERFECT. I sat there fascinated looking at the little circle on the caulkboard. How could a human draw perfect circle when they're not even looking?
    I still think about Miss. Wing and the perfect circle.

  16. #12
    Senior Member snakesandmonkeys's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    119
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 214 Times in 78 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    I wish I could say that this guy was a Miss. Wing. Really he's just a smart, sort of hot guy and I am really, really horny.

  17. #13
    Featured Member LaurenAus's Avatar
    Joined
    Sep 2011
    Posts
    1,361
    Thanks
    4,895
    Thanked 1,926 Times in 738 Posts
    My Mood
    Cool

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    I had a huge crush on my law professor my junior year of college and i somehow found the balls to ask him out on the last day of class so he wouldn't get busted and have to deal with issues of favoritism--he's also only a part time professor and full time attorney so i wasn't too worried about us being found out.

    I remember my heart racing when I stood in a line full of students who were waiting to ask him some last minute questions before the quarter ended and I chickened out at the last second and ran out of class and guess what..he came running after me so I got to ask him out and that led to three years of on and off dating. He didn't even know me in class cuz i never participated which makes the situation funnier. It didn't last because I was becoming unsatisfied with his sexual preferences and intimacy issues.

    I was gonna say wait till the last day of class and ask him out but then i saw you wrote that you two are married and so I wouldn't recommend it. I only asked out my professor cuz his goofball friend who was also a prof at my school outed to the whole class that he's single.

    Being that I've actually lived out this fantasy that so many other people have--i can say that while it was very fun and intense at first, i look back and think that the fantasy played out better in my head than it did in reality.


    "I haven't had sex with my husband in months, not for lack of trying. I am very sexual and I have fixed on this professor as the answer to all my sexual problems."

    --I want to add that this is all in your head. I am a sexual person as well and fantasized about him during every lecture. You don't know that this man will solve your sexual problems. My prof was extremely intelligent, fit, witty and very much the alpha male. I thought he would be fantastic in bed, and while his wit translated into great dirty talk during sex, he was VERY VERRRRRY selfish in bed, had a small dick, wasn't flexible about trying new sex positions and because he was older he wasn't able to get it up that much. There were times I even cried in his bed out of frustration!! but because I was so infatuated I just put up with it but looking back I roll my eyes at myself. You really cannot predict his sexual skills by how he leads his lectures is the moral of my story!! It's all just dressed up in your head and in no way is that guaranteed to match reality.
    Last edited by LaurenAus; 01-22-2012 at 07:13 PM.

  18. The Following User Says Thank You to LaurenAus For This Useful Post:


  19. #14
    Banned
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    87
    Thanks
    51
    Thanked 14 Times in 11 Posts
    My Mood
    Chatty

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    I never thought about messing around with a teacher or other student in college. Maybe I thought about it but that's it. You can still make school fun though. A teacher gave me the lead role in Sophocles play Oedipus. In the play a guy wacks his dad and marries his mom. He's doesn't know the deal until the end. He gave the role of Jocasta (my mom/wife) to a girl half my age. It was like that movie Chinatown. She's my daughter! She's my sister! She's my daughter!
    I'm reading the play thinking; She's my wife! She's my mother!........She's half my age!
    It was pretty twisted....

  20. #15
    Senior Member snakesandmonkeys's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    119
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 214 Times in 78 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    damn you women, with your well thought out, resonable advice. I just wanted to fuck my teacher and you are making me think.
    Last edited by snakesandmonkeys; 01-22-2012 at 07:41 PM. Reason: overuse of exclamations

  21. The Following 3 Users Say Thank You to snakesandmonkeys For This Useful Post:


  22. #16
    Banned
    Joined
    Jul 2005
    Posts
    11,037
    Thanks
    1,891
    Thanked 5,124 Times in 3,086 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Quote Originally Posted by Swagz View Post
    Props for waiting until the end of class. It pisses me off when people do that during the class, because it pisses on the entire system when instead they could just wait a couple months. I strongly about all academic dishonesty, though.
    I do too. I am a big believer in not shitting where one eats and I didn't want people to think I get an A because I was sleeping with a professor. I didn't sleep with him, but wouldn't have unless I was finished with school. I thought he was interested in me because he did flirt with me but afterwards he didn't ask me out so I probably was either wrong or he felt funny. In my case though it was grad school and he was only 10 years or less older than me so not a big deal unless it was during class.

  23. #17
    Senior Member
    Joined
    Jan 2003
    Posts
    91
    Thanks
    0
    Thanked 22 Times in 11 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    The important thing here is that you are both married. This could end very badly especially if there are children involved.

