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    I am a female and I LOVE strip clubs! I'm always trying to get my husband to take me to one whenever we get the chance! Anyways, I joined stripperweb about a month or two ago and I've been doing my research on how to be a good patron. I was able to finally put all I learned to good use Saturday night and the night went so horribly I ended up screaming at the manager on the way out! Here's the story... pretty girl came and sat next to me almost immediately after we arrived. Super, super friendly and sweet! My stomach wasn't feeling too well because we had been drinking at a bar beforehand. I told her and the shot girls "later" for the first hour because I was trying to let my stomach settle. Meanwhile. I tipped the girls I liked on stage as did my husband. I was "smiling" and being very polite and respectful and doing my best to let the girls all know I was happy to be there and meant no harm. (stripper web knowledge) Anyways, 2 for 1 dance special came around 2nd time and I was ready! We asked the girl who approached us earlier and she said she had to go dance for some other guys and would come get us when she was done. She did after a long while and I said, ok let me go pee first lol. I came back out and she was up on the stage during her routine. We put money on the stage for her while she was dancing for others on opposite side. Anyways. she comes out way later dressed in a different colored bikini (like I wouldn't recognize her!!) and went and sat, back turned at a different table. WTF?!? She walked right past us later and never looked our way. So, I turned my attention to my personal favorite dancer who was on stage for her 2nd time around and went and tipped her again and she did amazing things to me while she was on stage! yeAH! So, I think I tipped her like $10-$15 total and she KNEW I was loving all she had to offer! She gets done and goes and sits on opposite side of room with some guys and I'm trying to make eye contact to get her to come over cuz I wanted to pay for a private dance with her. Never did. So, we waited a little while longer and left "empty handed" I guess you could say. So, disguise girl and ultimate tease girl....what the hell happened?!? I was super upset and told the manager on our way out "do you have any girls that actually want to make money here?! We are leaving here with money in our pockets!!! Tell your girls to make that money!"
    This place was in a tiny country town, oh! and I even sent my husband to the ATM to get more cash and girl #1 knew that! Why wouldn't they take my money? I am so offended lol my husband and I are a very nice looking couple and he makes very good money and we carry ourselves accordingly...so it can’t be because we are gross, smell bad or ugly or anything like that…


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    I'll let the girls answer... but there was a post just posted where boundaries were crossed & the couple was looking to invite a girl into their sex life.

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    LOL! I haven't seen that post but that was NOT us! I wouldn't be comfortable with that. Lap dances are just the right amount of excitement for my husband and I. He likes to watch and I like that he likes to watch

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    Then you just need to find a better place. NO need to get angry at SC management because of no attention, the girls choose who they want to work for.


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    I have a tough time getting a dancer's attention at times too. Management cannot be blamed. Find a host and get him to get her.

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    That's not an uncommon experience, regardless of gender. Sometimes it takes a couple or a few trips to have a good visit.
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    Yup, not uncommon at all. It's impossible to say exactly what happened, but similar things have happened to many of us at one time or other. Even when I go into a club where I'm a regular and know a fair number of the girls AND have money I'm looking forward to spending, I can still have trouble making a satisfying connection happen.

    One thing I've learned is not to get upset about it. Feel good that you're walking out of the club with money to spend on your next visit. Some of my least satisfying/worst experiences with dances has come at that point late in the evening when I haven't made any connection of my choosing and I've had a bit to drink and I still have money and closing time is coming and I get approached by a dancer at just that wrong moment (for me) and that voice is whispering in my ear, "You only live once..." and I go for it.

    Rarely works out well.

    No need to be upset, just keep the money and come back another night. It'll happen.

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    They didn't want to dance for you, that's what happened. There are times when I've gotten the jeebies from some customers, and regardless of $30 or $300 in their pockets - I didn't want to dance for him.

    Chances are, disguise girl and tease girl BOTH saw "for sure" customers in the crowd; perhaps customers they had danced for several times and knew were willing to spend a lot of money - and they didn't want to risk that "for sure" money on a "maybe-money" couple who seemed a bit too....eager.

    I LOVE dancing for couples, but I will shy away from couples who seem TOO into the Strip clubbing thing. I've been burned many times before by couples who want to get a bit TOO freaky and are too insistent.