    As far as the student teacher part, he has the most to lose. This could potentially cost him his job and even his career if you got angry and accused him of sexual harassment. Plus you are 30 years old not a naive teenager. So how much power could he really exert over you?

    That said, teacher-student relationships can end well. I know of several married couples who started out that way, including me ;o)

  24. #18
    Banned
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    87
    Thanks
    51
    Thanked 14 Times in 11 Posts
    My Mood
    Chatty

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    ^^
    Excellent point. The teacher has WAY more to lose. He could wind up being a dishwasher, if he was lucky enough to find a job at all. In academia they call this a "career ending" event even without the sexual harrassment.
    Last edited by bucket2; 01-26-2012 at 01:06 PM. Reason: more

  25. #19
    Senior Member snakesandmonkeys's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Posts
    119
    Thanks
    52
    Thanked 214 Times in 78 Posts

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    so maybe the title of this post should have been "i'm not having sex with my husband" because last night we had sex and had a big talk and are considering going to counciling. the imporance of my crush is fading when faced with the importance of staying with my baby's dad, who is a good man, a great dad and who i love. thanks to all for being so non-judgemental.
    Last edited by snakesandmonkeys; 01-26-2012 at 07:27 PM.

  26. The Following User Says Thank You to snakesandmonkeys For This Useful Post:


  27. #20
    Member foxrc0310's Avatar
    Joined
    Jan 2012
    Location
    ohio
    Posts
    41
    Thanks
    34
    Thanked 26 Times in 13 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    i hate to say it buut i agree, leave it alone. i did the mess with a married guy thing, and that is just painful and embarassing. the teacher thing takes a backseat to the married part. try to go to a relationship counselor with ur man, if that dosent work then realise that you are worth the world and go find youself someone who will fulfill all your needs. having a kid does not mean you must stay with him and everyone deserves to be happy... good luck and you are above and better than a hidden bootycall, or an ignore, attention starved wife.
    good luck to you sweetie <3 wish you the best of luck

  28. The Following User Says Thank You to foxrc0310 For This Useful Post:


  29. #21
    Veteran Member Swagz's Avatar
    Joined
    Aug 2011
    Posts
    237
    Thanks
    246
    Thanked 196 Times in 84 Posts
    My Mood
    Pensive

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    Good luck with counseling! In my own experience, a desire to cheat always correlated with dissatisfaction in the relationship. I wish I had had more insight back in the day about that. I hope everything works out well for you and your man.

  30. #22
    Senior Member ImpossiblePrincess's Avatar
    Joined
    Nov 2011
    Location
    Maryland
    Posts
    79
    Thanks
    81
    Thanked 185 Times in 72 Posts
    My Mood
    Angelic

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    From the wife of a teacher - NO NO NO.

    Not even for reasons that the both of you are married. This could possibly impact both of your careers. You can possibly get kicked out of school (and will make it hard to get into another one if you do) and he could lose his job (and would make it REALLY hard for him to get another teaching job).

    |

  31. #23
    Moderator Jessie_tinydancer's Avatar
    Joined
    Jun 2009
    Location
    Australia
    Posts
    4,149
    Thanks
    1,307
    Thanked 2,530 Times in 1,295 Posts
    My Mood
    Sick

    Default Re: teacher/student relationships

    The thing about fantasies.. almost 99% of the time the real thing never matches up to the dream. Keep it as a masturbation fantasy - "spank bank" rather than reality. An affair with your married professor, while you are married=pretty much the messiest situation you could possibly throw yourself into. It would only cause drama from every angle.

Similar Threads

  1. Teacher arrested for sex with student
    By DesuvsDeath in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 17
    Last Post: 06-26-2011, 10:52 AM
  2. Teacher knocked up his student.
    By Vyanka in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 4
    Last Post: 09-17-2007, 11:30 PM
  3. Teacher, 40, Marries 16-Year-Old Student
    By lethalsoul in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 77
    Last Post: 06-27-2007, 08:08 PM
  4. Mary Kay Letourneau-The Teacher who had sex with her student
    By cinammonkisses in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 12
    Last Post: 04-29-2005, 11:49 AM
  5. Teacher had affair with student and his father
    By lethalsoul in forum The Lounge
    Replies: 23
    Last Post: 04-22-2005, 11:04 AM

Bookmarks

Posting Permissions

  • You may not post new threads
  • You may not post replies
  • You may not post attachments
  • You may not edit your posts
  •