    Don't take it as an insult, and don't mouth off to the management in the future. They can't tell us who to dance for anymore than you can. As someone already said - it takes a few visits to get a "Great one" sometimes.



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    Think you have to remember that in an industry where you are so exposed, it's hard to shake off the 'once bitten twice shy' mentality.

    Female customers, in my experience, tend to be handsier, expect more for less money, and also can get vicious if they think you are making moves on their man.

    I'm not saying that you are anything like that - but as a woman yourself surely you can understand this? I'm not standing up for the girls - personally I would have approached you anyway. But just a heads up, and a possible explanation. But on a 'ratio basis' I've had far more bad experiences with women than I have with men....

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    Quote Originally Posted by Ms.Belle View Post
    As a dancer I can say that for me when a female customer shows interest I ONLY offer dances if the club is empty and I know I won't be making money elsewhere, or if she is a regular and is guaranteed to buy more than one dance. Otherwise, when the club is busy, my main goal is to make as much money as possible and that only happens with the fellows. Especially on a night shift I have a better shot at selling VIPs than getting a few dances from a female customer. Even though I absolutely freak'n ADORE the attention from women (more so than from men), interacting with female customers doesn't bring in the big bucks

    lol this brought back a favorite memory for me.

    One time while visiting a club during a super slow time, I noticed a very attractive brunette making the rounds of the club, hitting up every table of guys there. I think there were about 6 dancers working at the time, and about 10 or 12 customers. After being turned down by everyone, she walked over to the bar and took a seat. After about 10 minutes or so she got up and approached me.I could tell she was doing so as a "last resort". It was so obvious, I had to laugh. I wasn't rude to her, but I not-so-subtlely acknowledged that I knew I was "last choice", and that I wasn't interested in any dances with her. I had also noticed moments earlier that a really attractive dancer (that I didn't know) had arrived and was walking towards the DR. When this "new" dancer finally made her appearance, she approached a table of guys near the DR, chatted with them for a bit, and then moved on. She bypassed a few tables with single guys, and came to me. That spoke volumes to me. We chatted a bit, and I took her to VIP for most of that afternoon. I KNOW that the first dancer saw this, and I'm sure she realized the opportunity that she missed, tho I'm sure she'd never admit it

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    They didn't want to dance for you, that's what happened. There are times when I've gotten the jeebies from some customers, and regardless of $30 or $300 in their pockets - I didn't want to dance for him.

    Chances are, disguise girl and tease girl BOTH saw "for sure" customers in the crowd; perhaps customers they had danced for several times and knew were willing to spend a lot of money - and they didn't want to risk that "for sure" money on a "maybe-money" couple who seemed a bit too....eager.

    I LOVE dancing for couples, but I will shy away from couples who seem TOO into the Strip clubbing thing. I've been burned many times before by couples who want to get a bit TOO freaky and are too insistent.

    Don't take it as an insult, and don't mouth off to the management in the future. They can't tell us who to dance for anymore than you can. As someone already said - it takes a few visits to get a "Great one" sometimes.
    Agreed. OP don't take it personal because it may not mean it's because you are a woman. I once worked at a club where we got older men and younger men and if the club was crowded I only chatted with the young guys if the others rejected me. Why? Because my experience had shown me that my clients were mostly older men and younger men didn't usually like me except strangely Indian men. I wasn't going to waste my time knowing 90% of the younger men would reject me. It's the same reason many dancers reject women or couples because of bad experiences. Others are very skittish towards anything remotely close to bisexual so they avoid women. I am not bi or lesbian but did have couples and women I danced for, usually the woman was not bi (or perhaps bi curious at most). However I didn't have the problems that many other dancers have had with couples so I had no reason to generally avoid customers.

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    Aww thank you all for your replies. The club was, from my experience, very slow. Several of the dancers walked off the stage without a single dollar I've read a lot of the horror stories about the female customers which is why I was trying my best to NOT be that way! One girl took her top off and stuck her boobs in my face and I didn't know wth to do so she grabbed the back of it and rubbed my face in there! lol so, too eager? I don't think so, I think my frustration came from the fact that I've read by so many on here that the girls are not interested in anything but the money and until these replies I thought I was the only person in the world who couldnt give my money to a stripper! :/ lol I won't be going back there, I'll stick to my local club from now on thanks again yall

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    You have to go to a new club at least several times to get used to it. Be patient. If you can't afford to be a regular SC goer (I can't) you still have to start the process all over again when you get around to going.
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    Because they're idiots is the only answer I have for you...
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    some dancers will choose not to interact with female customers, even if it costs them money, it isn't worth their personal discomfort. i think the situation as described is a little odd. but there are male customers who tip me well on stage who i will not dance for and don't want to sit with or talk to and that's my choice.

    i do, however, appreciate the enthusiasm of female customers who want to be there. you tip way better than men and are a pleasure to dance on stage for, and the respect and appreciation i have for pleasant ladies acting like ladies and enjoying themselves is why i will not waste time trying to sell a dance she probably does not want. i'd rather they get drunk, tip well on stage, make lots of noise anytime someone does the splits, have their two minutes on stage if they so choose, and go home happy. i really have no desire to sell to couples, to bachelorette parties, birthday parties, whatever.

    just lone white men who work in law and/or finance.

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    I will very rarely dance for couples/females because I'm not comfortable with it. Plain and simple. I've had wayyy too many bad experiences with chicks. Yeah, yeah I shouldn't catergorize all females that come in but I'd rather not take my chances. I think in your situation, girl #1 was put off when you delayed dances. Although you weren't feeling well, she probably thought you were just making excuses. Girl #2 was probably making easy money across the room. Also, hustling women is alot different that than hustling men. I can sweet talk and dirty talk my way into a guy's wallet. I would feel silly if I tried that with a chick.

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    "just lone white men who work in law and/or finance. "

    Who else can compete with all those engineers who run China? Too bad we can't just send our bailout money straight to the engineers over there but our law/finance guys gotta eat I suppose.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bucket2 View Post
    "just lone white men who work in law and/or finance. "

    Who else can compete with all those engineers who run China? Too bad we can't just send our bailout money straight to the engineers over there but our law/finance guys gotta eat I suppose.
    WTF are you talking about?
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    WTF are you talking about?
    That was for Camille27. Should have used the whole quote. My bad.

    OK, if you're that interested. Lawyers run the US and engineers run China. We know this. I was hoping Camille27 would understand my joke. I was implying that it would be simpler to send bailout money directly to China instead of through GM. Since China sponsors our adventures over there in whatever-istan it really doesn't matter.

    If I knew anything about money I would have it but I can't even joke about it? We're getting WAY off topic here.
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    Quote Originally Posted by bucket2 View Post
    That was for Camille27. Should have used the whole quote. My bad.
    Umm... this is an open forum so chances are, even if you're not speaking directly to the person who replies, that someone else might in fact respond. Just sayin'.
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    Quote Originally Posted by JayATee View Post
    Umm... this is an open forum so chances are, even if you're not speaking directly to the person who replies, that someone else might in fact respond. Just sayin'.
    I thought Camille27's lawyer joke was really funny. I can't tell if she was serious and that's why it cracked me up. I should have just said to her, "What about Chinese engineers?" and kept it simple.
    I wasn't telling you to knaf off or anything and of course I know this is an open forum. You asked me what I was babbling about. Are we OK now? If not, ban me. I'll live.

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    Is bucket the new whipping boy around here? I certainly hope so!

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    Quote Originally Posted by KS_Stevia View Post
    Is bucket the new whipping boy around here? I certainly hope so!
    If I get banned how will I know? I can't figure out how to unsubscribe to threads and my email is getting overrun. If you ban me please make sure I stop getting these damn subscriptions to threads.
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    Quote Originally Posted by kaiarose View Post
    .....Also, hustling women is alot different that than hustling men. I can sweet talk and dirty talk my way into a guy's wallet. I would feel silly if I tried that with a chick.
    Au contraire!
    Sweet talk and filth would work wonders on me.

    I unselfishly volunteer myself as your personal guinea pig to practice on until you are comfortable enough to try it on females in the club.
    And I'm thinking that practice makes perfect, so this could take quite some time practicing on me before you perfect it .

    But that's OK......I'm here for you

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